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This presentation is intended for Health and Social Care professionals
Jenny Hall Bereavement Service Co-ordinator
Loss & Bereavement
Learning Objectives
• Different perspective
• Increased understanding
• Greater confidence
What is bereavement?
Bereavement
This is the state of being robbed of a close and meaningful relationship, health status or possession…
What is loss?
• Not only the loss of a person
• Meaning of thing determines the impact
• Bereavement = having suffered a loss
• Many different types of losses
• Losses can provoke a grief reaction
Grief….
…is a universal experience
How does grief feel?• Fear and/or anxiety
• Guilt
• Confusion
• Loss of confidence/sense of identity
• Grief Bursts
Grief
…is the emotional response to that loss
• Denial
• Anger
• Bargaining
• Depression
• Acceptance
Kubler Ross (1969)
Stages of griefStages of grief
Grief is a process which is
expressed in different
ways and at different
times, and consists of a
number of intertwined
processes: physical,
psychological, emotional,
spiritual, social and
cultural.
Summary
• Grief isn’t just emotional
• Physical feelings are common
• Anger is common and often unexpected
• Social and practical impacts too
Mourning
…is an outward expression of grief that has
social and cultural components
Why Mourning Rituals Matter
•
• Marker in time
• Provide a positive focus
• Restore feeling of control
• Sense of meaning
• Chance to say goodbye
• Many bereaved want to talk to others who knew the dead person
• Talking and expressing feelings is helpful
• The purpose of grief is not to move on without the dead but to find a secure place for them
• For a secure place, the image of the dead needs to be shared by others
• Hope
• Denial
• Humour
• Practicalities
• Funeral arrangements
Pre-bereavement
Talking About Death and Dying
Why can it be difficult to be with bereaved people?
&
What are the particular challenges you experience?
Challenges
• Reminds us of personal
losses
• May raise unresolved
issues for us
• Makes us reflect on our
own mortality
• We are afraid of their
reaction(s)
• We struggle to know
what to say
What Can I Say/Do?
• Self-reflect - know your own feelings
• Normalise their grief reactions
• Don’t take it personally
• Be there for them
• Listen
• Talk about the deceased
R.E.G
•Respect
•Empathy
•Genuineness
Any Questions?
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