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NEWSLETTER

Decorating: Make your guests

feel welcome in your home.

Coaching kids

Issue 3, October 2010

YOUR BODY IMAGE: Cellulite

STYLE TIPS: The Slimming

Power of vertical lines

Relationships: The 5

Love Languages

Rebecca, Steph and Dee are excited

to have joined the Pink Book Club.

This fantastic organisation is all

about ―you time‖ for women, and

sharing experiences, knowledge,

skills, support with lots of fun and

laughter—which suits us down to

the ground. We hope to help branch

PBC into the south west and other

country areas. We encourage you all

to check it out too at...

What‘s new at...

We would also love you all to get

modern (if you aren‘t already) and

find us on FaceBook. What did we

ever do without it? It is such a

fantastic way to build a community.

Make your guests feel welcome in

your home

Next time you have

friends or family come

to stay even if it is just

overnight go all out to

make them feel

welcome and special.

There is nothing nicer

than a guest walking

into your home and

into the room they will

be sleeping in to find a

nice surprise.

Always leave fresh towels out

on the bed along with some

beautiful and simple toiletries.

These days you can buy miniature toilet-

ries at the supermarket or even get into

the habit of collecting them when you

stay in nice hotels and build a collection

up so that you can use them when friends

or family come to stay.

I always like to go one step further and

even put a few choccies on the bed to

really top things off!

“This is such a simple but

effective way to make your

home a sanctuary not only

for you but anyone who

stays.”

These small touches will make your guests feel so welcome in your home.

www.steffidesigns.com.au

―Loved it! Found it so interesting. It took things I thought I

new about to the next level. Thank you. I can‘t wait to go

and put some of it into practice.‖ - Natalie.

This is one of the many fantastic testimonials we received

from our recent workshop in Perth. Don‘t forget we have

more workshop opportunities coming up:

October 9th-Busselton

October 23rd-Perth

November 27th-Bunbury

Go to http://www.yourlifestyled.com.au/events/ for more

details or phone 1800 123 484 .

Your Life Styled will be coming back even bigger and

better in the New Year. We have some exciting things

planned so stay tuned.

YLS WORKSHOPS

Dee in action at our September 11 event.

CELLULITE: Why

can‘t we just accept it?

I don‘t remember ever NOT hav-

ing cellulite. As a teenager of

thirteen I remember looking in

the mirror at my dimpled thighs

and feeling ABSOLUTELY

HIDEOUS! I assumed that be-

cause I had cellulite I must also

be huge (Its only in the last few

years I have been able to look

back and see that I definitely

wasn‘t huge). But I was in com-

parison to the models that I was

seeing in all the magazines. And

they didn‘t have cellulite. Not a

speck! At least not that we never

saw - I don‘t know if they had

photo shop or air brushing back

in 1983.

This picture was found on the web hi-lighting the dimples on the

back of a cat-walk model‘s thighs. I am not trying to be scandal-

ous, poke fun, judge or bitch. I just think women of all ages need

to aware MOST OF US HAVE CELLULITE! It‘s a girl thing. It

certainly makes me feel less of an ogre to know that highly paid

and adored supermodels have cellulite too. It might be a bad cam-

era angle—but I am sure us normal gals stare at ourselves and

judge in the worst light at the worst angle and see stuff that

others rarely do.

Poor Mischa Barton copped a lot

of flack in the media not long ago

for these photographs showing

her with cellulite on the backs of

her legs and bum. I can‘t help but

wonder if this constant sledging

contributes to her yo-yo dieting!

I don‘t know why some women

get it and some don‘t—but judg-

ing by Mischa (and a lot of oth-

ers) it is certainly not because she

is overweight. It is my hunch that

it is a genetic thing, and therefore

being persecuted for having it is

like being persecuted for having

a particular colour skin.

I honestly believe the self—loathing I felt for my body at thirteen was

a major catalyst for me developing an eating disorder that led me to

waste years of life, precious time I will never get back, opportunities I

missed because I was waiting till I was“ skinny enough” and to con-

template taking my own life. Luckily for me I was able to recover. I still

have the odd battle with body issues, and I definitely still have cellulite.

Most importantly I have learnt that most of us will have aspects of our

bodies that we will never love, but we can still love ourselves. We can

learn how to minimise the bits of us we don‘t like so much and emphasise

those that we love. And we must stop comparing ourselves and our bits

with other women, we all come in our individual packages, all made up of

good and not so good bits, and cannot be compared. It is my passion now

through Your Life Styled and Goddess Impressions to spread a wave of

healthy body image through women today, if I can save even one person

from the depths of despair I felt when I hated my body then it will be

worth it.

CELLULITE: Why

can‘t we just accept it?

I found this image of an “untouched” plus

size model on the internet. The photographs

that had been published apparently had the

models legs looking smooth as steel.

I would love to know what others

think—are dimples so unsightly we

have to hide them - or could we

just get used to them if we saw it

more often?

To airbrush or not to airbrush?

Help other women by

sharing your stories, please

email your opinions and

experiences about body

image issues to: denise@YourLifeStyled.com.au

Dee Noney is an Image Consultant

who‘s passion is to not only help

you create the image you want to

present on the outside, but also opti-

mise how you feel about yourself

inside—from all aspects— includ-

ing your body image. For more

information go to

www.goddessimpressions.com.au

Coaching Kids Series -

Labels and Positive Communication The early years in a child’s life are critical to their development.

Up until somewhere between the ages of 7 – 9, a child‘s brain is like a huge sponge

and soaks up absolutely everything it sees and hears. This is also a time of creating

values, which are often copied by close role models around them.

Although we adore our children, and do absolutely anything to protect them, we of-

ten neglect to protect them from negative environments, situations and WORDS.

Children absorb all of this literally and often carry these emotions and tags through

to adulthood, which then can create a whole new set of problems within itself (i.e.

depression, anxiety, lack of self-worth etc.).

An example of this is constantly telling your child they have learning problems.

This is what they now believe and that is how it will be for them, even if they are

very capable, they now carry that label. Or maybe telling them they shouldn‘t eat

too much as they will get fat. This could cause eating disorders in future.

Now I am not saying to pussy foot around your children – they still need to learn

life lessons. But what I do encourage if they are exposed to unhealthy situations to

try and give them some closure so they do not carry that baggage with them for life.

Try to keep your communications with your children as positive as possible, and try

not to expose them any situations that

you believe may cloud their values.

Jenny Towers

Personal Performance Coach

www.jennytowers.com

The Slimming Power

of vertical lines

Many ladies know that horizontal stripes will make then

look wider (in most cases) . But did you also guess that

verticals will make you look slimmer? Well they do. A

long vertical line causes the eye to move up and down giv-

ing the appearance of increased length. As a bonus -when

you appear taller you can appear slimmer. Vertical lines

also divide width, breaking it up making it appear less

wide. The important thing to remember is, it is not just

about stripes.

Vertical lines can also be created by:

The pleats/folds in a way a garment hangs

Layering garments over the top of each other

Scarves, ties, necklaces

Creases pressed in pants

Monochromatic dressing (creates a column of one col-

our which is like a solid vertical line)

Colour blocking (wearing one colour all the way up

the inside - like the picture with the red jacket)

You can also do the same wearing the same colour up

the outside and a contrast on the inside (for example a

suit with a black skirt and jacket with a white blouse).

And of course patterns in the garment (see front page)

Life changes and your expectations, outlook

and needs change as you grow and mature.

To satisfy those evolving needs,

relationships and life forces need to be

continually Re-negotiated, Re-aligned and

Re-ignited.

Deep inside I know I need renewed direction, balance

and focus.

My Personal, Family & Business Life is unclear, heavy

and full of fear of the unknown.

I’m Frustrated, Tired and Bored”.

“YES, I AM LOST.”

How do I re-ignite that Enthusiasm?

Sarvaga Light will change the way you think about your current reality.

Using simple but effective techniques Sarvaga Light will guide you to a place of

simple understanding.

Safe Journey

Johan Smit Sarvaga Light "Re igniting Enthusiasm for Life" www.sarvagalight.com.au Member of Institute

of Complimentary Therapists Johan with the team at our recent Your Life Styled

Workshop. As well as being our fantastic MC, he

keeps us grounded if we get stressed and lifts us

when we need it.

―Love doesn‘t erase the past, but it has the

ability to make the future different‖

What happens to love after the ‗honeymoon‘? In Gary Chapman’s book, The 5

Love Languages, he speaks about how speaking the language of our partner is im-

perative to a successful relationship. He states that couples who understand each

other‘s love language hold a priceless advantage in the quest for love that lasts a life-

time – they know how to effectively and consistently make each other feel truly and

deeply loved.

So what are the 5 Love Languages? I speak about this, and other topics exten-

sively in my programs and it is a very simple and effective concept to learn. I want

to share with you briefly here what these love languages are, and how understanding

them can effectively increase the chances of a positive outcome for your relation-

ship.

The first love language is Words of Affirmation. Verbal compliments or spoken ap-

preciation are powerful communicators of love to some. What would happen in a re-

lationship if there was only words of criticism and negativity? Your partner wouldn‘t

feel very loved if they constantly heard those words. What if you spoke words of af-

firmation regularly? What if you used encouraging words and empowering lan-

guage? What would that evoke in your partner? They would begin to feel good about

themselves, they would feel empowered and they would feel loved and appreciated,

and their ‗love tank‘ will be filled.

The second love language is Quality

Time. Quality Time is giving someone

your undivided attention. It doesn‘t mean

sitting on the couch watching a TV show

together. It means sitting down, TV off,

facing your partner and giving each other

your undivided attention. Taking the time

to really listen to what your partner is

saying, and communicating with them,

will enhance and fulfill them and will in

turn nourish your relationship. When

you sit down with your partner and give

each other your undivided attention, you

are effectively giving & receiving love.

It can be a powerful communicator of

love.

The third love language is Receiving Gifts. Gifts are visual symbols of love. Most

wedding ceremonies include the giving and receiving of rings. These are symbols of

never ending love and unity. This symbol has emotional value. Visual symbols of

love are more important to some people than to others. If receiving gifts is your pri-

mary love language you will cherish receiving special gifts and you will attach the

emotion of love to the gift. To the person whose primary love language is receiving

gifts, generally, the cost of the gift will not matter. It‘s the meaning you associate to

the giving of the gift that is important to you.

The fourth love language is Acts of Service. This is meant by doing things for others

that you know they would like you to do. Acts such as cooking a meal, vacuuming

the floor, cleaning the car or paying the bills are all acts of service. They require

thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If these acts of service are done with a

positive spirit they are expressions of love.

The last love language is Physical Touch. Physical Touch is a powerful vehicle for

communicating love. For some people, physical touch is their primary love lan-

guage. Without it, they feel unloved. With it, they feel secure in the love of their

partner. This also applies to babies – they require physical touch to thrive, and to feel

loved and taken care of. Touching your partner as you walk through the room takes

only a moment, but to the person who holds Physical Touch as their primary love

language, it means the world. Touching each other when you leave the house, or ar-

rive home may involve only a brief kiss or hug, but it will speak volumes to your

partner.

The question now arises – Do you know what your primary ‗Love Language‘ is?

How do you discover your love language, and that of your partner? It is essential if

you are to keep their emotional ‗love tank‘ full.

For further information on this topic, we have extensive pro-

grams that cover in concise detail the above, and a lot more re-

garding communication & relationships. Contact me on 1800

123 484 if you would like some clarity on the above informa-

tion.

Why Did You Fall in Love? Whether it was love at first sight or the slow

simmer of friendship into true love, the early days of your relationship may hold

the key to your present-day intimacy. Spending some time remembering why you

first fell in love can be a good way to restore some perspective (and spark) to your

relationship.

Start by revisiting some of your early memories - you may have even saved some

letters, cards or photos from those first holidays and special occasions together. Re-

reading them can get you back into the state of mind that you were in when every-

thing was new and exciting. Old photos work, too, for conjuring up memories and

surprising yourself with moments and little nuances you had long forgotten.

You can keep your discoveries to yourself as a source of private appreciation, or you

can share them with your partner. Sometimes it's fun to reminisce together and re-

weave the bonds of affection that connected you in the first place. Remember the

time we did this...? Or the moment you both knew it was right...?

Focusing on those positive memories may be the key to shifting things from

neutral back into oh so hot and steamy!

Fai Kur is not only a qualified Sexual Health

Therapist, she can also host a sex toy party

that is fantastic fun. Get to know her at an up-

coming Your Life Styled event when she is

one of our special guest speakers or contact

her at fai-kur@hotmail.com or 0412147917

How‘s your love life?