THIRD PARTIES AFFECT

OUR MARRIAGES

Lots of marriages have been destroyed by the couples

allowing Third Parties to influence their marriages.

Third Parties must not be allowed to play any pivotal

roles in your marriage.

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WHO IS A THIRD PARTY

This is a person or persons who

is/are not a party to a contract or

transaction but has/have but an

involvement.

The third party normally has no l

egal rights in the matter, unless

the contract was made for the thi

rd party's benefit.

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Many marriages have been

destroyed by the interference of

the Third Parties in the same. They

pose as good people who want to

better your marriage but at the end

of it they will destroy your

marriage. We should not give room

to them.

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THIRD PARTIES IN OUR MARRIAGES

Children

Parents

Siblings( brothers and sisters)

Relatives

Friends

Colleagues ( workmates/ business associates, etc)

Acquaintances

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Doctors

Lawyers

Neighbours

Shopkeepers

Employers

Pastors

Driving School instructors

Micro finance institutions and banks

Women /Men Groups, etc

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What does it mean to have a

third party in your marriage? It

simply means you allow

external people to interfere in

your marriage.

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E.g. as a woman you always run to

your parent to tell them what your

husband does wrong or as a man,

you allow your family members to

dictate to you what should be and

not be in your home thereby

making your wife irrelevant when it

comes to decision making.

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Most marriages today do not

work not because the husband

and wife aren't meant for each

other but because third parties

are being allowed in the

marriage.

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Marriage is a union between a man and his wife and not a man, his wife and the entire extended family or friends. Of course these people are necessary in ones life but they should have their limits when it comes to family matter in order for peace to reign in that marriage.

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Lots of marriages have

broken up because one of

the spouse gave in the

advice gotten from an

outsider.

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The couple normally set high

expectations when they are entering

into marriage believing that they

would have a wonderful marriage

since the love they had for each

other is so strong.

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But like all marriages, they would start having little misunderstandings, the husband begins to see the things he never knew the wife had in her and the wife also starts seeing things she did not bargain for in her marriage.

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As young couples they can’t

take it and normally they would

decided start talking to people

about their problems.

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Both get different types of

advice from different people

that does not help them. Some

people go as far as teaching the

man to beat his wife and stay

out late as a way of punishing

her for not cooking his meal

on time.

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No one should be allowed to interfere

in your marriage. When you start

thinking you have someone else to

talk to if your wife does not want to

talk, things will get worse till

communication gap widens. When

there is no communication, things go

from worse to worst.

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The people you go to meet

might not be having a good

marriage so what do you expect

to get from such places? I

believe in couples sitting down

to settle their differences

instead of having others do it

for them.

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The bond between a man and a

woman who stand in front of

God with their hearts open to

His guidance and involvement

is very strong. God is interested

in that union.

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This union should be full of assurance that their promise is a lifelong union in order to enjoy this union these qualities in their life are a must:

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Unshakeable Trust Calmness Respect Reliability Devotion Integrity Honesty Faith Love Hope

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Dignity

Stability

Joy

Peace

Friendship

Standing on a Strong foundation

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To all the Husbands and wives;

My encouragement to you is

this: Follow Christ’s example;

Be absolutely, unshakably

committed to your spouse, in

good times and bad.

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EFFECTS OF ALLOWING THIRD PARTIES IN

MARRIAGES

1) It doesn't allow for closeness

between husband and wife

2) It diminishes love between a

man and his wife

3) It reduces your value as a man.

You will be assumed that you are a

man who can't bring orderliness in

his home.

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4) It doesn't give room for privacy.

People get to know what goes on

in your home

5) It widens the communication

gap in the home

6) You will really have low esteem

as you will not be able to make any

independent decisions on your

own.

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8) It results in lots of confusion

7) People will write you off as

being an irresponsible man.

9.) Your marriage will be the talk

of the village/estate where you

are.

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The above and lots more are the after effect of allowing third parties into your home. Note that it is better not to start it at all but if you have, stop it before it's too late because it will get to a stage when it will be very difficult to stop it without causing great trouble for yourself.

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There might be times when you

might need someone to talk to,

the best person to talk to is a

marriage counselor. There are

lots of them out there. They are

in a better position to help.

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My wife and I have been happily

married for 37 YEARS. We

attribute this to the Lord’s

goodness as well as to our

having learned and practiced

Biblical Principles of Marriage.

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FINALLY

Keep off Third Parties in your

marriages as they will bring

disasters in the marriage

institution.

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