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OCTOBER 2011

LONG LIVE THE MAN

How to cook like a man in the kitchen

OnlinerelationshipsThe new era of dating

Wife, interruptedA guide to her mid-life crisis

WiseGuySTYLE3 WATCH OUT Man’s best accesssory should reflect his personality.

CONNECT5 MID-LIFE WIFE How to relate to your reinvented spouse.

WANDER9 AMERICAN GAME The best hunting trips for the first-class man.

TECH13 INTERNET SAFETY The advances of data mining and social media.

FEATURES16 MAN IN THE KITCHEN Celebrity chefs cause a boom in male cooking. by GARTH GLASGOW

20 CLICK THE FIRST MOVE How to make a cyber connection and make the love last in the real world.by HIRAM LEWIS

24 BRUCE WILLIS The star of The Cold Light of Day talks about the strengths of family ties and watching his kids grow up in the spotlight.by DAN MARTIN

HEALTH29 VITAMINS Five vitamins that need to be in your medicine cabinet.

NOSTALGIA32 MUSCLE CARS The cool-est cars on the block during the late 1960s and early 1970s.

On the CoverBruce Willis photographed exclusively for Wise Guy by JERRY WANG.

5 Wife, interrupted

16 Chef Anthony Bourdain

20 Online relationships24 Bruce Willis

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WiseGuyDan MartinPUBLISHER

Molly MartinEDITOR-IN-CHIEF

David WarrenCREATIVE DIRECTOR

John SullivanMANAGING EDITOR

Amy BrownCOPY EDITOR

Robert Sullivan RESEARCH EDITOR

Benjamin JacobsART DIRECTOR

David GriffinPRODUCTION MANAGER

Tyler EdwardsCIRCULATION MANAGER

WRITERS AT LARGEHiram Lewis, Jon Roberts, Garth Glasgow

EDITOR’S NOTE

Thanks, Dad I’ve always admired my dad’s unabashed confidence. He can — and will — talk to any-one, and doesn’t give two cents what people think about him. At age 57, he knows he’s still cool. But no matter what size your ego, all guys want the affirmation that they’re cool, espe-cially as you get older. That’s WiseGuy’s goal: to make you feel good about yourself, because life gets better at 50. The most interesting years of your life are ahead of you. Just look at our cover star Bruce Willis (page 24) — a great example of the modern and ma-ture man. Not only is he a husband and father of three daughters (who are quickly growing up), but he also maintains a friendly relation-ship with ex-wife Demi Moore and her hus-band Ashton Kutcher. Now that’s something you don’t see everyday, especially among movie stars. And at 56, he’s never felt (or looked) bet-ter. Hollywood won’t stop calling. Bruce may be one of my dad’s favorite movie actors, but when it comes to TV, Chef Gor-don Ramsay can’t be beat. I know better not to change the channel when the foul-mouthed kitchen king comes on the screen. I encour-

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MOLLY [email protected]/WISEGUYMAGFACEBOOK.COM/WISEGUYMAG

Celebrating a father/daughter game day at the University of Kansas.

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age him, and you, to get off the couch for a bit, scoot the wife out of the kitchen, and make his herb crusted rack of lamb. Check out his recipe on page 19. Aside from the kitchen, now is also the time to leave the armchair traveler in the archair and get in the driver’s seat and go somewhere. What better time than now? Aspirations to travel to exotic places will lead to nowhere if you don’t go. After many, many years of traveling with me all over the country for basketball tourna-ments, I want my dad to travel for him, not me. So gather your buddies and plan a guys trip to a five-star hunting lodge (page 9). Just make sure to enjoy yourself. While the second half of life is full of new joys and experiences, one thing remains just as important, perhaps more so: your health. If you want to live a long and enduring life, you must take care of yourself. And, as I’m sure my dad will agree, the motivation to focus on health can be hard to find. So we’ll give you the mo-tivation, and give it to you straight. For start-ers, take your vitamins; they’re not just for kids (page 29). Living well leads to a happier life. Without my dad, WiseGuy wouldn’t be here. I’m lucky to have such an inspiration. He told me to think of “something wild for people over 50.” I hope you like it. Thanks, Dad.

STYLE


Watch out for man’s best accessoryWhat do different types of watches say about a man? How to choose a watch that reflects a man’s personality.

ISA merges all of the nationalities represented on the KU campus to promote inter-national friendships and cultural appreciation. The organization hosts a variety of social events throughout the academic year, including a Halloween party. During the spring semester, ISA hosts a week of international awareness programs culminating

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Rolex Exploer II 1655Epitomize cool like Steve McQueen with a classic-style watch.


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Fossil Chronograph

Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speakers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to understand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semes-ter. The Tokyo senior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills because she wants to become an English teacher in Japan. The Applied English Center (AEC) is a resource for international students that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speakers improve their English skills. When international students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assessment to determine whether or not they ready for University courses. Margaret Coffey, AEC associate director and senior language specialist.

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If the results from the assessment test show that students still need English language improvement, AEC enrolls them in classes through the center that aim to improve their English skills. They must complete these classes before they can take classes through the University; however, depending on individual assessment results, AEC permits some students to take both AEC classes and University classes in the same semester. For example, Tsutahara is taking one AEC class and 3 University classes. Tsutahara says it has been easy for her to adjust to this new environment because the University understands international students. Apart from AEC, the Inter-national Student and Scholar Services also assists the KU international community by providing admissions.

BUSINESS

Tag Heuer Monaco

To encourage friendships among various international student groups and domestic students, ISSS hosts international student orientation at the beginning of each semester. About two-thirds of incom-ing international students attend each semester. International students and student volunteers unite to ease the transition to the U.S. and KU, and bond over the common experience of being a stranger in a foreign land. Ediger, the ISSS director of the orientation, says many students make lasting friend-ships, and even walk down the hill with one another at graduation. Tsutahara attended orientation at the beginning of this semester and says she has made such friends.

ATHLETICS

Swiss Army Convoy Chrono

Ediger Students who have a large number of others from their home country at KU may be less inclined to adapt readily here. Such students, such as those from Japan, with 88 international students here, may feel more comfort-able associating only with those from their home country, thereby insulating themselves from having to interact with others outside of their native culture. To encourage friendships among various international student groups and domestic students, ISSS hosts international student orientation at the beginning of each semester. About two-thirds of incoming international students attend each semester. International students and student volunteers unite to ease the transition to the U.S. and KU, and bond over the common experience of being a stranger in a foreign land. Ediger, the ISSS director of the orientation, says many students make lasting friendships.

abel Kok’s apartment at The Ex-change is her comfort zone.It’s her

The Mid-life WifeWomen sometimes gain independence with new lifestyles of exercise, spirituality or unexplained detachment and leave men wondering how to relate to their reinvented spouses. Human behavior expert Patrick Wanis offers his advice.

W in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks. This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put my-self into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feel-ing more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he al-most wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. FOR LOTS OF HUSBANDS, students like Cumbane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home coun-try often feel more anxiety and isolation than a student from a country that has a significant presence on campus. For Cumbane, the homesickness hadn’t gone away after a semester. He still had a few more semesters left before he could graduate with a Masters degree in education. He wanted to finish all of the required classes as quickly as he could, thinking he would be able to go home earlier, so he enrolled in five classes. Soon enough, the

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temporary home that connects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can find her room-mate, a friend from her home country of Ma-laysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger brothers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture and face the challenges that lie ahead for them. By looking at homesickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil. The plane lands at the Kansas City Interna-tional airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground.A tall African man steps out-side of the Kansas City International Airport and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest

stress from the heavy workload got the best of him and caused him to take a trip to Watkins Memorial Health Center with complaints fevers and headaches. Cumbane says the doctor told him noth-ing was wrong. He was just overwhelmed with homesickness and stress that caused him to get sick. The doctor wrote Cumbane a note that al-lowed him to miss class for three days in order for him to recuperate. Aside from dealing with homesickness, Edi-ger says adjusting to unfamiliar foods is also a big challenge international students face at KU. Cumbane says Americans seem to prefer snacks, such as popcorn and pretzels, rather than large meals. He misses the fresh seafood and feasts, along with the loud music and dancing, which are part of his lifestyle in Mozambique. “I am African,” Cumbane says. “Those are the things we do.” Hejab ALMutairi has traveled all over the U.S., from sea to shining sea. He loves San An-tonio and puts a smile on his face when talking about New York. But the can’t see himself fitting in anywhere else but here. Lawrence is his fa-vorite place in America. ALMutairi wears khaki cargo shorts and a red “hill yes” KU t-shirt. He


Peace, love and harmony?

WHETHER YOUR WIFE likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Arabia men tradition-ally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are present. In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates through-out Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For exam-ple, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi female stu-dents at KU continue to wear hijabs on campus, including his wife, a childhood friend, who has joined him at KU. Although Saudi culture differs from Ameri-can and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s president. AFTER THE REALIZATION, he took the position because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes Ameri-can misconceptions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same technology and education as those in America. He also expresses concern about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home coun-try remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels obligated to help his country. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speakers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to understand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semester. The Tokyo se-nior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills because she wants to become an English teacher in Japan. The Applied English Center (AEC) is a re-source for international students that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speakers improve their English skills. When in-ternational students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assess-ment to determine whether or not they ready


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“Escaping the midlife development crisis is probably as likely as the child escaping

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from ISSS says “The most important thing we do is give students a connection to the University.” While Tsutahara has been adapting well, she says other Japanese students do not feel as com-fortable here. She says Japanese students are not as outgoing as American students, meaning they tend to wait to be spoken to, rather than initiate conversation. Such conversations may be diffi-cult because of varying English-speaking levels,

but she says Japa-nese students wish American students would make the ef-fort to talk to them more. Ediger says stu-dents who have a large number of others from their home country at KU may be less inclined to adapt readily here. Such students, such as those from Japan, with 88 interna-tional students here, may feel more comfortable associating only with those from their home coun-try, thereby insu-

lating themselves from having to in-teract with others outside of their na-tive culture.

To encourage friendships among various in-ternational student groups and domestic stu-dents, ISSS hosts international student orienta-tion at the beginning of each semester. About two-thirds of incoming international students attend each semester. International students and student volunteers unite to ease the transition to the U.S. and KU, and bond over the common experience of being a stranger in a foreign land. Ediger, the ISSS director of the orientation, says many students make lasting friendships, and even walk down the hill with one another at graduation. Tsutahara attended orientation at the begin-ning of this semester and says she has made such friends.“I’m very sad when I imagine my last day in Kansas,” she says.

for University courses. Margaret Coffey, AEC associate director and senior language special-ist, says this is the center’s primary mission: to improve international student’s English skills for academic purposes. THE TURNING POINT IN A MID-LIFE CRISIS that students still need English lan-guage improvement, AEC enrolls them in class-es through the center that aim to improve their English skills. They must complete these classes be-fore they can take classes through the University; how-ever, depending on individual assess-ment results, AEC permits some stu-dents to take both AEC classes and University classes in the same semes-ter. For example, Tsutahara is taking one AEC class and 3 University class-es. Tsutahara says it has been easy for her to adjust to this new environ-ment because the University under-stands internation-al students. If the results from the assess-ment test show that students still need English language improve-ment, AEC enrolls them in classes through the center that aim to improve their English skills. They must complete these classes before they can take classes through the University; howev-er, depending on individual assessment results, AEC permits some students to take both AEC classes and University classes in the same semes-ter. For example, Tsutahara is taking one AEC class and 3 University classes. Tsutahara says it has been easy for her to adjust to this new environment because the University understands international students. Apart from AEC, the International Student and Scholar Services also assists the KU international com-munity by providing admissions, advising, pro-gramming and referral services. Michael Ediger WG

Whether your wife likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Arabia men traditionally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are pres-ent. REMEMBERING HOW YOU WERE per-meates throughout Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For example, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi fe-male students at KU continue to wear hijabs on campus, including his wife, a childhood friend, who has joined him at KU. Although Saudi culture differs from Ameri-can and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s president. After the realization he took the position be-cause he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconcep-tions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same technology and education as those in America. He also expresses concern about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home coun-try remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels obligated to help his country. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speakers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to understand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semester. The Tokyo se-nior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills because she wants to become an English teacher in Japan. The Applied English Center (AEC) is a re-source for international students that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speak-ers improve their English skills. When interna-tional students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assessment to determine whether or not they ready for Uni-versity courses. WG


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America’s Five-Star Hunting TripsThese luxury hunting escapes include the best locations, game, service and

dinners for some male bonding with the guys.

A view of the world class luxury cabin at the Dunton Hot Springs Resort in Colorado

A bel Kok’s apartment at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that connects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can find her roommate, a friend

ADAIRSVILLE, GEORGIA

Barnsley GardensGAME: Quail and Turkey

BRACKETTVILLE, TEXAS

LaFonda RanchGAME: Deer, Quail, Turkey, Dovefrom her home country of Malaysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger brothers

via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When inter-national students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture. By looking at homesickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe

The plane lands at the Kansas City Interna-tional airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground. A tall African man steps outside of the Kansas City International Airport and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks. This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put my-self into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go

right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. Michael Ediger, associate director of advis-ing and orientation at International Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cum-bane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home country often feel more anxiety and isolation than a stu-dent from a country that has a significant pres-ence on campus. Cumbane says the doctor told him noth-ing was wrong. He was just overwhelmed with homesickness and stress that caused him to get sick. Aside from dealing with homesickness, Ediger says adjusting to unfamiliar foods.Hejab ALMutairi has traveled all over the U.S.

ALMutairi wears khaki cargo shorts and a red “hill yes” KU t-shirt. He likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Arabia men traditionally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are pres-ent. In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates through-out Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For exam-ple, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi female stu-dents at KU continue to wear hijabs on campus, including his wife, a childhood friend, who has joined him at KU. Although Saudi culture differs from American and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s president. ALMutairi says he took the position because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconceptions.


GREENOUGH, MONTANA

The Resort at Paws UpGAME: Elk

PEDRO BAY, ALASKA

Rainbow Bay ResortGAME: Brown bear

BROWNSVILLE, TEXAS

Rancho CaracolGAME: Dove and quail

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Clockwise from top: Lounging in the Big Lodge of the Rainbow Bay Resort in Pedro Bay, Alaska; a Blackbuck Antelope at LaFonda Ranch in Bracketville, Texas; Exquisite Napa Valley Chardonnay is available at the Resort at Paws Up in Greenough, Montana; newly carpeted two-man deer blinds with sturdy, hand-railed stairs for your comfort, at Wyoming High Country Guest Ranch in Lovell, Wyoming.

The pride ALMutairi has for his home coun-try remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels obligated to help his country and com-munity. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speakers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to understand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semester. The Tokyo se-nior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills.

The Applied English Center (AEC) is a re-source for international students that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speak-ers improve their English skills. When interna-tional students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assessment to determine whether or not they ready for Uni-versity courses. Margaret Coffey, AEC associate director and senior language specialist, says this is the center’s primary mission: to improve in-ternational student’s English skills for academic purposes. If the results from the assessment test show that students still need English language improvement, AEC enrolls.

They must complete these classes before they can take classes through the University; howev-er, depending on individual assessment results, AEC permits some students to take both AEC classes and University classes in the same semes-ter. For example, Tsutahara is taking one AEC class and 3 University classes. Tsutahara says it has been easy for her to adjust to this new environment because the University understands international students. Apart from AEC, the International Student and Scholar Services also assists the KU internation-al community by providing admissions, advis-ing, programming and referral services.

Gourmet GameTHE FOOD IS JUST AS GOOD AS THE HUNT — MAYBE BETTER

• Best Quail: Pot-roasted quail with Muscat and grape risotto from Barnsley Gardens

• Best Turkey: Cajun-friend wild turkey with Caesar salad from LaFonda Ranch

• Best Trout: Fresh Rocky Mountain trout sauteed with herbs from the Resort at Paws Up

• Best Salmon: Wild Alaskan salmon with chili garlic butter from Rainbow Bay Resort

• Best Duck: Mexican duck with peptita sauce from Rancho Caracol

BRADFORD, PENNSYLVANIA

The Lodge at GlendornGAME: Turkey and deer

CAMILLA, GEORGIA

Rio Piedra PlantationGAME: Quail

LOVELL, WYOMING

Wyoming High CountryGAME: Elk, deer, moose and bear

While Tsutahara has been adapting well, she says other Japanese students do not feel as com-fortable here. She says Japanese students are not as outgoing as American students, meaning they tend to wait to be spoken to, rather than initiate conversation. Such conversations may be diffi-cult because of varying English-speaking levels, but she says Japanese students wish American students would make the effort to talk to them more. Ediger says students who have a large number of others from their home country at KU may be less inclined to adapt readily here. Such students, such as those from Japan, with 88 international students here, may feel more.

To encourage friendships among various in-ternational student groups and domestic stu-dents, ISSS hosts international student orienta-tion at the beginning of each semester. About two-thirds of incoming international students attend each semester. International students

and student volunteers unite to ease the transi-tion to the U.S. and KU, and bond over the com-mon experience of being a stranger in a foreign land. Ediger, the ISSS director of the orientation, says many students make lasting friendships, and even walk down the hill with one another at graduation. Tsutahara attended orientation at the beginning of this semester and says she has made such friends.

But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be diffi-cult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American room-mate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to ad-just to a different culture and face the chal-lenges that lie ahead for them. Students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil.

A chef at Rancho Caracol in grills quail for guests.

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Surfing and sharing on the InternetExperts weigh in on how to determine whether or not a website is safe, and also explain how companies use data mining to reach out to more people on social media websites.

abel Kok’s apartment at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that connects her to the home she

left behind. It’s where she can find her roommate, a friend from her home country of Malaysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three young-er brothers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture and face the challenges that lie ahead for them. By looking at homesickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil. The plane lands at the Kansas City International airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground. A tall African man steps outside of the Kansas City International Air-port and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks.

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This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put myself into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. Michael Ediger, associate director of advising and orientation at Inter-national Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cumbane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home country often feel more anxiety and isolation than a student from a country that has a signifi-cant presence on campus. For Cumbane, the homesickness hadn’t gone away after a semester. He still had a few more semesters left before he could graduate with a Mas-ters degree in education. He wanted to finish all of the required classes as quickly as he could, thinking he would be able to go home earlier, so he enrolled in five classes. Soon enough, the stress from the heavy workload got the best of him and caused him to take a trip to Watkins Memorial Health Center with complaints fevers and headaches. Cumbane says the doctor told him nothing was wrong. He was just overwhelmed with homesickness and stress that caused him to get sick. The doctor wrote Cumbane a note that allowed him to miss class for three days in order for him to recuperate. Aside from dealing with homesickness, Ediger says adjusting to unfa-miliar foods is also a big challenge international students face at KU. Cum-bane says Americans seem to prefer snacks, such as popcorn and pretzels, rather than large meals. He misses the fresh seafood and feasts, along with the loud music and dancing, which are part of his lifestyle in Mozambique. “I am African,” Cumbane says. “Those are the things we do.” Hejab ALMutairi has traveled all over the U.S., from sea to shining sea. He loves San Antonio and puts a smile on his face when talking about New York. But the can’t see himself fitting in anywhere else but here. Lawrence is his favorite place in America. ALMutairi wears khaki cargo shorts and a red “hill yes” KU t-shirt. He likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Arabia men traditionally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are present. In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates throughout Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For example, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi female students at KU con-tinue to wear hijabs on campus, including his wife, a childhood friend, who has joined him at KU. Although Saudi culture differs from American and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s presi-dent. ALMutairi says he took the position because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconceptions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same tech-


OFTEN USED FOR PREDICTIVE MODELING at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that connects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can

find her roommate, a friend from her home country of Malaysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger brothers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public.

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about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home country remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels obligated to help his country and community. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speakers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to un-derstand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semes-ter. The Tokyo senior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills because she wants to become an English teacher in Japan. The Applied English Center (AEC) is a resource for international stu-dents that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speakers improve their English skills. When international students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assessment to deter-mine whether or not they ready for University courses. Margaret Coffey, AEC associate director and senior language specialist, says this is the cen-ter’s primary mission: to improve international student’s English skills for academic purposes.

If the results from the assessment test show that students still need English language improvement, AEC enrolls them in classes through the center that aim to improve their English skills. They must complete these classes before they can take classes through the University; however, de-pending on individual assessment results, AEC permits some students to take both AEC classes and University classes in the same semester. For example, Tsutahara is taking one AEC class and 3 University classes. Tsutahara says it has been easy for her to adjust to this new environment because the University understands international students. Apart from AEC, the International Student and Scholar Services also assists the KU in-ternational community by providing admissions, advising, programming and referral services. Michael Ediger from ISSS says “The most important thing we do is give students a connection to the University.” While Tsutahara has been adapting well, she says other Japanese stu-dents do not feel as comfortable here. She says Japanese students are not as outgoing as American students, meaning they tend to wait to be spoken to, rather than initiate conversation. Such conversations may be difficult because of varying English-speaking levels, but she says Japanese students wish American students would make the effort to talk to them more.

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down his dark cheeks. This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put myself into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. Michael Ediger, associate director of advising and orientation at Inter-national Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cumbane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home country often feel more anxiety and isolation than a student from a country that has a significant presence on campus. For Cumbane, the homesickness hadn’t gone away after a semester. He still had a few more semesters left before he could graduate with a Mas-ters degree in education. He wanted to finish all of the required classes as quickly as he could, thinking he would be able to go home earlier, so he enrolled in five classes. Soon enough, the stress from the heavy workload got the best of him and caused him to take a trip to Watkins Memorial Health Center with complaints fevers and headaches.

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Although Saudi culture differs from American and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organiza-tion’s president. ALMutairi says he took the position because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconcep-tions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same technology and education as those in America. He also expresses concern about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home country remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates be-cause he feels obligated to help his country and community. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speak-ers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to understand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semester. The Tokyo senior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills because she wants to become an English teacher in Japan. The Applied English Center (AEC) is a resource for international stu-dents that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speakers improve their English skills. When international students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assessment to deter-mine whether or not they ready for University courses. Margaret Coffey,

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Mabel Kok’s apartment at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that connects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can find her roommate, a friend from her home country of Malay-sia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger brothers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture and face the challenges that lie ahead for them. By looking at homesickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil. The plane lands at the Kansas City International airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground. A tall African man steps outside of the Kansas City International Airport and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks. This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put myself into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. Michael Ediger, associate director of advising and orientation at Inter-national Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cumbane.


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In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates throughout Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For example, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi female students at KU con-tinue to wear hijabs on campus, including his wife, a childhood friend, who has joined him at KU. Although Saudi culture differs from American and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Sau-di Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s president. ALMutairi says he took the position because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconceptions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same tech-nology and education as those in America. He also expresses concern about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home country remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels


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That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they

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and stress that caused him to get sick. The doctor wrote Cumbane a note that allowed him to miss class for three days in order for him to recuperate. Aside from dealing with homesickness, Ediger says adjusting to unfa-miliar foods is also a big challenge international students face at KU. Cum-bane says Americans seem to prefer snacks, such as popcorn and pretzels, rather than large meals. He misses the fresh seafood and feasts, along with the loud music and dancing, which are part of his lifestyle in Mozambique. “I am African,” Cumbane says. “Those are the things we do.” Hejab ALMutairi has traveled all over the U.S., from sea to shining sea. He loves San Antonio and puts a smile on his face when talking about New York. But the can’t see himself fitting in anywhere else but here. Lawrence is his favorite place in America. ALMutairi wears khaki cargo shorts and a red “hill yes” KU t-shirt. He likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Arabia men traditionally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are present. In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates throughout Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For example, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi female students at KU con-tinue to wear hijabs on campus, including his wife, a childhood friend, who has joined him at KU. Although Saudi culture differs from American and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s presi-dent. ALMutairi says he took the position because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconceptions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same tech-

nology and education as those in America. He also expresses concern about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home country remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels obligated to help his country and community. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speakers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to un-derstand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semes-ter. The Tokyo senior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills because she wants to become an English teacher in Japan. The Applied English Center (AEC) is a resource for international stu-dents that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speakers improve their English skills. When international students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assessment to deter-mine whether or not they ready for University courses. Margaret Coffey, AEC associate director and senior language specialist, says this is the cen-ter’s primary mission: to improve international student’s English skills for academic purposes. If the results from the assessment test show that students still need English language improvement, AEC enrolls them in classes through the center that aim to improve their English skills. They must complete these classes before they can take classes through the University; however, de-pending on individual assessment results, AEC permits some students to take both AEC classes and University classes in the same semester. For example, Tsutahara is taking one AEC class and 3 University classes. Tsutahara says it has been easy for her to adjust to this new environ-ment because the University understands international students. Apart from AEC, the International Student and Scholar Services also assists the KU international community by providing admissions, advising, pro-gramming and referral services. Michael Ediger from ISSS says “The most important thing we do is give students a connection to the University.” Tsutahara has been adapting well, she says.

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BRUCE Mabel Kok’s apartment at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that connects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can find her roommate, a friend from her home country of Malaysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger brothers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture and face the challenges that lie ahead for them. By looking at homesickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil. The plane lands at the Kansas City International airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground. A tall African man steps outside of the Kansas City International Air-port and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks. This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put myself into?” This is not home.


The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. Michael Ediger, associate director of advising and orientation at Inter-national Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cumbane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home country often feel more anxiety and isolation than a student from a country that has a signifi-cant presence on campus. For Cumbane, the homesickness hadn’t gone away after a semester. He still had a few more semesters left before he could graduate with a Mas-ters degree in education. He wanted to finish all of the required classes as quickly as he could, thinking he would be able to go home earlier, so he enrolled in five classes. Soon enough, the stress from the heavy workload got the best of him and caused him to take a trip to Watkins Memorial Health Center with complaints fevers and headaches. Cumbane says the doctor told him nothing was wrong. He was just overwhelmed with homesickness and stress that caused him to get sick. The doctor wrote Cumbane a note that allowed him to miss class for three days in order for him to recuperate. Aside from dealing with homesickness, Ediger says adjusting to unfa-miliar foods is also a big challenge international students face at KU. Cum-bane says Americans seem to prefer snacks, such as popcorn and pretzels,

rather than large meals. He misses the fresh seafood and feasts, along with the loud music and dancing, which are part of his lifestyle in Mozambique. “I am African,” Cumbane says. “Those are the things we do.” Hejab ALMutairi has traveled all over the U.S., from sea to shining sea. He loves San Antonio and puts a smile on his face when talking about New York. But the can’t see himself fitting in anywhere else but here. Lawrence is his favorite place in America. ALMutairi wears khaki cargo shorts and a red “hill yes” KU t-shirt. He likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Arabia men traditionally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are present. In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates throughout Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For example, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi female students at KU con-tinue to wear hijabs on campus, in-cluding his wife, a childhood friend, who has joined him at KU. Although Saudi culture differs from American and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfort-able here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s president. ALMutairi says he took the posi-tion because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconcep-tions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same technology and education as those in America. He also expresses concern about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home country remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels obligated to help his country and community. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Slang phrases and unfamiliar vocabulary that native English speakers use are often difficult for international students like Rei Tsutahara to un-derstand. Tsutahara is a Japanese exchange student here for the fall semes-ter. The Tokyo senior wanted to study in America to improve her English skills because she wants to become an English teacher in Japan. The Applied English Center (AEC) is a resource for international stu-dents that has helped Tsutahara and other non-native English speakers

improve their English skills. When international students arrive at KU, they all must take an English-language proficiency assessment to deter-mine whether or not they ready for University courses. Margaret Coffey, AEC associate director and senior language specialist, says this is the cen-ter’s primary mission: to improve international student’s English skills for academic purposes. If the results from the assessment test show that students still need English language improvement, AEC enrolls them in classes through the center that aim to improve their English skills. They must complete these classes before they can take classes through the University; however, de-pending on individual assessment results, AEC permits some students to take both AEC classes and University classes in the same semester. For example, Tsutahara is taking one AEC class and 3 University classes.

Tsutahara says it has been easy for her to adjust to this new environment because the University understands international students. Apart from AEC, the International Student and Scholar Services also assists the KU international community by providing admissions, advising, programming and referral services. Michael Ediger from ISSS says “The most important thing we do is give students a connec-tion to the University.” While Tsutahara has been adapt-ing well, she says other Japanese stu-dents do not feel as comfortable here. She says Japanese students are not as outgoing as American students, mean-ing they tend to wait to be spoken to, rather than initiate conversation. Such conversations may be difficult because of varying English-speaking levels, but she says Japanese students wish Amer-ican students would make the effort to talk to them more. Ediger says students who have a large number of others from their home country at KU may be less in-clined to adapt readily here. Such stu-dents, such as those from Japan, with 88 international students here, may

feel more comfortable associating only with those from their home coun-try, thereby insulating themselves from having to interact with others out-side of their native culture. To encourage friendships among various international student groups and domestic students, ISSS hosts international student orientation at the beginning of each semester. About two-thirds of incoming international students attend each semester. International students and student volun-teers unite to ease the transition to the U.S. and KU, and bond over the common experience of being a stranger in a foreign land. Ediger, the ISSS director of the orientation, says many students make lasting friendships, and even walk down the hill with one another at graduation. Tsutahara attended orientation at the beginning of this semester and says she has


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made such friends, although she won’t get a chance to walk down the hill with them because she is going back to Japan at the end of the semester. “I’m very sad when I imagine my last day in Kansas,” she says. “I’m sure I will cry.” Mabel Kok’s apartment at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that connects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can find her roommate, a friend from her home country of Malaysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger brothers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture and face the challenges that lie ahead for them. By looking at homesickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil. The plane lands at the Kansas City International airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground.. A tall African man steps outside of the

Kansas City International Airport and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks. This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put myself into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. Michael Ediger, associate director of advising and orientation at Inter-national Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cumbane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home country often feel more anxiety and isolation than a student from a country that has a signifi-cant presence on campus. For Cumbane, the homesickness hadn’t gone away after a semester. He still had a few more semesters left before he could graduate with a Mas-ters degree in education. He wanted to finish all of the required classes as quickly as he could, thinking he would be able to go home earlier, so he enrolled in five classes.


The highlighted choices are the ones we’d consider most important—so it you feel negative toward supplementation, at least choose these in your multi and supplements.

MenAge 50 and over

Optimum

More than 1,250 IU twice a day is too much (unless you have an eye condition called wet macular degeneration)

2 mg twice a day

400 mcg twice a day (25 mcg)

400 mg twice a day (remember it’s water-soluble, so you need several doses over the day), or 50 mg twice a day if you’re taking a statin drug (for example, Zocor, VYTORIN, Lipitor, Pravachol, or Crestor)

Make sure you get the D3; 500 IU twice a day.

200 IU twice a day (400 IU of mixed tocopherols is the form of vitamin E I favor). Reduce this to 50 IU twice a day from supplements if you’re taking a statin drug.

200 mcg twice a day (folic acid or folate, or folicin, which is sometimes listed as vitamin B9)

12.5 mg twice a day

12.5 mg twice a day

At least 15 mg twice a day, preferably more (check with your doctor if you’re taking a statin drug)

150 mcg twice a day

150 mg twice a day

600 mg twice a day in divided doses (you cannot absorb more than 600 mg at a time so need to space out)

200 mg twice a day

100 mcg twice a day

7.5 mg twice a day

Four fruit servings plus a normal diet should do it.

Ten tablespoons of tomato sauce a week (400 mcg) should do it.

A leafy green vegetable a day (40 mcg) should do it.

Hefty portions of onion, garlic, celery, or lemon juice in addition to the above at least once a day should do it.

750 mg twice a day (while this comes in dehydrated beef protein, Carnitine, that’s not so appetizing, so we recommend the supplement)

either 1 gm of distilled fish oil or 6 walnuts, preferable 25 to 30 minutes before lunch and before dinner, or both (we like both); or 600 mg of DHA supplement (from algae), or 2 ounces of fatty fish a day

1 half teaspoon a day

As much as you want (more is better for appetite suppression) early in the day

As much as you want but at least ½ teaspoon of strong mustard or a curry dish a day

200 mg a day if on a statin, or hypertensive or diabetic, or if over 62

162 mg a day (check with your doctor) with 2 glasses of warm water

2 or more cups of each

100 mg twice a day

Vitamins

A

B6

B12

C

D3

E

F (folate)

Thiamin

Riboflavin

Niacin

Biotin

Pantothenic acid

Minerals

Calcium

Magnesium

Selenium

Zinc

Potassium

Additional vitamin-like substances you should get daily (once a day):

Lycopene

Lutein

Quericin

Acetyl-L

Omega-3

Cinnamon

Red Pepper

Tumeric

Choices you might consider (talk to your doctor about these, and all choices):

Coenzyme Q10

Aspirin

Coffee & Green Tea

Alpha Lipoic Acid

O P R A H . c o m

What vitamins should I take?

HEALTHTAKE YOUR VITAMINS — but which ones?Dr. Mehmet Oz, a heart surgeon, author and host of the nationally syndicated Dr. Oz Show, outlines the vitamins men age 50 and over should take. The highlighed choices are the ones that he considers the most important.


Vitamins aren’t just for kids, you know.

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My mother always said not to peel fruits and vegetables because the peel is full of vitamins. Is this really true?Mabel Kok’s apartment at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that con-nects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can find her roommate, a friend from her home country of Malaysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger broth-ers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who miss-es eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t un-derstand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf.

Are there any other vitamin choices I might consider?When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture and face the challenges that lie ahead for them. By looking at home-sickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil.The plane lands at the Kansas City International airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground. A tall African man steps outside of the Kansas City International Airport and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks.


This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put myself into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from there.

Is it true that coffee and green tea are full of vitamins? How much do you recommend drinking in a day?This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put my-self into?” This is not home. The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feeling more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he almost wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique.Michael Ediger, associate director of advising and orientation at International Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cum-bane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home country often feel more anxiety and isolation than a stu-dent from a country that has a significant pres-ence on campus. For Cumbane, the homesick-ness hadn’t gone away after a semester. He still had a few more semesters left before he could graduate with a Masters degree in education. He wanted to finish all of the required classes as quickly as he could, thinking he would be able to go home earlier, so he enrolled in five classes. Soon enough, the stress from the heavy work-load got the best of him and caused him to take a trip to Watkins Memorial Health Center with complaints fevers and headaches.

What about aspirin? Is it OK to take a few pills every day?Cumbane says the doctor told him nothing was wrong. He was just overwhelmed with home-sickness and stress that caused him to get sick. The doctor wrote Cumbane a note that allowed him to miss class for three days in order for him to recuperate. Aside from dealing with home-sickness, Ediger says adjusting to unfamiliar foods is also a big challenge international stu-dents face at KU. Cumbane says Americans seem to prefer snacks, such as popcorn and pretzels, rather than large meals. He misses the

fresh seafood and feasts, along with the loud music and dancing, which are part of his lifestyle in Mozambique. “I am African,” Cumbane says. “Those are the things we do.”

What should I do if I suspect I may be having a side-effect from a dietary supplement?Hejab ALMutairi has traveled all over the U.S., from sea to shining sea. He loves San Antonio and puts a smile on his face when talking about New York. But the can’t see himself fitting in anywhere else but here. Lawrence is his favor-ite place in America. ALMutairi wears khaki cargo shorts and a red “hill yes” KU t-shirt. He likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Ara-bia men traditionally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are present. In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates throughout Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Saudi international stu-dents like ALMutairi bring aspects of their cul-ture to KU. For example, ALMutairi says almost all Saudi female students at KU continue to wear hijabs on campus, including his wife, a child-hood friend, who has joined him at KU.

Should I talk to my doctor about tak-ing vitamin/mineral supplements?Although Saudi culture differs from American and Jayhawk culture, ALMutairi says he has felt comfortable here since he arrived in May of 2008. Part of that is due to the large population of Saudi students at KU, which consists of 143 students. He also sought involvement with the Saudi Student Association at KU, and currently serves as the organization’s president. ALMutairi says he took the position because he wants KU students to know more about Saudi Arabia. He believes American misconceptions about his country are that all Saudis ride camels and live in tents in the desert. His goal is to inform them about how Saudis have the same technology and education as those in America. He also express-es concern about Saudi Arabia’s lack of media coverage in America. The pride ALMutairi has for his home country remains strong; he plans to return to Saudi Arabia in a few years after he graduates because he feels obligated to help his country and community. But he also admires the American way of life. “I wish I could split myself and live in both places at one,” he says. Under-standing through language and friendship.

big challenge international students face at KU. Cumbane says Americans seem to prefer snacks, such as popcorn and pretzels, rather than large meals. He misses the fresh seafood and feasts, along with the loud music and dancing, which are part of his lifestyle in Mozambique. “I am African,” Cumbane says. “Those are the things we do.” Hejab ALMutairi has traveled all over the U.S., from sea to shining sea. He loves San An-tonio and puts a smile on his face when talking about New York. But the can’t see himself fitting in anywhere else but here. Lawrence is his favor-ite place in America. ALMutairi wears khaki cargo shorts and a red “hill yes” KU t-shirt. He likes this casual look; back home in Saudi Arabia men traditionally get more dressed up for class, while women must wear abayahs (robes) and hijabs (head scarves) whenever they are in public where men are pres-ent. In Saudi Arabia, Islam permeates throughout Saudi culture and affects the lifestyles, such as style of clothing, of all those who live there. Sau-di international students like ALMutairi bring aspects of their culture to KU. For example, AL-Mutairi says almost all Saudi female students at KU continue to wear hijabs on campus, includ-ing his wife, a childhood friend.


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THE PRIZED POSSESSION Mabel Kok’s apartment at The Exchange is her comfort zone. It’s her temporary home that connects her to the home she left behind. It’s where she can find her roommate, a friend from her home country of Malaysia. It’s where she can talk to her parents and three younger brothers via Skype. But all comfort zones need to be breached, as college life is much more than the inside of a classroom, your apartment and the bus that takes you back and forth. That can be difficult for the international student who misses eating fresh fish from the sea, or who can’t understand her fast-talking American roommate, or who covers her head with an Hijab scarf in public. When international students come to the University of Kansas they must learn to adjust to a different culture and face the challenges that lie ahead for them. By looking at homesickness, language, friendship and patriotism, students from across the globe discuss what it’s like to bleed crimson and blue on foreign soil. The plane lands at the Kansas City Interna-tional airport in the middle of January. Snow covers the ground. A tall African man steps outside of the Kansas City International Airport and into the cold and bitter air of the Midwest in January. Snow covers the ground. He’s never seen anything like it. A couple tears fall down his dark cheeks. This is not Mozambique. He can no longer feel the warmth. He can no longer feel the breeze from the sea. He wonders, “What have I put my-self into?” This is not home. WG

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The chilling effect left Antonio Cumbane feel-ing more alone than he’s ever felt. He says he al-most wanted to go right back home. At the time, he knew no one. Out of the 2135 international students at KU, only one other student was from Mozambique. Michael Ediger, associate director of advis-ing and orientation at International Student and Scholar Services (ISSS), says students like Cum-bane are more likely, at least initially, to feel like this. International students who are one, or one of only a few, people from their home country often feel more anxiety and isolation than a stu-dent from a country that has a significant pres-ence on campus. For Cumbane, the homesickness hadn’t gone away after a semester. He still had a few more semesters left before he could graduate with a Masters degree in education. He wanted to finish all of the required classes as quickly as he could, thinking he would be able to go home earlier, so he enrolled in five classes. Soon enough, the stress from the heavy workload got the best of him and caused him to take a trip to Watkins Memorial Health Center with complaints fevers and headaches. Cumbane says the doctor told him noth-ing was wrong. He was just overwhelmed with homesickness and stress that caused him to get sick. The doctor wrote Cumbane a note that al-lowed him to miss class for three days in order for him to recuperate. Aside from dealing with homesickness, Edi-ger says adjusting to unfamiliar foods is also a

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