what to do if a glacier in iceland throws a rock at your neck which automatically leads you to doubt...
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A talk I gave at the first Hike conference (hikecon.com). Sharing my story on being in a "confidence rut" after a project I spearheaded did not turn out as successful as I hoped.TRANSCRIPT
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Hello.Thanks for coming to Hike!
What to do if a glacier in Iceland throws a rock at your neck which automatically leads you to doubt your talents and question your confidence.
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Marc O’BrienSocial Designer Creative Facilitator Design Educator Cyclist / Runner / Hiker Lover of RVs in SF, burritos, punk rock Owner of a broken collarbone Ex-Nomad
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Three things I love
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1. Bikes
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2. Facilitation
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3. Iceland
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Bikes.The Alabamboo Make & Ride
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Bikes.The Alabamboo Make & Ride
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Facilitation.Project M
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Facilitation.Project M
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Iceland.Beautiful landscape
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Iceland.Crazy partiers
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The three things I loveBikes Facilitation Iceland
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What if I combine the three things I love?Bikes + Facilitation + Iceland!!!
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A few (emails, Skype calls, conversations, Google searches, and an IndieGoGo campaign) later…
What type of project will a group of cyclists invent as they take a worm’s eye view in a foreign land
and push the limits of their impact through extreme physical, intellectual, and creative challenges?
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Why not?
Team FPX
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The gear
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The gear
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The gear
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The gear
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Details6 Cyclists 2 Film makers 2 weeks in Iceland 9 days in the saddle 300+ miles on bikes ~30 miles/day on bikes
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Moving workshopDesign Thinking + Rapid Prototyping + Pushing physical limits + Unfamiliar place + Thinking Wrong!!! !
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The incident
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How many of you, just minding your own business, ever got hit in the neck with a rock the size of your fist by a glacier?
(Audience participation)
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#WasThatAGlacier? @HolyShit!
BAM!
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BAM!
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BAM!
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BAM!
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BAM!
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WTF?
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Back in Reykjavik
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Back to work
Our problem
Broken machines
Our “Ah ha” MomentTourism + Travel + Laundry + Entrepreneurship
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Got back to CA
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Share Cycle project stalled We lost money on the project Nothing to show for it
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Defeated. Embarrassed. Pissed off. Tired. Angry. Confused. Upset. OMG. Annoyed. Unsuccessful. Defeated. Embarrassed. Pissed off. Tired. Angry. Confused. Upset. Cloudy. Annoyed. What the fuck? Defeated. Upset Embarrassed. Pissed off. Tired. Angry. Confused. Upset. OMG. Annoyed. Upset Unsuccessful. Defeated. What the fuck? issed off. Tired. Angry. Confused. Upset. Cloudy. Annoyed. Unsuccessful.
Enter the “confidence rut”
#NotAGreatFeeling @Bummer
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I was questioning mySkills and talents Ability to “Make Shit Happen” Role in design Unique path I was carving out
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A few (phone calls, conversations, solo hikes, heart-to-hearts, drunk nights, punk albums on repeat) later…
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A few (phone calls, conversations, solo hikes, heart-to-hearts, drunk nights, punk albums on repeat) months later…
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Biggest insights taken from “confidence rut”Confidence is not a given Success is not a given Doubting your talents is a given Humility is important Stop comparing myself to others Voice in your head is never leaving
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Started to climb out
Share with others
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Talking about this
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Facilitating workshops
Getting back into my comfort zone
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Do what I do best/loveUnplugYou.com
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Relate to Hike?
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What do you do if a glacier in Iceland throws a rock at your neck which automatically leads you to doubt your talents and question your confidence?
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1. Support networkFriends, family, mentors Places, Activities Music, Movies, Books Positive notes from others
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2. Create a comfort zoneFind that area/thing/energy that allows you to shine bright. !
But, be open to push this, it’s how you grow as a person.
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2. Create a comfort zoneFind that area/thing/energy that allows you to shine bright. !
But, be open to push this, it’s how you grow as a person.
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3. Self-careKnow when you’re “on” Get off that damn laptop Listen to that gut feeling Do other things not design Go outside/Eat healthy*
(Lots of burritos)
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Helping people take their first step to work on meaningful projects, both big and small.
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Gathering insightsDefining confidence Sharing confidence
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Q&As
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Sharing personal stories
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WorkshopsFine tuning based on insights
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CollaborationFine tuning based on insights
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This all makes sense
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