the networkers guide to powerful communication and rapport
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The Networkers Guide to Powerful Communication
and Rapportwww.CreateaHappyBusiness.com
Carol Merlo M.Ed.
Ideal Communication Flow Cycle
Thinks: I want a Deciduous Healthy Tree that Provides Shade
Says: “Can you find me a good Tree?”
Hears: Deciduous Healthy Tree that Provides Shade
Says: “Sure. There is a tree that is perfect for your needs right outside”
Wendy the Wall of WordsMe, Me , more about me, all about me, lots of detail, lots of
story, repeats the story, longer story, some more about me, lots of words, doesn’t come up for air, not aware of social cues. Me, me , more about me, all about me, details, lots of story, repeats
the story, longer story, some more about me, lots of words, doesn’t come up for air, not aware of social cues. Me, Me , more
about me, all about me, details, lots of story, repeats the story, longer story, some more about me, lots of words, doesn’t come up for air, not aware of
social cues. Me, Me , more about me, all about me, details, lots of story, repeats the story, longer story, some more about me, lots of words, doesn’t come up for air, not aware of social cues. Me, Me , more about me, all about
me, details, lots of story, repeats the story, longer story, some more about me, lots of words, doesn’t come up for air, not aware of social cues. Me, Me , more about me, all about me, details, lots of story, repeats the story, longer
story, some more about me, lots of words, doesn’t come up for air, not aware of social cues. And more about me…
Incomplete Communication Cycle 1I am hungry and my feet
hurt!Thinks: Deciduous Healthy Tree that Provides Shade
Says: “Tree”I am so tired
of this person!
I think it should be flowers.
OK
Sender sends message but listener is not attentive or forthcoming. Sender thinks listener heard the message and agrees.
I am understood.
Incomplete Communication Cycle 2Thinks: Deciduous Healthy Tree that Provides Shade
Says: “Tree”
Thinks: Fruit Tree
Thinks: Scary Monster Tree from my ChildhoodSays:
“Tree”
Receiver assumes a different meaning to the message. Speaker assumes listener understood.
I am understood.
Incomplete Communication Cycle 3Thinks: Deciduous Healthy Tree that Provides Shade
Says: “Tree”
What?
Says: “ You know… a Tree”
I don’t want to look stupid.
OK
What is a tree?
Receiver is confused and doesn’t ask for clarification.
I am understood.
What the Sender Can Do
• Ask Clarifying What, When, and How Open-Ended Questions
• What do you think about those trees?• How would you do this if it were you?• When do you think this type of tree is
useful?• Why Questions Can Appear
Confrontational, so Avoid them.
What the Receiver Can Do
• Ask Clarifying What, When, and How Open-Ended Questions
• What kind of tree are you talking about?• I’m sorry, I was distracted. Would you mind repeating that?• How are you thinking of using the tree?• When do you think this type of tree is useful?
• Double Check What you Heard• I heard you say trees. Can you tell me more about that?
• Why Questions Can Appear Confrontational, so Avoid them.
The First Seven Seconds
• Seven seconds is the average length of time you have to make a first impression.
• It takes 5 positive encounters to cancel out 1 negative encounter.
What People Notice
• Face to Face:• 93% of how you are judged is based on
your appearance and body language. • 7% is influenced by the words that you
speak. • On the Phone
• 70% of how you are perceived is based on your tone of voice.
• 30% on your words.
How to Introduce Yourself
The goal is to learn to easily talk to strangers and get them to be comfortable with you.
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