true coaching: effective communication is the key! wiaa coaches school kentlake hs tom doyle
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True Coaching: Effective Communication is the Key!
WIAA Coaches SchoolKentlake HS
Tom Doylewww.truecoaching.net
Why are you here today?
• “Insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.” Albert Einstein
• It is what you learn after you know it all that counts! John Wooden
• "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them". Einstein
Coach Training Priorities
What is True Colors?
• True Colors provides a nonjudgmental language base to enable one to communicate more freely and appreciate the uniqueness in everyone.
What can TRUE COLORS do for me?
• TRUE COLORS provides an opportunity for you to continue the life long learning process and to learn more about yourself,
• how you go about your education and your leadership role,
• how you relate with your coaches, athletes, family, peers, and even parents!
• and how they relate to you.
Why TRUE COLORS?
• Using the TRUE COLORS is a quicker and easier way to understand people than trying to remember all 16 personality types associated with the Myers-Briggs Personality Test.
Why TRUE COLORS?
• It can help you to better be able to communicate with others, especially with those who are least like you.
History of TRUE COLORS
• Hippocrates – 400 BC – four types: sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric, melancholic
• Carl Jung – 1921 – personality/temperament differences fundamental for understanding human beings (4 types)
• Myers-Briggs – 1950’s – 16 combinations to signify 4 characteristics of people – (letters)
• David Keirsey – 1967 – four types- Please Understand Me
• Don Lowry – 1978 – system/tool to apply “type” information to help real people in real situations
Ever wonder about people?
Ever Wonder about People?
• …Are always on time or even early, while others have a tough time being on time?
• …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it, while others are more reserved and think before they speak?
• …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it, while others support your decisions without question?
• …Put the system/department above all, while others put people before the system?
Ever Wonder about People?
• …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout?
• …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge?
• …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”?
• …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?
Research: most serious faults in dealing with others?
• Failure to see other’s point of view – 68%
• Failure to show appreciation/give credit – 36%
• Failure to size up others correctly -- 34%
• Lack of Leadership -- 24%
• Lack of frankness/sincerity -- 19%
Perceptions
• "To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others."
Anthony Robbins
Perception Building
• What are “perceptions”?• How do we come to perceive and believe?• Are we accurate in our perceptions?• First Impressions take about 7-20 seconds
to form; require significant emotional event to change.
Count The Number of “F ”s
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FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.
Count The Number of “F ”s
•
FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.
Perception Building
• Why doesn’t everyone see what I see?
Basic Assumptions
• Everyone is like me!
• Everyone should behave as I do!
• Everybody communicates the same – like me!
• Everyone will respond to a specific situation or stimulus the way I do!
Basic Assumptions
• Awareness is the first step in Change.
• Education is the first step in understanding.
• CHANGE IS INEVITABLE,
GROWTH IS OPTIONAL!
BLUE
Enthusiastic Sympathetic Personal Admires authenticity and honesty.
GREEN
Visionary Non-Conformist Problem Solver Considers every detail; knowledge is strength
ORANGE
Trouble-shooter Competitor Impulsive Takes pride in skill, being adventurous, and immediate action
GOLD
Dutiful and LoyalRespects AuthorityOrganizedResponsible
What do the TRUE COLORS look like?
• Blue Characteristics
• Gold Characteristics
• Green Characteristics• Orange Characteristics
PeacemakerCaretakerOptimistic
Always Has a Kind WordPassionate
Cause OrientedTrue Romantics
Need to Feel SpecialStrong Sense of Spirituality
Cooperative Rather than Competitive
Relationship
Core Valueis
“Be Prepared”Love to Plan
Duty, Loyalty, ResponsiblePunctual, Predictable
Strong Belief in Policies, Procedures, RulesValues Family Traditions
Thinks before ActingConservative and Stable
“Should” and “Should Not”Most Comfortable with a Structured Environment
Core Valueis
Responsibility
“Should be Able to”“Why”
IntellectualVery Complex
Standard SettersCool, Calm, Collected
Work is Play, Play is WorkNeed for Independence and Private Time
PerfectionistsApproaches Interpersonal Relationships
in a Logical Manner
Core Value
is
Competency
Energetic
Playful,
“Just Do It,
Master Negotiator
Natural Entertainer
Pushes Boundaries
Thrives on Competition
Impulsive and Spontaneous
Appreciates Immediate Feedback
Most Productive in Non-structured Environments
BLUE
Enthusiastic Sympathetic Personal Admires authenticity and honesty.
GREEN
Visionary Non-Conformist Problem Solver Considers every detail; knowledge is strength
ORANGE
Trouble-shooter Competitor Impulsive Takes pride in skill, being adventurous, and immediate action
GOLD
Dutiful and LoyalRespects AuthorityOrganizedResponsible
True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s”
• We all have four colors in our spectrum• A primary color dominates our
spectrum• The “blend” of colors makes us unique• Drawing upon all of our colors
improves our personal and team relationships by:
True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s”
• Gaining knowledge and skills to access basic core needs of self and others
• Motivating and empowering self and others to use or unique qualities and strengths
• Demonstrating and releasing natural talents and abilities
• Increasing self-esteem, self-worth, and success through positive, productive actions
True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s”
• Brighten Your TRUE COLORS!
Population DistributionGeneral Population
Gold 35-38%
Orange 35-38%
Green 12-15%
Blue 12-15%
What Color is this Office?
• Clean desk
• Mess, but knows where things are
• Family photos everywhere
• Motivational, inspirational quotes
Ever Wonder about People?
• …Are always on time or even early and seem to be always prepared?
• …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it; think about it later? Operate with a “ready, shoot, aim” philosophy?
• …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it?
• …Put people before the system and always seem genuinely concerned about others?
Ever Wonder about People?
• …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout?
• …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge?
• …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”?
• …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?
True Colors is:
• An Explanation
• – NOT an Excuse!
BLUE
Enthusiastic Sympathetic Personal Admires authenticity and honesty.
GREEN
Visionary Non-Conformist Problem Solver Considers every detail; knowledge is strength
ORANGE
Trouble-shooter Competitor Impulsive Takes pride in skill, being adventurous, and immediate action
GOLD
Dutiful and LoyalRespects AuthorityOrganizedResponsible
Using TRUE COLORS!– Applications
• Color Group – Practice Plan
• “Least” Color Group – Define “fun” for this Color?
Fun?GOLD
Organizing things An Audit
GREEN
Research, Library Puzzles
BLUE
Group Hug Singing Kumbaya
ORANGE
Danger Risk
1. Rigid2. Boring3. Stubborn4. Opinionated5. System Bound6. Unimaginative7. Predictable8. Bossy9. Judgmental10.Controlling
1. Firm2. Conservative3. Strong Willed4. Having a View5. Orderly6. Realist7. Stable8. Directive9. Moral Standards10. Assertive
How Others May See Golds
How Golds See Themselves
1. Arrogant
2. No Mercy
3. Unrealistic
4. Aloof
5. Unemotional
6. Intellectual Snob
7. Devalue Relationships
8. Critical
9. Eccentric
10.Heartless
1. Confident
2. Firm Minded
3. Under Control
4. Visionary
5. Calm
6. Intelligent
7. Independent
8. Perfectionist
9. Creative
10. Determined
How Others May See Greens
How Greens See Themselves
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1. Bleeding Heart2. Naïve3. Mushy4. Touchy-feely5. Smothering6. Stuck in the Past7. Push-over8. Emotional9. Fawning10.Always a Cause
1. Compassionate2. Trusting3. Romantic4. Affectionate5. Caretaker6. Nostalgic7. Sympathetic8. Sensitive9. Nurturing10. Passionate
How Others May See Blues
How Blues See Themselves
1. Flaky
2. Rule Breaker
3. Manipulative
4. Uncontrollable
5. Obnoxious
6. Irresponsible
7. Off Task
8. Resist Closure
9. Indecisive
10.Distracted
1. Carefree
2. Adventurous
3. Charming
4. Energetic
5. Bold
6. Impulsive
7. Flexible
8. Enjoys Process
9. Shares Decision Making
10. Changing
How Others May See Oranges
How Oranges See Themselves
Kids Quit Because They Aren’t Having FUN!
• What makes the athletic experience “fun” for each of the Colors?
• Their job to meet you in your Color?
• OR
• Your job to meet them in their Color?
How Can This Help You?
• Practice Planning – all Colors?
• Motivation & Discipline
• Communication w/ Athletes & Parents – Sales
• % - your Color
True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s”
• We all have four colors in our spectrum• A primary color dominates our
spectrum• The “blend” of colors makes us unique• Drawing upon all of our colors
improves our personal and professional relationships by:
True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s”
• Gaining knowledge and skills to access basic core needs of self and others
• Motivating and empowering self and others to use or unique qualities and strengths
• Demonstrating and releasing natural talents and abilities
• Increasing self-esteem, self-worth, and success through positive, productive actions
True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s”
• Brighten Your TRUE COLORS!
A small truth A small truth to make life to make life
100%100%
Hard WorkHard Work
H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
KnowledgeKnowledge
K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
LoveLove
L+O+V+E
12+15+22+5 = 54%
LuckLuck
L+U+C+K
12+21+3+11 = 47% (why is it that most of us think this is the most
important ???)
Then what makes 100%?Is itIs it MoneyMoney? ... NO ! ! !
M+O+N+E+Y
13+15+14+5+25 = 72%
Is it Is it LeadershipLeadership? ... NO ! ! !
L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P
12+5+1+4+5+18+19+9+16 = 89%
Every problem has a Every problem has a solution, but only if we solution, but only if we
change our attitude.change our attitude.
To go to the top and To go to the top and
achieve achieve 100%100%We really need to go We really need to go
further... further...
ATTITUDEATTITUDE
A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = =
100%100%
It is OUR ATTITUDE towards It is OUR ATTITUDE towards Life and Work that makes OUR Life and Work that makes OUR
Life = 100% Life = 100%
Change Your Attitude …Change Your Attitude …
… … and You Change Your and You Change Your Life ! ! !Life ! ! !
