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Pearls of Islam Reminder Series

Being the Best to our ParentsBy Obaid Hashmi

A n d y o u r L o r d

decreed that you

should worship none

but Him and that you

be dutiful to your

parents. If one of

them or both attainold age in your life,

then do not say to

them uff , nor shout

a t t h e m , r a t h e r

a d d r e s s t h e m i n

terms of honour. And

lower for them the

wing of submission

and humility through mercy. And say, My Lord!

Grant them Your mercy as they brought me up

when I was small. (Quran, 17:23-24)

Being the best to our parents is of huge importance in

Islam and I can only touch on a topic of such

significance.

We have all had those moments where we may have got

a little frustrated or angry at our parents. They may have

told us to study harder, clean our rooms or got into

arguments because they didnt let us do what we want.

Yet Allah (swt) has told us that then do not say to them

uff" which means that even if we feel that they are

being fair or unfair or we feel that we are right we should

not even show them our frustration. We should show

them respect because Allah (swt) has commanded us to

do so and because during our lives, the good our

parents have done for us is always going to outweigh the

hurt we may perceive they have done to us.

As we get older we may feel like we are independent,

understand the world around us and when our parents

say something to us we may often respond in anger and

frustration. We feel they dont understand us or cannot

relate to us, and in anger storm off to our rooms.

Nevertheless our parents put up with us endlessly with

nothing but love.

Most of us have had moments where we felt our parents

were lecturing us and may have felt some irritation,

however if you or I look back at those moments, in most

cases what was being said was because our parents

want the best for us. They are often trying to teach us

invaluable lessons and the lessons they have taught us

and care they gave is something we may often take forgranted. My dad often says to me that he really

remembers and understands the all the things his father

used to say to him when his father had passed away.

Unfortunately we often undervalue the blessings in our

lives until we lose them or are about to lose them.

Our mothers are specifically mentioned as we may

forget what theyve done for us during times we cannot

remember. When we were foetuses our mothers went

through much pain and suffering and when we were

newborns and toddlers our mothers did everything for us

such as feeding us, changing us, comforting us, taking

care of us when we were ill and so on.

We also often forget all the things our parents do for us

from driving us around or picking us up late from our

friends house to making dua for us to pass our exams

and so much more. Our parents will have likely been

there in the best of times but almost more importantly

they were there supporting us and helping us through

the worst of times.

In summary we should remember how much our parents

do for us and by the command of Allah should alwaysaddress them with respect. We should also aim do

things for our parents that will make them happy whether

that is cleaning the house, doing the shopping or buying

a gift for our mothers. We should always keep our

parents in our du'as as the amount our parents did for us

is so much that we as humans can never give back that

much and only Allah (swt) can. I myself need to take

heed of this advice and we should all try to be the best to

our parents InshAllah.

THE PEARLS OF ISLAM

REMINDER SERIES

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