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SUPERFOODSfor Age-Defying Beauty
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THE 8 REASONS WHY YOU
HAVEN'T FOUND MR. RIGHT!
Single Moms
Is your
Child Good
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DIY SNACKS FOR KIDS
DELICIOUS
to sneak fruits and vegetablesin your family's diet
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10 ways to sneak
some extra fruits and
vegetables in your
family’s diet
22Is your child
“Good For Nothing”
18Single Mom -
The 8 reasons why
you haven’t found
your Mr. Right
247 Reasons -
Why you should be
using coconut oil
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Why we need to take risk
Delicious DIY snacks for kids
MORE IN THIS ISSUE... 08
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The not so perfect parents
5 tips to keep your marriage exciting
6 Superfoods for age-defying beauty
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Editor’s NoteCome on- you can do it!It's time for you to face yourself in the mirrorand make a daily plan for stepping out inhealth.
What's your reason to get fit?
Maybe you need to shed the baby weight frompregnancy or there's a college reunion comingup and you have to be the sexiest person in theroom. Or maybe you want to fight heartdisease, diabetes, arthritis, Parkinson's disease,and even cancer... yep, research states thatadding exercise into a well balanced diet canprevent the above. Exercise also has beenproven to reduce stress, ward off anxiety andfeelings of depression, boost self-esteem, andimprove sleep. Plus, what about your spouseand kids? They are always watching and willfollow your lead. Be a fit role model and showthem an active example of health, yet anotherwin- win... I don't know about you, but thosesound like pretty good reasons to me! So areyou ready to handle our Fit Family Challenge?
Get up and start today, even if it's just a quick10 minute walk- that's better than nothing...Here's what Urban Parenting want to see youtackle for your health:
1) Wake up 30 min.'s earlier- pray, meditate,reflect and try a power cardio work out!
2) Ride a bike to do your errands instead ofusing your car.
3) Walk your dog 1 block further than usual each week or volunteer to walk a friends dog (they'll loveyou for it- so it's a win-win!)
4) Have fun- take dance lessons!
5) After dinner, make it a habit to take a walk around your community and invite your family to joinyou!
6) Take the stairs instead of the elevator at work or for play!
7) Park your car in an area that forces you to walk a significant distance everywhere you go-challenge yourself and try it- this works!
Document your fit family journey and video tape yourself working out with your kids. Upload it toYouTube with Urban Parenting's Fitness Challenge in the title and you could win an UP FamilyFitness Pack!
(*Remember to consult your doctor when building a healthier you and seeking to incorporate thebest exercise plan for you into your daily routine. Details of Fit Family Challenge on our website:www.UrbanParenting.com)
Debbie C. ManigatEditor-in-Chief
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A soldier may have to take a risk and run
thru gunfire to save another injured
soldier, to complete their mission, or just
to secure an area from being overrun by
enemy troops, after going days with
little to no sleep, but if a soldier wants to
get promotions and eventually lead men
into battle they also need to take risks.
These risks are not unlike someone
looking to get rich in a casino, they have
to be willing to risk everything they have
to get that million dollar payoff. If you
play it safe in a casino you may get lucky
and win a big jackpot on the slot
machines, but if you want to make
millions you are going to have to play
games such as Poker, Blackjack, Roulette
and Craps. These are the games that with
some skill, some luck and a lot of risk
taking you can retire off your winnings.
The same can be said about life in
general. No one gets ahead in life from
playing it safe. You will not meet your
special someone if you are too afraid to
risk getting rejected by someone, you
will never get that big promotion unless
you take risks at your job.
It is very important to continue to take
risks in life. To stop taking risks means to
stand still in life. Standing still in life is
one of the main causes of depression.
These are usually the people afraid to
confront the boss and tell him that they
demand a raise; they are the ones that
allow life to pass them by out of fear. The
entire purpose of fear is to stop you from
taking a risk.
Fear is nothing more then the unknown.
If you have always wanted to quit your
job and open a shop but you are too
afraid to do it, this is because you are
afraid of failing and risking what you
already have.
It is important to learn to take risks in life
if you want to be happy, you may not
always get the things you risked for, but
you will know that you tried, and in the
end it does not matter in my opinion if
you succeed or not it is how many risks
you try to make that is the real test of
how successful you are.
Just remember if no one took risks we
would be a world without flight and
probably no automotive vehicles at all,
maybe we would have no electricity. So
risk truly is needed to improve the world.
Why we Need to Take
RisksTake
t does not matter if you are a Doctor, a
Lawyer or an infantry soldier in the
Army if you want to be the best and get
ahead, you will need to take risks.
A doctor may have to take risks when
working with a patient. The Doctor may have to
experiment with different forms of medications
or new surgical procedures when all else has
failed in an attempt to help the patient.
A lawyer may have to argue a case in an
unorthodox manner to win the case, but if the
lawyer wants to become the top lawyer and
make millions of dollars fighting high profile
cases lots of risks have to be taken.
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Delicious
Snacks For Kids
ids often shy away from preparing anything other than a
peanut butter and jelly sandwich because it's too difficult
and time-consuming. But there is a wide variety of
products available at the grocery store, like Tyson
refrigerated, fully-cooked chicken and steak strips, which simplify
the snack- and meal-making process for kids. The strips go from
package to plate in minutes-making it easy to prepare kid-favorite
snacks and meals such as pizza, tacos and pasta. These well-
balanced, do-it-yourself options are high in protein and have zero
grams trans fat, so parents can feel good about providing kids with a
wholesome alternative to help power them through their active
days.
With snack and meal ideas like these, children can come home and
reach for something other than the usual suspects-instead
preparing a delicious snack on their own. Who knows? Maybe they'll
even graduate to making family dinners.
1. Layer chips, cheese and chicken strips on a large, microwave-
safe plate.
2. Microwave on High for 30 to 45 seconds or until cheese melts.
Serve with pico de gallo, guacamole and sour
cream. Refrigerate leftovers.
1. Heat chicken strips and taco shells according to package
directions.
2. Fill shells with meat, cheese and lettuce.
Other toppings can include diced tomato,
salsa and sour cream. Refrigerate leftovers.
11/4 cups Tyson Southwest Seasoned Chicken Breast Strips
1 bag (10 oz.) tortilla chips
2 cups shredded Mexican blend cheese
Serving Suggestion:
1 package (6 oz.) Tyson Refrigerated Fajita Chicken Breast Strips
4 taco shells
1/2 cup shredded cheese
Shredded lettuce
Serving Suggestion:
Fiesta Chicken Nachos
Chicken Tacos Ole
Nearly seven million American children come home from schoolto an empty house, clamoring for a quick, appetizing snack only to
settle for junk food. But instead of reaching for the sweets during those coolafter-school days or hot summer nights, kids can put on the chef's hat and
prepare their own easy, tasty snacks that are just as satisfying.
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ll of us have that
guilty feeling from
time to time and yet
it is the most wasted
emotion of all. We
can't take back words
or actions, no matter
how hard we wish.
If you are a parent, this guilt seems to be
present even more. This useless feeling is a
universal phenomenon.
Why does this "guilt trip" seem to be an
expanding epidemic?
I believe the answer to that is (1) More
women work away from home (2)Single-
parenting is on the rise and (3) There are so
many books written on how to be a "good"
parent. The first two things I have
mentioned will sometimes keep you away
from the time you would be spending with
your child. I firmly believe in quality, not
quantity.
Now don't get me wrong. There are many
excellent books that have been written
regarding child-rearing. I'm sure they are
helpful. The point I am driving at is this;
there seems to be a lot of pressure to be a
"good parent." We certainly should all keep
trying but also, keep in mind that you have
your own inner voice that tells you what is
best for you and your child. What works for
Johnny may not necessarily work for Mary.
If in doubt, follow your heart!
Guess What? When you are not perfect, you
are letting your children know that you are
human. You are also teaching them to
forgive, as you forgive them.
Worried about being perfect? Think about
the person who reared you? Were they
perfect? Do you love them today?
Children can tell if they are truly loved. It is
not measured by how many hours are
spent with them or if you were tired that
day and lost your cool. It is certainly not
measured by how much money you can
spend on them.
Your child already knows that you are not
perfect. He or she also knows how much
you love them. You can't fool a child. They
are spirits like you and I. They are the most
honest people on this earth. (Remember
how they informed Aunt Edna that she had
a hair growing from her chin?)Believe me,
they are honest and will forgive your
mistakes. Please forgive yourself. No one
has ever been a perfect parent...not ever. If
you love yourself, you forgive yourself.
As Oscar Wilde, an Irish playwright and poet
wrote: (1843-1900)
If you love yourself and forgive yourself,
that is another lesson your child will pick up
from you. It's a win, win situation!
So, relax. Bask in the fullness of your
reciprocal love with your child.
Some day he/she may be telling a
story...."remember when Mom did.........."
"To love oneself is the beginning
of a lifelong romance"
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The
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NOT SOPERFECT
Your child already knows that you
are not perfect. He or she also
knows how much you love them.
You can't fool a child. They are
spirits like you and I.
When You NeedParental Support
Every parent finds
themselves in need of help at
one point or another. As a
parent, where do you turn for
guidance? Use the following
suggestions to help you
determine your best source
of support and inspiration.
1. Get your hands on the best books.
Chances are good that regardless of what
you are now facing as a patent, someone
else has gone through it before and written
about it. Take advantage of the lessons they
have learned and study the methods of
dealing with the trials and tribulations of
parenting. Look for bestsellers and follow
authors who have a style and philosophy
that resembles your own.
2. Ask your family physician or pediatrician
for advice. Most doctors have children of
their own and have also been questioned
about every parenting issue under the sun.
Talk to your child's doctor about what is
going on and what your fears are, and ask
what they or others have done in similar
situations. Your doctor's office may also be
able to recommend helpful literature.
3. Seek advice from trusted friends or family
members. When something is going on in
your household, hiding it from others
doesn't solve anything, nor does it set a
good example of how to respond with your
kids. Talking openly can provide your family
with solutions and offer everyone an
outside opinion. Lean on family and friends
when you need help, and make a joint
effort to resolve the problem(s) your whole
family is facing.
4. Try online forums for parents like you.
There are many forums devoted to single
parents, both moms and dads, and all kinds
of other unique situations. There should be
pages upon pages of discussions you can
relate to. Introducing yourself and briefly
stating your dilemma should result in an
outpouring of advice, support and
otherwise friendly words. You can remain
completely anonymous or use your real
name and locale, depending on what suits
you.
5. Attend local meetings of moms and dads
with similar circumstances. Formal or
informal group therapy is an amazing
outlet for parents with problems. It can
provide you with a nurturing environment
that offers you a voice to unload your
frustrations and a place to relate to others.
Just hearing the stories of others will make
you feel at home, and you can give each
other advice or simply form lasting and
valuable friendships.
6. Learn to trust your instincts. There will be
many times when you alone must deal with
the family problems, so learning to depend
on your own instincts is a highly beneficial
parenting skill. Once you've got enough
knowledge and support under your belt,
dealing with problems that arise with your
children should get easier and you should
be able to do so with more confidence.
7. Keep an open line of communication
with your kids. No matter how many
external sources of support you lean on,
never stop listening and talking. What your
children have to say will always be
important, even if you don't agree with
them
Also, no matter how difficult things
become, they will always need your voice of
reason and to know that you love them.
Hopefully this article has given you plenty
of food for thought regarding your parental
problems. Don't be afraid to reach out and
seek support with others: you've got a
really tough job to do!
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Finding Resources
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tips to keep a
The buildup to the wedding is so exciting; making arrangements, laying out a plan
for your future lives together. But after the honeymoon ends, life begins. And
while you may have the most wonderful marriage, even the most devoted couple
is certain to find the married lifestyle to be at times, well let's say, less than
exciting. I mean let's face it, you love the other person, but spending all day with
the same individual makes for a lot of routine activities, that if you are not careful
can drag on your relationship and make you both feel unsatisfied with what is
otherwise a very loving relationship.
As a result, it is vital that couples not simply sit back in the belief that a marriage
will remain exciting merely on its own momentum. Rather, it is important that
spouses take some basic steps to infuse their relationships with a bit of
excitement.
You cannot have anything interesting to say if you spend every waking moment
doing and experiencing the same things. Having independent interests is not a
sign of a weak marriage, as some newlyweds believe, but rather a sign of its
strength. Having independent interests means that you have something unique
to bring to conversations, ensuring that you both always have something
interesting, and yes exciting, to say to one another.
While you were dating, planning the spontaneous event seemed rather innate.
But, as we grow comfortable in our relationships and more busy by life's
obligations, we have a tendency to rely upon the strength of our relationships and
in so doing fail to keep things spontaneous. So to mix things up; plan an
afternoon or evening event that is completely new. Try that show your spouse has
been dying to see, or visit that new restaurant that just opened up.
This is less a rule to keep things exciting, and more one to keep them sound. A
relationship can only grow and remain exciting if both parties are confident in
their commitment to one another. As a consequence, make it a rule between you
and your partner that you never threaten separation or divorce. Establish an
understanding that if you threaten separation, you should be heading out the
door to back it up. It is a harsh rule, but one that needs imposition if your
relationship is to survive the ups and downs which are a part of all marriages.
One sure-fire way to inject some romance into your marriage is to take a vacation
with just the two of you. But with the rigors of life and the costs of a trip, a full-
blown vacation can seem hard to justify. So instead opt for a one night local
vacation. Plan a dinner and evening out, and cap it off with a night in a hotel. The
expense isn't a lot considering the excitement that a trip, no matter how small,
can bring into a relationship.
The final tip to bring excitement into any relationship is to spice things up in the
bedroom. Your sex life has a strong correlation with the strength and satisfaction
of your relationship. So try exploring a new position or even a sexual fantasy or
adult toy with your partner, and in so doing share something intimate and bring
some excitement into your marriage.
1. Have Independent Interests
2. Spontaneous Events
3. Never threaten separation
4. Weekend Trips
5. Spice up the bedroom
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Fun AdventuresFor Children
n important part of parenting is
to offer your children as many
experiences as possible that will
help to develop his creative
processes, natural curiosity and
joy for life. One way to do this is to frequent
places where you and your child, or the
whole family, can learn about our world,
and enjoy the process. In this article, you
will find some great ways to enrich your
child's life through special outings.
Many people have not heard of, or
experienced the mystery and adventure of
visiting caves. Many areas around the
country have cave tours, or safe caves
where families can venture into the darker
recesses of the world, and learn about the
life within. Children love adventures, and
caves are a great way to mix that
excitement with education.
Museums are not just for old people! They
are wonderful places to learn about the
past, present and even the future. Try
taking your child to different types of
museums, and help him to read
information about the different exhibits
and art. There are many museums geared
specifically for children, like the human
body, dinosaurs, cars, toys and hobbies.
Afterward, it can be fun to discuss what was
learned that day, or what the favorite
exhibits were.
Visit places that have a historical
background. Children can have great fun, as
well as a valuable learning experience, from
places of historical value. Destinations, such
as the Lincoln Memorial, the Grand Canyon
and even Yellowstone National Park have a
lot of history behind them. You can book a
tour with a tour guide who may give a talk
about your destination, and recommend
sights that are fun to seel
If you are planning a vacation, try going
somewhere unlike the area you live in. If
you live in the country, go to a beach, and
learn about boats, fish and other things you
don't often see at home. If you live in the
Midwest, try venturing to a mountainous
area, such as the Olympic Mountains, for
hiking and just taking in the beauty and
majesty of a snowy mountain.
If you are looking for an educational
experience right at home, you can find
scores of movies and documentaries about
famous people and places to spark your
child's curiosity and appreciation for the
experiences of others. Some interesting
choices might be: war documentaries, if the
children are mature enough, inventors,
such as Henry Ford or the making of Mount
Rushmore. These movies are interesting, as
well as awe-inspiring.
Use games to encourage learning, as well as
offering an opportunity for a fun family
evening. Have a game night, and choose
educational games, such as memory
games, word games and building games.
These types of games are useful to spark a
child's memory, word skills and motor skills.
A plus is that they are great fun!
Hopefully, you can see through this article
that children learn from many different
experiences. The more you allow your child
to experience, the more his life will be
enriched, and he will make lifetime
memories. Use your imagination, and you
will see your child's imagination bloom as
you experience life together.
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To Sneak Some
Extra Fruits
And Vegetables In
Your Family’s Diet
10 Ways
We all know by now that we should be eating at least five servings of fruits
and vegetables each day. But knowing and doing are two different things,
aren't they? Sometimes it is just not easy to get them all in there. We are
constantly tempted to fill up on convenience and junk food. If your family is
anything like mine, they’d much rather fill up on a bag of chips or a bowl of
rice or pasta instead of trying an apple or a plate of steamed broccoli. So
we’ll have to get creative. Here are a few ideas to “sneak” some extra
vegetables and fruits in your family’s diet.
Start the day
Dried fruit makes
Add some fruits
Have a salad bar
Let them drink
with a breakfast
smoothie. All you have to do is
throw some fruits, low-fat
yogurt and ice in a blender. You
may also want to add a scoop of
protein powder in there for good measure.
Just blend for a few seconds and you have
the perfect breakfast ready to go. I like to
sip mine in a thermal cup on the way to
work. To make it even more appealing for
your kids, use some frozen yogurt or a
scoop of ice cream in the smoothie. They
won’t believe that you are letting them
have ice cream for breakfast.
an excellent
snack any time of the day. Add
some small cartons of raisins to
your child’s lunch box, pack some yogurt-
covered raisins in your husband’s briefcase
and keep some trail mix sitting around for
snacking. You can also add dried fruit to
oatmeal and cereal in the morning. My
family loves banana chips in their breakfast
cereal.
and vegetables
to your family’s sandwiches. You
can add some banana, sliced
apples or strawberry slices to a
peanut butter sandwich. Top a
turkey sandwich with lettuce, tomato,
cucumber and anything else they will eat.
You can even make a sub shop style
vegetable sandwich by combining several
different vegetables with some mayonnaise
and cheese on bread.
at dinner. Set
out a variety of chopped
vegetables, some cheese and
croutons as well as several
choices of salad dressing along
with the lettuce and let everybody create
their own perfect salad.
their fruits and
vegetables. Keep an assortment
of fruit and vegetable juices in
the fridge and encourage
everyone to drink them as a
snack. Get creative. You could start “family
cocktail hour” by pouring everybody a glass
of his or her favorite juice over ice. Add
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some straws, cocktail umbrellas and sit
together to talk about how everybody’s day
went.
Put a small
scoop of ice cream or frozen
yogurt in a bowl and top it with
lots of fresh or frozen fruit.
vegetables as
snacks. You can cut apples into
slices and top them with peanut
butter or cheese. Cube cheese
and serve with grapes. Cut up
some fresh veggies and serve them with
ranch dip. And of course there’s ants on a
log. Spread some cream cheese or peanut
butter on the inside of a stick of celery and
sprinkle raisins on it (wow, fruit and
vegetable in one snack).
fruits and
vegetables. Pick something
exotic to get your family’s
curiosity. With a little luck their
curiosity will outweigh their
initial apprehension to trying something
new. You could try artichokes, plantains,
papaya, mango, star fruit, or anything else
you can find in the produce department of
your local store.
of vegetable soup
or a stew that’s heavy on
veggies and easy on the meat.
Both of these make some great
comfort food when the weather gets cold.
Each
family member gets to pick a
vegetable one day of the week.
They qualify to pick a vegetable
as long as they tried each
vegetable the week before, otherwise they
loose a turn and Mom gets to pick.
Incorporate a few of these ideas and you
will have everyone in your family eating
more fruits and vegetables in no time.
Now that everyone in the family has gotten
a taste for it, make sure you always have
plenty of fresh fruits and veggies available
and ready to snack on.
Try this for dessert.
Offer fruits and
Try some new
Make a pot
Start “My Veggie Day”.
Here is another tip:
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For Age-defying Beauty!1) Goji Berries
2) Aloe Vera
Goji berries, hollywoods hottest new food,
are one of the most nutritionally dense
foods on earth and house a staggering
concentration of vitamins, minerals, amino
acids, phytochemicals and essential fatty
acids. With such an awesome constitution it
is not surprising they are reputed anti-
aging marvels. Originating in Tibet and
greatly favoured in traditional medicine
these dried berries have many noted health
benefits including boosting immunity,
lowering cholesterol, enhancing vision,
fighting cancer cells, relieving depression
and aiding weight loss.
Goji berries contain 500 times more vitamin
C than oranges by weight and more beta-
carotene than carrots making them a
superb source of vitamin A. Together with
vitamin E and essential fatty acids, these
berries are ideal for any anti-aging and
beauty regime. They also contain
polysaccharides, one of which has been
found to stimulate the secretion of the
rejuvenating human growth hormone by
the pituitary gland, as well as B vitamins, 21
minerals and 18 amino acids.
The most well documented case of
longevity is that of Li Qing Yuen, who lived
to the age of 252. Born in 1678, he is said to
have married 14 times with 11 generations
of posterity before his death in 1930. Li
Qing Yuen reportedly consumed goji
berries daily.
A study cited in Dr. Mindell's book "Goji: The
Himalayan Health Secret", observed that 67
per cent of elderly people that were given a
daily dose of the berries for 3 weeks
experienced dramatic immune system
enhancement and a significant
improvement in spirit and optimism.
Foget botox, Aloe vera increases collagen
production 100% naturally for a youthful,
wrinkle-free complexion and plump,
beautiful skin. The ultimate botox
alternative!
The inner gel of the aloe vera leaf contains
around 200 active compounds with over 75
nutrients. These include 20 minerals, 18
amino acids and 12 vitamins (even vitamin
B12- one of the very few plant sources of
this vitamin). Aloe vera also has anti-
microbial properties fighting fungi and
bacteria and houses anti-inflammatory
plant steroids and enzymes. Aloe vera is
known to aid digestion and elimination,
boost the immune system, and be highly
effective at healing, moisturizing and
rejuvianting the skin, naturally stimulating
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the production of collagen.
Aloe vera is best eaten fresh when possible
(you can order large aloe vera leaves which
last a few weeks refridgerated). Scrape out
the inside gel, avoiding the outside of the
leaf which is a strong laxative, and blend
with fruit for the ultimate beautifying
smoothie. Aloe vera has a mild flavour
though a slight bitter edge, hence is best
combined with fruit.
Avocados are smoothing and softening for
the skin and easily absorbed; compared
with almond, corn, olive, and soybean oils,
avocado oil has the highest skin
penetration rate. Avocado also contains
vitamin E (excellent for the skin),
antioxidant carotenoids and the master
antioxidant glutathione that is
exceptionally powerful and has anti-
carcinogenic potential. High levels of
glutathione are found in the liver where the
elimination of toxic materials takes place.
Glutathione is effective against pollutants
such as cigarette smoke and exhaust fumes
as well as ultra-violet radiation. Research is
currently exploring the potential benefits of
glutathione for numerous conditions
including cancer, heart disease, memory
loss, arthritis, Parkinson's disease, eczema,
liver disorders, heavy metal poisoning and
AIDS.
The nucleic acids RNA and DNA in Chlorella
(one of the highest known sources of such)
direct cellular growth and repair and enable
our bodies to utilize nutrients more
effectively, eliminate toxins and avoid
disease. The production of nucleic acids in
the body declines progressively as we age,
which is no doubt why their intake is
recommended by Dr. Benjamin Frank in
"The No-Aging Diet". Paul Pitchford in
"Healing With Whole Foods" writes that
"insufficient nucleic acid causes premature
aging as well as weakened immunity",
Research at the Medical College of
Kanazawa in Japan found that mice that
were fed chlorella had a 30 per cent
increase in life span. Replenishing RNA and
DNA can be key to overall health, immunity
and longevity.
In addition to nucleic acids, chlorella is jam-
packed with vitamins, minerals,
antioxidants, enzymes and amino acids,
making it an incredibly rejuvinating and
health-promoting superfood. Spirulina is a
virtuous equivalent.
When it comes to young and beautiful skin,
bee pollen has outstanding gifts. Swedish
dermatologist Dr. Lars-Erik Essen uses bee
pollen to successfully treat acne and other
skin conditions and observes it's
beautifying and anti-aging effects. He
reports that bee pollen "seems to prevent
premature aging of the cells and stimulates
growth of new skin tissue. It offers effective
protection against dehydration and injects
new life into dry cells. It smoothes away
wrinkles and stimulates a life-giving blood
supply to all skin cells." He believes it's skin
rejuvintoin properties are due to its high
concentration of nucleic acids RNA and
DNA, as well as its natural antibiotic action.
Bee pollen has a host of other health-
promoting benefits that include fighting
infections, lowering cholesterol,
strengthening the blood, Boosting the
immune system, increasing physical
strength and stamina, aiding longevity and
enhancing libido! It has been called a
'prefect food' because it is so nutritionally
complete.
Coconut oil speeds up your metabolism
and can actually help you loose weight. It is
also incredibly beautifying and
moisturizing for the skin and has
antioxidant properties which protect
against free-radical damage, keeping the
skin youthful and healthy. Taken internally
or externally coconut oil is a great ally for
any beauty skin care regime. It also contains
lauric acid, an anti-microbial fatty acid that
kills bacteria, viruses and fungi.
3) Avocados
4) Chlorella
5) Bee pollen
6) Coconut oil
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THE 8 REASONS WHY YOU HAVEN’T FOUND YOUR
SINGLE MOM
Mr. Right!he statistics, in this case, don’t
lie. By the age of 50, 27.6% of
women are still single. That’s
more than 1 in 4.
Some of them of course, are not interested
in finding a man as a life long partner and if
they’re genuinely happy, that’s fine.
Although it does need to be a genuine wish
to stay single, not a once held desire to be
partnered now lost. You’ll learn more about
that below.
But you’re reading this, so I suspect you are
interested in finding your Mr. Right. So
you’ll need to know which of the following
8 reasons is stopping you finding him. Of
course it could be more than just 1 of these
reasons.
Whichever apply to you (or even if your
reason isn’t identified here), they all have
the same effect. If you continue to hold
these reasons dear to your heart, you will
not find your Mr. Right. Harsh I know. But
you’ll understand why by the end of this
article.
However, if you are prepared to tackle the
issue, then you really can find your Mr.
Right.
So what are the top 8 reasons why you
haven’t yet find your Mr. Right?
Some women keep this reason so well
hidden within themselves that they don’t
even realize that’s their reason. Maybe it’s
years since you split up with this partner,
but you felt so hurt, so damaged by the
break up that you just can’t bear to put
yourself through it again. As a result you
aren’t out actively looking for, or getting,
dates on a regular basis.
“Who would love me? I’m not attractive. No
one would want to go out with me.”That’s
the kind of things you say to yourself if you
don’t have the self-esteem you need to go
out and get the relationship you genuinely
deserve.
There are a whole host of reasons why you
may not have the esteem ñ but the
important thing is that the belief that you’re
not worthy of a loving, caring partner is a
serious block- which you can address.
This belief is commonly rooted in the first
reason I talked about above; being burnt in
the past. But there are other reasons. It
could be that your standards are
unattainably high sometimes you set them
that high to protect yourself from being
hurt again or from being rejected. Yes, it is
possible that you genuinely can’t find
suitable men, but there are millions out
there, it’s rarely solely to do with looking in
the wrong places.
If you rise before the sun and you’re too
exhausted when you return from work, it’s
understandable that you don’t have time to
go out and socialize. But just how
important is it for you to find a life long
partner? If it really isn’t that important,
don’t worry about it, just keep going at
your career.
1. You’ve been burnt in
the past by relationships
and it’s just too painful to
go out and look for
another.
2. Your self-esteem is low.
3. There aren’t any decent
men out there.
4. I just don’t have time.
t
By the age of
50, 27.6% of
women are
still single.
That’s more
than 1 in 4.
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However, if you still have that niggling
feeling that you really do want to find him,
you must change your routine to free up
time to go out looking for and going on
dates.
If you haven’t managed to put those
changes in place within a month, there’s a
bigger, hidden, secondary reason why
you’re not making the time for it.
Surely it’s one of our biggest fears that
we’re not loveable. If you put yourself out
there and nobody wants to be with you,
isn’t that what’s being said? So by not
putting yourself out there to be rejected,
you don’t run the risk of learning that
message. In other words, by not taking
action to find Mr. Right you can never be
said to be un-loveable because you haven’t
really tried.
The reality of course is that you are
loveable. By the way, you may have spotted
that this reason is very closely tied to self-
esteem again.
Maybe you don’t like pubs and clubs &
smoky atmospheres and drunken sleazes
trying to chat you up. And what if you don’t
like internet dating either? Lots of time
wasters, losers and geeks. I always tell my
clients that dating is a numbers game. If
you’re chopping out all the high number
options then you’re definitely making it a
whole lot more difficult for yourself.
There are alternatives, just as long as you’re
prepared to invest more time in plowing
through the numbers. And yes, you will
always come across men you see as losers,
geeks or sleazy wherever you go. That’s why
it always helps to have a clear picture of
who you’re planning on meeting ñ because
when you’ve had another fruitless night of
dating, you can always comfort yourself
with the clear picture in your mind of your
future Mr. Right.
It will happen naturally. Won’t it? Well how’s
that strategy worked for you so far? If
you’ve been waiting to find him “naturally”
for the last 10 years, how many more
decades do you want to try this as a
method?
Searching for him doesn’t mean you’re
desperate or that you’re breaking some
hidden female rule. It simply means you get
a lot more guys to pick from and you’re
much more likely to find someone who’ll be
perfect for you.
There’s a lot of historical social proof to
suggest that your knight should just come
riding in on his white horse. But I’ve got
news for you ñ the horse went out as a
means of transport in the 19th century!
“I just haven’t found him yet & it’s just a
case of waiting for the right man to come
along.”
There’s a statistic published by one of the
dating agencies at the moment that it takes
432 introductions to find your partner. Well
you’ve already met more than 432 people
in your life. There’s something you’re doing
or something you believe that is affecting
your ability to attract your Mr. Right. If you
don’t change it, you won’t find him. Not
because he isn’t out there, but because
your actions keep him away from you. You
may not know what it is that you’re doing,
but be reassured that you can change it if
you a) work out what it is, and b) decide
that you are committed to changing it.
So those are the 8 top reasons. There are
more. But they all have one thing in
common. They are beliefs that affect your
ability to attract the right man. If you really
want to find your Mr. Right all you need to
do is work out which ones are preventing
you finding him and take action to change
them.
What’s preventing you?
5. You’re concerned
there’s something wrong
with you.
6. You don’t like the
dating scene.
7. You don’t believe you
need to actively search for
him.
8. You don’t believe you
can significantly affect the
likelihood of finding your
Mr. Right.
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Is Your Child
“Good forNothing”?
don’t believe in good for nothing.
I was walking down the aisle of a
large supermarket when I heard a
mother hissing to her crying child,
“Good for nothing! Nothing! You
better stop this now or I will leave
you with the police man”. Not that I am
angel when it comes to being a parent to
my kids. Sometimes, I falter too and I will
yell and shout and throw a massive, scary
temper and my kids would cower in fright
thinking that their mom was going crazy.
Hey, I am human, ain’t I?
But I would never call my kids stupid or
good for nothing.
For one thing, I sincerely believe that
education is important ñ but it’s not
everything. We, as parents, have to carry
this grave responsibility of providing our
children with education. Not only do we
have to fund it, we have to ensure that they
learn whatever they can learn from the
education system so that they can benefit
from it later on in life. Knowledge is a
funnel. A funnel whereby information can
flow into and train a mind to think and
react in a certain knowledgeable way. It’s
important.
But frankly, I don’t think it’s everything.
What’s more important to us, parents, is the
listening skill, not directing or bossing skill.
We need to learn how to take cues from our
kids, open up gates and doors and let them
explore and watch them. Watch how they
are taking in the vast opportunities that are
being presented to them. Do they like it?
Are they interested? Is this their calling? Is
this their gift? This is what goes through my
mind whenever I introduce something new
to my kids. We, parents, should not try to
force something (ANYTHING) on to our kids.
As much as I hate being forced to do
something (I quit the banking world for a
reason, didn’t I?), I won’t force my kids to do
something that they don’t like. Of course,
there are things that they HAVE to do (like
homework, cleaning up, showering, good
manners, etc), I also have to bear the
responsibility of ensuring that they are well
disciplined and yet free to explore the
world. But in other respects non-related to
their safety and general well-being, force is
not my style.
I believe we all know of geniuses
who have made it far beyond
our human comprehension.
People who we, today, claim
as geniuses were called
“buffoons” in their early
days. Let’s take Albert
Einstein as an example.
His teacher thought he
was a complete loser and
yet today, the world think
and knows FOR A FACT
that he is and was a
genius. Even in death,
he made a difference
not only in his own
life- but to the
rest of the world
too.
While we
should not
expect
our child to be Einstein or paint like Da
Vinci, we should always be on a lookout for
their gift.
Everyone has a gift, God is fair. One person
may fare well in math while the other did
terribly. But if you look close
enough, you’ll see that the
second child who can’t
count for nuts can
paint like no
one else! No
one is
bor
Listening to their cues
Even the worst kid in
school can do well
The gift-everyone has oneI
n without a gift, which is what I believe.
Some people have multiple gifts and are
multi-talented in nature but no one in this
world is without one.
Parents should set out to find out the gift of
their child. It could be anything! ANYTHING!
Like Don who loves cleaning out closets and
is meticulous in arranging stuff ñ he’s a good
accountant today. Like Gina who loves to
play in the playground instead of doing her
homework, she’s one of the most popular
kids’ football team coaches in her country
today. And Simon who was so weak in math
that his mother almost told him to leave the
house and never come back, he’s a
professor in Philosophy today.
No one is good for
nothing. Even trees
or
worms are good for something. Trees give
us oxygen and some serve as food. Worms
digs holes in the ground and helps trees
grow. Even bacteria are good at something.
Bacteria can actually benefit our health.
What about mud? Think mud pack?
Everything is good for something. Why not
your child? Your job, as a parent, is to find
that “good”, find that talent. And perhaps,
maybe it’s got nothing to do with
education.
Think about it
Reasons
7Why You
Should Be Using
Coconut Oilt is a common misconception that coconut
oil is bad for you. People all over the world
are experiencing the healthy benefits of
using coconut oil. It is actually one of the
healthiest oils you can consume. Here are the
top seven reasons why you should use
coconut oil as an alternative to other
common cooking oils.
Unlike many other common oils, like soy (vegetable)
and corn, coconut oil won't make you fat. Coconut oil
contains medium-chain triglycerides (MCT), which
are an easy fuel for the body to burn, without turning
to fat. Most other cooking oils and fats contain long-
chain triglycerides (LCT). LCT's are usually stored as
fat. Since coconut oil is a MCT, it is more easily
absorbed and converted to energy quicker.
1. Coconut oil doesn't turn
to fat in your body.
I
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People in the tropics have relied on
coconuts as a traditional staple in their diet
for centuries. They consume large amounts
of coconut oil every day. Instead of getting
fatter, it helps them stay healthy, lean and
trim. When they switch from coconut oil to
our modern oils, they develop obesity and
the health problems that our modern
society faces.
Some other people who have known this
truth for a long time are people who are in
the animal feed business. When livestock
are fed vegetable oils, they put on weight
and produce more fatty meat. When they
are fed coconut oil, they become very lean.
Not only does coconut oil convert to
energy quicker in your body, it increases
your metabolism, which promotes weight
loss. Because it boosts your metabolism, it
helps your body burn fat more effectively.
Coconut oil may triple your calorie burn.
Since coconut oil is a MCT, it is converted to
energy so quickly that it creates a lot of
heat. In a study published in the American
Journal of Clinical Nutrition, MCT's burn
three times more calories for six hours after
a meal than LCT's.
The February 15, 2005 issue of Woman's
World magazine stated that coconut oil is
the "underground high-metabolism secret."
This is great news for people who have
thyroid problems, since coconut oil
improves sluggish thyroids by stimulating
the production of extra thyroid hormones.
Most other common oils, like vegetable
(soy) and corn have been shown to inhibit
thyroid function.
Most cooking oils contain omega 6 fatty
acids, something we get way too much of
in the United States. Our omega 6 to omega
3 ratio should be 1:1 but it is more like 50:1.
We need to drastically cut back our omega
6 oils and consume much more omega 3
oils to be healthy. And coconut oil is filled
with these healthy omega 3 fatty acids.
Because of the healthy omega 3 fatty acids
and the fact that it increases the
metabolism, most people that switch to
coconut oil feel a burst of added energy in
their daily life.
This is because coconut oil is natureís
richest source of medium-chain
triglycerides (MCT's), which increase
metabolic rates and lead to weight loss.
MCT's promote thermogenesis, which
increases the body's metabolism,
producing energy.
This is because coconut oil is natureís
richest source of medium-chain
triglycerides (MCT's), which increase
metabolic rates and lead to weight loss.
MCT's promote thermogenesis, which
increases the body's metabolism,
producing energy. Many people with
chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia
have found that adding coconut and
coconut oil to their diet was helpful to
them.
Coconut oil one of the best things you can
apply directly on your skin and hair. It gives
temporary relief to skin problems like
rashes. It aids in healing and restoring skin
to a younger appearance. It has also been
known to help with people who suffer from
yeast infections in the skin, as well as many
other skin problems.
Not only does is soften and smooth your
skin, coconut oil has antioxidant properties
that protect the skin from free radical
damage. Coconut oil makes excellent
massage oil too.
Evidence is mounting that coconut oil has
anti-fungal, anti-bacterial and anti-viral
effects when both consumed and used
topically on the skin.
Most oils oxidize and turn rancid very
quickly causing free radical damage in our
bodies. Coconut oil is not easily oxidized
and does not cause harmful free radical
damage like polyunsaturated vegetable
oils. Free radical damage is thought to be
responsible for many ailments in our body
from arthritis to increased susceptibility to
cancers.
Coconut oil also helps our bodies absorb
other nutrients more effectively, such as
Vitamin E.
It has a higher smoke point than olive oil,
which means it can take higher
temperatures better. There are several
healthy omega 3 oils we can choose to
consume, such as flax and olive oil, but they
don't do well under the high heat we use
for cooking. Coconut oil can be used in
higher cooking temperatures.
It is harder for coconut oil to go rancid,
unlike other cooking oils, which are usually
rancid long before you even bring them
home. Rancid oils cause free radical
damage in the body, which is a leading
cause of cancer. Coconut oil is stable for
over a year at room temperature.
Because of the misinformation we have
been given for years, we have lost out on
the healthy benefits that coconut oil has
given the people of the tropics for
centuries. But now it has been
rediscovered! Coconut oil is so effective, it
won't be long before we see coconut oil
supplements promoted, but you can get
the jump on the popular crowd and start
consuming and cooking with coconut oil
today!
2. Coconut oil
increases your
metabolism.
3. Coconut oil has
omega 3 fatty acids.
4. Coconut oil gives
you energy.
5. One of the best
things you can use on
your skin and hair is
coconut oil.
6. Coconut oil has
healthy benefits that
most other oils do
not.
7. Coconut oil is one
of the best oils you
can use for cooking.
Coconut oil
improves
sluggish
thyroids by
stimulating
the
production of
extra thyroid
hormones.
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