Theories of Love

Theories of Love Proposed by Psychologists

There are different kinds of love. But never the same love twice.

Liking vs Loving Psychologist Zick Rubin proposed that romantic love is made up of three elements: attachment, caring and intimacy.

Compassionate vs Passionate According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues, there are two basic types of love: compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection and trust. Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for one another.

Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection.

Color Wheel Mode of LoveIn his 1973 bookThe Colors of Love, John Lee compared styles of love to the color wheel. Just as there are three primary colors, Lee suggested that there are three primary styles of love.Three Primary Styles1. Eros Loving an ideal person2. Ludos Love as a game3. Storge Love as friendship

Three Secondary Styles1. Mania (Eros + Ludos) Obsessive love2. Pragma (Ludos + Storge) Realistic and practical love3. Agape (Eros + Storge) Selfless loveComponents of LovePsychologist Robert Sternberg proposed a triangular theory suggesting that there are three components of love: intimacy, passion, and commitment.What common understanding can be drawn among the theories?

What Happens when love has come to an end?

we are HURT.

Loving becomes PAINFUL.

HOW CAN WE MOVE ON FROM A BITTER PAST?

ZITA ARTURO B. ROTOR

ABOUT THE AUTHOR Arturo B. Rotormedical doctor, a musician, and a writer.He attended the University of the Philippines.In 1966, the Philippine government awarded him the Republic Cultural Heritage Award in recognition of his literary accomplishments.

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LOVE QUOTATIONS

James A. Baldwin Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war, love is a growing up.

Martin Luther King, Jr. I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.

Mother Teresa I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.

CHARACTER SKETCH

ZITAMR. RETECHEDON ELIODOROTURONGSTORY PLOT

STORY EXCERPT

Excerpt from the storyAn exile has come to Anayatand he is so young, so young.

Excerpt from the storyHis voice was scarcely above whisperA thousand miles, Mother of Mercyit is not possible.

Excerpt from the storyWhy do you tear up a letter and put it together again?

Excerpt from the storyShed never forget the look on his face when she came out. It was not surprise, joy, admiration. It was as if he saw someday there whom he was expecting.

Excerpt from the storySlowly, painfully, she tried to put the pieces together and as she did so a sob escaped deep from her breast.

STORY ENDING

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Figures of SpeechSimile A simile is a figure of speech that makes acomparison, showing similarities between two different things. Unlike ametaphor, a simile draws resemblance with the help of the words like or as. Therefore, it is a directcomparison.The water well was as dry as a bone.He is as cunning as a fox.MetaphorMetaphor is a figure of speech which makes an implicit, implied or hiddencomparisonbetween two things or objects that are poles apart from each other but have some characteristics common between them. In other words, a resemblance of two contradictory or different objects is made based on a single or some common characteristics.It is going to beclear skiesfrom now on. (This implies that clear skies are not a threat and life is going to be without hardships)The skies of his future began todarken. (Darkness is a threat; therefore, this implies that the coming times are going to be hard for him.)Hervoiceismusic to his ears. (This implies that hervoicemakes him feel happy)PersonificationPersonification is a figure of speech in which a thing, an idea or an animal is given human attributes. The non-human objects are portrayed in such a way that we feel they have the ability to act like human beings.The wind whispered through dry grass.The flowers danced in the gentle breeze.Time and tide waits for none.IronySituational IronyThis type of irony may occur when the outcome of a certain situation is completely different than what was initially expected. It is often referred to as an irony of events.Example: A man who is a traffic cop gets his license suspended for unpaid parking tickets.Example: An ambulance driver goes to a nightime bike accident scene and runs over the accident victim because the victim has crawled to the center of the road with their bike.Dramatic irony occurs when the audience/readers know but other characters in the story do not know.

Example: As an audience member, you realize that if a character walks into an abandoned warehouse, chances are a killer is waiting... but because you are a member of the audience you cannot disclose the information to the character.Example: In Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare Romeo finds Juliet in a drugged state and he thinks she is dead. He kills himself. When Juliet wakes up she finds Romeo dead and kills herself.Example: In Macbeth by William Shakespeare Macbeth appears to be loyal to Duncan but he is planning Duncan's murder. Duncan doesn't know Macbeth's plans but the audience knows what is going to happen.Verbal Irony ExamplesWhen there is an incongruity between what is stated and what is. Generally, one of the two elements is an antithesis to the other, creating an ironic contradiction.

A man looked out of the window to see the storm intensify. He turned to his friend and said wonderful weather were having!

Oxymorona figure of speech that juxtaposes elements that appear to be contradictory. Oxymora appear in a variety of contexts, including inadvertent errors (such as "ground pilot")

Examples: great depression cruel to be kind clearly confused walking dead only choice alone togetherAparadoxis a statement that apparently contradicts itself and yet might be true (or wrong at the same time).You can save money by spending it.I'm nobody."What a pity that youth must be wasted on the young."Difference Between Oxymoron and Paradox

Oxymoron and paradox are very similar concepts, and the definition of oxymoron states that sometimes they may present a paradox.

The difference is that a paradox often is used in literature to give unexpected insights, whereas an oxymoron does not necessarily lead to any insights.

Paradoxes usually defy intuition in that they combine seemingly contradictory concepts to hint at a deeper truth.

Oxymora, on the other hand, are often easy to grasp the meaning of even while the terms involved are usually used to mean opposite things.

"Daphne, you can't go. You have to stay. I've only just recently realized how important you are to us. You see, if you go, Dad and I will kill each other.England decides to keep check on immigration. (England refers to the government.)The suits were at meeting. (The suits stand for business people.)The pen is mightier than the sword. (Pen refers to written words and sword to military force.)Metonymy(/mtnmi/ mi-TONN--mee) is a figure of speech in which a thing or concept is called not by its own name but rather by the name of something associated in meaning with that thing or concept.Synecdoche is a literary device in which a part of something represents the whole or it may use a whole to represent a part.Synecdoche may also use larger groups to refer to smaller groups or vice versa. It may also call a thing by the name of the material it is made of or it may refer to a thing in a container or packing by the name of that container or packing.The word bread refers to food or money as in Writing is my bread and butter or sole breadwinner.The phrase gray beard refers to an old man.The word sails refers to a whole ship.EuphemismA euphemism is a polite expression used in place of words or phrases that otherwise might be considered harsh or unpleasant to hear. Euphemisms are used regularly, and there are many examples in every day language.

Examples of euphemisms that fall into this category include:

Passed away instead of diedCorrectional facility instead of jailDeparted instead of diedDifferently-abled instead of handicapped or disabledFell off the back of a truck instead of stolenEthnic cleansing instead of genocideOther figures of speechNot mentioned in the bookAlliterationis a stylistic literary device identified by the repeated sound of the first consonant in a series of multiple words, or the repetition of the same sounds or of the same kinds of sounds at the beginning of words or in stressed syllables of a phrase.But a better butter makes a batter better.A big bully beats a baby boy.Assonanceis the repetition of vowel sounds to create internal rhyming within phrases or sentences, and together with alliteration. Assonance is not a rhyme, because the identity of which depends merely on the vowel sounds.Mensell theweddingbells.We light fire on the mountain.I feel depressed and restless.Consonanceis a poetic device characterized by the repetition of the same consonant two or more times in short succession, as in "pitter patter"Pairs of Consonance ExamplesBlank and thinkSpelled and scaldSent and wentDawn goes downHe struck a streak of bad luck.When Billie looked at the trailer, she smiled and laughed.ONOMATOPOEIA:The use of words (such ashissormurmur) that imitate the sounds associated with the objects or actions they refer to."Chug, chug, chug. Puff, puff, puff. Ding-dong, ding-dong.The little train rumbled over the tracks."APOSTROPHEAfigure of speechin which some absent or nonexistent person or thing is addressed as if present and capable of understanding."Twinkle, twinkle, little star,How I wonder what you are.Up above the world so high,Like a diamond in the sky."Almost LoverA Fine FrenzyOne Cell in the Sea, track 62007Folk269053.53eng -