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Personality DevelopmentPractical Approach

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• Personality definition• Traits• Good personality• Personality development• Hurdles in development• Good manager• Organisation culture

Index


• Who are you?• How well do you know yourself? • What are you good at? • What are your weaknesses, fears,

innermost strengths and desires? • What you want to be?• Where are you headed?

Ask yourself


Don't compare yourself with any one in this world.

If you compare, you are insulting yourself. You are

unique personality!

Its YOU


Personality is • A prediction what a person will do in a

particular situation• The way an individual reacts & interacts

with others• A individual’s distinct patterns of

thought, feeling, motives and behavior

Personality


Personality :- Character or behavior of a person in different scenariosHow character builds up?• Scenario (inputs)• Thoughts (process) – mostly consistent• Actions (output)• Behavior (impression)Hereditary, upbringing, education &

environment build the personality

Personality


Personality

Thoughts Emotions

Behavior

PERSONALITY


Attributes• Personality includes aspects :

Motivation, Perception, Thought process, Emotions, Feeling, Reaction, Attitude, Value

• Various traits lead to a consistent way of behaviour like Introversion, Intelligence, Anxiety, Assertiveness, Aggressiveness, Prejudice, Musical aptitude, Honesty, Sensitivity, Seriousness & Friendliness

• Positive Personality helps growing career. Good to aim, identify & improve.


TypesTraits or characteristic is revealed consistently in a variety of situationsPositive attitude have certain traits like• A pleasing personality• Caring ,confident, patience, and humble• High expectations (?)• Anticipating positive outcomeNegative attitude have traits such as bitterness, resentment, unhappy anger, purposeless life, ill-health, prejudice, etc


Competency of Self-WorthFollowing domains of competency considered in Adult evaluation of self worth (Harter)# Domain # Domain1 Intelligence 7 Sociability2 Sense of humor 8 Adequacy3 Job competence 9 Nurturance4 Morality 10 Athletic ability 5 Physical

appearance 11 Household

management6 Intimacy


Physical aspectsDelivery & SpeedCommunication skillsAsking questionsListeningBuilding rapportVerbal attributesPronunciationTone

PitchArticulationTo enhance vocabulary Syllable / StressVowels & soundsGroup discussionPublic speakingDebates

To acquire & improve each of above skills, one has to take planned & intense efforts


Trait dimensionsDimension Positive Points Negative Points

Extroversion Talkative , FrankSociable

Silent, SecretiveReclusive

Agreeableness Mild, Gentle, Good-natured, Not jealous

HeadstrongIrritable, Jealous

Conscience Choosy, Responsible, Honest, Careful, Hardworking)

Careless. UndependableDishonest, crook

Emotional stability

Poised, ComposedCalm

Nervous, ExcitableAnxious

Culture Polished, ImaginativeArtistically, Sensitive

Crude, SimpleArtistically, Insensitive


Surface traits

Positive Points Negative PointsSociabilitySentimentalismResponsiveAffectionateSentimentalSocial interest

Dependent

IndependenceHostilityAloofColdUnsentimentalLacking family interestIndependent


Type of personalities

Personali

ty


Directness• Act proactively• Naturally self confident, high ego people• Hard-driving and decisive• Candid (frank, open, outspoken, honest,

blunt, straight, authoritative)• Interested in results than people• Attack things aggressively• Don’t realize how strongly they communicate• Hate anyone looking over their shoulder• Good Trouble shooters• Thrive on solving problems


Extroversion• Are enthusiastic and pleasant• Are versatile, Naturally optimistic (Positive)• Like to build organization• Get things accomplished through people• Like team work, will involve people• Like group discussions• Encourage participative decision-making• Persuasive• Constantly selling themselves• Concerned with how others respond to them• Like to be noticed by others


Pace• Persistent and Co-operative• Love peace and harmony• Dependable and reliable• Good Planners, Good listeners• Do-not like to be rushed at the last minute• Interested in making every move count• Have good memory • Time Schedule & deadline are important• Organize time to get work done on schedule• Warm and friendly and make great friends• Approach things in a methodical way


Structure• Hate to make mistakes• Well organized• Will double check themselves and others• Are very loyal in their circle• Have eye for details• Good at developing systems• Meticulous, Careful, Fussy & Selective


ProfilesCharacters

Outgoing ReservedMore intelligent

Less intelligent

Dominant SubmissiveHappy –go-lucky

Serious

Venturesome Timid(shy)Sensitive Tough-

mindedEmotionally stable

Affected by feelings

Conscientious(careful)

Expedient(measure)

CharactersSuspicious TrustingImaginative PracticalShrewd FortnightApprehensive

Self-assured

Experimental

Conservative

Self-sufficient

Dependent

Controlled Uncontrolled

Tense Relaxed


What is maturity?


Character & Personality


Environment Person Behavior

Cognitive Social-Learning Personality emerges from the mutual interactions of individuals, their thought process, actions, and their environments.


Social-Cognitive Perspective

Behavior learned throughupbringing & observation

Thought process of situation affects behavior

Interaction with individuals & Intellect


Reciprocal Determinism

Internal World + External World = We

Personal/Cognitive Factors

EnvironmentFactors

Behavior


Social Cognition?How children process information about their social worlds? - Social cognition might be mediating link between children's socialization experiences and their social behavior.

Socialization Social Cognition Social Behavior


Conflict

expectations of society

processes of

maturation

Learned helplessness

Uncontrollablebad events

Perceivedlack of control

Generalizedhelpless behavior

ParentsFriendsTeachersEmployers


Humanistic Approach

A state of flow arises when engaging in activities demanding skills and challenges


Know yourself


Trait ApproachMMPI Score Profile Showing Clinical Scales


Trait ApproachPersonality Consistency across Lifespan-Least stable during childhood & increases with age.


Idea & RealAnxiety due to gap between ideal & real. Reason may be•Circumstances•Unable to take a stand

•Ignorance•Purposely


Social & personality development in adulthood involves self analysis & identity issues in various roles

Adulthood


FriendshipMaintaining relationships with friends is an important part of adult life• Need for belongingness• Sharing (Good & bad events of life)• Supporting during good & bad times• How do we choose our friends?

• Like minded• Proximity (accessibility)• Similarity (values, attitudes, ethnicity, etc.)• Personal qualities (trustworthy, loyal, warm,

supportive, honest, funny, etc.)


Purpose of existence• Some people work out of EXTRINSIC

MOTIVATION, that drives people to obtain tangible rewards, such as money or prestige or recognition.

• Some people work out of INTRINSIC MOTIVATION, that causes people to work for their own enjoyment, not for the rewards work may bring.


Personality Traits• Particular tendencies to feel, think, and

act in certain ways describe the personality of every individual

• Manager’s personalities influence their behavior and approach towards managing people and resources


Big Five Personality TraitsManagers personality can best be described using following points characterise!


SolutionNo one will manufacture a lock without a key.

Similarly God won't give problems without solutions.


Healthy Mind and a Healthy BodyPersonality Development


Good PersonalityAttributes of a good personality?• Good physique, light mood, smiling

face, alert & conscious• Pleasing manners & etiquettes• Well educated & sharp thinking• Personal and Professional integrity• Trustworthiness and reliability• Successful career• Loving & caring


Healthy Body


Human factors


Healthy Body• Nutrition – No junk food• Personal Hygiene• Disciplining of daily routines• Control of Mind• Exercising

•Traditional methods (Yoga, Pranayam)•Modern methods (Gym, aerobics, etc.)•Walking and jogging


When is mind unhealthy?• Agitated mind is unhealthy• What agitates human mind?

• Not getting what one desires• Getting what one dislikes

• Uncontrolled emotions in the mind• Continuous accumulation of such likes and

dislikes stresses the mind out.• Stress agitates the mind• Stressed mind is unhealthy• Learn to keep it cool however serious• Stories about past & future


When is mind unhealthy?Get what you do not like

Do not get what you want

Build stress

Desperation

Try & Fail

Agitation


BehaveBe bold when you looseand be calm when you win.

Heated gold becomes ornament. Beaten copper becomes wires. Depleted stone becomes statue. More experience makes you sharper


Healthy Mind• Stress-free mind is healthy and calm• Calm mind helps to control the situation well• De-stressing the mind is needed:

How?• Meditate & be happy• Hold no grudges, it harms you more• Forgive & forget• Prevent accumulating day-to-day complexes• Clean the slate - Stored complexes


Cultivating a Healthy Mind• Do not react• Observe no reaction • Continuous self awareness &

introspectionRemoving of accumulated complexes:• Path of service• Intellectual self analysis (keep it simple)• Path of devotion• Path of meditation


Looking in mirror• Give few minute end of everyday• Keep cool & concentrate• Introspect yourself, run a day story• Clean the heart & brain• Be honest to yourself• Control the mind & situation• Understand others point of view• Forgive & forget, Give up the grudges• Understand it hurts & pains you more• Release the stress & be in light mood• Be happy


Change yourselfChanging Face might change nothing.

But Facing the Change can

Don't complain about others;Change yourself to see a change


Successful storyEvery successful person has a painful story.

Accept the pain and get ready for success

Every painful story has a successful ending.


Start freshNo one can go back and change a bad beginning;

But anyone can start now and create a successful ending.


Analyse problemIf a problem can be

solved, no need to worry about it.

If a problem cannot be solved what is use of worrying?


Personality DevelopmentItem Description

Deep faith towards work

Determination to keep commitment; Come what may attitude!

Positive personality

Positive & optimistic thinkingCultivating positive believes in others

Effective communication

Precise to the points ; Set context, & sharing the thoughts & convince

Time management

Managing time well, Work & life balance; Effective delegation

Problem solving

Understanding problem, analyzing, solutioning; & selecting right resource



Team Spirit Working with heterogeneous team members, be a leader, not just a follower

Self confidence

Ability to express and asking questions without fear

Learn ability Always learning new skills

Flexibility Guts to revisit the own views & thoughts, revising as per the situation; Accommodating & aligning

Stability Keeping up the performance & efficiency even under stress, keeping head cool!



Confidence Demonstrate rich self confidenceDecision making

Precise decision making after data collection and analysis, know people well

Sense of humor

Demonstrate sense of humor even while managing tough situation, learn to smile

Accepting criticism

Large hearted, ready to introspect, accept criticism & work on it non- politically

Not to worry Worries would not solve the problem, control the situation, mind & brain

Language Be master of at least 3 languages


Know your mistakes

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others.Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes.

It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.


Hurdles in planningItem Description

Laziness Inertia before starting, Need change in attitude; Can be overcome by practicing

Incomplete information

how many activities to complete the tasks/ project? Incomplete information delays the activity & impacts the plan

Lack of self confidence

In-ability & difficulty in planning & execution; in-ability of coordinating activities; Imagine the activities and mitigate the risks in advance

Over confidence

Prefer actions to planning; it invites risksLeads to failure if not experienced


Hurdles in planningItem Description

Mentality Planning is waste of time leads heroic approach results more efforts & duration

Delay in Decision making

Right decision at the right time helps to project & stake holdersDelay in decision making & not sharing the decisions impacts project

Commitment Inability to commit due to lack of confidence or fear of being committed

Beating drums

Sharing exaggerated information & wrong updates lead to planning failure


ExperienceMistakes are painful when they

happen.

But year's later collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success.


Life

Life laughs at you when you are unhappy...

Life smiles at you when

you are happy...Life salutes you

when you make others

happy...


Thank You

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