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Self Esteem

What is Self-Esteem?

The way we see, feel, and think about ourselves

Do you think you have a high or low self esteem?

Where does self-esteem come from?

Self esteem develops from the time we are infants all the way up to adulthood

It is harder to change an adult’s self-esteem once it’s set

Important to grow in early years.. HOW?

Parental involvement is key

Self esteem can also be defined as feeling capable while also feeling loved

If you feel loved, but not capable– you may have low self esteem

If you feel capable, but not loved, low self esteem may occur

{ {High Self-Esteem

Know strengths and weaknesses

Like being around people

Enjoy challenges

Low Self-Esteem

Doesn’t try new things

Talks negative about oneself

Give up easily

Traits of Self-Esteem

Reward effort and completion instead of outcome

Be a positive role model Identify inaccurate beliefs Give positive, accurate feedback

Build Self-Esteem in kids

Raise Your Own Self-Esteem• Affirm your strengths, list your

faults• Accept all parts of your physical

appearance• Be willing to accept change• Become involved with others• Keep a sense of humor

Self Esteem QUIZ

1. When you wake up in the morning, do you feel happy, loved, and loveable?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

2. Do you wish that you had never been born?

5 4 32 1

Never SometimesUsually

3. Do you feel as though you matter, that what you say and do impacts on the world?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

4. Do you feel that the people in your community recognize who you are?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

5. Do you find it easy to make new friends?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

6. Do you wish that you family would be more supportive of you?

5 43 21

Never Sometimes Usually

7. Do you feel that your family does not respect your individuality?

5 4 32 1

Never Sometimes Usually

8. Do you feel ashamed of aspects of your personality that set you apart from the crowd?

5 43 2 1Never Sometimes Usually

9. Do you feel as though you are special?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

10. Do you find it easy to make decisions?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

11. Do you feel that life is futile? Do you say to yourself, “why bother?”

5 4 32 1

Never Sometimes Usually

12. Do you speak out when you feel that something is wrong?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

13. Can you name two or more people in your life whom you admire?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

14. Are you inspired to try a new thing when you see someone else doing it?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

15. Do you say to yourself, “I could never be as cool/ smart/ talented/ as (fill in the blank someone whom you admire).”

5 43 21

Never Sometimes Usually

16. Do you think you are a worthless individual?

5 43 2 1Never Sometimes Usually

17. Do you think of yourself as a competent person who performs most tasks well?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

18. Do you feel that you have made a positive impact on others’ lives?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

19. Do you look in the mirror and feel satisfied with what you see?

5 4 3 2 1

Usually Sometimes Never

20. Do you feel clumsy and awkward in your body?

5 4 32 1

Never Sometimes Usually

21. Do you often wish you could change some aspect of your body?

5 43 2 1Never Sometimes Usually

22. Do you feel that most of your friends and peers are more physically attractive than yourself?

5 4 32 1

Never Sometimes Usually

Results:Lowest score: 22Highest score: 110

The higher your score, the more self esteem you have. Do you agree or disagree with your score?

1. I am loveable.2. I am connected.3. I have role models.4. I assert myself, I have power.5. I am worthwhile.6. I am unique.7. I am comfortable in my own

body.

7 components of Self Esteem

Reflect

Put a checkmark beside the components you feel like you have

Journal Entry: For the ones you don’t have, why don’t you have them? How could you get them?

Journal Entry: If you do have all of them, describe how you have achieved 2 of these components.