transaction analsyiss unit 11 lecture
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Building Communicationskills using TA
Lecture 1. Unit II
DEI University
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Objective of Lecture
1. Understand what is TA and its link with
communication effectiveness .
2. Understand how our communication depends
upon ourinherent ego styles which we acquireduring our primitive growth stage.
3. Use the ego styles in way that leads to effective
communication at work place and personal
relationships4. Understand how communication styles are linked
to our TA profile .
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Learning's at theend of the lecture
1. What is transaction analysis & different ego stylesthat constitute the communication transaction.
2. What are different ego styles that get used incommunicating with people.
3. How our communication style is depended upon
the dominant ego in the transactions.4. Effective communication involves mix of three
ego styles of personality of individual.
5. TA link with assertiveness , passiveness andaggressiveness in communication
6. How does one communicate by judicious use ofego styles for building relationship , getting workdone , influencing others .
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What is communication
Communication :Transference of message
from one person to other and many other
persons with some purpose thru verbal or
non verbal means .
Gossip : ??? (without purpose )
Different kinds of communication ;With purpose
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Kinds of communications
1. Social communication
Focus is on relationships
2. Academic Communication
Focus is learning
3. Cultural Communication
Focus is on entertainment
4. Religious communication
Focus is on getting peace
5. Business Communication
Focus is getting desired behavioral outcome
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1. Concept of communication in
Business (organizational perspective ) As soon as you move one step from the bottom , your
effectiveness depends on your ability to reach
others ( for getting desired outcome ) through the
spoken or written word.And farther awayyour job isfrom manual work , the larger the organization , the
more important it will be that you know how to convey
your thoughts in writing and speaking ( without the need
for clarifications ) . In large organizations , the ability to
express himself ( verbal or written ) is perhaps the mostimportant skills a person can possess
(Peter Drucker.)
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Business Communication( Individual perspective )
Communication is the most important skill in
almost any job.How you communicate your
achievements to others is reflection ofyour
quality of work.Sure , you must know how todo the job to accomplish great results but that
only a portion of the professional success .Good
communication skills are required to report your
results to others , persuade colleagues to takeaction , and sell your success in Management .
( Don Zatyko )
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Communication :Transaction
A set of transactions ( in the form of ego
styles ) constitute a message .
Ability of managers to understand the
messages in terms of ego styles and frame
their replies in the desired style is key to
success in Business world.
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1.1 What is transaction analysis & different
ego styles.
Transaction is just a simple message thatgoes out from individuals in the form ofwords / body responses (ego styles) when
receiving or responding to others . A simple message may contain one of two
transactions at a time . Please dont come to me house today ( in simple
tone may be only one transaction ) Please dont come to my today ( with aggressive
tone or anger ) may have two transactions.
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Transaction is nothingbut
Signals that our verbal and non verbal
communication sends to other person .
The signals we normallysend depends on
previously stored responses in our mind .
The stored responses are called ego styles .
The other person decodes the signals based
on his stored responses ( ego styles ) andresponds .
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EMOTIONAL
MIIND
1.Parent
2.Child
RATIONAL
MIND
3. Adult
Two sides of mind contain three kinds of ego stayles
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The signal (input) received by a person is processedby the unique processor in the mind, which processesthe information based on available store of past
learning's & experiences, and then accordingly itresponds.
It is necessary for the individual to understand thespecifications of the processor so that he/she knowshis/her strengths and limitations.
Such self awareness helps in responding to situationswith careful thought.
How is TA linked to Communication skills?
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TA is model for explaining why and howof People think like they do
People act like they do
People communicate and interact with others
Based on work done by Eric Berne ;Games people play
Tom Harries : I am ok you are ok
Born to win : Dorothy Jongeword
Transaction Analysis
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Definition: A system for analyzing all personal and interpersonalcommunication behaviors and transactions .
People communicate from their Ego states
Three distinct part of personality called Ego states that are presentin every individual. Individual exhibits one or the other ego statewhile communicating with others.
Ego states are known as:
Parent Ego state
Adult Ego state Child Ego state
Transaction Analysis
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Parent : This is a set of feelings, thinking andbehavior that we have copied from our parents andsignificant others. One gives judgment based onhis experience /recordings
Adult : Uses information and data for decisionmaking. Updates the information available from oldexperiences
Child : Uses the information / experience available
in mind about what his father said or learnt in aschool or from a society
What is PAC?
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Parent
Child
Adult
MindRecords eventsas one sees,
observes & feelsas a child
Records how the parents & otherinfluential people behave and act
As one grows learningThrough exploration, booksetc & updating the stored
data
We act, feel or think like thosewho raised us
We behave or feel as we did whenwe were small child
We examine facts/or get facts & analyze
What is a Mental Processor?
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Parent ego state contains
Thoughts , feelings ,Beliefs , traditions being
subjected to or copied from parents .
Should not , or should
Prejudicial views :religion , Traditions
Nurturing views :Care and concern, love ,
affection ( you are ok )
Critical views : Blame , criticism , firing,Controlling others .( you are not ok )
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Adult ego state
Thoughts , feelings based on
objective analysis and data
Makes decisions based on logicand analysis and reasoning and
not emotions or traditions
( I am ok and you are ok )
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Child ego state
Thoughts feelings , attitudes based on child
like emotions , impulses we have
experienced
Examples Happy , pleasure seeking
Angry , fearful
Rebellious and reacting
Curious
Eager to please and follow what is told
(I am ok or I am not ok)
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Parent : Two predominant styles
1. Nurturing
2. Controlling
Adult : Only one style :Rational and data based
Child : Two
1. Free & Natural
2. Adapted or Aggressive or destructive child
Further division ofEGO States
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People interact with their EGO STATES: The interactionbecomes complimentary or cross depending upon how one
responds .
P P
A A
C C
1.2 Ego styles that Communicate
Person A Person B
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EGO STATES: Complimentary
P P
A A
C C
Two Ego styles that Communicate
What is the time ?
It is 2.15 pm
India is one of the worst cities
I totally agree with you ( Child comes from giving respect .he may not disagree although his view
are different. In traditional culture , it is normally expected to respect the elders)
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EGO STATES: Cross
P P
A A
C C
Two Ego styles that Communicate
X=India is one of the worst cities
Y= I am not sure if one can
reach such judgment. Pl
give me data to support
your views
In this situation , X having predominant parent style feels person Y is not
showing respect as he is asking questions.
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EGO STATES: Cross
P P
A A
C C
Ego styles that Crossed
HusbandWhere is my watch (while
Going to office in the morning in a hurry
Wife ;search it yourself
than onlyyou would learn to keep
it carefully
Wife Husband
CHILD ego style ; I wd just search it for you PARENT (NURTURANT) ego style ; dontWORRY
I would help you out
Parent (controlling ) : You are totally careless . I can not help every day itemsthat you misplace .
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Styles create Interpersonal relationships
or breaks itComplimentary : Builds
relationshipCross : Breaks
relationships
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Statement A: A know Pakistanis well .They sent terroristsfor Mumbai blasts . They must be punished .
Statement B: If it is correct that Pakistanis are behindMumbai Blasts, then they need to be dealt with strong
hands.
Statement C: It is always Pakistanis who have attacked Indiain the past .they have done it in Mumbai also. I am going tohit them.
Exercise
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Parent: strong judgmental focus; Conclusionreached)
Adult: Analytical Ego state: Conclusion is
dependent upon the data)Child: Picks up old data/experience to come
to conclusion and wants to take actionimmediately
Exercise
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Awareness & use of right Ego styles gives edge
Statements reveal predominant styleof communication of people
Ability to understand self and othersego styles in communication givesedge in relationships
One should learn to hold back and use
adult (in him or her ) to use theresponse required at that stage .
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It depends upon which ego state is being used by youin responding to various situations. OFFICE situation :Normally in Office matters , predominant
ADULT personality is highly successful stance for all official
interactions . But Child helps in bringing fun elementrequired in day to day situations.
Household situation , it is more of parent and child intransactions between parents and children. Ability to swichmodes to adult when child grows is essence of successfulrelations in family/
In Games , picnics etc , Child ego enjoys the situation .Onecan be in child ego state rather than use adult or parent state.
Success in communication
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Communication style is depended upon the dominant
ego in the transactions
Because of our past stored exposures and
experiences , every one has a typical personality
consisting of Parent , adult and child .
The mix of these varies from person to person Some one who was exposed to only strong control
and directive behavior , may adopt either punitive
parent or adapted child personality.
Some who has parents , who were fun loving andgave lot of freedom may turn to be natural style in
his /her dominant behavior.
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For effective communication , it is necessary
to use mix of styles .
Awareness of our own style gives us
advantage of curbing using pre storeddominant style and adopt required style .
Let us take few real life situations in work
place.
1.4 Effective commutation is mix ofdifferentego styles
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1. Giving feedback to subordinate who has not met his targets
2. Convincing a customer to buy a product who is not buyingyour product today .
3. Responding to a customer who is very angry because Car
sold by your company has major quality problems . Its brakesare making noise .
4. You found that one of subordinates has lost his cool in ameeting while dealing with co- employee from otherdepartment as other employee blamed him for non supply of
product to customer . You felt embarrassed as this couldhave been dealt in a way where other employee could havebeen cornered by asking data rather than losing temper .
Case / Exercises
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Giving a feedback
The purpose of feedback is to energize andmotivate the receiver to improve and acquire new
skills /knowledge or traits for better performance It needs to give facts and data to the subordinate and analysis
of same.
The concerned individual to be in a mental state that he /she
takes the feedback with open mind .
He/she need to be guided about how to acquire and act on
gaps
He should be told about consequences of not learning and notacquiring .
An effective review system need to be agreed to see the
progress card .
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Convincing a customer to buy a product
???
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In case you are asked Can you sell addition 25% this year?
Never say Yes if you have not done the analysis.
First ask for clarification whether the boss wants a guess or concreteanswer (Adult)
A Child state would mean some answer to be give toavoid negative stroke. He may Yes immediately
A Parent response would be We have never done morethan 110% of target in the past and hence not possible
Preparation for meeting: Use Adult ego state
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In case you are asked for some clarification, do not respond if youdo not have facts. Its better to say:-
I will get back to you. (Adult)
Maintain the minutes of the meeting Always have a follow-up
Preparation for meeting: Use Adult ego state
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In case you are asked for some clarification, do not respond if youdo not have facts. Its better to say:-
I will get back to you. (Adult)
Maintain the minutes of the meeting Always have a follow-up
Preparation for meeting: Use Adult ego state
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communication :
threeego styles get
linked to three styles ofcommunication
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Communication
The way we respond can be classified in
3 ways :
1. Passive Communication2. Aggressive Communication
3. Assertive communication
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1.Passive Communication Allowing our own rights to be violated by failing to
express our honest feelings
The goal is to avoid conflict no matter what
Little risk involved very safe
Make assumption in favor of yes without finding
alternatives.
Little eye contact, often defers to others opinions,
usually quiet tone, may suddenly explode after being
passive too long.
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A PassivePerson : Style, tone, voice
Passive people usually:
Speak softly and hesitantly.
Use fillers like uh and um.
Avoid eye contact.
Allow other people in their personal space.
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Examples ofPassive Communication
Ok Sir , Yes Sir
I dont know
Whatever you think
You have more experience than I. You decide
Ill go with whatever the group decides
I dont care. It doesnt matter to me
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes... NO!
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2.Aggressive Communication
Protecting ones own rights at the expense of
others rights no exceptions
The goal is to win at all costs; to be right
This person thinks they will always get their way.
Eye contact is angry and intimidating; lots of
energy; loud and belittling; manipulative and
controlling. Often uses violence or verbal abuse.
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Examples of Aggressive Communication
I dont know why you cant see that this is the rightway to do it.
Its going to be my way or not at all.
Youre just stupid if you think that will work.
That kind of logic will sink the company.
Who cares what you feel. Were talking about
making things work here.
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3. Assertive communication
An honest, direct, and AppropriateAn honest, direct, and Appropriate
expression of one's feelings, thoughts, andexpression of one's feelings, thoughts, andbeliefs in an appropriate way showing fullbeliefs in an appropriate way showing full
empathy to others need.empathy to others need. Communicating your rights inCommunicating your rights in such asuch a
way thatway that you do not violate anotheryou do not violate anotherpersons rights/ Ego .Expressing yourpersons rights/ Ego .Expressing your
needs, wants, opinions, feelings andneeds, wants, opinions, feelings andbeliefsbeliefs in suchin such a waya way that isthat is appropriateappropriateto the situationto the situation
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Indicators of Assertive Communication
Protecting your own rights without violating the rights
of others.
The goal is to communicate with respect and to
understand each other; to find a solution to theproblem.
Takes a risk in the short run with others in the short
run, but in the long run relationships are much
stronger. Eye contact; listens and validates others; confident
and strong, yet flexible; objective; presents wishes
clearly & respectfully.
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An AssertivePerson Assertive people usually:
Speak calmly and confidently
Notify other people of their feelings with statementsstarting with I think and I feel.
Maintain eye contact, have good posture and are
poised and in control
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Examples of Assertive Communication
So what youre saying is....
I can see that this is important to you, and it is also
important to me. Perhaps we can talk more
respectfully and try to solve the problem.
I think... I feel... I believe that....
I would appreciate it if you...
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Linking Assertiveness to TA
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Assertiveness as defined in TA
Assertiveness is converting emotional response
into intellectual or adult response. The emotional
response is of two types
Child state: Do what old man says or respond
with emotional outburst.
Parent state: Say no because you feel it that waybased on your perceived or stored notions in
your mind.
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Incident
Boss (angry ) :You are useless. You can
never do work in time .(Punitive parent)
Subordinate (adult ): I think I have made you
angry with my work. I would be really
grateful if you can guide me areas where I
could have done well. (assertive response )
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Why Assertiveness Is Important? Effective communication brings about the achievement of individual
and/or shared goals.
Assertiveness increases your ability to reach these goals while
maintaining your rights and dignity.
If you dont know how to be assertive you might experience:
Depression.
From anger turned inward, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, with
no control over your life.
R
esentment.
Anger at others for manipulating or taking advantage ofyou.
Frustration.How could I be such a wimp? Why did I let someone
victimize me?
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Why we are not Assertive Mental conditioning from childhood not to question
elders.Respect them
Training of our mind.Fight, fear, withdraw
Fear of wrong appraisal by boss
Fear of social rejection Fear of being misunderstood as Egoist
Fear of counter attack
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