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WRAP and Loneliness
Presented By Sherri Rushman 248-975-9531 or [email protected]
December 6, 2012 Source: Mary Ellen Copeland ”The Loneliness Workbook” mentalhealthrecovery.com
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What is this Workshop Based on?
“The Loneliness Workbook”. “Loneliness Study” Focus groups, interviews, and a written
survey
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What is Loneliness? Means different things to different
people A description of Loneliness would
include words that describe feelings Loneliness is an old ongoing human
condition It is a feeling of having no common
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Definition of Loneliness
Loneliness is feeling disconnected and lost, even in the midst of family
Without friends or a companion. Feeling like you don’t have anyone who wants to be
with you Feeling abandoned and unable to connect with
anyone on either a physical or emotional level Being alone and not comfortable with yourself What are your definitions of loneliness
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#1 A person dreamed of a great chasm-a chasm so deep that she couldn’t see to it’s bottom with steep rock cliffs on either side. She was alone on one side of the chasm, looking at the other side. On the other side people were talking to each other, laughing, and having a good time. There was no way for her to get to the other side where the people were. The person felt excluded and utterly alone
Image of Loneliness
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Continued Personal Images of Loneliness
#2 One women said that when she was lonely, she imagines herself enveloped in a plastic bubble, just floating in space where no one can hear her and no one cares about her thoughts and feelings.
What are your personal images of Loneliness.
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Sometimes There is a Reason You Can’t Keep Supports or Friends
Connections Gone Wrong Overly dependent One sided relationships When one of the people is negative When one person assumes things about
the other person Being too needy
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People Avoid me-Why?
Complaining constantly Being self-centered Being fearful of rejection Having low self-esteem Being excessively angry Worrying and fretting needlessly
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Things That Don’t Enhance Relationships
Being embarrassing Interrupting, You messages Break confidentiality One person doing all the talking Wanting you to be their only friend
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Remember, There is Hope!
People have changed their lives and shape their life the way they want to.
Takes time and work to improve circumstances
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Connections Can Go Right “People being lovingly supported and supporting
others are powerful contributors to our social, psychological, spiritual, and even physical well being.”
From her research she found it is important to have at least 5 supporters.
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Connections Gone Right
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Connections Gone Right
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Opposite of Loneliness
Times when you don’t feel lonely Feel connected to people your with Feel that you are understood and respected Enjoy times with people Having a balance between being with others
and being alone Feeling loved, togetherness, feeling whole
and complete and a sense of belonging
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Not Feeling Lonely
Let’s do an exploratory exercise.
Sit back in your chair. Make sure you feel comfortable. Take a few deep breaths. Focus on feeling not lonely. To do this, you may need to think of a time in your life when you were not lonely. If you can’t think of a time, imagine such a time. Focus and enjoy these feelings.
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Raising Your Self-Esteem
By exercising Doing things you really like to do Taking good care of yourself Develop a scrap book that celebrates you Make an appreciation paper Receiving compliments At night write about how you treated yourself
well during the day
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List of Strengths to Bring to a Friendship
I am a good listener. I am warm and friendly. I like being part of a good conversation. I’m supportive to others. I have a lot of interests I like to share. I am very compassionate. I am playful and enjoy humor.
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Continued List of Strengths to Bring to a Friendship
I am passionate I am entertaining and witty I am generous and kindhearted I am interested in a variety of ideas,
issues, and activities. I make it a point to affirm and validate
the experiences of others.
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Continued List of Strengths to Bring to a Friendship
I accept others as they are. I don’t try to change them
I enjoy sharing fun and interesting activities with others
I will go “out on a limb” for others if they need and want me to do that
After this workshop list your strengths that make you a good friend
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Beginning and
Maintaining Relationships
•Reaching out •Introducing yourself •Chatting •Arranging to get together •Phone call check-ins •Staying connected •Respecting boundaries
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The Qualities of Good Supporters
Someone you can trust and respect you Be Confidential Have time for you Who will allow you the space to change,
grow, make decisions and make mistakes, who accept you-both as you are and as you want to be
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Continued Qualities of Good Supporters
Who care about you. Would advocate for you. Make decisions when you can’t and
willing to follow your pre-determined plan.
Someone who will treat you well. Not force advice on you.
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Being with Supporters •Listening •Sharing •Empathizing •Peer counseling/exchange listening •Check-ins •Problem solving •Supporting through hard times •Using “I” Statements •Respecting boundaries 23
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Assignment Describe after workshop on paper your
relationships w ith people w ith whom you feel you have deep, rich friendship. I f you feel you don’t have any, w rite what you would like in a friendship.
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Assingment
Do you have mutuality in your
friendships? I f you do it, you w ill see it works! Describe how it works for you after the workshop.
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