1 parenting conference 2013 session two the counsel from parents the counsel from parents
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Parenting Conference 2013Parenting Conference 2013
Session Two Session Two
The Counsel From ParentsThe Counsel From Parents
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Factors For Effective Counseling:
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Factors For Effective Counseling:
1. Listen
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Factors For Effective Counseling:
1. Listen2. Wisdom
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Factors For Effective Counseling:
1. Listen2. Wisdom3. Application
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Factors For Effective Counseling:
1. Listen2. Wisdom3. Application4. Positive Result
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
“Our sons and their youth will be like well nurtured plants.”
Psalm 144:12
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead
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Two Truths About Leadership:
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Two Truths About Leadership:
1. Must Be Consistent In Our Talking
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Two Truths About Leadership:
1. Must Be Consistent In Our Talking
2. Must Be Consistent In Our Walking
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Two Truths About Leadership:
1. Must Be Consistent In Our Talking
2. Must Be Consistent In Our Walking
“Take to your heart all the words with which I am warning you today, which you shall command your sons to observe carefully, even all the words of this law.”
Deuteronomy 32:46
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Two Truths About Leadership:
1. Must Be Consistent In Our Talking
2. Must Be Consistent In Our Walking
“Be imitators of me, just as I also am of Christ.”
I Corinthians 11:1
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Two Truths About Leadership:
1. Must Be Consistent In Our Talking
2. Must Be Consistent In Our Walking
“Train up a child in the way he should go… and go there yourself once in a while.”
Unknown Author
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Two Truths About Leadership:
1. Must Be Consistent In Our Talking
2. Must Be Consistent In Our Walking
“Do not exasperate your children…”
Ephesians 6:4
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead A - Anchor
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Three Important Anchors:
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
“I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in the truth.”
III John 4
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
2. Prayer
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
2. Prayer
* Salvation
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
2. Prayer
* Salvation * Sanctification
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
2. Prayer
* Salvation * Sanctification * Service
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
2. Prayer
* Salvation * Sanctification * Service * Safety
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
2. Prayer
* Salvation * Sanctification * Service * Safety * Spouse
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Three Important Anchors:
1. The Word
2. Prayer
* Salvation * Sanctification * Service * Safety * Spouse * Love
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“Just as a father has compassion on his children, So the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him.”
Psalm 103:13
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead A - Anchor
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead A - Anchor N - Nurture
“…Bring your children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
Ephesians 6:4
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead A - Anchor N - Nurture
Nurture Means: To care for, and encourage the growth or development of.
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity
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“While American students trail their counterparts in other
countries in just about every academic area, they have the highest levels of self-esteem and feel good about their educational achievements. That’s sad. They’re fools
and don’t even know it.”
Walter WilliamsGeorge Mason University
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Cheerleader Verses Coach
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Cheerleader Verses Coach
Offers False Praise Genuine Praise & Encouragement
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Cheerleader Verses Coach
Offers False Praise Genuine Praise & Encouragement
Can’t or Doesn’t Offer Instruction
Provides Expertise
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Cheerleader Verses Coach
Offers False Praise Genuine Praise & Encouragement
Can’t or Doesn’t Offer Instruction
Provides Expertise
Uses External Motivation
Uses Internal Motivation
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Cheerleader Verses Coach
Offers False Praise Genuine Praise & Encouragement
Can’t or Doesn’t Offer Instruction
Provides Expertise
Uses External Motivation
Uses Internal Motivation
Applauds Mediocrity Expects Excellence
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model
“Bretheren (Children) join in following my example, and observe those who walk according to the pattern
you have seen in us.”
Philippians 3:17
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model
“No matter what you teach a child, he insists on behaving like his parents.”
Unknown Author
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations 7. Failing To Get Involved In School
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations 7. Failing To Get Involved In School 8. Not Being Consistent
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations 7. Failing To Get Involved In School 8. Not Being Consistent 9. Failing To Explain Your Reason and Position
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations 7. Failing To Get Involved In School 8. Not Being Consistent 9. Failing To Explain Your Reason and Position10. Criticizing Instead Of Encouraging
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations 7. Failing To Get Involved In School 8. Not Being Consistent 9. Failing To Explain Your Reason and Position10. Criticizing Instead Of Encouraging11. Never Apologizing Or Admitting You Are Wrong
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations 7. Failing To Get Involved In School 8. Not Being Consistent 9. Failing To Explain Your Reason and Position10. Criticizing Instead Of Encouraging11. Never Apologizing Or Admitting You Are Wrong12. Never Or Seldom Saying “Yes”
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Neglecting Nurture In Our Children:
1. Spoiling Your Children 2. Providing Poor Discipline 3. Praising Mediocrity 4. Failing To Give Responsibility 5. Not Being A Role Model 6. Setting Poor Expectations 7. Failing To Get Involved In School 8. Not Being Consistent 9. Failing To Explain Your Reason and Position10. Criticizing Instead Of Encouraging11. Never Apologizing Or Admitting You Are Wrong12. Never Or Seldom Saying “Yes”13. Failing To Take Time
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“Parents are prone to give their children everything except the one thing they need the most, that is time: Time for listening, time for understanding, time for helping, and time for guiding. It sounds simple, but in reality it is the
most difficult, and the most sacrificial task of parenthood.”
Emma K. Hulbert
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead A - Anchor N - Nurture
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Children Are Compared With Two Things:
1. Children Are Like Arrows
2. Children Are Like Plants
P - Partnership L - Lead A - Anchor N - Nurture T - Train
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs 22:6
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“A father tells his sons about your faithfulness.”
Isaiah 38:19
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“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness, who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter.”
Isaiah 5:20
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“For the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth searching for hearts that are completely His so that
He may strongly support them.”
II Chronicles 16:9
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Parenting Conference 2013Parenting Conference 2013
Session Two Session Two
The Counsel From ParentsThe Counsel From Parents