WEEK 8 SELF ESTEEM AND SELF EFFICACYAn ongoing process of self awareness and healing

SELF- ESTEEM & SELF-EFFICACY

Week 8

Quiet Time

Sit quietly for a minute or two, and focus on where we

are now.

TODAY’S AGENDA

Quiet time Check-in Mini Check-in Self-esteem and self-efficacy Polluting Messages & Low self-esteem feed addiction

Compliments ActivityRecovery tool - affirmations

CHECK IN

Name Feeling Last use 12 step meetings? What happened? Success with last week’s

recovery tool (HALT)

DEFINE SELF-ESTEEM

Webster’s dictionary defines it as simply a "confidence and satisfaction in oneself."

However one chooses to define it, self-esteem is based on

Understanding Accepting Liking oneself

SELF-EFFICACY

How competent you believe you areA person's judgments of

their own capabilities to follow through with reaching personal goals

LOW SELF ESTEEM FEEDSADDICTION

IF WE ARE TO WIN BACK OUR LIVES, OUR ENERGIES, OUR TALENTS,

WE MUST LEARN TO RECOGNIZE THE MESSAGES THAT DRAIN US AND POLLUTE OUR POSITIVE SENSE OF SELF

Polluting Messages Many of the messages

we have heard were lies People in our lives

sometimes criticized and blamed us – so they wouldn’t have to be responsible

We heard them so many times that we began to believe them…

At this point in our lives, these dishonest messages may seem like the truth!

An important part of RECOVERY is Learning to recognize these “old tapes” and record NEW, HEALTHY messages

ResponseFormat1 = Not at all true2 = Hardly true3 = Moderately true4 = Exactly true

1I can always manage to solve difficult 1 problems if I try hard enough

2 If someone opposes me, I can find the means and ways to get what I want

3 It is easy for me to stick to my aims and accomplish my goals.

4 I am confident that I could deal efficiently with unexpected events.

5 Thanks to my resourcefulness, I know how to handle unforeseen situations.

6 I can solve most problems if I invest the necessary effort.

7 I can remain calm when facing difficulties because I can rely on my coping abilities.

8 When I am confronted with a problem, I can usually find several solutions.

9 If I am in trouble, I can usually think of a solution.

10I can usually handle whatever comes my way.

Low self-esteem

Low Self-Esteem is a self-fulfilling prophecy If you think you can, you’re right If you think you can’t, you’re right

--Individuals with low self-esteem may not expect to do well.--They sometimes avoid trying to accomplish things because they are sure they will fail

They may not give themselves a chance to experience success • As a result, their self-esteem remains low.

Characteristics Of Low Self-esteem Individuals with low self-esteem Do not

expect to do well Sometimes avoid doing new things

because of fear of failure Do not give themselves a chance to

experience success

Keeping their self-esteem lower

You have to startsomewhere…….

How you think and feel, and your body’sresponse…

Discussion Questions

Have you ever heard of “fear of success”?

Have you ever experienced it?

The best way to increaseself- esteemRealistic

Small Steps

Then, stop and

acknowledge your

accomplishments

CHECK-IN &Break

pICTURE yourself Each participant gets

Piece of paperMarkersTape

Draw a frame

Compliments

Help each other tape picture frames on your backs

Write a positive word or sentence on the paper that describes what you know or think about each woman in the group

DiscussionRead your paper aloud, using “I

statements” I am ______________ How did it feel writing on

another person’s back? How did it feel to have others

write on your back? How is it for you to accept

compliments from other women?

Today’s recovery tool:affirmations

Recording NEW tapes Must be In present tense Positive vision No-no’s - Absence of negative terms

Write these on the Post-its so that they are easily accessible Write these on the sticky notes so That they are easily accessible