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success17 Comfortable
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reporter Nellie22 Struggle23 Links “Heads up!”25 Out of __:
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history35 Actress Vardalos36 Serenade
accompaniment37 “Need __?”: “Hop
in!”39 Pablo Neruda
works40 Drive up the wall,
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61 “House” actorEpps
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a popular gameseries
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YESTERDAY’S SOLUTION
Dear Annie: My sister-in-lawasked me to wipe her PC’s harddrive so she could donate it. Inthe process, I discovered an oldsuicide note she had written. Itdates back five years, which wasa time when I know she feltoverwhelmed caring for a dis-abled friend. In the note, it saysshe felt terribly burdened bythis unwanted responsibility.
My sister-in-law recentlymoved back home to take careof her father, who is aging but isotherwise in good health. I’mafraid she may get overwhelmedagain. What should I do?
— Help for My Brother’s WifeDear Wife: Any caregiver
can feel overwhelmed, and youwould not be breaking any confi-dences to offer assistance andsupport. Ask whether you couldshop for groceries or pick up aprescription. If Dad is healthyenough to be left alone, takeyour sister-in-law out for coffeeand conversation. If not, tell heryou’ll sit with Dad for an hour soshe can have a break. Talk to heroften. And make sure she hasthe contact information forresources such as the EldercareLocator (eldercare.gov) at 1-800-677-1116 and the National Family
Caregivers Association(nfcacares.org).
Dear Annie: Next monthwould have been my fourth anni-versary had I not moved out ofthe house I shared with my hus-band, who is 12 years my junior.
“John” and I have been in arelationship for almost 10 years,and I thought I knew him. Theproblem started soon after ourwedding, when I returned froman out-of-state trip and foundpictures he had taken of himself— naked, graphic and posingsuggestively with photos ofother men. John said he was justcurious about taking them anddenies ever posting the picturesonline. I thought we workedthrough it after many heartfeltdiscussions, but then six monthsago, I caught him surfing gayporn on my computer, as well aswatching it on TV.
He promised he would go to
counseling, and I gave him onelast chance, saying I would leavehim if he lied to me about itagain. In February, I ran a pro-file of the top five websites thathe visits — and they were allporn. I also discovered that hehas charged porn to his creditcard.
That was the last straw. Irented a house, and he finallyrealized that I was serious. Buthe doesn’t understand why Iwant out of the relationship. Hesays it’s “just porn” and refusescounseling.
Annie, I am a pretty, petite,youthful woman with a greatjob. I refuse to keep enablinghim. Should I stay with him eventhough I will never trust orrespect him again?
— Suicidal and AngryDear Angry: Trust and
respect are two importantaspects of a healthy marriage.If counseling does not help youregain those elements, we don’tsee a happy future for you.
ANNIE’SMAILBOX
Kathy MitchellMarcy Sugar
Caregiving burdens sister-in-law
SUDOKU
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YESTERDAY’S SOLUTION How do I play?
The goal is towrite the numbersin the boxes tosatisfy only onecondition: eachrow, column and3 by 3 box mustcontain the digits1 through 9 exact-ly once. Whatcould be simpler?There is only onesolution.
The legendarycellist PabloCasals wasasked why hecontinued topractice at age90.
“Because Ithink I’m mak-ing progress,” hereplied.
Winning play-ers never stophoning theirtechnique. Theyknow they canlearn from everydeal. Today’sdeclarer ruffedthe third dia-mond and wasn’twilling to rely on
the spade finesse; he went after dummy’sclubs. To preserve a needed entry, Southled a club and ducked in dummy.
East won and led a spade, and South putup his king. He led a club to the ace, ruffeda club, led a trump to the king and ruffed aclub. South then drew trumps and went tothe ace of spades to pitch his spade loseron the good club.
South’s technique was good. If he drawstrumps or takes the ace of clubs too soon,or finesses with the jack of spades at TrickFive, his chances decline.
West had something to learn also. Therewas no rush for him to cash diamondtricks. West can give South a harder task ifhe leads a trump at the second or thirdtrick.
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Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar are long-time editors of the Ann Landers column.Email questions [email protected], or write to:Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190,Chicago, IL 60611.
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Gemini’sspecial day
Dear IncredibleInman: Years ago, I sawa very funny movieabout a young man. Helived in a middle-classEast Coast neighbor-hood, and he was ner-vous about coming outto his parents. Can youtell me the title and ifit’s on DVD? — F.D., viaemail
Dear F.D.: Soundslike the 1980 film “Hap-py Birthday, Gemini,”based on an off-Broad-
way play. The cast in-cludes Madeline Kahn,Rita Moreno, Alan Ro-senberg and David Mar-shall Grant.
It’s not on DVD — itwas on video, but is nowout of print.
Freelance writer DavidInman’s column appearsdaily. Email him at [email protected] include your home-town. Questions of generalinterest will be answered;personal replies are notpossible.
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