x3 family session 4
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X3 Rock Your FamilySession 4: Iʼm the Parent... ...dealing with teenagers
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Ten Commandments of Rock Your Family
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Ten Commandments of Rock Your Family• Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not
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Ten Commandments of Rock Your Family• Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not
• What does it look like to train/instruct and build a relationship with your teenagers?
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• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
I Am The Parent
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• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
I Am The Parent
• They are becoming adults
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• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
I Am The Parent
• They are becoming adults
• We should expect them to pull away
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• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
I Am The Parent
• They are becoming adults
• We should expect them to pull away
• They have to
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• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it
I Am The Parent
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• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it
I Am The Parent
• Allow them freedom to choose their values
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• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it
I Am The Parent
• Allow them freedom to choose their values
• This creates tension
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• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it
I Am The Parent
• Allow them freedom to choose their values
• This creates tension
• Engage with them
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I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions
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I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions • With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”
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I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions • With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”• You enter their world
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I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions • With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”• You enter their world• To engage with them means to pursue them
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I Am The Parent
• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters
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I Am The Parent
• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters
• A way to cultivate a relationship with your teen is to listen
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I Am The Parent
• Get them to talk
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I Am The Parent
• Get them to talk
• Donʼt judge their answers
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I Am The Parent
• Get them to talk
• Donʼt judge their answers
• Donʼt critique or complain
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I Am The Parent
• Get them to talk
• Donʼt judge their answers
• Donʼt critique or complain
• The key is to build the relationship
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Homework
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• Go to your teen and apologize
Homework
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• Go to your teen and apologize
• Write down three ways you can engage with your teen
Homework