you and you organiser: buddhist society speaker: mr. chia fah choy date:16 aug 2006 (2:00pm-3:00pm)...
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you and you
Organiser: Buddhist SocietySpeaker: Mr. Chia Fah ChoyDate: 16 Aug 2006 (2:00pm-3:00pm)Venue: SE102
Un-opened Birth-Gifts
Acknowledgement
There are so many gifts
Still unopened from your birthday,
There are so many hand-crafted presents
That have been sent to you by God.
The Beloved does not mind repeating,
“Everything I have is also yours.”
There are so many gifts, my dear,
Still unopened from your birthday.Hafiz
Un-opened Birth-Gifts
Freedom and Power to Choose
Principles (Natural Laws) universal timeliness self-evident (inarguable)
The 4 Intelligences/Capacities Mental
Physical/EconomicEmotional/Social
Spiritual
Un-opened Birth-Gifts
Freedom and Power to Choose
Principles (Natural Laws) universal timeliness self-evident (inarguable)
The 4 Intelligences/Capacities Mental
Physical/EconomicEmotional/Social
Spiritual
“…It is our light, not our darkness, that most frighten us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?...”Marianne Williamson
Who are we?
Whole-Person Paradigm
Mind
Bod
yHeart
Spirit
Almost all philosophy and religion, both Western an Eastern, from the beginning of recorded history, you’ll basically find the same dimensions:
The physical/economic
The mental
The social/emotional
The spiritual
Four Needs of People
Mind
Bod
yHeart
Spirit
To learn
To li
veTo love
To leave a legacy
Growth and Development
Sur
viva
lRelationship
Meaning and Contribution
Un-opened Birth-Gifts
Freedom and Power to Choose
Principles (Natural Laws) universal timeliness self-evident (inarguable)
The 4 Intelligences/Capacities Mental
Physical/EconomicEmotional/Social
Spiritual
Principles/Natural Laws
Fairness
KindnessRespect
Honesty
Integrity
Service
Contribution
All actions have consequences
When we pick up one end of the stick we pick up the other.
Values are social norms
Are your value based upon principles?
You jump, I jump.
Un-opened Birth-Gifts
Freedom and Power to Choose
Principles (Natural Laws) universal timeliness self-evident (inarguable)
The 4 Intelligences/Capacities Mental
Physical/EconomicEmotional/Social
Spiritual
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Make an obscene gesture. Insult the intelligence of the driver. Add to the insult by adding a wide smorgasbord of
expletives. Raise their own blood-pressure, adrenaline, heart-rate
and stress levels. Pound furiously on the horn. Engage in a lengthy conversation with any passengers in
the car, focusing on the imbecilic nature of the other drivers.
Carry the experience on to work, explaining in righteous fury to their coworkers about the moronic nature of the driver, and expanding on the possible consequences.
Store the story as a constantly-to-be-reviewed example of the irresponsibility of other members of the driving community.
The other driver had just discovered that his wife and child were in a serious accident just down the road.
The other driver was in the process of suffering a heart attack.
The accelerator of the other car had become jammed to the floorboards.
The other driver had been on a drinking binge, and was ‘smashed out of his mind’.
Hiding behind the other driver’s seat was an escaped criminal with a gun, who had threatened to kill him if he did not drive flat-out to aid in the escape.
The other driver was your own brother. etc., etc., and etc.
Any time your emotional life is a function of someone else’s weakness, you disempower yourself and empower those weaknesses to
continue to mess your life up.Stephen R. Covey
ResponseStimulusFreedom
to choose
Between stimulus and response there is a space.
In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our
response.
In those choices lies our growth and our
happiness.
The history of free man is never written by chance but by choice – their choice.
Dwight D. Eisenhower
The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail
to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change; until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and
deeds.R.D. Laing
If we have given away our present to the past, do we need to give away our future also.
Stephen R. Covey
The EndThank you