Tips in Understanding Other People

It is still the Same Thread I just edited the Intro.

For those who visited this thread already Thanks for the support.

For those who are here for the first time I would explain what this is all about.

For those who have negative feedbacks with my post I'm sorry for not satisfying you enough.

For those who are wondering why the updates are slow it's because I can't post and update this after just posting my

previous update. I needed to wait for at least a couple of days in order to update my post without other comment

aside from me.

So what is this post for?

These are "Tips in understanding other people" that I also called "FUNDAMENTAL CIRCLES."

These are mere opinions handed down by a mentor. I just tested them in real life and then decided to share it to

others too.

Wala po siyang reference, but tested and proven. It is also like a one stop shop about things one ought to know.

For me, this was even clearer than what I read about psychological issues ng bawat individuals. So this one helped me

a lot in giving advice sa mga nangangailangan ng advice. I can give them a clear view of what is happening because I

can give them the insights of what is going on inside their partners.

Take note, di lamang po ito concentrated sa Love Life. It is also applicable in social Aspects po natin. Because this

circles define the person, not just concentrating on the description the individual has to offer. This will indeed give a

clearer version on how they act and will act based on what cirlce they belong to. This would define the difference of

the individuals who belong to each circle. An individual may belong to more than one circle. And he/she can be

defined with one or more depending on what he/she show but this is like a walk through on how to handle them

without being offensive.

There are 4 divisions per post:

-The Fundamental Circle and Explanation

-Social Status

-Love Life

*This shows how the said fundamental is applied in real world. And also in their own Love Life.

So I Guess that's a nice start for this.

Hope everyone who will visit this post will have fun.

More Power

Note:

Because per fundamental requires explanation, I will be updating this post every once in a while in order to complete

all.

There are 7 for both sides, 7 for guys and 7 for girls. This will also serve as an explanation on how things are REALLY

going on.

We Often turn a blind eye on what's actually Going on. So maybe After reading these posts, we would reconsider.

Guys:

1.THRILL

2.PRIDE

3.FEAR OF REJECTION

4.HEART OF STONE

5.MONEY MATTERS

6.

7.

Girls:

1.EMOTIONS

2.WORDS

3.HAPPINESS

4.MEMORIES

5.INSECURITY

6.

7.

What's more?

There will be Special Edition posts later after everything would be posted and explained.

There will be some situations wherein these fundamentals would be applied.

There will also some major personality issues that will be explained regarding to the chosen fundamentals where they

belong.

To further explain things.

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1st Circle for the Guys is called Thrill.

Thrill.

It is the main circle of us guys.

Everything is a competition.

Every action requires adrenalin rush. From waking up to going ac to sleep again. Yung tipong simpleng pagbangon

lang ng kama may technique pa.

Every action is a challenge. We are the masters of thrill seekers. It is seen in our actions. It is seen in every aspect of

our lives. The reason why we chose that to be our hobby, our work, our girl, our relationship, our food, our likes, our

dislikes, our way of living, our lifestyle, our actions, our way of explaining things, our way of expressing ourselves,

everything...

Guys find their way in living the life they wanted.

This include the path they have chosen and the same with their lifestyle.

There is always this risk and gamble. Another reason why guys love gamble.

They find thrill in doing it. Same reason why madali kaming mabored. That's why we seek a lot of things and

sometimes never contented kung saan kami.

Most guys are outgoing. They can do more when they're outside.

Sharing this circle doesn't mean we share actions. There maybe some who share similar hobbies but it would still

depend on their motivation on where they find it thrilling to do.We don't stop at something, we improve or maybe

learn new things. This is the reason why boys are the number one victims of peer pressure. Due to a competitive

heart. And in worse cases, victims of drugs.

Love Life.

Because there is always the THOUGHT of competition, a guy look at other men as competitors. It's like you're always

cheating on him. A girl seen with either a male colleague, a friend, a cousin will be given the same look as if the girl is

actually dating someone. It is not actually because of doubt but because of the competitive nature of guys. It good

terms, some guys prefer to challenge themselves in making their partners happy. Dito na papasok yung mga diskarte

nila in making their relationships work, and on the contrary the same reason why guys cheat. Guys cheat for the thrill

and not actually about love nor sex. Guys wanted to have a spicier form of relationship if they feel that it's already

dull to move on. This complicated nature are often misunderstood by other people because they cheat in order to

prolong their relationship but ending up destroying it. Girls don't view that nature the same as guys do. SO that ends

up in confusion and ending up the relationship.

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Emotions.

The Very root of being a girl.

It is their expertise. It is their very personality. It is naturally found in every girl that ever lived.

They rely on this most of the time and decisions rely mainly on this. It is about what they feel. It is about on how it

will affect them.

It is on how surely they could appreciate the feeling of the certain action and certain idea. If they feel like doing it,

they will decide

to do it. But if their senses doesn't appreciate the idea then it will never happen.

This is applicable in almost all aspect. Every activity from waking up til going back to sleep should affect their

emotions.

Girls express themselves better than guys. It's their natural talent to let us know what they feel. Not actually what

they think they feel.

They just go on what ever positive feeling they get. They don't care about the consequences of that said feeling as

long as their emotions

tell them to, it is what is going to happen.

Love Life:

Girls use their feelings more than that of guys. The decisive part of the courting process will depend on how the guy

would make them feel.

It is concentrated on how guys are able to play with their emotions. On how they would make them feel. If the

comfortable level would reach the

point where it will upgrade to intimacy. If the company is that good na hahanap-hanapin nung girl. If the guy is so

good in letting her express her feelings.

If the guy, could give his mate mixed emotions everytime they're together.

On the other hand, there is also a negative implication of this. When a girl gets hurt, it will take them over time.

They wouldn't be able to forget the feeling. The uneasiness sometimes ruin their mood in almost everything. And it

will affect all.

And because of being good in expressing things, it can be seen with the naked eye. And if other people misunderstood

the feeling,

complication will arise.

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Pride.

The Very root of being a man.

Why?

Though thrill is the primary circle, PRIDE can be seen in all men. Some rely on this circle so much, some hide this

from sight, some practices this most of the

time and some even uses it's power to become superior in most aspects. Pride feeds on knowledge. If an individual

almost knows everything, he can be superior over his species.

Why did this became an issue only with guys?

Though both genders have pride, only male consider this as an inner motivation for their actions. Female mostly rely

on insecurity and not actually Pride.

Unlike males that is almost always in competition mode, Pride serves as a stepping stone for them to improve. We

can't just accept the fact that there is always someone better than us. And for some, having these thoughts would

and could really hurt someone.

Love Life:

A male is always superior. This is how they are thought and this is how they wished to be. There are males who

belong to the "linunok ko na ang pride ko" group wherein they don't rely on their pride so much that they can adapt

to their surroundings. These people are said to satisfy their love ones more because they can understand people more

especially their partners. But don't be deceived, a visible pride and an invisible one shares the same attribute. the

only difference is the level of acceptance in which they could use and can't use their pride.

In most cases, Pride can be seen in tastes, qualifications, characteristics, and attributes of their partners. Which mean

we choose what satisfies us.

Some would wonder why guys most of the time prefer good looking, model type women to be their girl. This is

because it will ruin their pride if they're seen with someone they can't be proud of. They needed to please the eyes of

other in a competition that is invisible to the naked eye. Guys rarely listen to advice because they think that they are

better than other people.

Meron din mga pagkakataon na dahil sa pride may mga salita at paniniwala ang mga guys na mukhang mild lang

naman samga babae pero ang di nila alam eh sobrang bigat na pala sa guys. One of these common occassions is

when a guy will know na yung ex niya eh gf na ng kaibigan niya. The initial reaction there is nahurt si guy kasi

pinagpalit siya. But what he will show the other guy is that pinagsawaan na niya ang ex niya kaya okay lang na ipasa

sa iba. This is a major example ng ayaw patalo dahil madudungisan ang pride niya. This will make the other guy

regret his actions regarding the girl, but the main story behind those words is really something that damaged and hurt

his pride.

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Words.

This is the second circle which girls belong to.

Why Words?

Well because girls are addicted to words.

Where guys usually act their way through things, and made them believe that "Action speaks louder than words".

Girls on the other hand needs verbal communication. Words would relate on their first circle, emotions. Most girls

wanted to hear things, say things, feel what they hear, feel what they read and feel everything that relates to words.

The same reason why girls love reading. The same reason why girl love some quotes from certain authors, lines from

their chosen movies, words of their previous relationship and promises. Yeah, they suck up in promises though there

is a part of them who don't actually believe in one, they still rely on one because of the effects of the words spoken to

them. It does have a unique blend of emotion that make it pleasant for them to absorb.

In the society, most girls get comfortable with guys who can play with words. Those who can make them feel special

with just the use of verbal aspects. It is not actually needed na magaling ka manligaw or magaling ka dumiskarte for

them to choose you. Words alone can make you feel nice in their eyes. This is also one of the reasons why girls love

being with whacky fellows. Yung mga magagaling magpatawa, yung mga masasaya kasama, joker types. Because of

how well these guys can make them happy just of being themselves. Same reason applied why these girls also have

an addiction to singers, actors, writers, authors, poets and composers. Because they can play with their emotions just

by using these, words.

Love Life:

How to make a girl feel loved?

Tell her.

How can you say you love her?

Tell her.

Girls rely on words most of the time. Communicating is the best way to interact with a girl. Not pogi points, not

diskarte, not riches, not material things etc...

They feel comfortable with someone they can open up too. Same reason why there are a lot of guys who remained as

"friend-zoned" because they prefer someone whom they can open up to, than someone who could actually love them

and treat them special. So in order to pass this "friend zone", the guy should learn the advance words formulation.

(That's just a random term I used to explain it) This formulation thingy is an advance step in using words. Simple but

deep. Simple but meaningful. Simple that could turn their emotions Upside down.

Ganun na yun ka-intense. Mukhang mahirap di ba? Pero actually ito ang pinakamadali. Kasi laway lang puhunan mo

eh. Researching for their favorite topics, favorite information, favorite details and favorite ideas will make them crave

for more. Basta the trick is use words that won't offend them. Use words that is easy to deliver and syempre yung

impact din. For whacky ones this is a natural trait to them. Same reason why mahilig sila sumama sa mga bakla. ksi

maiingay ang mga ito. Maraming pwedeng maging topic. Be warned, communication means 2 way. Di pwedeng siya

lang ang nagsasalita at nakikinig ka lang.

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Fear Of Rejection.

It may sound confusing.

Rejection?

Guy?

Anung connect?

Despite that a guy is a symbol of strength and power. There is this single thing we really hate. Loneliness. Every Guy

hates this feeling.

So, in the society guys usually hides this. Pero there are some who are showy regarding this matter, most guys do

hide. How? By sticking into something that will use their time. Either wisely or not as long as they are "not alone" they

will truly strive hard for it. Dito na papasok yung mga hobbies, mga peers, vices, sports etc... When a guy feels that

he is needed into something else, he will devote his time there whether it be a good or a bad, it doesn't actually

matter. We will hook into something so that we won't fall off. Falling off is suicidal. And most would rather enjoy life

than die.

Alam niyo yung unggoy? Monkeys are good tree climbers. They can even climb trees with their eyes closed. But do

you wonder why the tail is acting as a fifth arm everytime? Because if in case, during rare ocassions, that the four

won't be able to hold onto something, the fifth would be a life saver. It isn't actually that important for that some

thing, it's just a precaution if there is something wrong that is going to happen. Ganun din sa guys. Sa araw araw

marami ang nagbibigay ng pasakit sa guys. We all need and want something or someone but most of us can't have

what we desire especially, girls. So to release that intense feeling, like pag nabusted, we will look for an alternative to,

atleast if not remove the feeling, divert it, para di ganun kasakit.

Have you ever wondered why a guy get hooked into something and looked like he won't live without it? Example, the

Dota vs Gf thingy. There are cases na pinipili ng guys ang dota over their gf. Why? Kasi kahit umaliktad man ang

mundo and dota anjan lang, walang assurance na iiwanan siya unlike the girl. (Sorry for the direct accusation but it is

related to the explanation.) So for a guy hooking into something or someone while most of himself is out there, would

make him feel secured. "I-break man ako ni ganito anjan naman si kwan" or "Iwan man ako ni ganito, may dota

naman." It is where these things came from.

A guy's life is a wolf pack. Imagine hunting alone? Imagine how hard it is facing the world alone? Imagine why di

ganun kahirap makapagmove on ang isang guy from a past relationship? Imagine why there is always someone out

there na either kasama or pinupuntahan niya na kahit alam mong ikaw ang gf niya meron at meron mas importante?

Love Life:

A guy can do what he is needed to do in a relationship.

Appreciation means a lot to us.

So if there are misunderstanding, instead of letting you have the bad side of it, we often divert it.

Playing games, sports, going to places, being with friends, being with somebody, drinking with somebody etc. It

doesn't matter who or what as long as may kasama. Dun mai-divert ang attention to avoid loneliness.

There are these cases kung bakit bigla na lang nagseselos ang isang girl kung bakit si bf niya meron daw iba. If he

found out that the relationship s going nowhere, he would act out of impulse and prepare himself. Preparation doesn't

always mean na hinihintay na niya may mangyari. The preparation is just a back up plan if fighting for his girls is out

of the options. He needed to accept the fact that in that instance he is going to be alone "again." So instead of waiting

for that "again" to happen, he will make some things that will catch the instance and divert his emotion into

something else.

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Happiness.

Di ba happiness is a feeling? An emotion?

Bakit meron siya sariling category? Di ba dapat under emotions siya?

I guess you would be asking this.

So why?

According to the first circle, A girl rely on her emotions in every detail she will do.

But those are random emotions. Emotions that will act on impact depending on what she is doing and feeling at the

moment.

Happiness however is different. Why? Because it's a goal.

A girl's primary goal in life is to be happy. So in order to obtain this called "happiness", she indulge herself into

activities that will make her feel this way.

Shopping, eating, going to places, spending, having a nice bf, good looking bf, a car, rich, successful etc. Any word

that can describe happiness is applicable. The most

important thing is, she wants to be happy.

Love life:

Being comfortable with someone is what makes a girl happy. To the extent that she can be herself. This way she can

act the way she wanted to be.

This is the main reason why girls have more friends than lovers. When she found someone suitable to be a close

friend, she will try to treasure that someone. Treasuring that someone, means she will make him/her her close

friend.

Why friend and not lover?

A girl usually relies on comfort zone. Not love.

A girl can love her friends in return. One need not be her lover for her to show love. As long as she saw something in

that individual that suits her taste,

she will keep him/her. So every action done wil be appreciated. But most of the time, when this thing arises especially

in guys, they misunderstood the concept. Dito na papasok yung iniisip nila na may gusto ang girl sa kanila. A girl can

be sweet if she saw that this individual is also sweet. She can be fun if the individual is fun. She can open up if she

saw that the individual is reliable. So as long as she's happy, every action would be paid with appreciation.

Dito na rin papasok ang martyr. A girl don't care what people say to her, how people judge her, what people say

behind her back, how much her parents will scold her, whether her love for someone would be returned back to her. if

that individual will love her in return, if that individual even knew her existence, if that individual is married or taken,

if the guy would even look at her, and if the guy would even care if she is doing these things. THERE IS NO WALL

THAT CAN SEPARATE HER FROM HER HAPPINESS. EVEN IF THAT EMOTION WILL KILL HER. (That Intense.) A girl can

enter this stage of sacrifice. Every thing. As long as she is happy.

PS: "A kiss don't always mean she likes you, sometimes it just mean: Thanks for the time."

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Heart Of Stone.

In other words Hiding emotions.

As girls are experts in showing their emotions, guys on the other hand are best in hiding it.

Why?

Some say, it's not a guy's thing. Emotions can be readable. Anyone could literally translate what the other is willing to

say based on his/her emotions.

Guys hate being this way so what they did was to seal that emotion so that it wouldn't be seen. This is the reason why

in most cases, it's like the guy seem to ignore circumstances or act like nothing because of this circle. Well in fact,

Emotion is our weakness.

There are only a couple of emotion visible, Rage and Happiness. It's easy, when a guy is happy then he's cool. So

when he's mad, keep your distance. It's not because these are the only emotions he knew, but these are the only

emotions he wanted to share. So because of this, most guy seemed to be so superior that they don't actually care

what the other people are feeling, they don't care what the others experience, they don't care what others are going

through, and they don't care what others have in mind. You're wrong, they do. It just doesn't show.

Love Life:

Practically guys can play with emotions. Guys can play with words. Guys can play with knowledge. Guys can play with

experiences. Guys can play with sweetness. Guys can play with actions. Guys can play with any resource they can find

to please a girl. That's the problem, "to please a girl." Pleasing the opposite sex make them happy. A smile means a

lot. But the problem is, when a guy is focused on the thrill factor of pleasing his girl, he then turns on the blind side to

meet what the girl really wanted. Or we may use the word needed. That's because most of the girls need to bind their

emotions to their guys. Not only for them to experience it solo. Guys often thought that when a girl smile, it means

they're doing a good job. If only they will open their emotions in order to feel the real need.

So when the time comes, the time when a broke up took place and they wanted to fight for their love ones. This is the

crucial stage where they will open up the "man hiding underneath a suit of armor" and thus, emotion will flow. When a

guy is showing more emotions than it should be, then he's at his worst. This is his weakness. So if you girls are

looking for the right one then this is a major hint. You needed someone who could atleast show you what you want.

Show you the emotion of what it is like them being with you. Someone who could show this weakness and at least

make things real. Not always concentrated on "pleasing you."

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Memories.

Ito na yung pinakamasarap na i-tackle sa lahat ng cirlces ng isang babae.

This would answer the following important questions:

- Bakit mahirap magmove on ang isang babae?

- Bakit kahit nasa present relationship na siya eh naaalala at may communication pa sila ni ex niya?

- Bakit nagiging emosyonal ang isang girl kapag naaalala niya ang kanyang mga past.

- Bakit maraming qualifications si crush ko?

- Bakit important sa kanila ang dates, locations and time sa buong relationship nila?

And there are a lot of "Why" to tag and connect to this circle.

Lahat naman ng tao meron memories. Sino ba naman ang wala? But between the two sexes, girls have enhanced

memories. A more complicated and enhanced version of memories. It's like playing a game. Girls have this so called

"Saving Point" where most of the time, it is where they start again and redeem themselves after facing a bad present.

It is mostly the place in their life when they often return to and remember everything that happened. A certain

instance would let them remember something. From the simple mood of waking up til the music played before going

to sleep.

Both girls and guys have their own dream girl and dream guy. But when a guy is asked what his dream girl will be, it

is more on physical aspects. It is more on how the girl is detailed and designed physically. On the other hand, girls are

more detailed to the extent that that dream guy would be the basis of what they wanted and who they wanted to be.

How does it work? Girl's have this imaginary figure. A figure of a man with no face but all of the attributes they

wanted are connected to the image. To explain further I would like to set an example:

Example there is a girl with a couple of exes and a present bf.

The girl wants the following, Let's assume it is what is connected to her imaginary figure.

*She loved asian cuisine, she love surprises, she love to go out during anniversaries, she loved sweets.

1st ex = love going to places, love to try new cuisine, adventurous

2nd ex = love drag racing, loved cooking asian foods, loved giving gifts,

Present = Loved caring, loved cycling, loved computer gaming

Question:

Who among the 3 is the perfect one for her?

Who among the 3 is the worst for her?

Who among the 3 deserved her?

1st question's answer is 2nd ex.

Why?

Because the girl loved asian cuisine and gift giving can take form in both surprises and sweets depending on the gift.

2nd Question's answer is Present.

Why?

There is not much he can offer to what the girl needs and yet there are more contradictions than connections.

3rd Question the answer is 1st ex.

Why?

While the 2nd have more connection than the 1st, and Present is the present bf, there are more connection to that of

the first. There are more things 1st can offer that the 2nd and present are lacking. And to see more, there are some

contradictions to what the girl wants that can be seen in both 2nd guy and Present. Those two are drag racing and

computer gaming. 1st ex's activities would excite the girl though not directly what the girl wanted. But because most

of the activities would satisfy her, expect that she will remember what the 1st ex did.

Last Question:

Who among the three would be the "imaginary figure?"

None.

Why?

Because she is looking for the trait, not the person.

A girl's mind act like this.

Because girl experienced the happiness in tasting 2nd ex's cooking, she will remember it as she is happy with the

cooking, not with 2nd ex's cooking.

Because girl experienced the happiness in having gifts, she will remember having gifts, not who gave it to her.

Because girl experienced the happiness in reaching a certain place, she will remember the feeling going to that place

not with whom.

BUT...

Because girl have a distinct addiction to sushi and 2nd ex cooks real well, she'd remember 2nd ex's cooking every

time she sees a sushi.

Because girl always wanted a cute, white cuddly bear for christmas, together with the sushi meal, she'd remember

2nd ex's gift giving capabilities.

Because girl wanted to be in that place, and had a good time because of an adventurous bf, whenever she will visit

that place she will remember 1st ex.

So...

Because girl is always experiencing waiting in the computer shop while present is playing she wondered what 1st and

2nd ex is doing at the moment.

Because girl always see the place when 1st and 2nd is taking her, she will go back there often to renew the same

happiness as before.

Because girl spends more time alone than with present, she will look for a way to contact either 1st or 2nd ex then

communicate.

A girl needs to be happy. Sticking herself into such memories who made her feel special, happy, glad and important

would surely find a spot in her memories. From time to time she will spend a bit of time back into the said memory.

Thus letting her feel the same emotions from back then. In some cases, dito na papasok yung "regret" when she

would realize it as a loss.

Love Life:

Pleasing a girl is crucial. Kasi nga most guys don't know about their past, on how they loed being handled, on how

they were treated before, on how they wanted to be treated, on what are their needs and wants, on what do they like,

on what would satisfy them the most, on what would make them feel special and what would make them really

happy. Trial and error yan. It's a tough work for us guys di ba? Kaya nga the information is crucial. Kung pwede lang

sana mag take notes eh. Pero in real life application and experience are the best teachers. Whatever we do we need

to emphasize their happiness, kasi if we will practice our pride, walang patutunguhan yun. "WHEN A GIRL

EXPERIENCED SOMETHING THAT SURPASSES HER FORMER MEMORY OF THAT THING, SHE WILL REPLACE THE SAME

MEMORY WITH A NEW ONE." SO guys, if you're that good, then that's your spot. Having a spot enhances your chance

for a 2nd chance or a longer relationship.

There are rare cases when a girl connects with an ex. Really? Rare pa yan? Eh common yan eh. Yes. It's a rare

condition. Why? Basically because the girl is actually looking for the feeling in detail not actually for the person. There

is also another rare case when a girl wishes the same guy back. It means that there are no other guy who can replace

the memory of what he did to her. Ganun ka-special yung memory to the extent na yung mismong tao na gumawa ng

memory na yun ang hinahanap-hanap nila.

And for a head Start, these are some of the memories where nagkakabanggan tayong mga guys.

(*Take Note: Not all girls share the same qualities but most girls do.)

(*It will be written as "What a girl wants, for the corresponding actions, it's for you to decide)

- She loved sweets. (Chocolates are too common.)

- She loved eating.

- She loved stuff animals.

- She loves to smile. (Be prepared for a joke or be the joke.)

- She loves to communicate. (Good listeners are bad.)

- She loves compliments.

- She loves being special.

- She loves your presence.

- She loved being respected.

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Money Matters.

Not Materialistic.

Not Greed.

Plainly Money matters.

It's not about having more or having less. Not even earn more or earn less.

Plainly money matters. Confusing? Let's put it this way. Guys know the existence of it, importance of it and how to get

it. It' part of their basics.

A guy only needs to know that there is. A guy don't care if he have more or he have less, the important is meron.

Meron siya huhugutin.

A guy's personality and lifestyle depends on how well he spends, invests and earned money. Everything is about

money. Everything about the guy that is. Ever wondered why a guy loved simple tasks? Ever wondered why a guy

prefer a low budget girlfriend? Ever wonder why there are more guys who hate shopping? it's because of this

fundamental.

Though it's a rarer case unlike the past 4 fundamentals of men. When someone offers something, like a tour or outing

to a guy, girls actually are thinking on how fun the outing is gonna be. But for the guys, they're computing on how

much they would spend. Hanggang maaari they would like to spend on something they would need. Or I should say,

they think they need. (Vices, gadgets, cars, motorcycles, cigarette, or girls etc) They care less on how enjoyable or

fun it is going to be unless their thrill factor would be triggered. There are combinations depending on how their pride

and thrill factor works. From there it would depend on how much they spend and how much they need.

Love Life:

Dito na papasok ang tinatawag natin na "diskarte". Rich guys could spend more to make their partners happy.

Financially stable ones can spend but there is a balance between diskarte and money. And the "not so blessed

financially" rely on "diskarte". Most of us wanted to make our partners happy but not all can spend to what our

partners desire. Let's use a better word, deserve. So instead of spending more, our clan improvised some methods

that could still give the satisfaction their partners deserve, with that kilig effect.

So maybe you're wondering anung kinalaman ng money matters sa diskarte ng lalake?

Tulad ng sabi ko kanina guys act on the way they can afford. So if they seem they can't afford what their partner

needs, dito na papasok yung inferiority complex nila. Some may let go. Some may strive hard. Some would cross

their own boundaries. They're willing to cross this line just to see their love ones, smile.

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Insecurity.

The Female Pride.

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Girls are attention seekers. They are born with this attitude wherein gusto nila all eyes on them. SO they strive hard

to get everyone's attention. The problem is that they are all practicing the same thing. Kaya nga pagdating sa

competition between smartest and prettiest, talagang palaban sila. Though it's not concentrated on physical lamang.

There are these indiiduals who prefer the shadow but works a lot. Yes there are also these individuals wherein they

work their ass out just to be promoted, appreciated and seen. They rely most on their talents in order for other people

to see what they're good at. This gives a major boost on their ego.

Parang ang bad di ba? Direct ko sinabi na lahat ng girls ganyan. Like what I've said earlier, it varies. Though girls are

natural attention seekers, they don't share the same action in obtaining it. So if there are these individuals that are

better than them, they try and work some more. Paano nga ba nila nalalaman na there's someone better? Easy. Yun

yung laging napapansin. Yun yung laging nakikita. Yun yung laging pinupuri. They wanted to be on the same

spotlight, so they strive hard.

Love Life:

Attention seekers, so needed all eyes on them. If you have a female in your life whether it be a wife, girlfriend, or

best friend. You will notice that they wanted to spend time with you. They wanted you to see that for them you are

special. So that in return you will feel the same way for them. They are not waiting for you to realize what they're

doing for you. They are there to remind you that there is this girl who wanted to make you feel important. So for you

to recognize her, she will try her best for you to look at her. Look only at her.

Ang problem kasi sa guys pagdating sa ganito may sakit tayong lingon eh. Kumbaga yung contentment on what we

have sana. Pero there are instances na kapag may dumaan na nakakuha ng attention natin, depende sa situation on

why that individual caught our attention, malaking sampal na yun sa girl na kasama natin. Especially if that girl is

really close to us. For example a gf, she will try her best to look good para siya lamang ang mapansin mo. So a simple

glance on other girls means she's not doing the right thing, because she can't get you satisfied on how she looked. So

a locked stare on other girls would mean that that girl is better than her because that girl caught your attention to the

extent that you can't take your eyes off her. So leaving your partner to get close to that girl is the worst thing to do, it

is the same as denying their existence. So watch out. These actions seems light, but the effect is great. These actions

are very much offensive to their part.

So in order to meet this, the guy should understand what his girl could offer. Appreciate her often. Tell her the good

things she had done to you and that you loved every inch of it. Tell her that there is no one better in doing what she

does. That way her self confidence and esteem would be boosted. Take note, these fundamentals work as a

combination. Boosted self confidence would lead to a better EMOTION, she would tell you beautiful WORDS, you

would be remembered because of what you have done in case you broke up, and she will be HAPPY.

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