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Aversion: Fat Buckets and factories
I’d like you to imagine that by your side right now is a big empty bucket, a big empty vat. And I’d like you to imagine that if all and any of your excess body fat was dripped and drained away into that bucket, what that fat would look like. If all, and any of your excess body fat was dripped and drained away into that bucket.
……The colour of it, some people imagine that its white, yellow, pink streaks, what colour is it (allow the client to tell you a colour)
…..So that yellow fat there (use the colour the client came up) I wonder what the consistency of it, some people imagine it smooth, lumpy bits, what’s the consistency of it (allow the client to come up with an answer)
…..so that yellow lumpy fat there….I wonder what it smells like….some people imagine its like old chicken fat, dog poo, sick, I wonder what it would smell like..(Allow the client to come up with a smell)
So that yellow, lumpy, dog poo smelling fat in that bucket, I’m sure you wouldn’t allow that yellow, lumpy, dog poo smelling fat in that bucket back into your body, so I want you to imagine something else for me, I want you to imagine that in your hand right now, you’ve got that thing that you’d like to eat a bit less of, and before you put it into your mouth, I want you to imagine leaning over and dipping it into that yellow, lumpy, dog poo smelling fat, get a big blob of that yellow, lumpy, dog poo smelling fat on the end of it, that’s it really smear that yellow, lumpy, dog poo smelling fat on it, because I’m sure you wouldn’t allow that yellow, lumpy, dog poo smelling fat back into your body, but you can choose the foods that are right for you, you can choose the foods that are right for you.
The Factory
I’d like to tell you about a newspaper article that I read, I can’t remember which newspaper it was, one of the big national papers. It was about a guy who had turned up at a local hospital, he’d cut his finger, it wasn’t a bad cut but it needed cleaning up and dressing, he worked at one of the well known chocolate manufacturers and health and safety dictated that he got this cut cleaned up.
He’d arrived at the hospital at a really busy time, so he’d been put into a side room to wait for a nurse to be available to clean this cut up, when a nurse was finally available she’d gone into this room where the guy was from the factory, but she was met by this horrible, horrible smell, this guy stunk, you know that kinda smell that really gets the back of your throat, that rancid horrible smell, he stunk. The nurse didn’t really know what this smell was just wanted to be out of there, this guy stunk!
She began cleaning the cut up on his finger but just wanted to be out of there, this guy stunk, she couldn’t help but notice the little yellow marks on the arms of his
overall, he was wearing those white overalls that they wear in factories, didn’t really know what the marks were, just wanted to be out of there and away from this smell!
Then she noticed his forearms had this kinda skin infection, it was red, angry, scaly and weeping………..weeping pus, and that’s were the yellow marks were coming from, this yellow, weeping pus!
The guy went on to explain to the nurse that this sometimes happens in the factories where they mass produce chocolate on a grand scale, one of the ingredients they use to mass produce chocolate, in its rawest form, the tiny particles of it become airborne, they get into the air conditioning system and when they come into contact with the skin it can create this irritation, this infection, it flares up, gets sore, angry, weepy and weeps this thick yellow pus, it clears up eventually, they become immune to it. But the reason it was in the newspaper as the guy went on to explain to the nurse that they don’t take them off the factory line up when they have this infection, so I’ve wondered since I read that article, how would you know, how would you know, you unwrap a chocolate bar, you put it into your mouth, how would you know if that chocolate has ever come into contact with some ones bits of skin, some of that oozing pus, how would you know? But you can choose the foods that are right for you, you can choose the foods that are right for you…………….
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Simple Metaphoric Approaches and Suggestions to Help
Your Weight Loss Client
Welcome to the latest updates for using metaphoric approaches to help your
weight loss clients achieve their goals.
I’ve put together these complementary updates for all my Virtual Gastric Band
practitioners to help you enjoy even better success when working with your
weight loss client.
As we know, the more tailored the therapy is to the individual client, the
better the outcome. And the more tools we have in our tool box to help with
all the different aspects that the client may present with, the better.
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What is a Metaphor?
Metaphor is a very creative way of helping our client to solve a problem.
Generally speaking, it's a story or an idea that parallels another pattern or
situation.
A metaphor is a way of describing someone, or something, by showing their
similarity with something else.
Metaphor was popularised by the grandfather of hypnotherapy, Milton H
Erickson, who recognised that helping a client see their situation in a new way
had a profound effect on their ability to resolve problems.
In therapy, approaching a problem metaphorically is helpful on several levels.
A metaphor seems different from the conscious concern or problem
preoccupying the client, which allows the conscious mind to relax… however,
at the same time, the pattern perceiving subconscious mind can make the
match and use the metaphor for therapeutic change.
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I have yet to find a book that focuses purely on weight loss metaphors, so I’m
sure that you will find all of these examples helpful with every client you see.
I’ve adapted some creative metaphors that I have come across, and tested
their effectiveness with hundreds of clients to come up with the finished
scripts. The key is now for you to adapt them to suit your clients mind map of
the world, things they already do or can relate to in their own lives.
We all have the ability to fix our own problems, so a metaphoric approach is
often the best way to get your client to access their own inner resources to fix
their own problem. Metaphors can form an important role in helping the
‘stuck’ client view their habits in an entirely new light.
Keep making a difference.
Sheila x
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Why Use Metaphors for Weight Loss?
Most of our habits surrounding food have their foundations in our childhood,
suggestions that have been made to us from a very young age.
“Eat it all up you’ll be a big boy’’
“Don’t waste food, there are children dying in Africa”.
These suggestions have been reinforced many times over, to then form part of
our belief system.
Our client needs to recognise, challenge and then adapt their belief system in
order to bring about lasting change.
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Each time the client attempts a sustained change in the way they eat, they are
working against the core beliefs that have been planted and reinforced
throughout their lives.
It is often then necessary throughout our sessions to help the client become
aware of this core belief system, so that they can begin to develop new, more
helpful beliefs that will lead to a more healthy eating habit and subsequently
the weight loss they are seeking.
Metaphors need not be long and drawn out. Sometimes metaphors can be
simple phrases, repeated, to allow that repetition of suggestion to become the
client’s reality.
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1. Encourage Your Client to Feel Good About Leaving Food
If the client has always been encouraged to “clear their plate” or not to
“waste” food, they can almost feel it is a bad thing to leave it, and it can be
deeply ingrained in them to continue with this behaviour. However, this
doesn’t help the client with their resolution to become slimmer and healthier.
A lot of clients have, of course, already been through all the traditional dieting
clubs, some of which encourage to eat “as much as you like” of certain foods
which only serves to reinforce those belief systems of “eating it all up”.
A lot of hypnosis weight loss programmes, including my Virtual Gastric Band
programme, are based around encouraging the client to be aware of their own
bodies instinctual signals and, more precisely the instinctual signals their
digestive system gives, when they are full so they are then able to leave the
food that they no longer need. However, if the client has a deep rooted belief
system that leaving food may be a bad thing, or to overcome the client’s
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feelings that they may be being deprived or denied by doing this, a metaphoric
approach which encourages the client to feel satisfied about leaving food, can
only be a good thing.
Enjoy The Feeling Of The Leave Metaphor/Suggestion:
“There comes a point when we are eating, that our body says we’ve had
enough……. that we are comfortable….. that we don’t need anymore…….. and you
can begin to enjoy this wonderful feeling of leaving the food you no longer need…..
enjoy this wonderful feeling of leaving the food you no longer need….enjoy the
feeling of the leave.”
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2. Using Your Body Like a Tired Worker
The following is a great way of relating eating habits to a client’s job, for the
client who snacks throughout the day, or a night time eater.
Tired Worker Metaphor/Suggestion:
“Perhaps in the past you’ve been using your body like some tired old
worker……..you know the feeling when your daily to do list is endless…….. and it
just goes on and on……but you work hard all day working your way through
everything…….. and you look forward to that down time at the end of the day…….
that time when all your work is done and you can just relax for a while,………so you
work hard all day……. getting through everything……… looking forward to that time
off at the end of the day,…….when everything on your to do list is done……………….
and you just about reach that point when you’re about to relax and switch
off………. when someone gives you the next thing to do……..somebody wants
something else from you………… the next demand is placed upon you……… another
job to do never getting any real time off……… and your body………. your digestive
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system has been a little bit like that worker……….. never getting any real time
off……… before there is another job to do…..something else to do………another
thing to process……never getting any down time……never getting any real time
off……..and if your digestive system had a voice of its own…… I wonder what it
would say about its heavy workload…..of never getting any real time off……but you
can begin to enjoy a feeling of the spaces in between each meal……. how wonderful
it would be to have real time off…… to just enjoy that time off……. that chance to
relax, unwind………you can really begin to enjoy the feeling of giving your digestive
system real time off…….. and enjoy a feeling of the spaces in between each
meal……. giving your digestive system real time off. Enjoy this wonderful feeling of
the spaces…….in between each meal…….enjoy the feeling of the spaces……”
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3. Becoming an Expert
As human beings we strive to be good at things, we don’t want to be rubbish
at something we want to be good at it, so do encourage your client to become
really good at the new habits.… to become almost an expert, a specialist. Think
about how good do we feel if we are an expert at a certain skill set? We all
want to feel special and good when we’ve worked at something, and this can
help your client feel special too.
Expert Metaphor/Suggestion
“How fantastic would it be if you could become a real expert……… a specialist at
knowing at just what point to leave the food….. because there comes a point when
we are sitting down and eating…….no matter how healthy….. tasty that food there
on the plate is……. when our bodies say that we are comfortable……that we are
full….. that really that food there on the plate just turns to fat….. fluids….. sludge…..
but you can become a real expert at just having a knowing at just what point to
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leave the food…….. just before that food there on the plate turns to fat……. and
you can become that real expert, that specialist at just having that knowing.”
(It is useful at this point to get the client to mentally rehearse this
scenario in their own mind).
So I’d like you to take a moment to see yourself in your mind’s eye…… over the next
few days….. sitting down at the table…… and eating your meal,….your enjoying
every mouthful……eating slowly and consciously…… but see that you there…… just
getting that sense of having a knowing at just what point to leave the food…… see
that you there…….. and get a sense of stopping eating just as soon as you feel
comfortable……..just before that food there turns to fat…… pushing the plate away
when you feel comfortable…… and feeling so pleased with yourself……noticing how
good at this you become,……you the expert at having that knowing, and enjoying
that feeling of leaving the food you no longer need.”
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4. Encouraging Listening & Responding to Instinctual Signals
Baby:
A lot of theories relate back to a new born baby having the perfect weight
control system. A new born baby only feeds to satisfy hunger, for no other
reason, but over time, we are often encouraged by parenting and social
situations to eat more than we need. So we switch off to the instinctual
signals that we responded to before we were influenced by suggestions given
by our parents. It sometimes can be useful to relay this to your client in
hypnosis, especially if they have children/grandchildren of their own.
Baby Metaphor/Suggestion
“A baby has a perfect weight control system…….. I am sure you can remember your
children when they were babies……… a baby cries when its hungry……. you give it a
bottle and when its full….. it stops feeding and spits the bottle out……. just having
what it needs……… and just like that baby you only need to put into your body just
what it needs………. stopping eating just as soon as you feel comfortable……. Really
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beginning to listen and respond to those instinctual signals you did respond to as a
child……… and you can find this so easy to do……….. An instinctual signal your
body can honestly remember.”
5. Linking To Other People in Their Life They Do Respond
to Appropriately
Linking to Appropriate Other People Metaphor/Suggestion
“All the people in your life that you listen and respond to appropriately………
friends…..family……..work colleagues…… you listen to their needs and respond
appropriately…..even when you don’t really feel like it…… you do it anyway….. and
you can begin to listen and respond to that voice of your digestive system………
that is their all for your own good….. and sometimes just like when your
family……friend……..work colleagues…….. ask for something and we don’t really
feel like doing it…… you just do it anyway.”
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6. Dealing with Cravings and Snacking
Cravings & Snacking Metaphor/Suggestion
“These cravings that you’ve been experiencing for chocolate…..snacking…. It’s
almost like you’ve been in a bad relationship…….. in a relationship with a bully…..
or in relationship with someone who merely poses as your friend….. Perhaps the
chocolate/snacking etc. has promised to make you feel better…. give you
comfort……. reward you for a hard day at work….. posed as your friend….. But
what friend would really reward you with bad health……. feeling uncomfortable in
your clothes…………..what friend would really reward you with that.
If one of your friends or family or children were being bullied by someone,…….or
were in a bad relationship……..or had someone who you knew was just posing as
their friend…… I wonder what you would tell them to do…… I’m sure you’d tell
them to stand up to that bully…….. tell that bully to ‘get lost’…… because each and
every time you stand up to that bully……. the weaker their hold on you
becomes……..
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Each and every time you stand up to those bullying cravings…… the weaker their
hold on you becomes……. Each and every time you stand up to those bullying
cravings……… the weaker their hold on you becomes. You can become really good
at standing up to those cravings….. get good at enjoying the pleasure of saying
no……. feel good and relaxed about saying no.”
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Eight Golden Rules for Success, following the Virtual Gastric Band Procedure. Hypnotically your stomach has now been shrunk to the size of a golf ball. In order to aid your weight control it I very important that you follow the enclosed guidance that will help with the psychological impact of your Gastric Band and also your past relationship with food, thus in turn aiding your weight loss.
Make a resolve now to take responsibility and follow these instructions to the letter, success will be yours.
‘‘Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self, will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking, but a full-on metamorphosis’’ Martha Beck
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!1. BUY SOMETHING NEW
One very powerful psychological technique that I will be using is called the law of concentrated attention. Basically it means that if there is something in life that you really want – then behave in a way that you already have it – and you are very likely to actually get it.
So…..go out at your earliest opportunity and purchase an item of clothing in the size that you want to be. It has to be something brand new and NOT something that you already have from your past that no longer fits. It does not have to be anything expensive, it can be something from a charity shop, as long as it is new to you, and motivates you.
When you get it, hang it on the OUTSIDE of your wardrobe in a place where you will see it often, as we are going to focus your attention on being that person.
2. LISTEN TO THE CD
The CD utilises a multitude of the latest mind management techniques and is a very important part of changing habits. It is absolutely essential that you listen to it at least once a day (more if you can) for the next 28 days. The CD will cement your new relationship with food, in between our sessions. Listen to it using stereo headphones via your ipod or a CD walkman – you need to sit in a comfortable chair or rest on your bed.
IMPORTANT – NEVER USE THE CD WHILST DRIVING OR OPERATING MACHINARY.
3. EAT SLOWLY AND CONSCIOUSLY
Enjoy every mouthful of food, but slow your eating down, chew your food thoroughly (approx 15-20 times a mouthful). Put your knife and fork down between mouthfuls; put your sandwich down between mouthfuls.
Do not eat in front of the television or whilst reading as you will not be conscious of what you are eating. Sit down and focus purely on the food in front of you.
4. STOP EATING AS SOON AS YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE
5. EAT ONLY THREE SMALL MEALS A DAY- Choose protein first, as you need 50-70 grammes of protein per day. As your portion sizes will be dramatically reduce, it may be worth investing in some small plates and bowls.
6. BUY AND TAKE SOME MULTIVITAMINS
To ensure you are still having all the vitamins you need.
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7. DRINK PLENTY OF FLUIDS AND CHOOSE ONLY LOW CALORIE LIQUIDS.
8. EXERCISE.
It is very important with the gastric band that you take some form of exercise for 30 minutes per day; this can be as simple as going for a walk. As you will be eating less than your body needs to operate, it has to make up the difference by burning reserves. If you do not exercise daily, your body will metabolize your unused muscle and you will lose muscle mass and strength. Exercise will communicate to your body that you want to use your muscles and force it to burn the fat instead. Walk, skip, and dance around the house- move!!
*If you have diabetes, monitor your blood sugar levels carefully. You may need to adjust insulin or other diabetes medication.
Dealing with Head Hunger
Head hunger refers to a condition in which you think you need food but your body is not actually the one demanding energy. Something else is triggering you to respond to food.
7 ways to deal with head hunger
1. Take a sip of water.
2. Wait it out (about ten minutes).
3. Exercise – walk, stretch etc.
4. Concentrate on deep, slow breathing.
5. Tell yourself the feeling will pass.
6. Eat a little bit of something nutritious.
!Give yourself support
All this hypnosis sounds great, but what about the rest of the time? It is important to recognise that as you go through this programme and the changes demanded by a virtual Gastric Band that you will frequently have to be your own support. To do so requires that you take some ownership of the process. In other words make this ‘’your’’ weight loss programme, take pride in what you are doing and in each goal achieved.
It may help if you write down why you want to lose weight and your short and long term goals, outlining any strengths and weaknesses and what you are going to do
with the weaknesses. I.e. I have a weakness for chocolate so I am not going to have any in the house.
Reward yourself for the smaller goals reached, i.e. I am going to treat myself to a facial for every half stone.