together is better: effective communication
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God is the ultimate and divine authority on marriage. Marriage relations is something much deeper than either human convenience or social convention. . God’s ultimate purpose in marriage is that the couple should “become “one flesh” Genesis 2:22-24. Yet marriage is more than just a physical union. Going beyond merely the physical relationship, the apostle Paul revealed marriage as a type of an even greater spiritual relationship. The union of a husband and wife requires a certain level of sacrifice and service for it to work well. Yes there is a divine purpose for building a happy or happier marriage. Knowing that purpose can help us rise above the petty differences so common to matrimony. However, modern societies have unknowingly redefined the institution of marriage through the media. In the name of entertainment and profits, media have encouraged the incremental dissolution of the marriage union with impunity. Movies encourage infidelity and amorality while television sitcoms bathe our children in the notion that marriage is irrelevant. What matters most, they are essentially taught, is instant gratification. In this context of broken families “Together is Better” is a series of Power Points that reestablish the integrity and sanctity of the marriage bond, the highest relationship that men and women can experience. We learn to rise above petty, irritating differences to reach our goal of Maturity and Unity. . As we share Truth between us.... We grow up…. into Maturity We grow together…. into Unity This Power point is about how we can maintain Effective Communication that builds marriage. One of the important factors to recognize is that 'communication is just not the words we say, but also the non-verbal 'body language' we use. In fact words are only about 7 % of the message conveyed. We also see in this Ppt that Communication is not only Talking but it also involves empathetic listening. Read more ... May this bless many of our readers to a healthier and happier marriage.TRANSCRIPT
CommuniCation :
‘together is Better’
Presented by:
Dr. Juliet ThomasPresident: Life Media and Communications
Communication ?
We grow up…. into Maturity
We grow together…. into Unity
a gooD marriagea gooD marriage
ACCEPTACCEPT ADJUSTADJUST
APPRECIATEAPPRECIATE APOLOGISEAPOLOGISE
PraY & stuDY the BiBLe togetherPraY & stuDY the BiBLe together
aLLoW the hoLY sPirit to WorK in YouaLLoW the hoLY sPirit to WorK in You
GOOD CUMMUNICATION GOOD CUMMUNICATION IS THE KEYIS THE KEY
By wisdom a house is built, and through By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established: understanding it is established:
Pro. 24:3Pro. 24:3
Genuine communication requires that a Genuine communication requires that a couple seeks to understand couple seeks to understand
and then, to be understoodand then, to be understood..
What is COMMUNICATION
O r a l W r i t t e n
V e r b a l
B o d y L a n g u a g e S i l e n c e
N o n - V e r b a l
M e t h o d s o f C o m m u n i c a t i o n
Definition: Communication is the act of conveying or making known something that is understandable to another person.
Three Components of a Message
Tone of voice38%
Content7%
Nonverbal55%
Tone of voice
Content
Nonverbal
Types of NoN Verbal Types of NoN Verbal CommuNiCaTioNCommuNiCaTioN
VoiceVoice– pitch, articulation, pauses etc.,
AppearanceAppearance– dress, grooming,
The face and the eyeThe face and the eye– expressions
The bodyThe body– movement, gestures, space
5 Levels of 5 Levels of CommunicationCommunication
1. Casual Conversation1. Casual Conversation E.g. “Hi, how are you?” “Fine”.E.g. “Hi, how are you?” “Fine”.
2. Reporting of facts.2. Reporting of facts. E.g.”The paper boy is late again.”E.g.”The paper boy is late again.”
3. Ideas and judgments. E.g. “Men should learn to cook!” “I agree! Do you?”
4. Feelings and emotions. E.g. “My wife’s nagging makes me mad!”
5. Open, honest sharing on a deep, personal level.
E.g. “I’ve been neglecting you!”
Understanding increases
with increased levels of
communication.
Developing understanding in marriage requires
listening and talking.
ListeningListening: : Seeking to Seeking to UnderstandUnderstand
ListeningListening: : Seeking to Seeking to UnderstandUnderstand
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19
LISTENING LISTENING means:means:
When your spouse is talking to you, you are When your spouse is talking to you, you are not thinking about what you are going to say not thinking about what you are going to say when he or she stops talking.when he or she stops talking.
Completely accepting what is being said Completely accepting what is being said without judging of what is said or how it is said.without judging of what is said or how it is said.
Being able to repeat back to your spouse Being able to repeat back to your spouse what he/she said and what he or she was what he/she said and what he or she was feeling.feeling.
Kinds of Kinds of ListeningListening
Casual or Marginal ListeningCasual or Marginal Listening• Listening to Radio/TVListening to Radio/TV• Light conversationLight conversation Attentive listeningAttentive listening• Important announcementImportant announcement• Striking newsStriking news Projective or emphatic ListeningProjective or emphatic Listening• Putting yourself in the other person’s Putting yourself in the other person’s
situation.situation.
CommuniCation ProCess
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few Barriers to CommuniCation
• Pride- Ego• Poor Listener• Over talkative• Selfish and quarrelsome
• Different life Purposes
what to avoid in CommuniCation
• Prov. 11:13 - Betraying confidence• Prov. 11:12 - Criticism• Prov. 12:16 - Reacting
immediately in anger
Prov. 12:18 - Hurting words• Prov. 12:22 - Untruth• Prov. 18:2 - Talking
Without understanding
Handling Handling AngerAnger
Anger is a God-given emotion.Anger is a God-given emotion. We must learn to handle our anger We must learn to handle our anger Say the right thingsSay the right things For the right purposeFor the right purpose With a right spirit With a right spirit At the right time.At the right time. In the right tone/mannerIn the right tone/manner
Good Communication+ +
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Essentials of Communication
•Time•Trust•Transparency
List principLes of communication in ephesians
4:15, 25, 29
• “ Instead speaking the truth in love,
we will in all things grow up into Him
who is the head.”• “ Therefore each of you
must put off falsehood and
speak truthfully to his neighbour,
for we are all members of one body.”• “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your
mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs,
• that it may benefit those who listen.”
We grow up…. into Maturity
We grow together…. into Unity
purpose of marriaGe
the oLd Life the oLd Life and new Lifeand new Life
Eph 4:23-Eph 4:23- Let the Spirit change your way of Let the Spirit change your way of thinking, and make you into a new person.thinking, and make you into a new person.You were created to be like God, and so you must You were created to be like God, and so you must please Him and be truly holyplease Him and be truly holy
Eph.4:31.32-Eph.4:31.32-Stop being bitter and angry and mad Stop being bitter and angry and mad at others. Don’t yell at one another, or even be rude.at others. Don’t yell at one another, or even be rude.Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you because of Christ.just as God forgave you because of Christ.
Make a Make a CommitmentCommitment
Make a Make a CommitmentCommitment
Listen to one another with understanding.Listen to one another with understanding. Express your feelings/ needs, lovingly.Express your feelings/ needs, lovingly. Be patient and make allowances for one Be patient and make allowances for one
another’s faults.another’s faults. Forgive one another even as Christ has Forgive one another even as Christ has
forgiven youforgiven you Realize that effective communication Realize that effective communication
is a life-long processis a life-long process
Together-Build the Church
& Touch our
broken society with the
healing love of Jesus Christ