transactional analysis
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Transactional Analysis Games People Play
Ego StatesParental
Adult
Child
“Do as I say!”
“I’ll be frank with you..”
“What shall I do?”
Ego States in Man
Strokes – the result of hunger
People ‘hunger’ for recognition
Stimulus Hunger
Position Hunger
Structure Hunger
Strokes
Recognition | Attention | Responsiveness
“Warm fuzzies” “Cold pricklies”
Positive Negative
Theories governing behaviour
Gene theory – I am made that way
Make me feel theory – You make me feel
You-owe me theory – If only you change
Subconscious theory – Suddenly you got hold of me and I could do nothing.
The fate theory – It was willed by Him
Types of Strokes
Conditional
Unconditional
Positive – “You’ve made a fantastic presentation!”
Negative – “That was the worst report I ever read.”
Positive – “You’re a nice guy!”
Negative – “I’ve never seen anyone as arrogant as you.”
Seek out ways to give more unconditional positive responses. Listen carefully to positive strokes from others.
Everyone occupies a preferred basic life position (BLP).
The Power of Scripts
“I won't amount to anything and I deserved to be locked up in a prison”
Life Scripts – Traps Abandonment
“I get desperate when someone I love moves away”
Mistrust“I’m angry about what people have done to me”
Emotional deprivation“I feel disconnected, even from people closest to me”
Dependence“I find everyday life overwhelming”
Life Scripts – Traps Vulnerability
“Something bad is about to happen”
Defectiveness“I’m inherently flawed”
Subjugation“If I don’t give in to others, they will reject me”
Failure“I don’t have any special talents”
How Scripts Shape Life
How Scripts Shape Life
‘Scripting’ your own life
Alfred Nobel
Helen Keller
Armstrong
Harbhajan
Eminem
Games People PlayGreeting
“Hello, how are you?”“I’m good, what about you?”
Meeting“Oh, so pleased to meet you!”
CornerDamned if you do, damned if you don’t
CamouflageIndirect hints – barely perceptible
“Wow, Bill lost 20 pounds. He looks great!”
Wooden Leg Eliciting sympathy – using excuses
“How can I be patient with kids? I am short-tempered!!”
Games People Play
Switch – reversal in roles/positionsThe victim-persecutor role reversal
Cross – disorientation between the two when switch happens
Payoff – person getting justification for inaction and attention
One life – that’s all we have. What do you want to do with yours?