One-on-One With Your Boss

Taking Power

This module is

about having the

best possible

one-on-ones with

your boss

But first I quickly

want to talk to

you about

your boss

The thing is that

your relationship

with your boss is

the most

important work

relationship that you have

Because it’s the

relationship that

determines what work

you do, your career

progression, your

increases and bonuses

but ultimately your

work happiness too

Because if you have a

bad relationship or

communications with

your boss, you are

going to hate your job

Have you ever

had a

bad boss? Have you hear

bad boss horror

stories?

We all have because

the research says

that 90% of us will

have had a bad

boss sometime in

our careers

So how do we

stop this

from

happening?

is about

ethical management. So

share this message to stop the

bad bosses from winning

Now sometimes

you just get

stuck with a

bad boss

But the beautiful

thing is that you

don’t just have

top accept that

And no, I’m not

talking about

what we call

“firing your

boss”

Which means quitting in a huff and

changing your boss by

finding a new job

Because odds are

you will just

replace one

problem with another

It may help you

to know that

being a boss is

extremely

difficult for many people

I know that I wasn’t

born with the

natural skills that I

needed to be a great

boss

And while I had excellent

technical skills and spent

many years and many

thousands of dollars

investing in my

education, no-one

showed me how to be

a good boss.

And in my

experience there

are far too many

bosses who

haven’t had the

training they need.

So if you change

jobs, the risk is

that you will end

up being a bad

boss.

These aren’t

necessarily bad

people – they are

just doing a

difficult job that no-one

showed them

how to do

So a good

place to start is

to have some

compassio

n.

And when you have this

understanding then you

have a great basis to go

forward on a

co-operative level instead of an

antagonistic

I’d like to share a quick personal story

that should help you understand this

I had a very

successful boss

who was a great

leader, but

not as good

at managing as he was at

leading

So I had been

working really

hard to meet my

performance

objectives

Every month I

checked against

my performance

objectives from

my last review to

make sure that I

was on track

But then the next

performance review

happened and he gave

me some

negative feedback

for not doing something

he had asked me to do

And instead of

getting a good

rating for all my

hard work I

ended up with

average

Needless to

say I was

upset

And I really do believe

that bosses have a

responsibility to help

their employees perform

and I created

Boss Camp to show

bosses how to do this.

But that’s not the

lesson. The

lesson is that I

was not doing a

good job to make

sure that I was

meeting the boss’s

expectations before

the performance

review

If I take the

responsibility for

checking in with my

boss’s expectations in a

one-on-one meeting

then I have empowered

myself to fix the

problem

But if I blame

my boss for not

doing what I think

he should have

done then what

happens is…

• Things go wrong,

• Things go wrong,

• I lose out on my bonus and,

• Things go wrong,

• I lose out on my bonus and,

• I end up angry

But perhaps

most

dangerously of

all, without

responsibility

people feel

helpless

And people who

feel helpless

end up sad and

depressed.

This isn’t

about what’s

wrong or

right…

It’s about

doing what works

and making your life

better despite what other

people around you do

Regardless of whether you’re lucky to have

a good boss or a bad boss, you always

have the power to take action to make

things better

But you have to

choose to take

the personal

responsibility to

make a difference

If you live in

blame you will

always be

powerless

I’m a big believer about taking

personal responsibility for ourselves

And one thing that you can do is that

you can take responsibility for your

communications

And this isn’t just for

bad bosses it’s

essential for

all bosses

What I now realize is that

if I had been having

regular high quality one-

on-ones with my boss

then I could’ve found

out what my boss

really wanted

Your best

communicatio

n channel is your

one-on-one with

your boss

And taking

responsibility for your

communications

means coming well

prepared like I

will show you in this

mini course.

And taking

responsibility means

helping your boss

to have the best

quality one-on-ones

because there are two

people in a one-on-

one meeting

Helping

your

boss

means…

• Helping to stick to the agenda

• Helping to stick to the agenda

• Keep things moving fast

• Helping to stick to the agenda

• Keep things moving fast

• Stay flexible

• Helping to stick to the agenda

• Keep things moving fast

• Stay flexible

• Communicating openly with compassion

And you don’t

have to do this

for your boss,

you can

do it for

yourself…

Because doing what I will show

you is going to save you time,

improve your earnings and

improve your happiness at work

And so to

wrap

up…

I know I wasn’t the

first employee to

get an unfair,

bad review because of not

meeting some

hidden criteria

And I

won’t be

the last either

And even though I

thought I was

doing what I

needed to, clearly I

wasn’t

And even

though I was

working hard,

clearly I was

wasting

my time

But there

is a better

way…

Instead of wasting

my time doing the

wrong things and then getting

upset with my review

I can take responsibility for

communicating with my boss

And the

best forum for

communications with

your boss is to have

regular, high quality

one-on-ones

Thanks for listening

to this story – I hope

that you can learn

from it so that you

don’t make the same

mistakes that I did.

The material in this

module is a small

extract from a larger

module that shows

employees how to have

better relationships

with their boss

This module is part of a mini course on one-on-ones with

your boss

Includes One on One Templates and Best Practices

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One-on-One With Your Boss

Taking Power