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WHY ATTACHMENT MATTERS
Supporting resilience through attachment
EARLY EDUCATION EYPP NEWCASTLE
ANNE O’CONNOR
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+ TIMES ARE HARD…
Building
resilience
is
important
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We learn resilience
through hard
knocks… right?
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+ Resilience comes from…
Having enough positive experiences to create a sense of security and trust in others as well as yourself
Feelings of self worth and knowing that others believe in you …that helps you know you can get through the hard times
Having a safe place to build your resilience gradually … to take risks and make mistakes
Being well-supported through difficulty and challenge
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Resilience expert?
Early trauma and lack of secure
attachments can lead to unhealthy forms
of resilience.
This is one of the most important
reasons why
ATTACHMENT
REALLY MATTERS
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+ Infant attachment cycle
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www.attachmenttraumanetwork.org
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+ What can get in the way of attachment?
Not about blame
Generational cycles of insecure
attachments
Post-natal depression
Lack of support
Separation
Illness
Substance abuse
Poverty?
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Trauma?
Not always headline news
Impact of not meeting a baby’s
needs
Emotional neglect and abuse
Lack of unconditional regard
Impact on brain development
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+ What does insecure attachment feel
like?
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Like an astronaut floating in space cut off from any lifeline?
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Avoidant
Self soothing
Self reliant
Won’t be taught
Ambivalent
Suspicious/distrustful
Clingy
Needs reassurance
Disorganised … all kinds of everything
Extreme Erratic
Frightened Frightening
Secure
enough
What does insecure attachment look like?
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+ OH - THEY ALL DO THAT…
But children with attachment
issues might do it …
more often
more intensely
and for a lot longer !
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+ Early trauma and insecure
attachments can be linked with:
Poor self regulation
Lack of executive functioning
skills
Poor physical development
Developmental delay and
learning difficulties
Symptoms can be confused with
ADHD etc
http://acestoohigh.com/2014/07/07/ho
w-childhood-trauma-could-be-
mistaken-for-adhd
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Remember: Think Toddler … and CAN’T not WON’T
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The impact of stress and cortisol
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http://www.versiondaily.com/the-health-impacts-of-
stress-and-high-cortisol-levels-in-children/
Behaviour
Learning
Emotional wellbeing
Physical health
Depression, anxiety disorders, alcohol and substance abuse, and eating and digestive disorders have all been linked with unrelieved stress in early life.
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+ Transitions expert?
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Experiencing lots of trauma and/or unsupported change
doesn’t make a child good at handling transitions.
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+ Impact of early transitions on a child
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Transitions and new people in our lives are not a bad thing in themselves – there are times we can all benefit from fresh relationships and new challenges, but for babies and young children this is not desirable. If broken attachments and serial carers are to be the norm then we are disregarding all we know about the importance of stable, healthy, secure relationships with just a few special people to nurture children’s wellbeing, health and dispositions for learning. Dorothy Y. Selleck
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+ Separation distress
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‘We can never remind ourselves
too often that a child,
particularly a very young and
almost totally dependant one, is
the only person in the nursery
who cannot understand why he
is there.’
‘He can only explain it
as abandonment, and
unless he is helped in
a positive and
affectionate way...
...this will mean levels of anxiety greater than he
can tolerate.’
Goldschmied and Jackson 1994
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+ The vulnerable child
‘Toddlers who are insecurely attached to their
primary attachment figure have a risk factor.
Toddlers who are securely attached may have
a risk factor if they are in non-parental
daycare without an attachment figure.
…if toddlers are both insecurely attached and
have no access to an attachment figure during
daycare, they experience two risk factors…’
R Bowlby 2007
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+ Patchwork childcare and education from birth to 5 Cared for by parents
Cared for in the family
Nanny/au pair
Child minder
Toddler group
Play group
Day nursery
Nursery school
Nursery class
Pre-school
Emergency drop-in
Kindergarten
Creche
Reception class
Y1
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+ Seamless transitions?
Where are the practitioners in this patchwork?
Perhaps we are the ‘thread’ that holds the whole thing together? But... this thread needs to be strongly stitched and of the highest quality if this patchwork is not to fray and come apart.
O’Connor (2012)Understanding Transitions in the Early Years: Supporting change through attachment and resilience
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+ Secondary attachments
THE ‘BACK UP’ TEAM
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+ Positive attachments help build
resilience for change:
Through intimacy and
attunement – child feels
‘known’
Through relationship – child
doesn’t feel alone
Through security – child feels
safe enough to take risks and
explore … and learn
Through unconditional regard
– child feels loved no matter
what
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AN EFFECTIVE KEY PERSON
APPROACH IS ESSENTIAL IN
SUPPORTING ATTACHMENT AND
HELPING TO BUILD RESILIENCE
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Why attachment matters in
early years settings
Effective Key People …
Support the child’s primary attachments
Provide emotional containment and a secure base
Discover that getting it right for children with attachment issues, helps them get it right for all children
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Feeling ‘held in mind’ is fundamental to
attachment, helps build resilience and
supports transition How will you help me ‘hold my parents in mind’
How will you reassure me they won’t forget me?
How will you show me YOU won’t forget me?
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What if you
forget me?
What if I
forget
you?
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+ Thank you for listening And good luck with your hard work and
efforts for all of our children.
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