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Do you see a young

lady or a mature lady?

Do you see a young

lady or a mature lady?

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Do you Do you see an see an

old manold man or a or a

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Do you Do you see an see an

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rugged rugged cowboycowboy??

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What is the biggest mistake

that leaders make?

What is the biggest mistake

that leaders make?

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Leading everyone

the same way!

Leading everyone

the same way!

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Understanding Understanding “who” “who” we are helps explainwe are helps explain

“Whose” “Whose” we are!we are!

Understanding Understanding “who” “who” we are helps explainwe are helps explain

“Whose” “Whose” we are!we are!

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The path of every The path of every search must pass search must pass

beyond yourself toward beyond yourself toward knowing God better!knowing God better!

The path of every The path of every search must pass search must pass

beyond yourself toward beyond yourself toward knowing God better!knowing God better!

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““That I may know Him and That I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, the power of His resurrection,

and the fellowship of His and the fellowship of His suffering, being made suffering, being made

conformable unto His death,”conformable unto His death,” Phil. 3:10Phil. 3:10

““That I may know Him and That I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, the power of His resurrection,

and the fellowship of His and the fellowship of His suffering, being made suffering, being made

conformable unto His death,”conformable unto His death,” Phil. 3:10Phil. 3:10

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SOLVING THE MYSTERY OF MOTIVATION

SOLVING THE MYSTERY OF MOTIVATION

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Understanding everyone is

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Understanding everyone is

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"I tend to motivate others to get involved." "I tend to motivate others to get involved." • 5 — Almost Always true;• 4 — Often true;• 3 — Sometimes true;• 2 — Seldom true;• 1 — Almost Never true.

• 5 — Almost Always true;• 4 — Often true;• 3 — Sometimes true;• 2 — Seldom true;• 1 — Almost Never true.

Spiritual Gifts Profile Spiritual Gifts Profile

Instructions: Instructions:

Concerning the following statements, ask yourself how you feel about each one — How true is each statement about you? Simply respond with the numerical rating as follows:

Concerning the following statements, ask yourself how you feel about each one — How true is each statement about you? Simply respond with the numerical rating as follows:

Avoid, as much as possible, a 3 "Sometimes" choice. Don't hesitate choosing 5 (Almost Always) or 1 (Almost Never). Your desire to be humble or not exaggerate may cause you to choose more moderate responses. This may affect your results. Try to be as honest and accurate as possible.

Avoid, as much as possible, a 3 "Sometimes" choice. Don't hesitate choosing 5 (Almost Always) or 1 (Almost Never). Your desire to be humble or not exaggerate may cause you to choose more moderate responses. This may affect your results. Try to be as honest and accurate as possible.

Is this statement "Almost Always", "Often", "Sometimes", "Seldom" or "Almost Never" true

about you? Try to choose the "5, 4, 2 or 1." Avoid choosing the 3 "Sometimes."

Is this statement "Almost Always", "Often", "Sometimes", "Seldom" or "Almost Never" true

about you? Try to choose the "5, 4, 2 or 1." Avoid choosing the 3 "Sometimes."

Place your choice in the appropriate numbered box in the Numerical Ratings Chart. Notice the Scoring and Plotting Instructions and Example.

Place your choice in the appropriate numbered box in the Numerical Ratings Chart. Notice the Scoring and Plotting Instructions and Example.

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Concerning the following statements, ask yourself how you

feel about each one — How true is each statement about you?

Simply respond with the numerical rating as follows:

Concerning the following statements, ask yourself how you

feel about each one — How true is each statement about you?

Simply respond with the numerical rating as follows:


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• 5 — Almost Always true; • 4 — Often true; • 3 — Sometimes true; • 2 — Seldom true; • 1 — Almost Never true.

• 5 — Almost Always true; • 4 — Often true; • 3 — Sometimes true; • 2 — Seldom true; • 1 — Almost Never true.

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•• Avoid, as much as possible, Avoid, as much as possible, a 3 "Sometimes" choice. a 3 "Sometimes" choice.

•• Don't hesitate choosing 5 (Almost Don't hesitate choosing 5 (Almost Always) or 1 (Almost Never). Always) or 1 (Almost Never).

•• Your desire to be humble or not Your desire to be humble or not exaggerate may cause you to exaggerate may cause you to

choose more moderate responses. choose more moderate responses. •• This may affect your results. This may affect your results.

•• Try to be as honest and Try to be as honest and accurate as possible.accurate as possible.

•• Avoid, as much as possible, Avoid, as much as possible, a 3 "Sometimes" choice. a 3 "Sometimes" choice.

•• Don't hesitate choosing 5 (Almost Don't hesitate choosing 5 (Almost Always) or 1 (Almost Never). Always) or 1 (Almost Never).

•• Your desire to be humble or not Your desire to be humble or not exaggerate may cause you to exaggerate may cause you to

choose more moderate responses. choose more moderate responses. •• This may affect your results. This may affect your results.

•• Try to be as honest and Try to be as honest and accurate as possible.accurate as possible.

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Example: "I tend to motivate

others to get involved."

Example: "I tend to motivate

others to get involved."

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• Is this statement "Almost Always", "Often", "Sometimes", "Seldom" or

"Almost Never" true about you?

• Try to choose the "5, 4, 2 or 1." Avoid choosing the 3 "Sometimes."

• Is this statement "Almost Always", "Often", "Sometimes", "Seldom" or

"Almost Never" true about you?

• Try to choose the "5, 4, 2 or 1." Avoid choosing the 3 "Sometimes."

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Scoring Instructions:Scoring Instructions:

Be sure to rate your response to each choice from Be sure to rate your response to each choice from your Spiritual Gifts questionnaire. Record your your Spiritual Gifts questionnaire. Record your

choice choice 5, 4, 3, 2, or 15, 4, 3, 2, or 1 in the appropriate blank in the appropriate blank space in front of each statement.space in front of each statement.

1. ___ I love to hear evangelistic messages.1. ___ I love to hear evangelistic messages.

2. ___ I tend to be irritated when people sin.2. ___ I tend to be irritated when people sin.

3. ___ Education is very important to me..3. ___ Education is very important to me..

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• Place your choice in the appropriate numbered box in the Numerical Ratings Chart.

• Notice the Scoring and Plotting

Instructions and Example.

• Place your choice in the appropriate numbered box in the Numerical Ratings Chart.

• Notice the Scoring and Plotting

Instructions and Example.

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Scoring Instructions:Scoring Instructions:

Be sure to rate your response to each choice from the separate Spiritual Gifts Be sure to rate your response to each choice from the separate Spiritual Gifts questionnaire. Record your choice questionnaire. Record your choice 5, 4, 3, 2, or 15, 4, 3, 2, or 1 in the appropriate numbered in the appropriate numbered

question box. Total each column. Then follow the Plotting Instructions.question box. Total each column. Then follow the Plotting Instructions.

1. ___ I love to hear evangelistic message1. ___ I love to hear evangelistic message

2. ___ I tend to be irritated when people sin.2. ___ I tend to be irritated when people sin.

3. ___ Education is very important to me.3. ___ Education is very important to me.

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Transfer your numerical ratings numbers to Transfer your numerical ratings numbers to the appropriate Numerical Ratings boxes.the appropriate Numerical Ratings boxes.

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Total the columns A through G below and Total the columns A through G below and use those totals to plot your graph.use those totals to plot your graph.Total the columns A through G below and Total the columns A through G below and use those totals to plot your graph.use those totals to plot your graph.

To plot your Spiritual Gifts Profile, use the totals above. Find To plot your Spiritual Gifts Profile, use the totals above. Find the appropriate letter the appropriate letter A - G A - G in the SGP graph (left) and circle the in the SGP graph (left) and circle the number of the total under each letter. Notice Plotting Example.number of the total under each letter. Notice Plotting Example.

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Total the columns Total the columns A A through through G G below and below and use those totals to plot your graph.use those totals to plot your graph.

To plot your Spiritual Gifts Profile, use the totals above. Find To plot your Spiritual Gifts Profile, use the totals above. Find the appropriate letter the appropriate letter A - G A - G in the SGP graph (left) and circle the in the SGP graph (left) and circle the number of the total under each letter.number of the total under each letter.

Numerical Ratings Chart

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Plotting Instructions:Plotting Instructions:

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Reading Your Graph:Reading Your Graph: To determine which gifts To determine which gifts are most like you, connect the are most like you, connect the circles. Notice which gifts are circles. Notice which gifts are most intense. The higher on most intense. The higher on the profile, the more intense the profile, the more intense that gift describes you. Also that gift describes you. Also notice your next highest and notice your next highest and lowest plotting points to learn lowest plotting points to learn more about your overall gift more about your overall gift tendencies.tendencies.

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Plotting InstructionsPlotting Instructions To plot your Spiritual Gifts Graph, To plot your Spiritual Gifts Graph, first complete the first complete the Scoring InstructionsScoring Instructions at at 11 . . Then use the totals from your Then use the totals from your Numerical Ratings Chart to plot your Numerical Ratings Chart to plot your graph below. Find the appropriate graph below. Find the appropriate letter letter A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O,M, N, O, or or PP in the Spiritual Gifts in the Spiritual Gifts Graph below and circle the number of Graph below and circle the number of the total under each letter. Notice the total under each letter. Notice Plotting Example. Plotting Example.

Plotting InstructionsPlotting Instructions To plot your Spiritual Gifts Graph, To plot your Spiritual Gifts Graph, first complete the first complete the Scoring InstructionsScoring Instructions at at 11 . . Then use the totals from your Then use the totals from your Numerical Ratings Chart to plot your Numerical Ratings Chart to plot your graph below. Find the appropriate graph below. Find the appropriate letter letter A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O,M, N, O, or or PP in the Spiritual Gifts in the Spiritual Gifts Graph below and circle the number of Graph below and circle the number of the total under each letter. Notice the total under each letter. Notice Plotting Example. Plotting Example.

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““For who the whole body For who the whole body fitly joined together and fitly joined together and compacted by that which compacted by that which

every joint supplies,” every joint supplies,” Eph. 4:16Eph. 4:16

““For who the whole body For who the whole body fitly joined together and fitly joined together and compacted by that which compacted by that which

every joint supplies,” every joint supplies,” Eph. 4:16Eph. 4:16

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““But God has chosen But God has chosen the foolish things of the foolish things of

the world to the world to confound the wise,” confound the wise,”

1 Cor. 1:271 Cor. 1:27

““But God has chosen But God has chosen the foolish things of the foolish things of

the world to the world to confound the wise,” confound the wise,”

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““Everybody is somebody Everybody is somebody in His body!”in His body!”

““Everybody is somebody Everybody is somebody in His body!”in His body!”


Every member is a minister!

Every member is a minister!

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SPIRITUAL GIFTSSPIRITUAL GIFTS

Spiritual Gifts are supernatural motivations given to every believer. Everyone doesn't receive the same gift. Just as many parts of the human body work together as one, so Spiritual Gifts are given to the Body of Christ to serve as one.

Spiritual Gifts are supernatural motivations given to every believer. Everyone doesn't receive the same gift. Just as many parts of the human body work together as one, so Spiritual Gifts are given to the Body of Christ to serve as one.

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Their purpose is to encourage and mature Christians for more

effective ministry. We're going to focus on 7, 9, 16 or 23 motivational gifts in operation today. The gifts

are featured based upon their functional and practical use.

Their purpose is to encourage and mature Christians for more

effective ministry. We're going to focus on 7, 9, 16 or 23 motivational gifts in operation today. The gifts

are featured based upon their functional and practical use.

SPIRITUAL GIFTSSPIRITUAL GIFTS

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One scholar believes there One scholar believes there are 100 different spiritual are 100 different spiritual gifts found in the Bible.gifts found in the Bible.

One scholar believes there One scholar believes there are 100 different spiritual are 100 different spiritual gifts found in the Bible.gifts found in the Bible.

One is the gift of One is the gift of “martyrdom” — “martyrdom” — Rev. 2:13Rev. 2:13

One is the gift of One is the gift of “martyrdom” — “martyrdom” — Rev. 2:13Rev. 2:13

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7 SPIRITUAL GIFTS GRAPH7 SPIRITUAL GIFTS GRAPH

The 7 Spiritual Gifts are listed in

Romans 12:3-8.

The 7 Spiritual Gifts are listed in

Romans 12:3-8.

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The 9 Spiritual Gifts are listed in Romans 12:3-8

and Eph. 4:11.

The 9 Spiritual Gifts are listed in Romans 12:3-8

and Eph. 4:11.

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The 16 Spiritual Gifts listed in Romans 12,

Eph. 4, and 1 Cor. 12.

The 16 Spiritual Gifts listed in Romans 12,


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The 23 Spiritual Gifts are listed in Romans 12,


The 23 Spiritual Gifts are listed in Romans 12,


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The Gift of Administration / Ruling is seen in those who either like to

organize or delegate others.

The Gift of Administration / Ruling is seen in those who either like to

organize or delegate others.

Administration / Ruling —Administration / Ruling —

In a word: InitiatorOveruse: Expects too muchGoal: Lead by example, not manipulationScripture: Rom. 12:8, 1 Cor. 12:28; Acts 6:1-7

In a word: InitiatorOveruse: Expects too muchGoal: Lead by example, not manipulationScripture: Rom. 12:8, 1 Cor. 12:28; Acts 6:1-7

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The Gift of Leadership, much like the Gift of Administration / Ruling, is evident in those who

demonstrate an unusual ability to influence others. They seem to have an independent determination to challenge

and direct others toward a specific goal.

The Gift of Leadership, much like the Gift of Administration / Ruling, is evident in those who

demonstrate an unusual ability to influence others. They seem to have an independent determination to challenge

and direct others toward a specific goal.

Leadership —Leadership —

In a word: DreamerOveruse: Too demanding and impatientGoal: Lead by example and willingness to be a servantScripture: Rom. 12:6,8c; John 13:13-17; Heb. 13:17; John 1:45-50

In a word: DreamerOveruse: Too demanding and impatientGoal: Lead by example and willingness to be a servantScripture: Rom. 12:6,8c; John 13:13-17; Heb. 13:17; John 1:45-50

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Unlike Apostles of old, who actually saw the Lord and spread the Word from place to place, Apostles /

Pioneers today have a clear vision to start new ministries where others may not.

Unlike Apostles of old, who actually saw the Lord and spread the Word from place to place, Apostles /

Pioneers today have a clear vision to start new ministries where others may not.

Apostleship / PioneeringApostleship / Pioneering

In a word: Pioneer / VisionaryOveruse: Pushes too hard / Too much authorityGoal: Build deeper and strongerScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; 1 Cor. 9:1-2; Gal. 2:8-10; 1 Cor. 12:28-29

In a word: Pioneer / VisionaryOveruse: Pushes too hard / Too much authorityGoal: Build deeper and strongerScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; 1 Cor. 9:1-2; Gal. 2:8-10; 1 Cor. 12:28-29

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The Gift of Encouraging find themselves exhorting others. They are compelled to give

advice. As counselors, they seem to often have steps-of-action.

The Gift of Encouraging find themselves exhorting others. They are compelled to give

advice. As counselors, they seem to often have steps-of-action.

Encouraging / Exhorting —Encouraging / Exhorting —

In a word: EncouragerOveruse: Talks too muchGoal: Apply truth, not create expectationsScripture: Rom. 12:6,8; Acts 11:23-24; Heb. 10:24-25

In a word: EncouragerOveruse: Talks too muchGoal: Apply truth, not create expectationsScripture: Rom. 12:6,8; Acts 11:23-24; Heb. 10:24-25

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The Gift of Evangelism feel compelled to win souls. They seem to have the ability to communicate the gospel better than others. Their concern for witnessing to a lost

and dying world is evident.

The Gift of Evangelism feel compelled to win souls. They seem to have the ability to communicate the gospel better than others. Their concern for witnessing to a lost

and dying world is evident.

Evangelism —Evangelism —

In a word: DynamicOveruse: ZealGoal: Build disciples, not statisticsScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; Acts 8:26-40; Luke 19:1-10

In a word: DynamicOveruse: ZealGoal: Build disciples, not statisticsScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; Acts 8:26-40; Luke 19:1-10

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Givers tend to be seriously concerned about financial matters. The Gift of Giving also involves the "gift of getting." Givers are

sensitive to how money is spent and saved.

Givers tend to be seriously concerned about financial matters. The Gift of Giving also involves the "gift of getting." Givers are

sensitive to how money is spent and saved.

Giving —Giving —

In a word: StewardOveruse: The power of moneyGoal: Sincere stewardship, not financial harassmentScripture: Rom. 12:6, 8b; Acts 4:32-35; 2 Cor. 9:7-8

In a word: StewardOveruse: The power of moneyGoal: Sincere stewardship, not financial harassmentScripture: Rom. 12:6, 8b; Acts 4:32-35; 2 Cor. 9:7-8

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The Gift of Pastor / Shepherding is obvious in those who really enjoy leading others in serving the Lord. Unlike the Gift of Ministry / Serving / Helps, this gift

involves the motivation to lead.

The Gift of Pastor / Shepherding is obvious in those who really enjoy leading others in serving the Lord. Unlike the Gift of Ministry / Serving / Helps, this gift

involves the motivation to lead.

Pastor / Shepherding —Pastor / Shepherding —

In a word: LeaderOveruse: Takes advantage of other's trustGoal: Strong leadership, not manipulating the flockScripture: Eph. 4:11; 1 Pet. 5:2-4

In a word: LeaderOveruse: Takes advantage of other's trustGoal: Strong leadership, not manipulating the flockScripture: Eph. 4:11; 1 Pet. 5:2-4

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Prophets / Perceivers today are not exactly like prophets of old. Old Testament Prophets spoke the literal Word of God. Today people with the Gift of

Prophecy / Perceiving seem to have the same seriousness and straight forward

attitude toward truth.

Prophets / Perceivers today are not exactly like prophets of old. Old Testament Prophets spoke the literal Word of God. Today people with the Gift of

Prophecy / Perceiving seem to have the same seriousness and straight forward

attitude toward truth.

Prophecy / Perceiving / Proclaiming —Prophecy / Perceiving / Proclaiming —

In a word: BoldOveruse: FighterGoal: Declare truth, not divide ChristiansScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; 1 Cor. 14:1,3; 2 Pet 1:19-21

In a word: BoldOveruse: FighterGoal: Declare truth, not divide ChristiansScripture: Eph. 4:7,11; 1 Cor. 14:1,3; 2 Pet 1:19-21

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When you think of Christians who serve faithfully behind the scenes, you think of those with the Gift of Serving / Ministry / Helps. They are interested in blessing others to serve the Lord.

They love to help others.

When you think of Christians who serve faithfully behind the scenes, you think of those with the Gift of Serving / Ministry / Helps. They are interested in blessing others to serve the Lord.

They love to help others.

Serving / Ministry / Helps —Serving / Ministry / Helps —

In a word: SelflessOveruse: Takes on too muchGoal: Be a servant, not a martyrScripture: 1 Cor. 12:28; Act. 6:1-3; Rom. 16:1-2

In a word: SelflessOveruse: Takes on too muchGoal: Be a servant, not a martyrScripture: 1 Cor. 12:28; Act. 6:1-3; Rom. 16:1-2

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The Gift of Showing Mercy demonstrate genuine sensitivity to suffering. They are

compelled to help people reduce pain. They are concerned more with the person, than

the reason for the suffering.

The Gift of Showing Mercy demonstrate genuine sensitivity to suffering. They are

compelled to help people reduce pain. They are concerned more with the person, than

the reason for the suffering.

Showing Mercy —Showing Mercy —

In a word: CaringOveruse: Too sensitiveGoal: Wise insights, not foolish responsesScripture: Rom. 12:6,8d; Matt. 5:7

In a word: CaringOveruse: Too sensitiveGoal: Wise insights, not foolish responsesScripture: Rom. 12:6,8d; Matt. 5:7

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The Gift of Teaching prefer explaining why things are true. While the prophet declares truth, the teacher

explains the reasons it is true. Interested in research, those with the Gift of Teaching like to dig into

seemingly insignificant details.

The Gift of Teaching prefer explaining why things are true. While the prophet declares truth, the teacher

explains the reasons it is true. Interested in research, those with the Gift of Teaching like to dig into

seemingly insignificant details.

Teaching —Teaching —

In a word: In-depthOveruse: Digs too deepGoal: Reveal truth, not exhaust itScripture: Rom. 12:6,7b; Col. 3:16; Jam. 3:1; 2; 2 Tim. 2:2

In a word: In-depthOveruse: Digs too deepGoal: Reveal truth, not exhaust itScripture: Rom. 12:6,7b; Col. 3:16; Jam. 3:1; 2; 2 Tim. 2:2

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Psalm 139:15 describes us as “knit” in the womb.

Psalm 139:15 describes us as “knit” in the womb.


The word “knit” means we were intricately

“embroidered.”

The word “knit” means we were intricately

“embroidered.”

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We shouldn’t want to be natural. We should want to

be supernatural — to do what we do because of the power

of God in our lives.

We shouldn’t want to be natural. We should want to

be supernatural — to do what we do because of the power

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“I can do all things through Christ which strengths me,”

Phil. 4:14

“I can do all things through Christ which strengths me,”

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There are no bad

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Kind, Nice, CaringKind, Nice, Caring Proper, FormalProper, Formal

Demanding, AssertingDemanding, Asserting

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the marked L boxes to the blank spaces on the right. Thencount the total M and L "D"s, "I"s, "S"s, and "C"s and recordtotals on the Counting Instructions page in the Total Boxes.


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To help in counting the total Most and Least D's, I's, S's, and C's, you should write your choice to the side of each group of letters marked. First, record the letters marked in the specific M and L boxes to the M and L 5 blank spaces to the right of each group of boxes, then continue with the 3 Counting Instructions.

To help in counting the total Most and Least D's, I's, S's, and C's, you should write your choice to the side of each group of letters marked. First, record the letters marked in the specific M and L boxes to the M and L 5 blank spaces to the right of each group of boxes, then continue with the 3 Counting Instructions.

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IMPORTANT: If the marks don't appear within the larger boxes, check the page where you filled in the smaller boxes to see if your marks are falling high or low on the larger boxes and make the adjustment as you choose which letters to transfer.

IMPORTANT: If the marks don't appear within the larger boxes, check the page where you filled in the smaller boxes to see if your marks are falling high or low on the larger boxes and make the adjustment as you choose which letters to transfer.

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• First transfer the letters marked in the specific “M” and “L” boxes on the following Markings Sheet to the “M” and “L” blank spaces

to the right of each group of boxes.• Count the “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s marked and transferred on the three

“M” columns on the following Markings Sheet page.• Count all the “D”s marked and transferred under the three “L” columns.• Count the “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s marked and transferred on the three

“L” columns on the following Markings Sheet page.• Add the total number of “D”s, “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s spaces counted in

the Total Boxes below. It should total 24.

• First transfer the letters marked in the specific “M” and “L” boxes on the following Markings Sheet to the “M” and “L” blank spaces

to the right of each group of boxes.• Count the “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s marked and transferred on the three

“M” columns on the following Markings Sheet page.• Count all the “D”s marked and transferred under the three “L” columns.• Count the “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s marked and transferred on the three

“L” columns on the following Markings Sheet page.• Add the total number of “D”s, “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s spaces counted in

the Total Boxes below. It should total 24.

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• First, notice the carbon marks in the boxes on the following 4 Markings Sheet. The "M" boxes have D, I, S, C, and B letters to their left and the "L" boxes have D, I, S, C, and B letters to their right. Transfer the letters marked in the specific "M" and "L" boxes on the following 4 Markings Sheet to the "M" and "L" blank spaces to the 5 right of each group of boxes.

• First, notice the carbon marks in the boxes on the following 4 Markings Sheet. The "M" boxes have D, I, S, C, and B letters to their left and the "L" boxes have D, I, S, C, and B letters to their right. Transfer the letters marked in the specific "M" and "L" boxes on the following 4 Markings Sheet to the "M" and "L" blank spaces to the 5 right of each group of boxes.

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• Count all the "D"s marked and transferred under the three "M" columns on the following 4 Markings Sheet page. Be sure to count all "D"s with a carbon mark filled in and transferred only in the "M" columns. Record the total "D"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES below. Then count all the "I"s marked and transferred under the three "M" columns. Record the total "I"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES. Do the same with the total "S"s, "C"s, and "B"s spaces marked and transferred on the following 4 Markings Sheet page.

• Count all the "D"s marked and transferred under the three "M" columns on the following 4 Markings Sheet page. Be sure to count all "D"s with a carbon mark filled in and transferred only in the "M" columns. Record the total "D"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES below. Then count all the "I"s marked and transferred under the three "M" columns. Record the total "I"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES. Do the same with the total "S"s, "C"s, and "B"s spaces marked and transferred on the following 4 Markings Sheet page.


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• Count all the "D"s marked and transferred under the three "L" columns. Be sure to count all the "D"s with a carbon mark filled in and transferred only in the "L" columns. Record the total "D"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES below. Then count all the "I"s marked and transferred under the three "L" columns. Record the total "I"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES. Do the same with the total "S"s, "C"s, and "B"s spaces marked and transferred.

• Count all the "D"s marked and transferred under the three "L" columns. Be sure to count all the "D"s with a carbon mark filled in and transferred only in the "L" columns. Record the total "D"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES below. Then count all the "I"s marked and transferred under the three "L" columns. Record the total "I"s counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES. Do the same with the total "S"s, "C"s, and "B"s spaces marked and transferred.


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• Add the total number of "D"s, "I"s, "S"s, "C"s, and "B"s spaces counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES below. It should total 24. Be sure to count the "B" spaces under the three "M" columns before trying to total 24. Do the same with the three "L" columns before trying to total 24. If it doesn't add up to 24, recount and try putting a check mark by each one as you count it.

• Add the total number of "D"s, "I"s, "S"s, "C"s, and "B"s spaces counted in the 6 TOTAL BOXES below. It should total 24. Be sure to count the "B" spaces under the three "M" columns before trying to total 24. Do the same with the three "L" columns before trying to total 24. If it doesn't add up to 24, recount and try putting a check mark by each one as you count it.


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= 24= 24

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Counting InstructionsCounting Instructions

• Count the “D”s, “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s marked and transferred on the three “M” columns on the following Markings Sheet page.• Then add the total number of “D”s, “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s spaces

counted in the Total Boxes below. They should total 24.

• Count the “D”s, “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s marked and transferred on the three “M” columns on the following Markings Sheet page.• Then add the total number of “D”s, “I”s, “S”s, “C”s, and “B”s spaces

counted in the Total Boxes below. They should total 24.

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Take your D, I, S, & C Totals from your Total Boxes and plot Graphs 1 & 2. Count, but do not plot the "B"s. If a number is not on the graph, plot the closest number.

Take your D, I, S, & C Totals from your Total Boxes and plot Graphs 1 & 2. Count, but do not plot the "B"s. If a number is not on the graph, plot the closest number.


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"This is expected of me""This is expected of me" "This is me""This is me"

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Understanding the Four Temperament Model of Behavioris so important!

Understanding the Four Temperament Model of Behavioris so important!

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NatureNatureDivine DesignDivine Design

vsvsNurtureNurture

Environmental Influences Environmental Influences

NatureNatureDivine DesignDivine Design

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What recent scientific studies reveal about

Human Behavior Science and

ministry demands.

What recent scientific studies reveal about

Human Behavior Science and

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Passive TypesPassive Types

Active TypesActive Types

• Introvertive• Reserved• Realistic• Withdrawn

• Introvertive• Reserved• Realistic• Withdrawn

• Extrovertive• Outgoing• Optimistic• Involved

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ActiveActive and and

PassivePassive drives!drives!

We must balance our We must balance our

ActiveActive and and

PassivePassive drives!drives!

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High-TouchHigh-Touch

Form & FunctionForm & Function Feeling & FellowshipFeeling & Fellowship

High-TechHigh-Tech

• Caring• Sharing• Relationships• Emotions

• Caring• Sharing• Relationships• Emotions

• Plans• Programs• Projects• Process

• Plans• Programs• Projects• Process

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We must balance our We must balance our High-TechHigh-Tech

with our with our High-TouchHigh-Touch

interests!interests!

We must balance our We must balance our High-TechHigh-Tech

with our with our High-TouchHigh-Touch

interests!interests!

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Task-Oriented

Types

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abuse!

The over-use of a strengthbecomes an

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““D” Type BehaviorD” Type Behavior

Active /Active /Task-OrientedTask-Oriented

Active /Active /Task-OrientedTask-Oriented

• Dominant• Direct• Decisive• Demanding

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““I” Type BehaviorI” Type Behavior

Active /Active /People-OrientedPeople-Oriented

Active /Active /People-OrientedPeople-Oriented

• Inspiring• Influencing• Inducing• Impressive

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““S” Type BehaviorS” Type Behavior

Passive /Passive /People -OrientedPeople -Oriented

Passive /Passive /People -OrientedPeople -Oriented• Submissive

• Steady• Sensitive• Shy

• Submissive• Steady• Sensitive• Shy

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““C” Type BehaviorC” Type Behavior

Passive /Passive /Task-OrientedTask-Oriented

Passive /Passive /Task-OrientedTask-Oriented • Competent

• Compliant• Cautious• Correct

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What makes you tick?

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And What ticks you off!

What makes you tick?

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Each graph describes a personality in a different way. Each graph describes a personality in a different way. Look at each graph and find the highest plotting point. Look at each graph and find the highest plotting point.

Notice in Notice in Example AExample A, the highest point is , the highest point is "C.""C." The The next highest point is next highest point is "S.""S." This profile is a This profile is a "C/S""C/S" type type personality. personality. "C/S"s"C/S"s are cautious and steady. They like are cautious and steady. They like to do one thing at a time and do it right the first time. to do one thing at a time and do it right the first time. They also like stable and secure-oriented surroundings. They also like stable and secure-oriented surroundings. They don't like to take risks or cause trouble. They don't like to take risks or cause trouble. "C/S"s"C/S"s need to be more outgoing and positive. Their need to be more outgoing and positive. Their Behavioral Blend Behavioral Blend is is "Competent Specialist.""Competent Specialist."


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To help you read the graphs, also notice the To help you read the graphs, also notice the lowest plotting points. The example shows "I" lowest plotting points. The example shows "I" as the lowest point. It simply means that this as the lowest point. It simply means that this person doesn't enjoy inspiring or interacting person doesn't enjoy inspiring or interacting with people, while he or she tends to be more with people, while he or she tends to be more shy and calculating about things.shy and calculating about things. This person is more reserved than outgoing. This person is more reserved than outgoing. He or she likes people on an individual basis. He or she likes people on an individual basis. The low The low "I""I" is not bad. It only indicates a low is not bad. It only indicates a low interest in enthusiastic and carefree behavior.interest in enthusiastic and carefree behavior.


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Example BExample B shows a graph with a high shows a graph with a high "D/I""D/I" personality type. This person is more active than personality type. This person is more active than passive. passive. "D/I"s"D/I"s are dominant and inspiring people. are dominant and inspiring people. They like to control and influence others. They don't They like to control and influence others. They don't like to sit still or work on one thing at a time.like to sit still or work on one thing at a time. Notice the Notice the "S""S" and and "C""C" plotting points are low. plotting points are low. This means this person is not so concerned with This means this person is not so concerned with security and stability or cautious and calculating security and stability or cautious and calculating actions. Low actions. Low "S/C"s"S/C"s are more risk-takers and active are more risk-takers and active types.types.


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Example CExample C is an is an "I/S""I/S" type personality. type personality. "I/S"s"I/S"s love people. They are active / outgoing love people. They are active / outgoing in their in their "I""I" and passive/reserved in their and passive/reserved in their "S"."S". They don't like tasks. They need lots of They don't like tasks. They need lots of recognition and a stable environment. Their recognition and a stable environment. Their "D""D" and and "C""C" are low, meaning they are not are low, meaning they are not assertive/dominant or logical/contemplative assertive/dominant or logical/contemplative types.types.


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Your profile may be different. It really doesn't matter what Your profile may be different. It really doesn't matter what your personality is. The important thing is that you control your personality is. The important thing is that you control your personality, rather than allowing your personality to your personality, rather than allowing your personality to control you.control you.


Remember, there is no bad personality. We need to accept Remember, there is no bad personality. We need to accept the way we and others naturally respond as unique traits. the way we and others naturally respond as unique traits. Everyone doesn't think, feel or act the same way. Once we Everyone doesn't think, feel or act the same way. Once we understand these differences we will be more comfortable understand these differences we will be more comfortable and effective with ourselves and others. To learn more, be and effective with ourselves and others. To learn more, be sure to study the sure to study the Behavioral Blends.Behavioral Blends.

Remember, there is no bad personality. We need to accept Remember, there is no bad personality. We need to accept the way we and others naturally respond as unique traits. the way we and others naturally respond as unique traits. Everyone doesn't think, feel or act the same way. Once we Everyone doesn't think, feel or act the same way. Once we understand these differences we will be more comfortable understand these differences we will be more comfortable and effective with ourselves and others. To learn more, be and effective with ourselves and others. To learn more, be sure to study the sure to study the Behavioral Blends.Behavioral Blends.

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Two graphs are identified for each person. They Two graphs are identified for each person. They will help you understand how each person feels, thinks will help you understand how each person feels, thinks and acts. There is no bad profile. Each graph simply and acts. There is no bad profile. Each graph simply identifies a specific way the person looks at life.identifies a specific way the person looks at life.

GRAPH 1:GRAPH 1: “This is expected of me”“This is expected of me” is the is the response to how the person feels and thinks people response to how the person feels and thinks people expect him or her to behave. The person is telling you,expect him or her to behave. The person is telling you, "This is how I feel you want me to be""This is how I feel you want me to be" or or "I think you "I think you want me to act like this."want me to act like this."

People understand early in life that there are People understand early in life that there are acceptable and unacceptable actions. Everyone is acceptable and unacceptable actions. Everyone is influenced by these thoughts and feelings.influenced by these thoughts and feelings.


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GRAPH 2:GRAPH 2: “This is me”“This is me” is is the person's response to how he or she feels and the person's response to how he or she feels and thinks under pressure—how the person really feels thinks under pressure—how the person really feels and thinks inside. The person is revealing how he and thinks inside. The person is revealing how he or she will naturally respond when he or she does or she will naturally respond when he or she does not think about what is expected of him or her — not think about what is expected of him or her — usually under pressure.usually under pressure.

Everyone is born with a Everyone is born with a naturalnatural bent bent of behavior. Our parents and peers, of behavior. Our parents and peers, plus our environment growing up develop our plus our environment growing up develop our personalities into predictable patterns of behavior.personalities into predictable patterns of behavior.



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If If GRAPHS 1 and 2GRAPHS 1 and 2 are are alike, understanding the person's personality alike, understanding the person's personality will be easier. If the two graphs are will be easier. If the two graphs are different, the person may be struggling with different, the person may be struggling with an attitude about what is expected of him or an attitude about what is expected of him or her and how he or she really wants to act. her and how he or she really wants to act. Or the person may be very consistent with Or the person may be very consistent with what is expected and the real him or her. what is expected and the real him or her. Having two different graphs is not a problem Having two different graphs is not a problem and is normal for many people.and is normal for many people.


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The examples show a The examples show a "D/I""D/I" type in type in GRAPH 1GRAPH 1 and and "I/S""I/S" in in GRAPH 2GRAPH 2.. The person is revealing that he or she The person is revealing that he or she thinks people want him or her to be thinks people want him or her to be more dominant, even though he or she more dominant, even though he or she really isn't that type. He or she is also really isn't that type. He or she is also more more “S”“S” —submissive and security —submissive and security oriented than what he or she feels is oriented than what he or she feels is expected of him or her.expected of him or her.


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To understand how to read To understand how to read the two graphs , focus on each plotting point under the two graphs , focus on each plotting point under the the DISCDISC columns. columns. Every point in the upper third Every point in the upper third is considered is considered highhigh. Every point in the middle third . Every point in the middle third is is midmid. Every point in the lower third is considered . Every point in the lower third is considered lowlow. .

The higher the plotting point, The higher the plotting point, the more that the more that DISCDISC letter describes the person's letter describes the person's behavior. Study this entire bookletbehavior. Study this entire booklet to understand to understand how to apply what you learn about yourself and how to apply what you learn about yourself and others.others.


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Mary and Martha are good examples of opposite types. Martha was more active and task-oriented, while her sister, Mary, was more passive and

people-oriented. Martha demonstrated "D" type behavior while Mary showed

"S" behavior (John 11:20).

Mary and Martha are good examples of opposite types. Martha was more active and task-oriented, while her sister, Mary, was more passive and

people-oriented. Martha demonstrated "D" type behavior while Mary showed

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The Apostle Paul was definitely a "D" type. He was left for dead, imprisoned, stoned, forsaken and forgotten, yet he pressed on toward the high calling of God.

The Apostle Paul was definitely a "D" type. He was left for dead, imprisoned, stoned, forsaken and forgotten, yet he pressed on toward the high calling of God.




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Sarah exhibited “D” behavior. She grew tired of waiting for God to give her the child He promised. So she “dominated” and devised her own way. She ordered Hagar to have a child. Sarah then raised it as her own.

Sarah exhibited “D” behavior. She grew tired of waiting for God to give her the child He promised. So she “dominated” and devised her own way. She ordered Hagar to have a child. Sarah then raised it as her own.




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Peter demonstrated "I" type behavior when he often spoke-up for the disciples. He was also very dramatic. One moment Peter promises, in front of a crowd, to never forsake Christ, then a little later he denies the Lord. Yet God used Peter in a great way at Pentecost.

Peter demonstrated "I" type behavior when he often spoke-up for the disciples. He was also very dramatic. One moment Peter promises, in front of a crowd, to never forsake Christ, then a little later he denies the Lord. Yet God used Peter in a great way at Pentecost.




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Ruth showed “I” behavior when she enticed Naomi to let her travel with her. Ruth demonstrated family loyalty and an adventurous spirit by her willingness to move to a foreign country.

Ruth showed “I” behavior when she enticed Naomi to let her travel with her. Ruth demonstrated family loyalty and an adventurous spirit by her willingness to move to a foreign country.




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Moses seemed to show "S" behavior when God told him to lead the children of Israel out of Egypt. Moses was unsure of himself. He even tried to get Aaron to be the leader.

Moses seemed to show "S" behavior when God told him to lead the children of Israel out of Egypt. Moses was unsure of himself. He even tried to get Aaron to be the leader.




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Hannah is a good example of “S” behavior. She was submissive and remained faithful, even though her dreams were not fulfilled. She may have appeared “unstable” when she prayed in the temple. Her reaction after praying shows she was very stable.

Hannah is a good example of “S” behavior. She was submissive and remained faithful, even though her dreams were not fulfilled. She may have appeared “unstable” when she prayed in the temple. Her reaction after praying shows she was very stable.




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Thomas, the Disciple, exhibited "C" behavior when he doubted Christ's resurrection. Jesus didn't belittle Thomas, but gave him the evidence needed to serve the Lord in a great way.

Thomas, the Disciple, exhibited "C" behavior when he doubted Christ's resurrection. Jesus didn't belittle Thomas, but gave him the evidence needed to serve the Lord in a great way.




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Esther seems to be a good example of “C” behavior. As the Queen, she was willing to comply with the rules and requirements of her position. Yet, when it became necessary to “bend” those rules, she wanted to make sure that it was done correctly.

Esther seems to be a good example of “C” behavior. As the Queen, she was willing to comply with the rules and requirements of her position. Yet, when it became necessary to “bend” those rules, she wanted to make sure that it was done correctly.




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DISCOVERING YOUR BEHAVIORAL BLENDDISCOVERING YOUR BEHAVIORAL BLEND

D: DETERMINED DOERSD: DETERMINED DOERSDISCDISC

• "D"s are dominant and demanding."D"s are dominant and demanding.• They win at all costs.They win at all costs.• They do not care as much about what people think as they They do not care as much about what people think as they care about getting the job done. care about getting the job done.

• Their insensitivity to feelings makes them too strong.Their insensitivity to feelings makes them too strong.• They are great at developing things, but they need to They are great at developing things, but they need to improve their ability to do things correctly.improve their ability to do things correctly.

• Their strong will should be disciplined to prepare and Their strong will should be disciplined to prepare and think more accurately about what they are doing.think more accurately about what they are doing.

• They are motivated by serious challenges to accomplish They are motivated by serious challenges to accomplish

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• • Be careful to not offend when you take charge— Be careful to not offend when you take charge— "The servant of the Lord must not strive (be pushy), but be gentle,""The servant of the Lord must not strive (be pushy), but be gentle," 2 Tim. 2:24. 2 Tim. 2:24.

• • Be careful to not offend when you take charge— Be careful to not offend when you take charge— "The servant of the Lord must not strive (be pushy), but be gentle,""The servant of the Lord must not strive (be pushy), but be gentle," 2 Tim. 2:24. 2 Tim. 2:24.

• • Anger is normal, but must be controlled— Anger is normal, but must be controlled— "Be angry and sin not,""Be angry and sin not," Eph. 4:26. Eph. 4:26.• • Anger is normal, but must be controlled— Anger is normal, but must be controlled— "Be angry and sin not,""Be angry and sin not," Eph. 4:26. Eph. 4:26.

• • Be motivated to purity and peace— Be motivated to purity and peace— "Wisdom from above is first pure, peaceable . . .,""Wisdom from above is first pure, peaceable . . .," James 3:17. James 3:17.• • Be motivated to purity and peace— Be motivated to purity and peace— "Wisdom from above is first pure, peaceable . . .,""Wisdom from above is first pure, peaceable . . .," James 3:17. James 3:17.

• • Focus on doing ONE thing well—Focus on doing ONE thing well—"This ONE thing I do," "This ONE thing I do," Phil. 3:13.Phil. 3:13. • • Focus on doing ONE thing well—Focus on doing ONE thing well—"This ONE thing I do," "This ONE thing I do," Phil. 3:13.Phil. 3:13.

• • Always remember, God is the Master of you fate— Always remember, God is the Master of you fate— ""The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom," The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom," Prov. 1:7.Prov. 1:7.• • Always remember, God is the Master of you fate— Always remember, God is the Master of you fate— ""The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom," The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom," Prov. 1:7.Prov. 1:7.

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Take it — Or leave it! Heaven — Or Hell,Take it — Or leave it! Heaven — Or Hell,the choice is yours! No challenge is toothe choice is yours! No challenge is too

big!" Commando For Christ"big!" Commando For Christ"Enjoys "Confrontational Evangelism"Enjoys "Confrontational Evangelism"

"I" Type Personality "I" Type Personality With The Gift of With The Gift of

EvangelismEvangelism Christ has come to give you LIFEChrist has come to give you LIFEabundantly! abundantly! TTrust Christ and you'll be arust Christ and you'll be a

better athlete, businessperson, etc.better athlete, businessperson, etc."Cheerleaders For Christ""Cheerleaders For Christ"

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Come now and let us reason together!Come now and let us reason together!Ready always to give an answer!Ready always to give an answer!Process and structured approach.Process and structured approach.

"W"Walking Encyclopedias For Christ"alking Encyclopedias For Christ"Prefers "One-on-one discussion / debate"Prefers "One-on-one discussion / debate"

"S" Type Personality With "S" Type Personality With The Gift of EvangelismThe Gift of Evangelism

Christ is a friend who sticksChrist is a friend who stickscloser than a brother! He will never leavecloser than a brother! He will never leaveyou or forsake you! "Martyr For Christ"you or forsake you! "Martyr For Christ"

Desires "Friendship / RelationshipDesires "Friendship / RelationshipEvangelism" Not confrontation!Evangelism" Not confrontation!

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• • Take it — Or leave it! Heaven — Or Hell, Take it — Or leave it! Heaven — Or Hell, the choice is your!the choice is your!

• • No challenge is too big!”No challenge is too big!”

• • Commando For Christ"Commando For Christ"

• • Enjoys "Confrontational Evangelism"Enjoys "Confrontational Evangelism"

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"I" Type Personality With "I" Type Personality With The Gift of EvangelismThe Gift of Evangelism

• • Christ has come to give you LIFE abundantly!Christ has come to give you LIFE abundantly!

• • Trust Christ and you'll be a better athlete, Trust Christ and you'll be a better athlete, businessperson, etc.businessperson, etc.

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"S" Type Personality With "S" Type Personality With The Gift of EvangelismThe Gift of Evangelism

• • Christ is a friend who sticks closer than a brother!Christ is a friend who sticks closer than a brother!

• • He will never leave you or forsake you!He will never leave you or forsake you!

• • "Martyr For Christ""Martyr For Christ"

• • Desires "Friendship / Relationship Evangelism” Desires "Friendship / Relationship Evangelism” Not confrontation!Not confrontation!

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• • Come now and let us reason together!Come now and let us reason together!

• • Ready always to give an answer!Ready always to give an answer!

• • Process and structured approach.Process and structured approach.

• • Walking Encyclopedias For Christ"Walking Encyclopedias For Christ"

• • Prefers "One-on-one discussion / debate"Prefers "One-on-one discussion / debate"

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Involvement / Spiritual Gifts PerspectiveInvolvement / Spiritual Gifts Perspective

ADMINISTRATION / RULINGADMINISTRATION / RULING

Abilities: Abilities: Organizing or delegating tasks.Organizing or delegating tasks.

Opportunities: Opportunities: Group Leader, Office, Personnel.Group Leader, Office, Personnel.

Warning:Warning: Avoid thinking everyone will get involved.Avoid thinking everyone will get involved.

Reward: Reward: Seeing people work together to accomplish Seeing people work together to accomplish difficult tasks. difficult tasks.

Prayer: Prayer: "Dear God, Help me to be tolerant to those who "Dear God, Help me to be tolerant to those who don't respond like I think they should." don't respond like I think they should."

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Reward:Reward: Follow your spiritual leaders. Allow Christ to be the Lord of Follow your spiritual leaders. Allow Christ to be the Lord of your life, and God will use you in a great way to move the ministry your life, and God will use you in a great way to move the ministry forward.forward.

Reward:Reward: Follow your spiritual leaders. Allow Christ to be the Lord of Follow your spiritual leaders. Allow Christ to be the Lord of your life, and God will use you in a great way to move the ministry your life, and God will use you in a great way to move the ministry forward.forward.

Warning:Warning: You want to control everyone, but must first control yourself. You want to control everyone, but must first control yourself. Remember Remember "to have authority, you must be under authority.” "to have authority, you must be under authority.” Be loyal to Be loyal to your leaders.your leaders.

Warning:Warning: You want to control everyone, but must first control yourself. You want to control everyone, but must first control yourself. Remember Remember "to have authority, you must be under authority.” "to have authority, you must be under authority.” Be loyal to Be loyal to your leaders.your leaders.

Opportunities:Opportunities: Organize needed ministry , chair Stewardship Organize needed ministry , chair Stewardship Committee, head Usher's Committee, commit to specific challenge.Committee, head Usher's Committee, commit to specific challenge.Opportunities:Opportunities: Organize needed ministry , chair Stewardship Organize needed ministry , chair Stewardship Committee, head Usher's Committee, commit to specific challenge.Committee, head Usher's Committee, commit to specific challenge.

Abilities:Abilities: Lead, take stand, confront issue, persevere, dictate, make Lead, take stand, confront issue, persevere, dictate, make decisions and control.decisions and control.Abilities:Abilities: Lead, take stand, confront issue, persevere, dictate, make Lead, take stand, confront issue, persevere, dictate, make decisions and control.decisions and control.

Prayer:Prayer: “Dear God, control my driving, demanding and dominant: “Dear God, control my driving, demanding and dominant: personality, so I can be a strong and peace-making leader for your personality, so I can be a strong and peace-making leader for your glory.”glory.”

Prayer:Prayer: “Dear God, control my driving, demanding and dominant: “Dear God, control my driving, demanding and dominant: personality, so I can be a strong and peace-making leader for your personality, so I can be a strong and peace-making leader for your glory.”glory.”

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Place members in ministries

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Place members in ministries

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PREPARE YOUR MINISTRY FOR

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PREPARE YOUR MINISTRY FOR

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Create an atmosphere

and environment for growth!

Create an atmosphere

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Assessing your ministry's

most urgent needs!

Assessing your ministry's

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Identifying specific

elements for growth!

Identifying specific

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Empower members to do "the work of the

ministry"

Empower members to do "the work of the

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"Choose You This Day Who and Where You Will Serve" "Choose You This Day Who and Where You Will Serve"


“I” Types —

InterpretingInterpretingKid Kmp/VBSKid Kmp/VBS

MediaMediaMen's Min.Men's Min.

MissionsMissionsMusicMusic

NewcomersNewcomersNew Mem.New Mem.

OrchestraOrchestraOrganOrganPhotographyPhotography

DramaDramaEldersElders

ElementaryElementaryEvangelismEvangelism

Encouragemt.Encouragemt.GreetersGreeters

Graphic ArtsGraphic ArtsHigh SchoolHigh SchoolHispanic Min.Hispanic Min.Housing Visitr.Housing Visitr.Jr. HighJr. High

BandBandBig BrothersBig BrothersBowlingBowlingChoirChoir

CoachingCoachingCollege/CareerCollege/Career

Communicatn.Communicatn.ConcertsConcertsCounselingCounselingDeaconsDeaconsDiscipleshipDiscipleship

PianoPianoPrayerPrayerPublicityPublicityScript. Read.Script. Read.ReceptionistReceptionistRecreationRecreationSecretarySecretarySenior AdultsSenior AdultsSingle AdultsSingle AdultsSong LeaderSong LeaderSummer CampSummer Camp

Supper ClubSupper ClubSupport GroupSupport GroupTeacherTeacherTelephoneCall.TelephoneCall.TrusteeTrusteeUsherUsherVideoVideoVisitationVisitationWomen's Min.Women's Min.WorshipWorshipYouthYouthYouth ChoirYouth Choir

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Fitly Joined Together

Altar Counsel.Altar Counsel.Adult ChoirAdult ChoirBandBandBig BrothersBig BrothersChoirChoirCoachingCoachingCollege/CareerCollege/CareerCommunicationCommunicationConcertsConcertsCounselingCounselingDeaconsDeaconsDiscipleshipDiscipleshipDramaDramaEldersEldersEncouragementEncouragementEvangelismEvangelismHigh SchoolHigh School

Jr. HighJr. HighMediaMediaMen's MinistryMen's MinistryNewsletterNewsletterNurseNursePrayerPrayerPrintingPrintingReceptionistReceptionistScript. ReaderScript. ReaderSingle ParentsSingle ParentsTape MinistryTape MinistryTeachingTeachingTrusteesTrusteesVideoVideoVisitationVisitationWomen's Min.Women's Min.WorshipWorshipWritingWriting


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God gifted you to glorify Himself.He also blesses you for honoring Him.

Many Christians are miserable, because they don't understand how God wants to exercise His gifts through them. True enjoyment only comes when we exercise God's grace in our lives.

God gifted you to glorify Himself.He also blesses you for honoring Him.

Many Christians are miserable, because they don't understand how God wants to exercise His gifts through them. True enjoyment only comes when we exercise God's grace in our lives.


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Grace is not only "undeserved mercy," it is also the "ability and power to do God's will!" God has given each of us His immeasurable and sufficient grace to glorify Himself.

Grace is not only "undeserved mercy," it is also the "ability and power to do God's will!" God has given each of us His immeasurable and sufficient grace to glorify Himself.


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God's specific will is that every Christian honor and

serve Him! We glorify Him best when we allow God to use our giftedness in ministry!

God's specific will is that every Christian honor and

serve Him! We glorify Him best when we allow God to use our giftedness in ministry!



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"If any man serve me, him will my

Father honor," John 12:26.

"If any man serve me, him will my

Father honor," John 12:26.

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74. ___ Musician74. ___ Musician75. ___ Newcomers75. ___ Newcomers76. ___ New Members76. ___ New Members77. ___ Newsletter77. ___ Newsletter78. ___ Nurse78. ___ Nurse79. ___ Nursery79. ___ Nursery80. ___ Office Mach.80. ___ Office Mach.81. ___ Orchestra81. ___ Orchestra82. ___ Organ82. ___ Organ83. ___ Personnel83. ___ Personnel84. ___ Photography84. ___ Photography85. ___ Physician85. ___ Physician86. ___ Piano86. ___ Piano87. ___ Prayer87. ___ Prayer PreschoolPreschool 88. ___ Sunday88. ___ Sunday

111. ___ Summer Camp111. ___ Summer Camp112. ___ Supplies112. ___ Supplies113. ___ Supper Club113. ___ Supper Club114. ___ Support Groups114. ___ Support Groups115. ___ Tape Ministry115. ___ Tape Ministry116. ___ Teaching116. ___ Teaching117. ___ Telephone Call.117. ___ Telephone Call.118. ___ Tutoring118. ___ Tutoring119. ___ Transportation119. ___ Transportation120. ___ Trustees120. ___ Trustees121. ___ Ushers121. ___ Ushers122. ___ Vehicles122. ___ Vehicles123. ___ Video123. ___ Video124. ___ Visitation124. ___ Visitation125. ___ Visitor Cards125. ___ Visitor Cards126. ___ Weddings126. ___ Weddings

Place an "EE" next to each area you have experience.Place an "II" in the areas you find interesting.Place an "HH" in the areas that are your passions / heart.

Opportunities For MinistryOpportunities For Ministry

1. ___ Accounting1. ___ Accounting2. ___ Adult Choir2. ___ Adult Choir3. ___ Altar Counselor3. ___ Altar Counselor4. ___ Band4. ___ Band5. ___ Baptism5. ___ Baptism6. ___ Benevolence6. ___ Benevolence7. ___ Bereaving7. ___ Bereaving8. ___ Big Brothers8. ___ Big Brothers9. ___ Bookstore9. ___ Bookstore10. ___ Bowling10. ___ Bowling11. ___ Carpentry11. ___ Carpentry12. ___ Child Care12. ___ Child Care13. ___ Children13. ___ Children14. ___ Choir14. ___ Choir15. ___ Cleaning15. ___ Cleaning16. ___ Clerical16. ___ Clerical

39. ___ Floral Arrang.39. ___ Floral Arrang.40. ___ Follow-up40. ___ Follow-up41. ___ Foods41. ___ Foods42. ___ Graphic Arts42. ___ Graphic Arts43. ___ Greeters43. ___ Greeters44. ___ Grounds44. ___ Grounds45. ___ Hispanic Min.45. ___ Hispanic Min. High SchoolHigh School 46. ___ Sunday46. ___ Sunday 47. ___ Mid-week47. ___ Mid-week 48. ___ Special Evts.48. ___ Special Evts.49. ___ Housing Visitor49. ___ Housing Visitor50. ___ Hospitals50. ___ Hospitals51. ___ Hospitality51. ___ Hospitality52. ___ Hospice52. ___ Hospice Infants / ToddlersInfants / Toddlers

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How to become an effective

Servant Leader!

How to become an effective

Servant Leader!

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"D" Leaders —"D" Leaders —"D" Leaders —"D" Leaders —

Leadership StylesLeadership Styles

•• Take controlTake control•• Seek power and authoritySeek power and authority•• Don't like being told what to doDon't like being told what to do•• Can be too pushy and forcefulCan be too pushy and forceful•• Are hard workersAre hard workers•• Accomplish difficult tasksAccomplish difficult tasks•• Are direct and decisiveAre direct and decisive•• Need to control their demanding waysNeed to control their demanding ways•• Need to slow down, and be gentleNeed to slow down, and be gentle•• Need to be more sensitive to othersNeed to be more sensitive to others

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Discipleship according to temperament

types.

Discipleship according to temperament

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Leadership StylesLeadership Styles

“S” Followers —“S” Followers —

• "S" followers don't make quick decisions. • They like leaders who are understanding and

gentle. • They want to establish a relationship with a

leader who will be around for a long time. • "S"s are concerned about service and stability. • When it comes to sensible and slow judgment,

"S" followers feel right at home. • They like familiar and low-key environments.

• "S" followers don't make quick decisions. • They like leaders who are understanding and

gentle. • They want to establish a relationship with a

leader who will be around for a long time. • "S"s are concerned about service and stability. • When it comes to sensible and slow judgment,

"S" followers feel right at home. • They like familiar and low-key environments.

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Speaking and teaching to the interests/needs

of everyone!

Speaking and teaching to the interests/needs

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You communicate 7% with your words,

38% with your tone, & 55% with your actions!

You communicate 7% with your words,

38% with your tone, & 55% with your actions!

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Most of the problems in the church today

are not theological, they are relational —

personality clashes among members!

Most of the problems in the church today

are not theological, they are relational —

personality clashes among members!


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A Harvard University study of people fired showed that for every one dismissal based on a failure to do work properly,

there were two for personality factors!

A Harvard University study of people fired showed that for every one dismissal based on a failure to do work properly,

there were two for personality factors!


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Networking Without Conflict Management Is

Disastrous!

Networking Without Conflict Management Is

Disastrous!

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How To Handle ConflictsHow To Handle Conflicts


"D" Behavior —"D" Behavior —

Under Pressure:Under Pressure: Becomes dictatorial, domineering, Becomes dictatorial, domineering, demanding, angry, intense, forceful, direct, bossy.demanding, angry, intense, forceful, direct, bossy.

Sources of Irritation:Sources of Irritation: Weakness, indecisiveness, Weakness, indecisiveness, laziness Lack of — discipline, plan, purpose, direction, laziness Lack of — discipline, plan, purpose, direction, authority, control, challenge.authority, control, challenge.

Needs To:Needs To: Back off, seek peace, relax, think before Back off, seek peace, relax, think before reacting, control self, be — patient, loving friendly, reacting, control self, be — patient, loving friendly, loyal, kind, sensitive.loyal, kind, sensitive.

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"I" Behavior —"I" Behavior —

Under Pressure:Under Pressure: Becomes hyper, overly optimistic, Becomes hyper, overly optimistic, immature, emotional, irrational, silly, wordy, selfish.immature, emotional, irrational, silly, wordy, selfish.

Sources of Irritation:Sources of Irritation: Disinterest, slowness, pessimism, Disinterest, slowness, pessimism, details, time restraints, antagonism, doubt, structure, lack details, time restraints, antagonism, doubt, structure, lack of — enthusiasm, team participation.of — enthusiasm, team participation.

Needs To:Needs To: Listen, count the cost, control emotions, be — Listen, count the cost, control emotions, be — humble, strong, disciplined, punctual, careful with words, humble, strong, disciplined, punctual, careful with words, conscientious.conscientious.

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"S" Behavior —"S" Behavior —Under Pressure:Under Pressure: Becomes subservient, insecure, Becomes subservient, insecure, fearful, weak-willed, withdrawn, sympathizer, fearful, weak-willed, withdrawn, sympathizer, sucker.sucker.

Sources of Irritation:Sources of Irritation: Pushiness, instability, Pushiness, instability, inflexibility, anger, disloyalty, insensitivity, pride, inflexibility, anger, disloyalty, insensitivity, pride, discrimination, unfairness.discrimination, unfairness.

Needs To:Needs To: Be — strong, courageous, challenging, Be — strong, courageous, challenging, aggressive, assertive, confrontational, enthusiastic, aggressive, assertive, confrontational, enthusiastic, outgoing, expressive, cautious, bold.outgoing, expressive, cautious, bold.

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"C" Behavior —"C" Behavior —

Under Pressure:Under Pressure: Becomes moody, critical, Becomes moody, critical, contemplative, negative, worrisome.contemplative, negative, worrisome.

Sources of Irritation:Sources of Irritation: Incompetence, Incompetence, disorganization, foolishness, dishonesty, inaccuracy, disorganization, foolishness, dishonesty, inaccuracy, wastefulness, inconsistency, blind faith, false wastefulness, inconsistency, blind faith, false impressions.impressions.

Needs To:Needs To: Loosen up, communicate, be — joyful, Loosen up, communicate, be — joyful, positive, tolerant, compromising, open, trusting, positive, tolerant, compromising, open, trusting, enthusiastic.enthusiastic.

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Covenant —Covenant —Covenant —Covenant —• • Follow the Principle of Priorities.Follow the Principle of Priorities.• • Follow the Principle of Priorities.Follow the Principle of Priorities.

• • Glorify God, build harmony in the church, and avoid Glorify God, build harmony in the church, and avoid conflicts.conflicts.• • Glorify God, build harmony in the church, and avoid Glorify God, build harmony in the church, and avoid conflicts.conflicts.

• • Do as Matthew 18 admonishes—go to an offending Do as Matthew 18 admonishes—go to an offending brother "first alone."brother "first alone."• • Do as Matthew 18 admonishes—go to an offending Do as Matthew 18 admonishes—go to an offending brother "first alone."brother "first alone."

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First Step —First Step —First Step —First Step —

• • I will not first share the offense with another person.I will not first share the offense with another person.• • I will not first share the offense with another person.I will not first share the offense with another person.

•• I am committed to restoring the relationship, rather I am committed to restoring the relationship, rather than exposing possible sinthan exposing possible sin•• I am committed to restoring the relationship, rather I am committed to restoring the relationship, rather than exposing possible sinthan exposing possible sin

• • I recognize most problems with people are personality I recognize most problems with people are personality clashes.clashes.• • I recognize most problems with people are personality I recognize most problems with people are personality clashes.clashes.

•• I will try to understand their actions based upon their I will try to understand their actions based upon their perspective.perspective.•• I will try to understand their actions based upon their I will try to understand their actions based upon their perspective.perspective.



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Second Step —• Seek a neutral and mature individual who will listen to

each of our perspectives. • This person will hopefully be able to shed light on one or

both of our blind spots or areas of needed growth in order to glorify God.

• Recognize that the "witness" may reveal or say things I won't like.

• Believe God is using him or her to resolve the conflict, rather than take sides.

(The "witness" must be an individual with deep spiritual wisdom and highly respected by everyone involved.)

Second Step —• Seek a neutral and mature individual who will listen to

each of our perspectives. • This person will hopefully be able to shed light on one or

both of our blind spots or areas of needed growth in order to glorify God.

• Recognize that the "witness" may reveal or say things I won't like.

• Believe God is using him or her to resolve the conflict, rather than take sides.

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Warning —• Don't seek to find others who have also been offended.• Don't share concerns with potential "witnesses" prior to

the meeting. • The purpose of having a "witness" is not to validate hurts,

but rather open hearts and minds to t he possible needs regarding our relationships with others.

• Realize friends may naturally listen to concerns, but also take up offense.

• Whenever I feel an urge to share the offense with my friends, I will pray and commune with God about my hurt.

Warning —• Don't seek to find others who have also been offended.• Don't share concerns with potential "witnesses" prior to

the meeting. • The purpose of having a "witness" is not to validate hurts,

but rather open hearts and minds to t he possible needs regarding our relationships with others.

• Realize friends may naturally listen to concerns, but also take up offense.

• Whenever I feel an urge to share the offense with my friends, I will pray and commune with God about my hurt.



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Confronting Ministry Leaders —• I believe in the scriptural admonition to not

rebuke an Elder (spiritual leader), other than in grave matters of misconduct and open sin (1 Timothy 5:19).

• I will earnestly pray for and follow those God has placed in leadership over me.

• I will not allow anyone to criticize them without following the principles in Matthew 18 and without the specific person present.

Confronting Ministry Leaders —• I believe in the scriptural admonition to not

rebuke an Elder (spiritual leader), other than in grave matters of misconduct and open sin (1 Timothy 5:19).

• I will earnestly pray for and follow those God has placed in leadership over me.

• I will not allow anyone to criticize them without following the principles in Matthew 18 and without the specific person present.



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If I have a problem with my ministry leader, • I will go "first alone" to them. • I will not share my concern with anyone. • I will listen and try to understand their perspective of the problem. • If I am not satisfied with their explanation and continue to have animosity, • I will ask permission and counsel to find a "witness" who may help our conflict.

If I have a problem with my ministry leader, • I will go "first alone" to them. • I will not share my concern with anyone. • I will listen and try to understand their perspective of the problem. • If I am not satisfied with their explanation and continue to have animosity, • I will ask permission and counsel to find a "witness" who may help our conflict.



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• If the "witness" finds I have misunderstood the situation and should continue no further, I will trust God to complete His work in my life by casting my burden on the Lord and leaving it there.

• If the "witness" finds I have misunderstood the situation and should continue no further, I will trust God to complete His work in my life by casting my burden on the Lord and leaving it there.



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• If the "witness" agrees with my concern and finds the ministry leader wrong and the leader refuses to hear the "witness," we will then find a group of two or three other "witnesses" who will hear the matter and determine what God is doing through this conflict.

• If the "witness" agrees with my concern and finds the ministry leader wrong and the leader refuses to hear the "witness," we will then find a group of two or three other "witnesses" who will hear the matter and determine what God is doing through this conflict.



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Serious Step —Serious Step —Serious Step —Serious Step —

•• If I continue to find fault with a ministry leader If I continue to find fault with a ministry leader and cannot worship in "spirit and truth," I will and cannot worship in "spirit and truth," I will seek to join another ministry , rather than cause seek to join another ministry , rather than cause any conflict and disharmonyany conflict and disharmony

•• If I continue to find fault with a ministry leader If I continue to find fault with a ministry leader and cannot worship in "spirit and truth," I will and cannot worship in "spirit and truth," I will seek to join another ministry , rather than cause seek to join another ministry , rather than cause any conflict and disharmonyany conflict and disharmony

• • I am committed to pleasing God through I am committed to pleasing God through resolving my conflicts, even if it means separating resolving my conflicts, even if it means separating myself from the source of my irritations.myself from the source of my irritations.

• • I am committed to pleasing God through I am committed to pleasing God through resolving my conflicts, even if it means separating resolving my conflicts, even if it means separating myself from the source of my irritations.myself from the source of my irritations.



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Ultimate Goal —Ultimate Goal —Ultimate Goal —Ultimate Goal —•• I commit myself to be spiritual, rather than I commit myself to be spiritual, rather than "normal" and supernatural, rather than "normal" and supernatural, rather than "natural" when it comes to solving my problems "natural" when it comes to solving my problems with others.with others.

•• I commit myself to be spiritual, rather than I commit myself to be spiritual, rather than "normal" and supernatural, rather than "normal" and supernatural, rather than "natural" when it comes to solving my problems "natural" when it comes to solving my problems with others.with others.

•• I want God's will and way to resolve my I want God's will and way to resolve my conflicts and will do as the Holy Bible teaches, conflicts and will do as the Holy Bible teaches, regardless of my normal and natural feelings.regardless of my normal and natural feelings.

•• I want God's will and way to resolve my I want God's will and way to resolve my conflicts and will do as the Holy Bible teaches, conflicts and will do as the Holy Bible teaches, regardless of my normal and natural feelings.regardless of my normal and natural feelings.



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My ultimate goal is to glorify God through bearing much fruit, getting involved

in ministry, and avoiding and resolving conflicts.

My ultimate goal is to glorify God through bearing much fruit, getting involved

in ministry, and avoiding and resolving conflicts.


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Call For CommitmentCall For Commitment"Present your bodies living "Present your bodies living

sacrifices to God . . . to sacrifices to God . . . to discover what is that good discover what is that good

and acceptable will of God,” and acceptable will of God,”

Rom. 12: 1, 2Rom. 12: 1, 2

"Present your bodies living "Present your bodies living sacrifices to God . . . to sacrifices to God . . . to

discover what is that good discover what is that good and acceptable will of God,” and acceptable will of God,”

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Success or FailureSuccess or Failure


““I have set before you life and I have set before you life and death, blessings and cursings: death, blessings and cursings: therefore choose life, that both therefore choose life, that both you and your seed may live,” you and your seed may live,”

Deut. 30:19Deut. 30:19

““I have set before you life and I have set before you life and death, blessings and cursings: death, blessings and cursings: therefore choose life, that both therefore choose life, that both you and your seed may live,” you and your seed may live,”

Deut. 30:19Deut. 30:19

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Identifying and Understanding

Group Dynamics!

Identifying and Understanding

Group Dynamics!

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How to build a Team

atmosphere!

How to build a Team

atmosphere!

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Surrounding yourself

with the right people!

Surrounding yourself

with the right people!

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How each person fits to make

the most effective team!

How each person fits to make

the most effective team!

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Determining the strengths and

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effectiveness of groups!

Designing strategies to balance

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Discovering Membership

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401Home BaseDiscovering

Missions

Pitcher'sMound

DiscoveringMagnification

301Third Base

Discovering Ministry

Leadership

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Comprehensive PERSONAL ANALYSIS

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Comprehensive PERSONAL ANALYSIS

computer report

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Using computers for

personnel prospecting!

Using computers for

personnel prospecting!

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COMPUTER PROGRAM

Uniquely You C·A·N

COMPUTER PROGRAM

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Connecting Assimilating Networking Members!

Connecting Assimilating Networking Members!

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Customize your own assimilation/

networking program and tool!

Customize your own assimilation/

networking program and tool!

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Thank YouThank You for sharing in for sharing in our discovery!our discovery!

Thank YouThank You for sharing in for sharing in our discovery!our discovery!


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