Understanding, Appreciating, and Learning to be Purposeful with Our

Sexuality.Trinity Fellowship Church – Spring 2015

Students ask parentsWhat were some messages you remember from your family and your community about what it meant to be a man or woman? What are some of your values for me as I grow up to be a man or woman?Parents answer first then ask studentWhat are some of the ways I have purposefully or accidentally shaped the way you think about men and women? How do you want to be perceived as a man or woman and how do you want to interact with other men and women?

1st – Introduction and Defining Sexuality 2nd – Theology of Sexuality 3rd – Maleness and Femaleness 4th – Celebrating Sexuality with Boundaries

I only need guy friends or girl friends until I am ready to get married.

I only need guy friends or girl friends after I am married

I will not need to have good boundaries once I am married.

Good boundaries will magically appear after marriage.

Flirting is inappropriate.

Even the most casual of sinful sexual encounters violates something deep within us “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body”(1 Cor 6:18-19)

Our sexuality is core to who we are and affects our body, our heart, and our relationships.

Sexual sins often don’t just affect the sinner but the effects are felt by those around and in relationship with the sinner

Not resorting to lust. (Matt 5:27-28) Not becoming enslaved to anything. (1 Cor

6:12) Look to the interests of others. (Phil 2:4) Sexual behaviors should promote intimacy.

(Gen 2:24) Do not go against your conscience. (Rom 14:23) Do not cause brothers or sisters to stumble in

his or her faith. (Rom 14:13)

Addressing this from an inside-out model. The bikini line Setting up “STOP” signs Keeping your present relationship, future

marriage, and future spouse in mind. Maintaining vibrant relationships within the

body of Christ.

Abide by conduct standards we have for our future spouse.

Will the behavior cause regret if the relationship does not result in marriage?

Is 3D intimacy the focus? Is the behavior pushing your boundaries? Is the level of physical expression

compensating for a lack of spiritual, emotional, social, or mental intimacy?

Questions on today’s material? Questions on previous material?

What stuck out to you from today's talk? How can your parents, your classmates, and

TFC help you set and maintain healthy boundaries?

How have the discussions with your parents affected your relationship with them? What would make it better?

What have you appreciated about this class and how could this class have been better?

To increase healthy communication around sexuality

To help combat unhealthy messages regarding sexuality

To encourage a correct understanding and healthy expressions of sexuality

Sexuality Our gender makeupThe need for relational connection Our sexual desires

Rosenau - Soul Virgins

Sexuality

Romantic Behaviors

Sex

Sexuality: Everyone lives in the sexuality box because God created us sexual.

Romantic Behaviors: Are complicated because some of them can be enjoyed while single and some are reserved for marriage.

Sex: Is reserved for marriage as it involves genital contact.

God gave men and women 3 dimensions to their sexualityBody (Physical) – combines hormones, blood vessels, nerves, and skin to create attraction and desireSoul (Immaterial) – involves our mind, will, heart, and emotions Spirit (Relational) – creates an ability to have intimate relationships with other people. (such as two people, two bodies, one flesh)

A personal relationship with God and understanding his design is a first priority.

An intimate relationship with God will transform our heart.

When our heart is motivated by God’s heart it will impact our behaviors.

GOD

Heart

Attitude

Behaviors

Actions

What are we supposed to do with this sexual ache as a Christian?-Redirect, take sexual energy and use it to motivate other activities -Reframe, allow other perspectives to inspire greater wholeness (changing expectations and renewing of the mind)