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10 Tips To Create Confidence While Dealing with WorkplaceBullying

Some people (most) would rather stick a fork in their eye than address somethingvery difficult such as how to handle a workplace bully. Sometimes it can seemimpossible and hope fades.

Here's What Happens:

• The bully upsets you. • There is increased stress, perhaps loss of productivity and an increase of

personal self-doubt causing frustration for you. • You start to search out what to do' and it seems difficult, overwhelming or

challenging. You feel 'this is too big to handle' . • You start to ignore, minimi!e or get distracted about the bullying problem. • You feel that 'this is too big to handle' and you start to develop e"cuses as to

why you are unable, incapable or not e#uipped to move through the situation.

Procrastination refers to the counterproductive deferment of actions or tasks to alater time. $t s a mechanism for coping with an"iety associated with starting orcompleting a task or decision.

%. The rela"ed type of procrastinators view their responsibilities negatively and avoidthem by directing energy into other tasks. $t is a form of denial or cover-up&therefore, typically no help is being sought. 'urthermore, they are also unable todefer gratification. They avoid situations that would cause displeasure, indulginginstead in more en oyable activities.

If you have to swallow two frogs, swallow the biggest one first *

+. Tense-afraid procrastinators usually feel overwhelmed with pressure, unrealisticabout time, uncertain about goals, and many other negative feelings. They feel asense of malaise. 'eeling that they lack the ability or focus to successfully completea task, they tell themselves "I need to unwind and relax. It's better to take it easyfor the afternoon, and start anew later" . Their 'relaxing' is often temporary andineffective, and leads to more stress as time runs out, deadlines approach and theperson feels increasingly guilty and apprehensive. This behavior becomes a cycle offailure and delay, as plans and goals are put off and re-scheduled. Since they areuncertain a out their goals , they often feel awkward with people who appearconfident and goal-oriented, which can lead to depression. They withdraw from sociallife, avoiding contact even with close friends.

"Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week."

. nce you decide the overall task you need to complete, (ie) address the bully,keep a log (page in /ully 'ree at 0ork ) then, stop thinking about the /$1 taskand break it down into step-by-step smaller tasks. /ecoming overwhelmed can be andenial techni#ue.

"I'm going to stop putting things off, starting tomorrow!" -Sam 2evenson

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3. 'ocus on a small component of the task that you know you can achieve. 4hooseeither by priority or by desire. 1etting one small achievement under your belt movesyou in the right direction.

"When there is a hill to limb, don't think that waiting will make it smaller."

5. 6sk yourself, 4an $ work on this task without being distracted for % hour7 (Theanswer is yes* $n fact try it first for %5 minutes, then 8...). 9eeping yourcommitment to yourself to deal with this is another step in confidence building.

" ever put off tomorrow what you an do today." :. 6. Spender

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@. 'orget about everything else other than working hard for this select period oftime. 1et a stopwatch or an accountability person if it will help.

"I don't wait for moods. #ou a omplish nothing if you do that. #our mind mustknow it has got to get down to work." - Aearl S. /uck

B. 6t the end of the time period, ask yourself the same #uestion again and renewanother time frame with yourself either at that moment or for a specific time later.

"We are given one life and the de ision is ours whether to wait for ir umstan es tomake up our mind, or whether to a t, and in a ting, to live." - 1eneral mar /radley

C. /efore you end, decide the e"act task you will work on first in the ne"t timeperiod instead of waiting for the feeling to emerge' to start working again.

"The stress people feel doesn't ome from having too mu h to do. It omes from not

finishing what they started." - <avid 6llen

. nce you agree with yourself, tell an accountability (and encouragement)partner. Try writing them a che#ue and if you do your task, you get your che#ueback*

"When you have to make a hoi e and don't make it, that in itself is a hoi e." -0illiam :ames

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%8. <elay is the deadliest form of denial. 0hat one thing could you do in the ne"thour to move you in the right direction7 "Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait The truth is, there are onlytwo things in life, reasons and results, and reasons simply don't ount." - >obert6nthony

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