the path of the uncorrelated mormon
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The Path of the Uncorrelated Mormon. John Dehlin. How do we create local and global communities of support in support of uncorrelated Mormons?. The only question (for me). (Need help developing this presentation). (Not about word parsing, academic posturing). Some Common Stages. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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The Path of the Uncorrelated Mormon
John Dehlin
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How do we create local and global communities of support in support of uncorrelated Mormons?
The only question (for me)
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(Need help developing this presentation)
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(Not about word parsing, academic posturing)
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Some Common Stages
True believerTraumatized believer
Liberal believerEvaporation of traditional belief
Pragmatic, non-believing participantEx/Post-Mormon
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The True Believer
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“To believe in God is impossible. To not believe in Him is absurd.”
Voltaire
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“If God did not exist it would be necessary to invent him.”
Voltaire
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True Believer
• God lives and He loves us• The scriptures are His word• Jesus died that we may live with God someday• Church leaders (GA’s and local) speak for God• LDS church members are chosen• The LDS church is true• Obey and be blessed
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Beautifully simple, Simply beautiful
(Iron rod)
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16,000,000 reasons to love Mormonism
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If I could have stayed in this stage, I would have
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The Traumatized Believer
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Love
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Studying Church History
• Multiple, varying first vision accounts
• Joseph’s use of folk magic/treasure digging
• Book of Mormon translation (stone/hat)
• Masonry / temple connection
• Polygamy/polyandry and deception
• Kinderhook plates• Book of Abraham• Church’s history with
race• Dis-empowerment of
women• Mountain Meadows
Massacre• General lack of candor by
church
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Thinking about doctrine/theology
• Taking the Bible seriously• God-sanctioned genocide, sexism,
homophobia?• The need for an atonement?• One true church w/ exclusive authority?• Apostasy?• Historical Book of Mormon? • Proxy work for the dead?• Church led by God?
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Spiritual Issues
• Never receiving a spiritual witness• Feeling unfulfilled in church activity• Feeling spiritually led elsewhere• Redefining your understanding of
spiritual knowledge• Disaffection of a loved-one
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Cultural Issues
• Developing racial sympathies• Developing feminist sympathies• Developing LGBTQ (gay) feelings or
sympathies• Developing liberal political
sympathies• Extensive exposure to non-Mormons
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Organizational Issues
• Corporate culture • Culture of authority, rules, and
unquestioning obedience• Culture of patriarchy• The billion $ mall
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Non-Sources of Trauma (Disaffection Myths)
• A desire to sin• Being offended• Caring too little
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No single smoking gun….…instead a mosaic that lacks
credibility
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Credible concerns by credible people
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For many, it’s the Church’s credibility that
becomes the issue
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The Liberal Believer
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Liberal Believer
• The gospel is still mostly true, but the church/leaders aren’t perfect• “Buffet” Mormon• A “shelf” for doubts/concerns• Lots of symbolic/metaphorical belief• “This is where God wants me….”• Patron saints: Lowell Bennion, Eugene
England, Richard Bushman
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Challenges to Liberal Phase
• The church is led in a somewhat authoritarian, literalistic way
• By nature, liberals question, dissect, disobey
• Open liberals are not generally appreciated in authoritarian organizations
• Hard to be authentic, and hard to not feel like an outlier
• Sometimes the trauma becomes too great
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Evaporation of Belief
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Evaporation of belief
• God, Christ, all religious beliefs often go out the window• Hit rock bottom• Very, very disturbing and unsettling
for many• “Dark night of the soul”
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Dark Night of the Soul
• No existential foundation–Meaning, purpose, fear of death, loss
of identity and values framework• Fear of losing family, friends, social
network, jobs• Can’t tell anyone. Desperately lonely• Anxiety, depression, suicide
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At this point, some people circle back to a previous stage
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Factors that Affect Circling Back
• What if my spouse leaves me?• How will I raise my children?• Concern about loss of respect from
friends/family• Concern about social isolation• Desire to see a deceased loved one again• Concern about death• Concern about job security
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Pragmatic, Non-Believing Participant
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Pragmatic, Non-Believing Participant
• Enjoy it. “Works for me.”• Can’t find anything better
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Problems with the Pragmatic Perspective
• Usually involves staying silent• Often leaves one feeling inauthentic• Can lead to building internal pressure• Can lead to bitterness/anger• Can lead people to live a “double-life”
The eventual killer: Integrity
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Ex/Post Mormon
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Ex/Post Mormon
• Often is an incredible act of courage– Can lead to loss of family, friends, job, etc.
• Can leave a huge vacuum in life• In early stages, can involve behaviors that are reactive to
Mormonism– Coffee, alcohol, etc.
• Involves establishing:– New identity– New moral framework– New social community– Coping mechanisms for death, suffering
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1. There is a significant trend towards disbelief and disengagement
(uncorrelation) in the LDS church
(credibility and integrity are the 2 big issues)
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2. This trend is much bigger than just the LDS church
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3. There is probably little to nothing substantive that the church can do about it (and stay strong)
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4. If you haven’t already become uncorrelated, you likely will, and the majority of your children or
loved ones children most likely will
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5) Becoming uncorrelated causes a major disruption and often leaves a significant vacuum
in an active LDS church member’s life
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The Biggest Gaps When People Become Uncorrelated
• Loss of spouse• Loss of support for raising children and teens• Loss of friends/family relationships• Loss of moral framework• Loss of identity• Loss of spiritual framework/support• Concern about job security
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Could We Create Together….
• Support for alternative approaches to a moral framework
• Support for alternative forms of spirituality• A dating service for singles/divorced• Local communities– For children -- Local play groups– For teens -- EFY’s– For college students -- College meet-up groups– For couples/families – Book clubs, study groups
• A new collective identity? (“Reform Judaism”)
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• NOT a church/religion• Can co-exist with church/religion • Positive, constructive approach• Carry forward the good in what got us here– Heavy emphasis on love/service– Support of families (all types)– Strong communities of support– Encouraging healthy living
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• Leave behind the less desirable things– Belief in harmful doctrine/theology– Bigotry– Sexism– Authoritarianism– Patriarchy– Elitism– Anti-intellectualism / anti-science
• Strong appreciation of science• Rooted in common sense values/ethics
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How do we create local and global communities of support in support of transcendence?
The only question (for me)