Car i ng Enough t o Car i ng Enough t o Conf r ontConf r ont

Mat t he w 18: 1-Mat t he w 18: 1-1717

Go a l :

Un i t y o f mi n d a n d h e a r t o n ma t t e r s o f i mp o r t a n c e

Go a l :

No o n e e v e r l e a v e s Re d Oa k b e c a u s e o f , o r wi t h , a n

u n r e s o l v e d r e l a t i o n s h i p i s s u e .

Go a l :

No d i v o r c e s . Ze r o . Ev e r .

Go a l :

Ev e r y me mb e r o f Re d Oa k d o e s e v e r y t h i n g wi t h i n

h i s /h e r a b i l i t y t o l i v e a t p e a c e wi t h e v e r y o n e

( Ro ma n s 1 2 : 1 8 )

Ta b l e Ta l k• Wh a t a r e s o me b a d t h i n g s s h e c o u l d h a v e d o n e ?

• Wh a t a r e s o me g o o d o p t i o n s ?

I. The Ri ght At t i t ude

I. The Ri ght At t i t ude

A. Humi l i t y

I. The Ri ght At t i t ude

A. Humi l i t y

B. Conc e r n f or Ot he r s

I. The Ri ght At t i t ude

II. The Ri ght Appr oac h

I I . The Ri ght Appr oac h

A. Spe ak t he t r ut h i n l ove

Spe ak t he t r ut h i n l ove

“…s pe aki ng t he t r ut h i n l ove , we ar e t o gr ow up i n e ve r y way i nt o hi m who i s t he he ad, i nt o Chr i s t …”

Ephe s i ans 4: 15

I I . The Ri ght Appr oac h

A. Spe ak t he t r ut h i n l ove

B. Spe ak gr ac e , not l aw

Spe ak gr ac e , not l aw

“…Le t no c or r upt i ng t al k c ome out of your mout hs , but onl y s uc h as i s good f or bui l di ng up, as f i t s t he oc c as i on, t hat i t may gi ve gr ac e t o t hos e who he ar . ”

Ephe s i ans 4: 29

I I . The Ri ght Appr oac h

A. Spe ak t he t r ut h i n l ove

B. Spe ak gr ac e , not l aw

C. Spe ak l e s s , l i s t e n mor e

Spe ak l e s s , l i s t e n mor e

“…Le t e ve r y pe r s on be qui c k t o he ar , s l ow t o s pe ak, s l ow t o ange r . ”

Jame s 1: 19

I I . The Ri ght Appr oac h

A. Spe ak t he t r ut h i n l ove

B. Spe ak gr ac e , not l aw

C. Spe ak l e s s , l i s t e n mor e

D. Spe ak wi t h God’ s wi s dom

Spe ak wi t h God’ s wi s dom

“I f any of you l ac ks wi s dom, l e t hi m as k God, who gi ve s ge ne r ous l y t o al l wi t hout r e pr oac h, and i t wi l l be gi ve n hi m. ”

Jame s 1: 5

I. The Ri ght At t i t ude

II. The Ri ght Appr oac h

III. The Ri ght Out c ome

“ My br o t he r s , i f o ne o f yo u s ho ul d wande r f r o m t he t r ut h and s o me o ne s ho ul d br i ng hi m bac k , r e me mbe r t hi s : Who e v e r t ur ns a s i nne r f r o m t he e r r o r o f hi s way wi l l s av e hi m f r o m de at h and c o v e r o v e r a mul t i t ude o f s i ns ” .

J a me s 5 : 1 9 - 2 0

I. The Ri ght At t i t ude

II. The Ri ght Appr oac h

III. The Ri ght Out c ome

IV. The Ri ght De t e r mi nat i on

I. The Ri ght At t i t ude

II. The Ri ght Appr oac h

III. The Ri ght Out c ome

IV. The Ri ght De t e r mi nat i on

V. The Ri ght Re s pons e

Ta b l e Ta l k• Ta l k a b o u t d i f f e r e n c e s b e t we e n “ c a r i n g c o n f r o n t a t i o n ” a n d c o n f r o n t a t i o n wh e r e l o v e i s n ’ t o b v i o u s . Ho w d o y o u f e e l a n d r e s p o n d d i f f e r e n t l y t o c o n f r o n t a t i o n wh e n y o u k n o w t h e o t h e r p e r s o n h a s a g e n u i n e l o v e a n d c o n c e r n f o r y o u ? Do y o u t h i n k t h a t c a r i n g c o n f r o n t a t i o n i s mo r e e f f e c t i v e t h a n “ u n c a r i n g ” c o n f r o n t a t i o n ? Wh y ? • Wh i c h o f t h e f o u r S c r i p t u r a l i n s t r u c t i o n s a b o u t h o w t o a p p r o a c h a n o t h e r p e r s o n d o y o u p e r s o n a l l y f i n d mo s t d i f f i c u l t , a n d wh y ? Ho w mi g h t y o u o v e r c o me t h a t p r o b l e m?

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