what to do to save your marriage: be your own marriage counselor
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http://www.infidelityhealing.com - Is your marriage suffering a severe lack of love and respect and you really want to know what to do to save your marriage? Maybe you and your spouse should seek counseling…or better yet be your own counselor. It's not easy, but it can be done. This presentation will help you get started.TRANSCRIPT
What to do to Save Your Marriage: Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
Love and marriage may go together like a horse and carriage but sometimes they become unhitched. Marriage without love is like a carriage without a horse…one without the other is not going anywhere.
Perhaps your marriage is suffering a severe lack of love and you’re thinking about mounting the nearest available horse and getting the heck out of marriageville.
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
Wait! Maybe you and your spouse should seek counseling…or better yet be your own counselor.
It can be done but it takes a concentrated plan of action from both the husband and wife.
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
Most couples, in time of trouble, resort to their basic instincts of hate, disrespect, demands and anger.
There goes the respect and love that will eventually be replaced by hate which could result in divorce.
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
You must take action to avoid divorce which is a life changing occurrence, usually not for the better.
Create a plan to restore your love and respect.
You’ve been playing your marriage by ear day by day and trusting your instincts.
This may work for awhile, even a few years, but as marriage breeds apathy you must seek and plan for a rekindling of that old flame
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
Remember how emotional you were when you first fell in love?
When you’re in love your emotions enable you to contribute to each other’s emotional needs.
These range from being honest, admiring, communicating and being affectionate.
You did and felt these qualities quite naturally early in your relationship.
But, as love faded so did your emotions.
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
Love, no doubt, is the most important quality in a relationship but it takes more sometimes to make a marriage survive.
It requires your willingness and ability to care and protect each other.
Half-hearted love and dedication will make it difficult to swim upstream when the waters get rough.
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
Know that love is both give and take, but if you’re keeping score of how much you give and your spouse takes your marriage might be doomed from the start.
There will be both giving and receiving of bads and goods. Sometimes you’re the giver and sometimes the taker.
Know how to do both with love and affection.
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
It may call for a change in your behavioral patterns.
If you’re prone to angry outbursts and criticizing replace these with calmness and compliments.
Making your spouse feel good is something you should enjoy doing.
Husbands and wives need a certain amount of undivided attention.
Don’t let volunteer work, family, work or children get in the way.
Be Your Own Marriage Counselor
As your own counselor you must learn to negotiate and come to a joint agreement that is pleasant and thoughtful.
Look at the problems from all sides and that could include more than yours and your spouse.
Brainstorm and offer creative solutions. If you get angry, stop negotiating and come back later.
Nobody said marriage is easy and neither is being your own marriage counselor. At least you’re making
an effort to become a better spouse in hopes of salvaging your marriage. Believe in yourself and
you will believe in others.
What to do Next
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