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5 WAYS OF BEING A MORE EFFECTIVE, CONSCIOUS COMMUNICATOR REVEALED!

Kristine Rose Grant

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Kristine Grant is an alchemist of the written word. She’s helped hundreds of clients by intuitively writing healing letters to their significant others for them. She writes the words clients struggle to find but need to say for a radical shift of healing across all types of relationship concerns. Kristine dials in to the real truth underlying any type of conflict, and with her flair for writing compelling letters, the truth of her written words sets you free!

Hello and welcome! This is your opportunity to unlock the emotional roadblocks preventing you from attracting and experiencing more loving, healthy relationships with others.

In this report, you’ll discover 5 ways of being a more effective, conscious communicator. They’ll shift your perceptions, relieve your emotional stress, and let you develop an improved confidence and emotional freedom to speak a deeper truth toward others.

You’ll learn how to:

1. Organize your thoughts in a way that inspires the results you want2. Realize the perceptions you have that keep your relationship stuck 3. Take stock of your underlying emotional patterns or learned behaviors4. Develop an intuitive approach for effective communication5. Convey your message in a way that will be both convincing and positively received

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The Secret SauceThere is no step-by-step recipe for composing an Inspired Heart Letter, but there are guidelines that help. So, relax and stay open to receiving. Your innate wisdom or “higher self” will guide you along the way.

Let’s get started with the basics:

• Take the Time: Writing an eloquent letter instead of a text message is important. Take enough time to allow a more meaningful message to emerge. The old saying, “It is not what is said, rather, how it is said that makes a difference,” is especially true with Inspired Heart Letters. A message conveyed with the “right” language and stated in a meaningful context is the glue that holds your positive intention.

It’s why hundreds of clients have enjoyed the wonderful results of me writing healing letters for them.

• Detach from the Outcome: Heartfelt communications are just that—being honest, vulnerable, and hopeful while forgiving ourselves and others and staying in a state of gratitude for the lesson learned.



Detachment is a key component for writing a winning letter. Focusing on the positive merits instead of the results of your efforts is a much healthier way for achieving higher knowledge or awareness and for finding true relief. There might be outcomes to a finished letter written without emotional attachment that are even better than you can imagine if you just let go and write with honest vulnerability and hope.

The highest order intention doesn’t attach to the outcome. Therefore, do not fixate on a desired outcome. Instead, let go of trying to control anything. Let go of any worry, fear, or regret. Release any thoughts of how the issue at hand should be resolved.

The more you trust and surrender to your highest good, the more open you are to experiencing an even better outcome than was hoped for.

Jampolsky said, “Love is letting go of fear.” So, take the plunge. Write and mail or give that heartfelt letter. Then let go, and allow your highest good and the good of all concerned to manifest.

• Create a Sacred Space: Make sure you are rested, relaxed, and have a quiet, undisturbed, appropriately lit, and otherwise comfortable space that is suitable for writing or keyboarding. (Some people prepare themselves by taking a soothing sea salt bath or walking in nature before settling down to write).

I keep a beautiful amethyst crystal next to my keyboard. Amethyst is known for healing properties that inspire energetic transmutation from negative to positive. For me, it “feels” good to have this crystal in my writer’s space. You may be drawn to whatever elements give you a better sense of peace or comfort, such as aromatherapy, scented candles, incense, certain flowers, art, crystals, and such.

This is your inspired writing space. Feel free to make it a place that sings to you or invites your heart to open.

• Use Ritual: This is optional, but a ritual may not only empower your mental or emotional outlook regarding the matter, it may energetically enrich the communication process altogether.

Some clients feel drawn to ritualize the letter’s invocation as a type of mantra. This may include the use of guided visualizations, such as seeing the letter in a



shimmering white, peaceful blue, or golden light, and feeling an essence of love as it heals the negative emotions.

Lighting candles or reading the letter aloud as a prayer—and in certain instances, burning the letter, burying the letter under a full moon, or sleeping with the letter under your pillow—may be a rewarding element that captures and marks the essence or intention of the message as a sacred invocation. Saying a prayer or positive thought aloud, such as, “More peace, harmony, and love is given and received through this letter,” may further enhance and empower the results.

• Listen to Your Intuition: In my experience, trust and allowance are the keys to opening your intuitive channel. Tapping into your innate intuitive process varies from person to person. In order to trust and allow the divine (or higher frequency) information to come forth, it is important that you relax and focus on opening your heart. This may be guided by your breath and the simple trust that a higher wisdom or guidance will surely emerge.

Intuition is a fine blending of knowledge, awareness, asking for the “highest or best” outcome for all involved, and believing you will safely arrive at your destination… the most appropriate written expression for the situation at hand.

Writing Inspired Heart Letters is a joyful experience for me! I find the thoughts and words just tumble forth in sweet, healing expressions.

Like anything else, the more confident you become, the more pleasure you’ll feel from this form of letter writing.

The above guidelines set the mood and prepare you to write from a place of love. Now, let’s move on to organizing your thoughts.



Organizing your thoughts For letter writingBefore writing a healing letter for someone else, I usually ask the following questions or think through the following considerations. It helps me organize and write an Inspired Heart Letter: This thoughtfulness is what has helped the letters I write for others heal hundreds of struggling relationships. If you feel uncertain about writing a healing letter yourself, I’d be honored to help. You can set up a free consult with me here: <insert link>

1. What is the greatest desired outcome? In other words, if your ultimate wish came true, what would it be? This isn’t the same as being attached to the outcome. It’s a way to dial into your heart’s true intention. It’s about understanding yourself, your role, and the positive benefits you imagine for a healthy and healed relationship.

2. What perceived fears or obstacles are there that most likely, or may, obstruct the best or desired outcome to occur? The first thoughts that come to mind are the most obvious fears. By delving deeper, there is often an even bigger underlying issue that you never fully realized or accepted. 3. What background or history exists between the sender and the recipient that may influence the written message? In other words, consider the current problem or issue AND look at historical patterns, both positive and/or unhealthy, that may have contributed to the current situation.

Consider any possible blame, shame, self-hatred patterns, or tendencies towards chronic victimization. Power struggles, (whether overt or covert bullying tactics), should also be acknowledged. Instead of playing the “blame game,” work toward creating a radical shift for taking responsibility, including admitting your own contribution to your current issue. Encourage a better sense of self-reflection.

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4. Focus on yourself and consider: What personal history concerning family, relationships, and self-esteem, shaped a belief or assumption that contributed to the present relationship challenge? More on this in the “Looking Inward” section.

5. What is your gut telling you? Sometimes, silent messages surface. You may feel some confusion, especially if you’re hanging on to something that may be what you expected but simply isn’t real. When you stop and deeply delve into your “feeling” state, you can come to terms with the answer your gut actually “knows,” however unreal or out of step it may be with what you originally considered as true.

This is when intuition kicks in. Once you arrive at that “still-point” or align with your heart center, and when you are able to trust your own “gut feelings” despite social, cultural, family, or self-imposed expectations, then the written word takes on a life of its own.

6. Most importantly, when writing your letter, carefully consider the language and words. The expressed language should invite the recipient to be open and to allow forgiveness, gratitude, and appreciation to occur. It’s only with compassionate communication that a healing can take place, or at least, an opening for resolving the conflict can be inspired.



A healing letter isn’t aimed at being “right” or proving a point. Letters that heal do not shame or chastise anyone. They are not guilt laden, nor do they seek ego-gratifying revenge in any way.

I have mentioned this already… Although you hold a vision for what you consider the best solution, it is wise to avoid being overly attached to the outcome.

Inspired Heart Letters often serve to provide an improved sense of clarity. You may be surprised at how your original feelings have shifted from seeking some type of power, control, or even revenge to recognizing what may be true for the other person receiving your letter. Moreover, you may find yourself compassionately having a better understanding of the circumstance and perhaps forgiving yourself as well as anyone else involved.

Some of my clients feel like a deep healing occurs when they read the letters I write—even before they send them on!

Finally, there is an opportunity to accept the current reality and let go of what you may not be able to influence, change, or control. The result of doing so is an improved sense of peace.

Be grateful for learning a new lesson through accepting the situation, as well as the outcome, no matter what.

To summarize the thought organizing process:

• It’s important to thoughtfully focus upon your desired outcome• Acknowledge perceived fears or obstacles, consider the background and history of the relationship and notice possible emotional scars or imprints (such as family history, including family/cultural expectations, rules, roles, or relationship patterns) that possibly have influenced the dynamics within the current relationship conflict• Check in with your own intuition—putting aside ego and personal history or wounds—acknowledge what feels out of alignment or doesn’t resonate with what you desire as the ultimate, most positive resolution• Try to find the biggest gain for all concerned.

Be patient. Be kind. And please understand that there is nothing positive to be gained just by proving you are, or were, “right” and the other person is somehow “wrong.”



Recognize, own, and accept your and their human fallibilities with empathy. We all only do what we know or feel is right in the moment—whatever we said or did, it seemed like the best course of action at the time.

Part of the beauty, tapestry, and ultimate mystery of life is that every opportunity that awakens our emotions and our mental judgment allows the possibility for personal renewal and growth.

Try to let go of any doubt, fear, or worry regarding what your heart guides you to say. By putting forth effort in order to connect with another for the purpose of healing, to more deeply understand, or even love more dearly, allows the heart to expand and create an opening for receiving new blessings… some of which may be entirely unexpected.

More SuggestionsStay in the present. While considering ongoing emotional patterns that keep us stuck, truly successful letters require the ability to remain focused and stay on track with what is currently out of balance, stagnant, or problematic. This encourages you to be more solution-oriented as opposed to lending a sense of helplessness or drowning in a never ending litany of complaints.

Again, consider the bigger picture and highlight the desired resolution instead of focusing on what has gone wrong.

Create a “we” identity. By creating a “we” identity instead of a “me” identity, you generate a more collaborative conversation that invites the letter recipient to be part of the solution instead of the problem. Clarify your underlying emotions, (i.e. instead of feeling “pissed off”, acknowledge the deeper truth of an overwhelming sense of sadness, loss, rejection, etc.). Consider what the current experience may be for your significant other as well. Strive for clarity and be hopeful.

Remember Love. Thoughts translated into words contain a certain energetic frequency. The person who gives the letter and the person reading the letter feel the vibratory frequency of thoughts and words.



Positive “frequencies” are creative and can influence a sense of love, care, or other positive emotions. Lower, denser, frequencies can cause increased anxiety and friction.

So it’s very important to keep the energetic resonance of the letter at a higher, lighter vibration. This means that you avoid dwelling on negative emotions, such as shame, blame, guilt, and feelings of rejection or abandonment. Higher states of emotion, such as gratitude, acceptance, appreciation, respect, etc., raise the energetic frequency and allow the reader to positively receive your message. Remember love, especially unconditional love, vibrates at a much higher frequency than other emotions.



FAQ:

“My situation is super intense. Can a letter really help?”

Yes! I recently wrote an Inspired Heart Letter for a woman who was going through the final stages of a messy divorce after over thirty years of marriage. We’ll call her Becky. Becky’s husband had an affair and wanted out of the marriage. Several months later, Becky decided to start a fresh life and relocated out of state.

Unfortunately, her thirty year-old daughter, who was married and expecting her second child, took offense that Becky moved so far away from her. This resulted in the daughter writing a rather scathing and demoralizing letter.

The daughter complained about her childhood—growing up in a home where her parents commonly argued, reminiscing about her mother’s former bouts with alcohol, and essentially accusing her mother of being selfish and uncaring.

Becky was very hurt and upset. She felt quite stuck, not knowing just how to respond to her daughter’s angry letter. After three months, she contacted me to write the following Inspired Heart Letter:

Hello Sandy,

“How are you, my daughter? After giving it considerable thought, I am responding to your revealing letter from last December. I thought it best to allow some time to let the emotional dust settle before sending this message in reply. Frankly, my first impression was, “Whoa,”…I was struck with such sadness that you seem to be carrying so much anger. It has to be a burden.

Sandy, I have known you your whole life… my heart truly goes out to you. I do hear what you are saying, and sadly, there is some truth to what you have expressed. While I always wished to be the best mother to you, and although it was never my intention, I see there were times I let you down. Although I cannot turn back the clock, I hope we can move forward. I do think of you all the time.

With real compassion, I feel that you certainly must be facing incredible challenges by having to give so much to others as a wife, a mother, and an expectant mother, and at the same time,



working so hard at your job. It must still be painful, no matter the history or circumstance, to have your parents end up divorced… and then, have me, your mom, relocate to California.

Please understand I have not abandoned you, My Love. There is nothing I want more than to heal our relationship and step into the light of love and caring. If you will allow, I would deeply appreciate the opportunity to visit you and help you in any way before and/or after your new baby son arrives.

My eyes fill with tears just thinking about you, and how much I miss you. You are beautiful, intelligent, and it warms my heart to hear you laugh. I do want to find some peace between us and cherish the good parts, continue sharing what is in our hearts and on our mind, and build a closer, more trusting relationship. I hope you want the same.

Although it was certainly painful, I am grateful that you felt safe enough to share your feelings and the truth of what lies heavy in your heart. It has been said that forgiveness is a precious gift we give to ourselves. I hope you will consider taking me up on my offer to visit you and allow me to care for you in any way I can. Either way, just know I am holding you in my heart and only want the very best for you.”Love always,Mom

Note that instead of joining her daughter in a power struggle, Becky honestly and lovingly acknowledged her daughter’s feelings and experience.

I detected an underlying truth conveyed in her daughter’s resentful letter—feelings of overwhelm and a sense of abandonment because she was dealing with so much personal responsibility while she held the perception that her mother had the freedom to leave her burdens behind and start a fresh new beginning.

We addressed this truth in Becky’s letter.

Instead of being either defensive or offensive towards her daughter’s bold, chastising letter, Becky acknowledges her daughter’s assertions to a certain degree. She agrees and admits to her own ineptitude and frailties, as well as admitting to her daughter’s claims from the past as being somewhat true. She empathizes with daughters feeling of overwhelm and abandonment. Towards the end of this letter, the following excerpt appears:



“Although it was certainly painful, I am grateful that you felt safe enough to share your feelings and the truth of what lies heavy in your heart…”

This takes the element of indignation or ego out of the Becky’s response and replaces it with a kind and nurturing quality that reinforces the notion of a more ideal mother-daughter bond.

In the final stage of this letter, Becky offers to visit her daughter in order to care for her before or after the birth of her second child. This is an invitation that allows the daughter to reply and accept an opportunity to receive a loving kindness and care from her mother while they strive to heal their relationship.

A positive influence doesn’t happen by force. Instead, real power comes by rising above the slings and arrows. With compassion, love, and caring, you can raise the frequency of your relationships to a new level.

If you can’t shake anger, resentment, or the desire to prove the other person is wrong, you aren’t ready to write a healing letter yourself. But if you’re like some of my clients, going through the process of having me write one for you can be a healing experience all by itself!

When you aren’t ready to write a letter yourself, there is still hope and other things to try! Not being ready simply means that one part of you wants to heal the relationship, but another part needs to be heard and understood first.

Looking InwardJust as Alice in Wonderland peered through the looking glass, (only to see how quite surprisingly different everything seemed), do we ever really see our true selves? Is our life story or current circumstance accurate? Or, do we ultimately choose how we experience life and our relationship with others based on what we have agreed is true?

Clients often ask me to write a letter in order to cause the letter recipient to feel shame, guilt, or sadness. That’s not the purpose of Inspired Heart Letters… They’re healing letters. There is nothing healing about hurt, blame, and shame.



When a client wants to hurt, shame, blame or somehow make someone else feel bad, it’s an indicator of stuck patterns, unconscious negative programming, and a limited ability to participate in truly healthy, loving, and connected relationships.

It’s a human tendency to not see our own limiting or self-destructive emotional and behavior patterns. And we certainly can’t easily access our subconscious drives.

So, before writing and sending a letter, organize your thoughts and consider your patterns and the role you played. You might even want to consider long-standing family beliefs and patterns that you learned but never questioned.

Consider writing down a list of previous relationships that were unsuccessful and try to locate common threads or similar dynamics that led to relationship failure.

Journaling, meditating, and even viewing your relationships over your lifetime as a scripted movie or story, may evoke some “aha” moments of clarity and more objective perceptions. Seeing a psychotherapist or relationship coach might help, too.

By discovering unhealthy patterns and accepting the truth that you alone are responsible for your current happiness, you can begin healing and changing those patterns. And then, you can work at healing important relationships and letting go of toxic ones.

Being responsible for your life experiences, especially within the realm of relationship matters, is a pivotal step toward reclaiming yourself.

As you become healthier emotionally, psychologically, or both, your relationships with others will change for the better.



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