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Leaning in – to Make Peace Katherine ToddMicah 6:6-8 Forest Hill Presbyterian ChurchMatthew 18:10-20 September 6, 2017
In examining what this scripture verse does and does not say, I find this to be a very helpful
verse for life. Life is full of conflict, one with another. We do not all agree on things. I believe it
is ultimately a blessing that we each bring our own unique perspectives and experiences. Truly
when we come together and seek to understand the breadth of human experience and
perspective, we are far more equipped to unify people around real and lasting solutions for
many of our challenges. But this diversity of thought and experiences, of values and needs
most often presents as conflict between us. And what we learn from scriptures like these is
that how we respond in these situations matters.
Last week, Paul instructed us through Romans to “be at peace with all, insofar as it depends on
you.” But this is hard. Peace is not something passive that creeps up on us when we really still.
Peace is not gained by polite society or simply hiding your thoughts and feelings. It is not
something that’s gained simply by luck or even mere prayer. Peacemaking is an active process.
It is the fruition of many things coming together: of respect, of mercy, of compassion, of
justice… And scriptures like we read today give us a pattern for how to be at peace with
everyone, insofar as it depends on us.
And this pattern has some themes:
Respect – we are to show respect, even to the person who has wronged us. Their wrong does
not justify another wrong by us. Rather, we are to treat them with the respect and honor God
has shown us.
Being Direct – Respect is most profoundly shown in this command to be direct. Notice the
scripture does not say, “Go and talk about the matter with everyone except the offender.”
Neither does not say, “Ambush, publicly shame, ostracize, marginalize, and oppress the
offender.”
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No, we are instructed to be a people who show the respect of being direct.
I have found in life that there are times when I need to talk something through in order to get
my thoughts organized so that I can talk with the person directly. I think for folks who verbally
process their thoughts, this may be necessary, but if we need to first talk with someone else we
need to choose our confidants wisely, and we are to let this be simply a step in the process, not
the end goal. When we talk with the person, we are to do so directly, without public shaming
or condemnation. We are to approach the person alone first, giving them the chance to hear
and make a change, without publicly penalizing the person.
Only IF the person refuses to listen are we then to bring in two or three witnesses. Still keeping
the matter close, without public humiliation, we are to try addressing the matter with the
person in the presence of witnesses. Who knows, perhaps the voices of several will change a
heart and wake the person up to the issue.
But if the person will not listen even to the witnesses, then the matter is to be brought to the
church.
Now, I must say here, that this last step feels very public. But perhaps this step shows the
seriousness of the matter. Perhaps it acknowledges that the matter is not a small or irrelevant
thing. Our internal disputes within the church, affect the whole church. And instead of turning
a blind eye to the issue, letting it begin to rot us from the inside like a virus, or talking about it
with everyone except the person who hurt us, Christ is instructing us to continue being direct
with the person.
Then, if we still cannot be reconciled, we are to wipe our hands of the matter and let it go.
Indeed God still cares for that one, as for the lost sheep, but we allow the person the right to
disagree and live the consequences of unresolved sin.
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Thanks be to God for the ways we continue to learn from and build on the experiences of our
ancestors. Many have long learned to “suck it up.” We have old adages, “Life is hard. Deal
with it.” These instructions indeed hold a measure of wisdom and truth. Life is hard!
Sometimes we need to simply accept and deal with the problems as they present themselves.
But there is more we need. We also need to be about the work of doing justice. Scripture says,
“Do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with God.” We are not to simply love mercy or simply
do justice. We are commanded to do both. These opposites – of showing mercy and doing
justice are to be held in tension, in conversation. We are to do justice, while loving mercy.
So what does that look like here?
Perhaps we are to hold the offender accountable while letting the punishment be designed to
reconcile that person to right and just living. In the scripture just prior we read about God
seeking out the one lost sheep and how much joy God takes in that one – that one lost sheep.
In the face of injustice, God’s heart is for healing, wholeness, and reconciliation. God’s heart is
for each one, even and possibly especially the offenders. Whatever consequence or
punishment is done, it is to be done in order that the offending person might come to
repentance and make things right! Justice is not a code word for revenge. Justice in God’s
world is meant to bring reconciliation – between us and another, between us and the world,
and between us and God.
And for the victim of the wrong done, doing justice is the first step of healing. When we are
victimized, it is tragically easy to believe that the injustice was our fault. Many times we
internalize the trauma and reason backwards that we must have done something wrong in
order for this to happen to us. We may think there is something innately wrong with us. This is
tragically why so many victims of abuse will develop such low self-esteems, that then in turn
keeps us returning to those abusive relationships that seem to confirm the sub-standard view
we hold of ourselves. So the abused, continue to allow themselves to be abused, and may even
begin the cycle of victimizing themselves with negative and condemning self-talk.
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What a tragedy - the evil that can spin out of sin. When we sin, we separate ourselves from
God and one another. We dehumanize ourselves, doing violence to ourselves. And when we
are the victim of sin, we quite often further do violence to ourselves when we internalize the
trauma.
All around, sin needs to be addressed. Burying our heads in the sand, ignoring the issue, talking
with everyone but the offender, DOES NOT bring healing. Running from the issue, leaning away
from the trouble, does not bring peace. The perpetrator of sin is no more brought to
accountability and given the chance to make things right, and the victim is no more shown that
their life matters and that what happened was wrong, if we avoid the issue.
Rather Christ teaches us to lean in. To lean in to the discomfort. To lean in to the offense, and
to be direct in addressing the sin.
We are to called to lean in, to show respect, to be direct,….
So that what is wrong can be made right
So that what is out of joint can be made whole
So that what is diseased may be healed.
We do not heal a wound by covering it up and pretending it does not exist. We heal a wound
by facing it head on, first at home with our first aid kits, then perhaps with a friend or parent to
help us clean the wound, and if that’s not enough we may need to head to the Doctor. And if
that’s still not enough, we employ the help of a whole hospital…
Healing and reconciliation. Being at peace. It is all a product of leaning into the situation –
facing it head on.
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And let me draw your attention to another point. In this pattern of conflict resolution, we are
not told to do this whenever we believe someone has sinned but when someone has sinned
against us.
We have all known folks who think it their responsibility to correct others. Perhaps this has
been us, at different points of our lives, or in different roles we’ve had. But correcting others of
their sins never goes so well. Remember Christ’s words on this matter from earlier in Matthew
(chapter 7):
7 “Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. 2 For with the judgment you make you
will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. 3 Why do you see
the speck in your neighbor’s[a]eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? 4 Or how
can you say to your neighbor,[b] ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ while the log is
in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you
will see clearly to take the speck out of your neighbor’s[c]eye.
No, we are not in a position to judge or condemn. Christ says that when we mis-judge, we will
also be misjudged. Judging is not our business. We are not equipped to correct the sin in one
another’s lives, because each of us is so mired in our own sins. Our very vision is cloudy and
judgment skewed. We can try to correctly discern the will of God, but in the end, we are not
God. We will not fully see, until we are face to face with our Lord.
So in this meantime, it is not our job to correct everyone else. We are rather to be concerned
about our own sins. We lean into the darkness of our own selves and seek to make things right.
And where we are called to confront and lean in with others, following this pattern given to us
in scripture, is when someone has sinned “against us.” When there are now wedges between
us and others, when an injustice has occurred, when we have been wronged, we are to speak
up and give voice to wrong. We are to be direct, showing respect to the offender. We are to
do so quietly at first, allowing the person to change, without public scrutiny, and only if that
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does not work do we confront that one, first with 2 or 3 witnesses, and only if that does not
work then before the church.
Notice God’s heart. Notice God’s heart that each one will be saved. Notice God’s heart that we
live peaceably with one another. Notice God’s heart that we do justice, love mercy, and walk
humbly with God.
No one of us is perfect. None of us stand before God, but by Christ’s loving sacrifice.
We all are in need of justice and mercy.
May we become doers of justice
May we love mercy
And may we each remember that God is God, and we are not.
God, let your justice roll down like the mighty waters, and righteousness like an ever-flowing
stream!