the masterpiece marriage (focus on the family marriage series)
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PRAISEFORTHEMARRIAGESERIES
Weoftenhearthattheinstitutionofmarriageissuffering.Butthereisgoodnews,too!Bysubmittingtheir
relationshipstoGodandseekingouttherightresources,marriedcouplescanknowwhatitmeanstotrulythrive.That’swhatFocusontheFamily’sMarriageSeriesisallabout.Whetheryou’reinasmallgroup,amentoringrelationship,oryoujustwanttostudyasacouple,thisseriescantransformyourmarriageforthebetter.
JimDalyPresident,FocusontheFamily
Astrongmarriageisthecornerstoneofastronghome,andastronghomeisthecornerstoneofstrongchurchesandcommunities,aswellasournation.TheseBiblestudies
coverthepertinentareasofmakingmarriagesthrive,andIhighlyrecommendthemwhetheryouarenewlymarriedor
seasoned.
Dr.TonyEvansSeniorPastor,OakCliffBibleFellowshipAuthor,KingdomManandKingdomWomanMarriageisanamazingadventure—filledwithexcitement,joyand
challenges.FocusontheFamily’sMarriageSeriesexaminesGod’sgiftofmarriageinallofitswonderfuldimensions.Iconsideritaprivilegetobeinvolvedwiththis
importantsetofrelationship-strengtheningresources.
Dr.GregSmalleyVicePresident,FamilyMinistries,FocusontheFamilyInadayandagewherethecovenantofmarriageissoquicklytossedasideinthenameofincompatibilityandirreconcilabledifferences,amarriageBiblestudythatisbothinspirationalandpracticalisdesperatelyneeded.TheFocusontheFamilyMarriageSeriesiswhatcouplesareseeking.IgivemyhighestrecommendationtothisBiblestudyseries
thathasthepotentialtodramaticallyimpactandimprovemarriagestoday.Marriage
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isnotsomuchaboutfindingtherightpartnerasitisaboutbeingtherightpartner.ThesestudiesgivewonderfulbiblicalteachingforhelpingthosewhowanttolearnthebeautifulartofbeingandbecomingallthatGodintendsintheirmarriage.
LysaTerKeurstPresident,Proverbs31MinistriesAuthor,CaptureHerHeart;CaptureHisHeart,andtheNewYorkTimesBestsellersMadetoCraveandUngluedTheFocusontheFamilyMarriageSeriesisjustwhatthedoctorordered:It’stimelyandtimeless—chock-fullofgroundedinformationandtoolseverycouplecanputintopractice
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ThismarriagestudyseriesispureFocusontheFamily—reliable,biblicallysoundanddedicatedtoreestablishingfamilyvaluesintoday’ssociety.Thisserieswillnodoubthelpamultitudeofcouplesstrengthentheirrelationship,notonlywitheachother,butalsowithGod,thecreatorof
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marriage?You’llenjoythistimelyandpracticalseries!
Dr.KevinLemanBestsellingAuthor,SheetMusic:UncoveringtheSecretsofSexualIntimacyin
Marriage
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TableofContents
Cover
TitlePage
CopyrightPage
PraiseforTheMarriageSeries
ForewordbyGaryT.SmalleyandGregSmalley
Introduction
SessionOne:GreatExpectations—Genesis1:27Godhasaneternalpurposeformarriage.
SessionTwo:TheDivineTriangle—Genesis2:24-25Truehappinessandfulfillmentinmarriagecomesfromathree-wayrelationship.
SessionThree:TheGreatAdventure—Genesis1:28Godgavethefirstcoupleworktodo,andHeprovidedalltheyneeded.
SessionFour:AWalkintheGarden—Genesis3:8-9WecanwalkwiththeLordGodinintimaterelationship—asindividualsandasacouple.
Leader’sDiscussionGuide
Notes
BackAds
BackCover
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Foreword
FocusontheFamily’sTheFamilyProjectisthelargestsingleinitiativeintheministry’shistory.Itisdesignedtoaddressthequestionofwhethertheinstitutionsofmarriageandfamily,asGodcreatedthemandexplainstheminScripture,arestillbestforhumanhealthandhappiness.Inadayandagewhentheseinstitutionsseemtoundergoconstantredefinition—andwhendivorceandthecomplexitiesofdailylifearetakingadevastatingtollonmarriageandfamily—weneedtoaskwhatGodhadinmindwhenHemadetheminthefirstplace.TheFocusontheFamilyMarriageSeriesisakeyresourcein
thatinitiative.BasedonthebookYourMarriageMasterpiece,thisserieslooks“behindthecurtain”ofhistory.OtherpartsoftheprogrammakethecasethatmarriageandfamilyreflectthenatureofGodHimself;thisserieslooksingreaterdetailatthemanyaspectsthatmakeupthedivinemasterworkthatisthemarriagerelationship.FocusontheFamilyiswellknownandrespectedworldwide
foritssteadfastdedicationtopreservingthesanctityofmarriageandfamilylife.Thisseriesiswellwritten,biblicallysoundandrightontargetforguidingcouplestoexplorethefoundationGodhaslaidformarriageandtoseeHimastherolemodelfortheperfectspouse.Throughthisseries,seedswillbeplantedthatwillgerminateinyourheartandmindformanyyearstocome.Inourpractical,bottom-lineculture,weoftenwanttojump
overthewhyandgetstraighttothewhat.Wethinkthatbydoingthesixstepsorlearningthefiveways,wewillreachthegoal.Butdeep-rootedgrowthisslowerandmorepurposefulandbeginswithawell-groundedunderstandingofGod’sdivinedesign.Knowingwhymarriageexistsiscrucialtomakingthehow-tosmoreeffective.MarriageisagiftfromGod,auniqueanddistinctcovenantrelationshipthroughwhichHisgloryand
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goodnesscanresonate,andonlythroughknowingthearchitectandHisplanwillmarriagesbebuiltonthesurestfoundation.Godcreatedmarriage;Hehasaspecificpurposeforit,and
HeiscommittedtofillingwithfreshlifeandrenewedstrengtheachunionyieldedtoHim.Godwantstogathertheheartsofeverycoupletogether,unitetheminloveandwalkthemtothefinishline—allinHisgreatgraceandgoodness.MayGod,inHisgrace,leadyouintoHistruth,strengthening
yourlivesandyourmarriage.
GaryT.Smalley
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SmalleyInstituteandBestsellingAuthor
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GregSmalleyVicePresident,FamilyMinistry,FocusontheFamily
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Introduction
AtthebeginningofcreationGod“madethemmaleandfemale.”“Forthisreasonamanwillleavehisfatherandmotherandbeunitedtohiswife,andthetwowillbecomeoneflesh.”Sotheyarenolongertwo,but
one.Mark10:6-8
TheMasterpieceMarriagecanbeusedinavarietyofsituations,includingsmall-groupBiblestudies,SundaySchoolclasses,counselingormentoringsituations.Acouplecanalsousethisbookasanat-homemarriage-buildingstudy.Eachofthefoursessionscontainsfourmaincomponents.
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SessionOverview
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TillingtheGroundThisisanintroductiontothetopicbeingdiscussed—commentaryandquestionstodirectyourthoughtstowardthemainideaofthesession.
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PlantingtheSeedThisistheBiblestudyportioninwhichyouwillreadScriptureandanswerquestionstohelpdiscoverlastingtruthsfromGod’sWord.
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WateringtheHopeThisisatimefordiscussionandprayer.Whetheryouareusingthestudyathomeasacouple,inasmallgrouporinaclassroomsetting,talkingaboutthelessonwithyourspouseisagreatwaytosolidifythetruthandplantitdeeplyintoyourhearts.
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HarvestingtheFruitAsapointofaction,thisportionofthesessionofferssuggestionsonputtingthetruthoftheWordintoactioninyourmarriagerelationship.
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SuggestionsforIndividualCoupleStudy
Thereareatleastthreeoptionsforusingthisstudyasacouple.
Itmaybeusedasadevotionalstudythateachspousewouldstudyindividuallythroughtheweek;thenonaspecifiedday,cometogetheranddiscusswhatyouhavelearnedandhowtoapplyittoyourmarriage.Youmightchoosetostudyonesessiontogetherinaneveningandthenworkontheapplicationactivitiesduringtherestoftheweek.Becauseoftheshortlengthofthisstudy,itisagreatresourceforaweekendretreat.Takeatripawayfortheweekend,andstudyeachsessiontogether,interspersedwithyourfavoriteleisureactivities.
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SuggestionsforGroupStudy
Therearemanywaysthatthisstudycanbeusedinagroupsituation.Themostcommonwayisinasmall-groupBiblestudyformat.However,itcanalsobeusedinanadultSundaySchoolclass.Howeveryouchoosetouseit,therearesomegeneralguidelinestofollowforgroupstudy.
Keepthegroupsmall—fivetosixcouplesisprobablythemaximum.Askcouplestocommittoregularattendanceforthefourweeksofthestudy.Regularattendanceisakeytobuildingrelationshipsandtrustinagroup.Encourageparticipantsnottoshareanythingofapersonalorpotentiallyembarrassingnaturewithoutfirstaskingthespouse’spermission.Whateverisdiscussedinthegroupmeetingsistobeheldinstrictestconfidenceamonggroupmembersonly.
Thereareadditionalleaderhelpsinthebackofthisbook.
SuggestionsforMentoringorCounselingRelationshipsThisstudyalsolendsitselfforuseinrelationshipswhereonecouplementorsorcounselsanothercouple.
Amentoringrelationshipcouldbearrangedthroughasystemsetupbyachurchorministry:Acouplethathasbeenmarriedforseveralyearsisassignedtomeetonaregularbasiswithayoungercouple.Alessformalwaytostartamentoringrelationshipisforayoungercoupletotaketheinitiativeandapproachacouplethatexemplifyamature,godlymarriageandaskthemtomeetwiththemonaregularbasis.Orthereversemightbeamaturecouplethatapproachesayoungercoupletobeginamentoringrelationship.
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Whenaskedtomentor,somemightshyawayandthinkthattheycouldneverdothat,knowingthattheirownmarriageislessthanperfect.Butjustaswearetodisciplenewbelievers,wemustlearntodisciplemarriedcouplestostrengthenmarriagesinthisdifficultworld.TheLordhaspromisedtobe“withyoualways”(Matthew28:20).Beforeyoubegintomentoracouple,firstcompletethestudyyourselves.Thiswillservetostrengthenyourownmarriageandprepareyouforleadinganothercouple.Bepreparedtolearnasmuchormorethanthecouple(s)youwillmentor.
TheFocusontheFamilyMarriageSeriesisbasedonAlJanssen’sTheMarriageMasterpiece,aninsightfullookatwhatmarriagecan—andshould—be.Inthisstudy,wearepleasedtoleadyouthroughthewonderfuljourneyofdiscoveringthejoyinyourmarriagethatGodwantsyoutoexperience!
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GREATExpectations
SoGodcreatedmaninhisownimage,intheimageofGodhecreatedhim;maleand
femalehecreatedthem.Genesis1:27
ImaginethatyouareplanningatripfromyourhometotheNorthPole.First,youdustoffyourgearandgetitready.Thenyoupurchaseadditionalsupplies,makingsuretorunthroughyourchecklistseveraltimestobesurethatyouhaveeverythingyouneed.Finally,youarereadytoembarkonyourjourney.Nowimaginethattheonlyflawinyourcarefullypackedgear
isafaultycompasswhichleadsyouinadirectionjustonedegreeoffyourintendedcourse.Atfirsttherewouldnotbeanynoticeableerror;youwouldcontinueyourrouteandenjoythescenery.Eventually,though,youwouldrealizethatyourdestinationisnotinsightandthatyourimperfectcompassreadinghadledyoutoanotherplace—oneyouhadn’tplannedonvisiting!Insomewaysourlives,andparticularlyourmarriage
relationships,canexperienceasimilarproblem.Westartoffrunningwithwhatseemstobecalculatedperfection.Wehavealltherighttools,knowalltherightlingoandbeginthejourneywithdecidedconfidenceandboundlessenergy.Thensomewherealongthelinewefindourselvesoffcourse,andwe
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wonderwhathappened.Wearen’twherewethoughtwe’dbe—andwedon’tknowwhy.
TillingtheGroundGreatmarriagesstartbydiscoveringGod’splan.
WhydidGodcreatemarriage?Whatisthiscovenantrelationshipallabout?Whatisthefinaldestinationforahusbandandwife?
Bydefiningourexpectationsforamarriagerelationship,allowingGodtofinetuneourdesirestoHis,harmonizingwithHispurposesandwill,notonlycanwearriveattherightplace,butwecanalsoenjoythetrip!
1.Asyouweregrowingup,whatwasyourgeneralopinionofmarriage?
2.Beforeyouweremarried,whatdidyouexpectyourmarriagewouldbelike?
3.Afteryouweremarried,howdidyourexpectationschange?
4.Howdidyourexpectationsmeetwithyourexperience?
5.Inyouropinion,whatistheultimatepurpose,orthefinaldestination,formarriage?
6.Fromyouranswersabove,identifyyourtopthreemarriageexpectations.
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7.Whatwouldyousayyourspouse’stopthreemarriageexpectationsmightbe?
Mostlikely,noneoftheexpectationsyoulistedareunrealistic.Butifwewanttocomprehendthetruepurposeofsomething,whyitwasinvented,whatwecanexpectittodoandhowitbestworks,wefirstshouldlookattheinventor.Likewise,ifwewanttounderstandthepurposeofmarriage—itsdivinedesign—thenweneedtogototheonewhodesignedit:God!
PlantingtheSeed
Expectation—HopeonaRope
Expectationislikeacompassthatdetermineshowweaddresstheday-to-daychoicesoflifeand,ultimately,whichdirectionwearewalking.TheHebrewwordfor“expectation”istiqvah,whichisalsotranslated“hope.”Itliterallymeans“somethingyearnedfor;somethingforwhichonewaits.”Interestingly,theoriginalmeaningcomesfromawordthatmeans“tostretchlikearope.”[1]
8.Whatdoesthe“scarletcord”(or“rope,”dependingonyourBibletranslation)inJoshua2:17-21remindyouof?(SeealsoExodus12:22-23;1Corinthians5:7;1Peter1:19.)
Rahab’sscarletropewasherhope—heranticipationofsalvationinthefaceofdestruction.Shehungthatcord—tiqvah—inherwindow,believingthatGodwoulddeliverherandherfamily,andHedid.IntheNewTestament,thewordtranslatedeither
“expectation”or“hope”means“aconfidentexpectationbaseduponsolidcertainty.”[2]Biblicalhopeismuchmorethanwishfulthinking;itisaropeattachedtoastakethat’sbeen
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drivenintotherock—astandoffaiththatfindsitsstrengthinthepromisegiver.WecanhavestronghopeandwecanexpectgoodthingsbecauseGodisourhope!
9.Whatdoeachofthefollowingversessayabouthope?
Psalm71:5
Proverbs23:18
Jeremiah29:11
Romans15:13
Colossians1:27
Hebrews10:23
10.FromtheseScriptures,howwouldyoudefinehope?
11.Howshouldhopeaffectyourlife?
Okay,okay—you’reprobablythinking,Whatintheworlddoesthishavetodowithmarriage?Well,notonlydoestheBiblehavemuchtosayaboutourexpectations,butalsoitspeakstotheprimarytopicathand:thewhyofmarriage.Let’sdiscoverGod’sexpectationforthisamazingunion.
AGlimpseofGlory
TheBiblehasalottosayaboutmarriage—itspurposeanditsdestination.Asyouworkthroughthissection,thinkabout
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God’sdesignforthemarriagerelationship.Genesis1-2revealsGodasthecreatoroftheworldand
everythinginit.ReadthefirsttwochaptersofGenesis;thenrereadtheversesasdirectedandanswerthequestionsforeach.
12.AccordingtoGenesis1:3,6,9,14,20,24,howdidGodcreatethethingslistedintheseverses?
13.AccordingtoGenesis2:7,whatisdifferentaboutthewayGodcreatedman?
14.WhatdoesthefactthatGodpersonallymadethefirstmanandthefirstwoman,usingHisownhandstoformthemandbreathingHisverylifeintothem,saytoyouabouttheuniquenessofyouandyourspouse?
Itisoftensaidthatartreflectslife.ThisistrueabouttheworldaroundusandisalsotrueaboutGod.HiscreationisanexpressionofHisheart—andrevealssomethingaboutwhoHeis.
15.HowdothefollowingversesunderscorethepointthatcreationrevealsGod?
Psalm19:1-4
Romans1:20
We’venotedthat,ofallGod’screation,humankindisHiscrowningachievement—Hismostvaluedhandiwork.BecausehumansweremadealivebyGod’sSpirit,wearespiritualbeingswiththeabilitytorelatetoGodlikenootherpartofcreationcan.
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WehearthepleasureofGodaseachlayerofcreationisbroughtforthinprecisionandbeauty—light,sky,land,stars,plantsandanimals:“Godsawthatitwasgood”(Genesis1:4,9,12,18,21,25).ButafterHemademan,Hisjoywasdoublyevident:“Godsawallthathehadmade,anditwasverygood”(Genesis1:31).
It’saFact!IntheoriginalaccountofcreationfromGenesis1-2,adamisnotjustthepersonalnamefortheman,Adam,butitcanalsomean“humanbeing”or“humankind,”whichclearlyincludesbothmaleandfemalepeople.
WehaveseenfromtheBiblethatallofGod’screationisareflectionofwhoHeis,asignpostandatestimonytoHisgreatglory,wisdomandcreativity.NowconsiderHisapexcreation:bothAdamandEve.Theyweresouniquelydesignedthatthey,whenrightlyunited,couldbettertestifytothenatureofGodthanthemostperfectsunriseorthemoststrikingmountainskyline.Boththemanandthewomanareneededtorevealthetrue
natureofGod.Theultimategoalofmarriage—God’sexpectationforit—isthereflectionofHisimage.AlthoughourhumansinfulnessdisallowsthefullcharacterofHisglorytoberevealed,ashusbandandwifewearethemostsuitedtoexemplifytheOnewhomadeus(eveninlightofourapparentdepravity).
16.HowmightJohn13:34-35and17:23relatetounityinmarriageasareflectionoftheimageofGod?
Throughtheunionofmarriage,wecanreflectaglimpseofthegloryofGodtotheworldaroundus.Thisisourbrightesthopeandourgreatestexpectation:tobringthemessageofGod’sloveandredemptiontotheworld.JesusHimselfsaidthatitwasthroughourloveandthroughourunitythattheworldwouldbedrawntoHim.Wemostoftenassumethatthisloveandunityprimarilyoccursinourdailyrelationshipwithothers.Withoutadoubtitdoes,butwhenyouthinkabouttheheartof
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GodrevealedthroughHiscreationoftheworldandofmankind,whereisthefirstpictureoftrueunity?Itisinthecreationofthemankind—maleandfemale.Godwantsloveandunityexpressedmostfullyintheunique,divinerelationshipbetweenamanandawomanthatwecallmarriage.Marriageisallaboutoneness—beginningwhenGodremoved
Adam’sribtoformEveandthengaveEvetoAdamsothattheycouldbecomeonefleshagain.Thisonenessisnotanendinandofitself,however,andthisiswhereourexpectationscomein.Whenweexpectthattheprimarypurposeofmarriageisself-
fulfillmentandpersonalhappiness,wemissitshigherpurposeandsetourselvesupfordisappointmentandheartache.Withoutadoubt,marriageisaplaceofdeepintimacyandjoy—unlikeanyotherrelationshipwecanenjoyhereonEarth.Yetthisfulfillmentandjoy,thissecurityandcompanionship,aremerelytheby-productsofmarriage’shighestpurpose:onenessthatreflectstheonenessofGodHimself,revealingHisdesiretobeonewithus.
17.WhatdothefollowingversessayaboutGod’spurposeformarriage?
Matthew19:4-6
Ephesians5:31-32
ItisGod’sexpectationthatthroughthelovesharedbyahusbandandwife,bothwouldbetterunderstand—anddemonstratetotheworld—theirFather’sloveforthem.Marriage,likeallothercreation,ismeanttodrawoureyestoGod.
WateringtheHope
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Takesometimetoreflectonwhatyou’velearnedaboutGod’sexpectationsformarriage.
18.Reviewtheexpectationsyoulistedatthebeginningofthissession.Inlightofwhathasbeenshared,haveyourexpectationsofwhatmarriageisallaboutchangedatall?How?
19.DoyouagreethatthehighestpurposeofmarriageisthereflectionofGod’sglory?Whyorwhynot?
20.Whatexpectationsmightstrengthenamarriagerelationship?
21.HowmightseekingGod’sexpectationsforyourmarriageactuallyleadtogreaterself-fulfillment?
Often,toomuchemphasisisplacedonromanticfeelingsoflove.Whenfeelingsaregone,peopleassumethattheloveisgonetooandthuslookforitelsewhere.
22.HowcanabetterunderstandingofGod’sexpectationformarriagegivecouplesastrongpointofhopefortheirrelationships?
HarvestingtheFruitThebiblicalbasisformarriageisrelationshipbetweenahusbandandwifethatleadsboththeirheartstodeepercommunionwithGod.Wemustrealignourheartstothebiblicalexpectations.
Godcreatedmarriage.Godgavemarriageadivinepurposeandgoal.
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GodmeantmarriagetobeareflectionoftheonenessHedesirestohavewithus.
Planaspecifictimeinthenextweekduringwhichyouwillreviewthevowsyoumadeatyourwedding.
23.Whatdidyoupromisetoeachother?
24.Whatdoyouexpectfromeachotherinlightofthevowsyoumade?
25.HowdoesyourmarriagerelationshipreflectsomethingofGod’snatureand/orgiveglorytoHim?
26.WhatisoneattitudeoractionthatyouneedtochangeinordertobegintofulfillGod’spurposeforyourmarriage?
PraytogetherthatGodcontinuestoopenyoureyestoHisdivinedesignforyourmarriage.AskHimforHisguidanceandblessingtohelpyoualignyourownexpectationsformarriagetoHis.
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THEDivineTriangle
Forthisreasonamanwillleavehisfatherandmotherandbeunitedtohiswife,andtheywillbecomeoneflesh.Themanandhiswifewerebothnaked,andtheyfeltno
shame.Genesis2:24-25
Youhaveprobablyheardthesaying,Two’scompany;three’sacrowd.Thismaybetrueinsomesituationsbutnotinamarriage!InamarriagerelationshipthatworksthewayGoddesigned,twocanbedifficult,butthreeistrulydivine.Truehappinesscomesfromthethree-wayrelationshipbetweenaman,awomanandGod.OurhighestfulfillmentinmarriagecomeswhenGodisinvitednotonlytobeapartoftheceremonybutalsotobetheever-present,all-sustainingstrengthoftherelationship.
TillingtheGroundHaveyoueverwatchedsomeonebraidarope?Loosefibersaretwistedtogetherinanendlessstreamofbendingandstretching.Theendresult:onecordwhosestrengthfarsurpassestheindividualstrands.Twostrandsalone,eveniftwistedwithconsiderableforce,willeventuallybreakor
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unravel,butthreestrandscanbewovenintosomethingremarkablystronganddurable.Inmuchthesameway,youandyourspouseareuniquestrands,eachbringingtoyourrelationshipthevariousstrengthsandgiftingsGodgaveyou.WithGodasthethirdstrandinthecordofyourmarriage,itwillbeevenstrongerthantwoalone.Ecclesiastes4:12verifieswhatweknowtobetrue:“Acord
ofthreestrandsisnoteasilybroken.”Wewanttohaveastrongmarriage.Wewanttorestconfidentlyinthedurabilityofourrelationship.Howcanwedothis?OnewayistostrengthentheindividualstrandsandthensubmitthemincommittedfaithtotheOnewhoholdsallthingstogether.
1.Inthepastweekhowhaveyouandyourspousewitnessedthetruththat“acordofthreestrandsisnoteasilybroken”?
2.Inwhatwayhaveyouexperiencedthefraying,unravelingorevenbreakingofyourcord?
PlantingtheSeed
IntheBeginning
TakeamomenttoconsiderthelifeAdamandEvehad.Adam,createdbythehandandbreathofGod(seeGenesis2:7),isplacedintheGardenofEdenandgiventhechargeto“workitandtakecareofit”(v.15).Walkingthroughthepristinebeautyofthenewlycreatedworld,namingtheanimals,talkingdailywithGod,livingfreefromtheharnessofsinorselfishness,Adamhadagoodlife!Butitwasnotenough;Godhadmoreinmind.
3.WhatdidGodsayaboutAdam’sstateofsinglenessinGenesis2:18?
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4.HowdidGodanswerthisneedinverses21-22?
5.HowdoesthefactthatGodchosetocreateEveoutofAdam’sownrib(seev.22),insteadofbyHiswordorfromthedustoftheground,pointtoGod’spurposeformarriage?
6.SinceAdamandEvedidnothaveearthlyparents,whatissignificantabouttheinstructiongiveninGenesis2:24?Whatdoesthisstatementunderscoreaboutthefundamentalstructureofmarriage?
JesusreferstoGenesis2:24-25asthefoundationalpointforunderstandingGod’sintentformarriage.ReadMatthew19:4-6.Thinkaboutthephrase“whatGodhasjoinedtogether.”Marriageismuchmorethantwopeoplechoosingtosharealastnameandabankaccount.ItisadivinerelationshipwhereGodHimselfknitsamanandawomantogetherforthepurposeofbeingone.InGod’seyes,itisapermanentbondingoflives.
7.InwhatwayshaveyouseenGodworkinginyourmarriagetobringyouandyourspouseclosertogether?
Godobviouslyfeltthatmanneededwoman,thatthechargetotendthegardenwouldbebetterdonewiththeaidofanother,soHegaveEvetoAdam.Thisisn’ttosaythatsinglepeoplearesomehowincomplete,butitdoespointtothetruththatGod’sdesignforthefullestopportunityfortheexpressionofHisgloryistobeinthejoiningofamanandawomaninmarriage.WithHisongoingguidanceandpresence,theywillgrowtogetherandrevealHisimagetotheworldaroundthem.WithGodastheinitiatorandsustaineroftheirrelationship,AdamandEvewouldnotonlycarefortheworldGodmadebutenjoyitaswell.Butittakesallthreetomakethishappen:theman,thewomanandGod.
StrengtheningtheStrands
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Ifourindividuallivesarestrongandhealthy,thenwearemorelikelytoenjoyastrongandhealthymarriage.Thestrengthofthethreefoldcordisdependentuponeachstrand.Thisdoesn’timplythata“perfect”husbandanda“perfect”wifeequalaperfectmarriage,orthatifyouandyourspousearen’tstrongstrands,thenyourmarriageisboundtounravel.WhatisdoesmeanisthataseachoneseekstheLord,surrenderinghisorherownlifetoHisever-refiningmercy,thecordbecomesmoreandmoreaboutHim,andmoreandmoredurableandsecure.God’sgraceisonlyseenwhenwefaceourcomplete
inadequacyandaskforHispowertodowhatwearepowerlesstodoforourselves.Itisone’spersonalcommitmenttoChrist,toaconsistentdevotionallifeandtoongoingsurrendertoone’sspousethatmakesmarriageadivinetriangleofblessing.
GreatMarriagesBeginwithPersonalCommitmentstoJesusChristJesusChrististheonlydoortoapersonalrelationshipwithGod.WhenwesurrenderourlivestoHislordship,HerestoresustorightrelationshipswithHim.Thispavesthewaytorightrelationshipswithothers.
8.ReadandsummarizeRomans3:23.
SalvationbeginsbyunderstandingthatwehavesinnedandfallenfarshortofGod’sperfectplanforourlives.Wearelostinourownrebellionandcannotsaveourselvesnomatterhowhardwetry.
9.WhatdoesRomans6:23sayabouttheresultofsinandwhatGodofferstous?
ThegoodnewsisthatGodsentHisonlySon,JesusChrist,toprovideuswithcompleteredemptionfromsin.Jesus’sinlesslifeandHisdeathforoursinsprovidesalvationforallwhowillbelieve:“ForGodsolovedtheworldthathegavehisoneand
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onlySon,thatwhoeverbelievesinhimshallnotperishbuthaveeternallife”(John3:16).
10.WhatdoesRomans10:9-13sayabouthowtoexpressbeliefinJesus?
BecausesalvationisagiftofferedbyourgraciousGod,ouronlyresponseistograciouslyreceiveit.
11.CanyousaywithconfidencethatJesusisyourLord?
Yes No
12.Describeyoursalvationexperience.
IfyouhaveneveracceptedJesusChristasSavior,won’tyouconsiderreceivingHimbyfaithrightnow?TheBibleisclear:WhenwecometotheLord,Hewillreceiveus.Takeamomentandconsiderthetruthsthathavebeendiscussedhereandwhatyoumustdoinresponse.
GreatMarriagesAreStrengthenedbyConsistentPersonalDevotionAcommitmenttoChristmustbeencourageddailythroughgooddevotionalhabitsthatincludeBiblereading,prayerandfellowshipwithotherbelievers.
13.WhatdoRomans15:4and2Timothy3:16-17sayaboutthepurposeforreadingGod’sWord?
14.WhatdoesPhilippians4:6-7tellyouabouttheresultofprayer?
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15.AccordingtoHebrews10:24-25,whyisitimportanttomeettogetherwithotherChristians?
16.Whichofthesethreespiritualhabitsareyoupresentlypracticingonaregularbasis?
Whichdoyouneedtoaddtoyourdailyactivities?
GreatMarriagesEndureThroughOngoingPersonalSubmissionKeepingyourpersonalrelationshipwithChriststrongandevergrowingwillaffordyouthegraceandstrengthneededtopouryourselfintothelifeofyourspouse.IndividualsubmissiontoGodandthentoeachotheristhesecrettoenjoyingthisdivinetriangle.Ephesians5:21-33providestheguidelinesforsubmissionto
oneanother.
17.Whatdoesitmeanto“submittooneanotheroutofreverenceforChrist”(v.21)?
18.Inyourmarriage,isthereamutualsubmissiontoeachotherbecauseofyourpersonalcommitmentstoGod?Givearecentexampleofhowyouhaveshownsubmissiontoyourspouse.
Howhasyourspouserecentlyshownsubmissiontoyou?
HowhaveyourecentlyshownsubmissiontoGod?
19.HowhasyourmarriagebeenaffectedbynotsubmittingtooneanotheroutofreverenceforChrist?
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20.InEphesians5:22-24,whatspecificallyisthewifetoldtodo?Whatisthemodelofsubmissionusedintheseverses?
21.Whatdoessubmissionmeantoyou?
Isawife’ssubmissionlicenseforherhusbandtobecomethedictatoroftherelationship?Explainyouranswer.
Inanactoffaithandtrust,wivessubmittotheirhusbands.BecauseofthemutualsubmissionfirsttotheLordandthentoeachother,awifevoluntarilytakesaplaceundertheshelterofthehusband,notasaninferior,butasasuitablehelper.
22.AsyoureadEphesians5:25-28,noteversebyversethemannerinwhichthehusbandistorespondtohiswife.
Verse25
Verse26
Verse27
Verse28
Thehusbandrespondstothewife’ssubmission,notbyassertinghisauthorityandlordingoverher,butbylayingdownhislifeforher,committinghimselffullytoherwell-beingandsuccess.
23.SummarizeEphesians5:29-33.
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24.InwhatwaysisChrist’slovereflectedtoothersthroughyourmarriage?
MarriageismeanttobeanechoofanevengreaterrelationshipthatexistsbetweenChristandtheChurch.ItistheonenessseeninahealthymarriagethatoffersaglimpsetotheworldaroundusoftheultimateonenessoftheLordandHisBride,theChurch.Whenmarriageisfoundeduponthesetruths,itcanaccomplishGod’sgreaterpurpose,revealingthroughtheunionapictureofwhatitmeanstobeonewithGod.
WateringtheHopeMarriageismeanttobeadivinetrianglereflectingthegraceandgloryofGod:amanandawomanboundtogetherbytheverylifeofGodHimself.ItisauniqueanddistinctrelationshipcreatedandsustainedbytheSpiritoftheLord.
25.(Forwives)Howdoyouliveoutthecommandtosubmittoyourhusband?Whatspecificactionsshouldyoutakeonadailyandweeklybasistodemonstrateyourrespect(seeEphesians5:33)forhim?
Daily Weekly
26.(Forhusbands)Howdoyouliveoutthecommandtoloveyourwifeas“Christlovedthechurch”(v.25)?Whatspecificactionsshouldyoutakeonadailyandweeklybasistodemonstrateyourloveforher?
Daily Weekly
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HarvestingtheFruitAhusbandandwifehavethedivineopportunityandcallingtoshowforththenatureofGodinauniqueanddistinctway.SurrenderingtoGod’sdesignformarriagemeansthatwearenolongerfocusedonfindingpersonalhappiness.Instead,weturnourgazeupontheOnewhoisbothourdesireanditsfulfillment.Joinedinmarriage,unitedbyGod’sSpirit,ahusbandandwifearetrulyfreetohonorGodandeachother.
27.Describethefirsttimeyoumetyourspouse.
28.Whatdidyoulikemostaboutyourspousewhenyoumet?
29.Wasthereaspecificmomentwhenyouknewthatheorshewasthepersonwithwhomyouwantedtosharetherestofyourlife?
30.Lookingback,describehowGodworkedinyourlivestobringyoutogether.
31.Inwhatwayshasyourmarriagebeenatwo-personrelationship?
32.Inwhatwaysmightitbeaone-personrelationship?
33.WhatareasneedtobebroughtbacktotheLord,invitingHimtoweaveHisgraceandjoybackintotheropeofyourmarriage?
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Asacouple,writeoutapurposestatementforyourmarriagebaseduponthetruthsdiscussedinthissession.Askyourselves,WhatisGod’sdesignforourmarriageandhowwillitreflecttothosearoundustheultimatedesireofGodforonenesswithHispeople?
Haveyouevermadeanopencommitmenttoyourspousetoplacehisorherneedsaboveyourown,upholdinghisorherinterestsandseekinghisorherbest?Makethatcommitmentnow,andprayerfullyaskGodto
helpyoumaintainyourcommitmentstoloveandrespectoneanotherandtosubmittooneanotheroutofreverenceforChrist.
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THEGreat
AdventureGodblessedthemandsaidtothem,“Befruitfulandincreaseinnumber;filltheearthandsubdueit.Ruleoverthefishoftheseaandthebirdsoftheairandovereverylivingcreaturethatmovesonthe
ground.”Genesis1:28
IpictureAdamandEveintheGardenofEden.Theyareyoung,alivewithenthusiasmforthenewworldaroundthem,dailydiscoveringwithdelightthewondersofGod’shandiwork,marvelingandrejoicinginthediversebeautyandintricatepatternsoflifearoundthem.Anditsoundslikefun.I,however,wakeup,showeranddress,kissmyspouseand
kidsgood-byeandheadoutforanotherdayatwork.Ireturnhomeeacheveningandmy“other”jobbegins:Icleanorfixthosethingsthatneedmyattention,takecareoftheyards,paythebills,helpwithhomework—anythingIcandotobealovingpartnertomyspouseandtobeagoodparenttomychildren.Don’tgetmewrong—Ilovemylifeandallthechallengesit
brings.Butinthehustleandbustleofdailylife,Imissthatrawpleasureofdiscoveringtheworldaroundme.IforgetthatthesameintricatebeautythatawedAdamandEveisatmy
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fingertipstoo.Instead,everynight,Ipullthecoversovermyhead,sleepaheavysleepandprepareforanotherday.
TillingtheGroundThescenarioI’vejustdescribedisnotwhatGodintended.WemisstheboatentirelyifwethinkthatHemeantonlyforAdamandEvetoliveinwide-eyedwonderattheworldaroundthem.Godwantsus,togetherasamanandwomanjoinedbydivinedesign,toenjoyagrandandwonder-filledexistence.LikeAdamandEve,weweremadetosharealifemarkedbytrueaweofGod’spresenceandpower.SodowedropeverythingandrunthroughfieldsofwildflowersuntilJesuscomesback?No.ThegreatestadventurewecanexperienceasacoupleistosurrenderourlivesandmarriagetothewillofGodandlabortogethertoseeHispurposesaccomplished.Fromthesmallesttaskswefacetothegreatest,GodhasgivenusachargetoworktogetherforHisglory.
1.Listsomeofthejobsyouhaveheld.
2.Whichoneofyourjobswasthemostenjoyable?Why?
3.Whichwasthemostdifficult?Why?
4.Describeyourperfectjob.
5.Describeyourspouse’sperfectjob.
GodgaveAdamandEvethesamejobthatHegivestoeachcouplewhohassurrenderedtoHiswill.Weweremadetolabortogetherinlove.Weweren’tcreatedtoblindlyrunonthehamsterwheelofourlivesdayinanddayout—Godwantsustoawakentolife’sgreatadventure!
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PlantingtheSeedKidsliveforsummervacation—twomonthsoffreedomfromwork.Theycanhangoutwithfriends,stayuplateandnoteventhinkabouthomework,teachersandtests.Vacationsaregreat;everyoneneedstimeofffromtheroutinetoberefreshed—butlivingforourvacationtimeisnotGod’sintentionforus,anddoingsoonlybreedsdiscontentmentanddistressinourdailylives.GodwantsustoseetheworktowhichHecallsusasaplace
ofdivinewonderandexcitement.Godcreatedwork;itwasHisidea.ThelabortowhichHecallseverylivingbeingisnotajailsentencetobeenduredbut,rather,achancetousegiftsandtalentswe’vebeengiveninGod-honoringandheart-satisfyingservice.Workisagift.WelaborbothindividuallyandasacouplewithourultimategoalbeingtoenjoyGodandbringHimglory.
6.AccordingtoGenesis1:28and2:15,whatwastheworkGodcalledAdamandEvetodo?
ItisimportanttonotethatGodcalledbothAdamandEvetoworktogetherinthesepursuits.Althoughweeachhavespecificresponsibilities,themajortasksetbeforeusisstillajointeffort,requiringthesupportandencouragementofboththehusbandandthewife.
BeFruitful
God’sfirstdirectivetoAdamandEvewastobefruitful.Godexpectsthesamefromustoday.HavingbeenmadeinGod’simage,weare,bynature,creativebeings—designedtobefruitful.ButwhatdoesHiscommandtobefruitfulmean?Thelogicalconclusionwecometowhenwefirstthinkabout
God’scommandtoreproduceisthatitmustmeanhaving
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children.Afterall,weweremadetobereproductiveandcreativebeingswhohavebeengiventhecapacitytogeneratenewlife.However,somecouples—whetherbychoiceorcircumstance—maynothavechildren,buttheycanstillbefruitfulbybringingorguidingothersintoGod’sfamily.WearecallednotonlytoraiseupchildrenwhoserveandfollowtheLordbutalsotoallowGod’sgracetouseourmarriagestoseeddivinepurposeintothelivesofthosearoundus.Asinstrumentsofgrace,wearemeanttotouchotherswithGod’sdivineblessing.AsacoupleunitedbyGod,youandyourspousearecalledtoworktogethertoreproduceGod’sblessingsinthelivesoffriendsandfamily.
7.Nametwopeoplewhohavehadapositivespiritualimpactonyourlifeasamarriedcouple.Whatdidthesepeopledothathadsuchanimpact?
8.HowisGodusingyourlivestotouchthosearoundyou?
9.Nametwopeople(besidesyourownchildren)whoselivesyoucanimpactasacouple.
10.Howcanyougoaboutreachingouttothesepeople?
RuleandSubdue
AdamandEvehadtoruleoverfishandfrogs;wehavecomputersandcarsandjobsandbudgetsandsportsandministriesandcommunityserviceprojectsandqualityfamilytime—andthelistgoesonandon.Butstopandthinkforaminuteaboutthiscommandtorule.
Theearthwasmadeforpeopletodiscoverandenjoy—andtosubdue.Now,morethanever,itseemsthatpeoplearebeingsubduedbythepressingneedsaroundthem,ratherthansubduingthoseneedsandbringingthemundercontrolasGodcommanded.Subduingmeanssimplybringingthingsunder
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authority.MarriedcouplesmustprioritizetheirlivessothateverythingisbroughtundertheauthorityoftheScriptures.
11.Listtheactivitiesinatypicalweek(includingwork)foryouandyourspouse.
12.Lookingbackoveryourlist,whatarethemostimportantthingsyoudoinaweek—thingsthatmakeaneternaldifference?
13.Whatcouldyouchangetoseethattheseeternalvaluesaremorereadilyapartofyourweeklyroutine?
WorkandUpkeep
Ifyouhaveeverplantedagarden,youknowtheexhaustinglaboritrequires:preparingtheground,devisingawateringsystem,sowingtheseed,etc.Andjustwhenyouthinkeverythingisdone,yourealizethattheworkisnotover—infact,itneverwillbedone!Agardenrequiresweeding,watering,feeding,pruningand
cleaninguptokeepithealthyandfruitful.Ourlives,andespeciallyourmarriagerelationships,needongoingattentionandcare,too,ortheycanfallintodullroutinethatisaslifelessasitisunfruitful.
14.WhatdoyoudotoencourageyourwalkwithGoddaily?Weekly?
15.Whatdoyoudotocultivateyourmarriagerelationshipdaily?Weekly?
ThemostrelentlessanddestructiveweedsinamarriagearelackofpersonaldevotiontoGod,selfishnessandfailuretocommunicatewell.Thecommonstrainsoftheseweedsmustbe
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attentivelywatchedforandpluckedoutassoonastheyarenoticed.
16.Whataretheweedsyouhavestruggledwithinyourmarriage?
17.Whatcanyoudotouproottheseweeds?
Nomatterwhatourvocation,thechargeisclear:Befruitful,subduethethingsthatpullyouawayfromdevotiontoGodandtoeachother,anddailycareforeachother.Marriageismeanttobeasharedadventure,ajoyousandexcitingjourneyofdiscoveryoftheamazingworldGodcreatedforus.HewantsustowalktogetherwithHim!Dullroutinewasneverpartoftheplan.
WateringtheHopeLaboringtogethertakesthecommonbondthatahusbandandwifesharethroughtheirmarriageandaddstoitacommonpurpose.Joinedbydivinedesign,knittogetherasone,marriageisaplaceofstrengthandsecuritylikenootherrelationshiponEarth,ablessingtoberelishedandenjoyed.Wecanworktogether,laboringforGod’spurposestobeaccomplishedinus.Whenwesubdueourschedulesandtameouractivities,wehavetheenergyandabilitytoreachouttootherswiththeloveofGod.
18.Ifmarriedlifeismeanttobeagreatadventure,whydoesitsooftenseemtogetstuckinadullroutine?Whathappensthatleadsacoupleawayfromwide-eyedwonderandintostoicroutine?
19.Ifacouplegetsstuckinaroutine,howcantheybecomerenewedwithenthusiasmforGodandforeachother?
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20.HowhasGodusedyourlifeasamarriedcoupletoreflectHisglorytoothersinyourcommunity?
Yourchurch?
Yourfamily?
21.Whatareasareyourstrongpointsasamarriedcouple?
22.Whatareasareyourweakpoints?
ItisimportanttoperiodicallytaketimetoassesshowGodhasspecificallygiftedbothofyoutoserveothers.AskforHishelpasyouorderyourlivessothatHispurposesarebeingaccomplishedinandthroughyouasacoupleandasindividuals.
HarvestingtheFruitThecenterpieceoftheGardenofEdenwasthetreeoflife.Thistreewastheplacewheredivinepresencewasasrealasthefruithangingfromthetrees.GodwantsHispresencetobethecenterpieceofourrelationshipandourwork.Here’showitworks.
WorkisagiftfromGod.WearecalledtolabortogethertoaccomplishGod’swill.MarriageismeanttobeaplacewhereGod’spurposesareworkedoutbothindividuallyandtogether.
23.Howdoesknowingthisdivineorderchangeyourviewofwork?
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24.WhydidGodappointworkforAdamandEveinsteadofleavingthemtomerelyenjoyHiscreation?
25.Inwhatwaysdoesworkbenefitus?
26.Howdoesyourspouseviewhisorherwork?
HowcanyoubettersupportyourspousetoaccomplishtheworkGodhasgivenhimorhertodo?
Takeamomentandpraytogether,askingGodtorenewyourunderstandingofHispurposeforyouasacoupleandtohelpyoubegintoseeyourlivesasthegreatadventureHeintendsthemtobe.Thenbegineachdaythisweekbytakingturnspraying
God’sblessingsovereachother,specificallyintheareaofworkanddailyresponsibility.AskGodforHispresencetoguideeachofyouandforHispowertoblesseachofyourefforts.
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AWalk
INTHEGardenThenthemanandhiswifeheardthesoundoftheLordGodashewaswalkinginthegardeninthecooloftheday,andtheyhidfromtheLordGodamongthetreesofthegarden.ButtheLordGodcalledtotheman,
“Whereareyou?”Genesis3:8-9
Tahiti,Maui,theFrenchRiviera,Borneo,Cancun,Venice—thesenamescommunicateplacesofsun-drenchedromanticismandcarefreerelaxation.Timelessplaceswherewearecertainthatlifeitselfmustsurelystandstill,relinquishingitsirongripandyieldingtoadeeperenjoymentofliving.Paradise!
TillingtheGround1.Describeyourideaofparadise—somewhereyouwouldbecontenttoliveforever.Whatdoesitlooklike?Whatdoesitfeellike?
2.Whatwouldyourspousedescribeashisorherparadise?
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3.Whatisitabouttheseplaces(realorimaginary)thatmakesthemsodesirabletoeachofyou?
4.Whatisonethingthatwouldruinyourparadise?
Ifanycouplecouldhavelivedforeverinparadise,itwasAdamandEve.Theyhadaperfectworld:aplaceGodnotonlyprovidedforthembutinwhichHeHimselfwalkedandenjoyedHisrelationshipwiththem.Sowhathappened?Howcouldtheybediscontentedinsucha
perfectplace?
PlantingtheSeedAmajorwirelessserviceproviderranaseriesofadsinwhichthecrucialpartofanimportantconversationbecamelostormisunderstoodbecauseofscreechingstatic.Inonead,justasthemanwasaboutto“popthequestion”hisvoicewasobscuredbythesoundoffranticscratching,notunlikerunningfingernailsdownachalkboard.Needlesstosay,theconversationcametoanabrupthalt.Theseadstickledconsumers’funnybonesbecauseeveryonewhousesmoderntechnology—cellphones,computersorfaxes—canidentifywiththefailuresthathappenfromtimetotime,usuallywhenyouleastdesirethem.Thisideaofstaticinterruptionisafairlyreasonableanalogy
towhathappenedintheGardenofEden.Thingsweregoingwell—verywell.AdamandEveenjoyedthebeautifulcreationaroundthemwithGodHimselfastheirfriendandteacher.Theyhadeverythingtheycouldeverwantorneedinthisparadise—andmore.Buthavingeverythingdidn’tpreventAdamandEvefromdisobeyingGod’scommandandseveringthatlineofperfectcommunicationwiththeirmaker.Sinintroducesallkindsofstaticinourlives.Itbringsascreechingcryofselfishnessanddestructionthatwecannotrepaironourown.God’sintentionforustobecomeexpressionsoftrue
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onenessinHimhasbeenobscured.Sowheredowegofromhere?
WhatHappenedintheGarden?
ReadtheaccountofwhathappenedintheGardenofEdeninGenesis3:1-24.
5.WhatwerethestepsthattheserpenttooktodeceiveEve(seevv.1,4-5)?
6.HowdidEvefallforhisdeception(seev.6)?
7.InGenesis3:5,whatdidtheserpentsaythatGodwaswithholdingfromAdamandEve?
8.WhathappenedwhenAdamandEveatethefruit(seev.7)?Didtheygetwhattheywanted?
9.AlthoughAdamtriedtoputtheblameonEve—and,ultimately,God(seev.12)—whatwashisresponsibilityintheincident?
10.WhatweretheresultsforAdamandEve,asindividualsandasacouple?
Whatweretheythinking?It’seasytocriticizethem,butweshouldn’t.Thesamethinghappenstoeachofustoo.Webuyintoalie.It’sassimpleasthat.Welingertoolongatthesuggestionofthedeceiverandbecomedeceived.Asaresult,weseekourowninterestsandceasetoacknowledgeGodascreator,kingandfriend.Adamshouldhaverecognizedthedangerimmediatelyand
steppedinastheGod-ordainedruleroftheearth.Afterall,itwasAdamwhoreceivedtheinstructionsfromGodandwas
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thereforeresponsibleforseeingthattheywerefollowed.AdamwascommandedandgiftedbyGodtoruletheearthandtosubdueit,yetbynotassertingHisGod-givenauthority,hehandeditover—andwithoutafight.Eveshouldhavequestionedtheserpent’swordsbygoingto
AdamoreventoGod,whovisitedinthecooloftheevening!Afterall,therehadneverbeforebeenacontradictorystatementutteredinthatparadiseofEden.Shouldn’tthathaveraisedaredflag?Sowhydidn’ttheydosomething?Anything?Becauseit
requirescouragetotrust.Atthatpoint,whenAdamcouldhavehadhisgreatestmoment,hebecameacoward.AndEvedidtoo.Giventheopportunitytoobey,evenwhenshedidn’tfullyunderstand,shecavedanddecidedthatthefruit—andwhatitwouldgiveher—wastoogoodtopassup.Nocouragewasdisplayedthatday,onlycowardicethatcostthemandtheirprogenyeverything.
11.Inyourmarriagehaveyoueverbeentemptedtodosomething,eventhoughyouknewthatdoingitwouldhurtyourrelationship?Whathappened?
Thesmall,dailydecisionswemakecanaffectourrelationships.Tellingwhitelies,complainingaboutourspousetoothers,continuallybringingupourspouse’smistakes—allofthesethingscanundermineamarriagerelationship.
12.Whataresomethingsyoucanchoosetopursuethatmightbringsorrowintoyourmarriage?
WhatHappenstoUs?
TheFalldamagedouroneness.Theincredibleknittingofsouls—thetrueone-fleshunion—wasalteredand,instead,personalinterestbegantoflourish,resultinginselfishthinking,Whataboutme?SincetheFall,humanbeingshavebecome
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inherentlyselfish.Selfishnessinamarriageislikecancerinabody—itwillresultindeathunlesssomethinghappenstoinvitehealing.Ifpersonalhappinessisourprimarygoalinourmarriage,we
willseektogainitandresentanythingoranyonewhoblocksourgoal.Thecallingtobecomeonenecessitatesthateachoneconsidertheother’sdesiresandneedsasmoreimportant.Jesussaidthatwearetoloveourneighbor—andthismostcertainlyincludesourspouse!—asweloveourselves(seeMark12:31).Thehusbandistoldtolovehiswifeashisownbody(seeEphesians5:28)andthat“hewholoveshiswifeloveshimself”(Ephesians5:29).Everydaytherearesituationsinamarriagethatforceboth
husbandandwifetoconfronttheirself-centerednessandchooseinsteadtoservetheotherwillinglyandjoyfully.
13.Howdoyouputyourspouse’sneedsbeforeyourown?
14.Howdoesyourspouseshowyouhisorherwillingnesstoputyourdesiresandneedsfirst?
15.Inordertoblessyourspouse,whatarewaysinwhichyoucansacrificethosethingsthatyoumaywant?
16.HowdoesservingyourspouseopenthedoortorestoringGod’soriginalintentionformarriage?
ThinkingaboutAdamandEve’sexperience,wecanseethatself-centeredactions(i.e.,choosingtoignoreGod’swillandgoourownway)producelessthanwhatwedesire.
17.Duringtheseselfishtimes,whendidyourealizethattheproblemmightbeinyouorinyourhandlingofasituationratherthanwithyourspouse?
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18.Inwhatwayshaveyouactedasthebiggestobstacletoyourownself-fulfillment?
19.Whatwastheresult?
Themorewefocusonourhappinessthroughself-fulfillingdesires,thelessweareapttodiscoverwhatitiswereallywant.Servingothers—especiallyourspouses—isGod’swayofthrowinglightonthepathofourownsuccess.Itisinthiswaythathappinessisnotthepurposebuttheby-productofahealthymarriage,amarriageinthewayGodintendedittobe.Lookoverthefollowingsampleofhowonespousemight
havechartedthehighandlowpointsintheirmarriage:
MarriageChart(Sample)
10 X X X9 X X8 X X7 X65 X432 X1*
Year1
Year2
Year3
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Year5
Year6
Year7
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*Inthespacestotheright,fillintheyears,months(ifmarriedlessthan3years)orgroupsofyears(ifmarriedmorethan12years).
MilestonesinOurMarriageYear1: Newlyweddedbliss!Year2: Boughtourcondo—alittlestressful,butworthit.Year3: Anunexpectedbutwelcomesurprise!Year4: Johnlaidoff—decidedtofinishhisdegreeandworkpart-time.
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Year5: Atoughyearfinancially—weatelotsofmacaroniandcheese!Year6: Johngraduatedschoolandthetwinswereborn!Year7: AgreatnewjobofferandJohn’snewcareerbegan.Year8: Babynumberfourarrived!Soldthecondoandboughtahouse.Year9: Thingsbegantosmoothoutfinancially.Year10: Renewedourvowsandcelebratedbytakingahoneymoon
cruise!
Nowchartyourmarriageintermsofitshighandlowpoints.Usethespacesprovidedtonotethemilestoneeventsthattriggeredthehighandlowpoints.
MarriageChart
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*Inthespacestotheright,fillintheyears,months(ifmarriedlessthan3years)orgroupsofyears(ifmarriedmorethan12years).
MilestonesinOurMarriage_________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ____________________________________________: ___________________________________
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Manycouplesfeelthattheirmarriageshouldbeacontinuousrisefromglorytoglorywithtotalpersonalsatisfactionandhappinessenvelopingeverydailyactivity.Buttherealityisthatmarriageisadynamicrelationshipthatebbsandflowsthroughmanyseasons,someofwhicharewonderfulandfulfillingandothersthatareexactingandfrustrating.Butthecommonbondthroughitallisthis:Ahusbandand
wifearejoinedbyGodinauniquebondandaresuitableforeachother.Life’supsanddownsaremeanttobeplacestodrawclosertogether,toleanharderupononeanotherandtheOnewhofashionedthebondbetweenyouandyourspouse.
20.Describeatimewhenadifficultyworkedtodrawyouclosertoyourspouse.
21.HowdidGodworkinthatcircumstancetostrengthenyourrelationship?
WhatCanWeDoNow?
AswecanseeintheresultsoftheFallasrecordedinGenesis3,sindistancesusinourrelationshipsanddamagesourabilitytoenjoymarriageasGodintended.Thisisboundtobringupfeelingsofguiltoverpastfailuresinourrelationships.Don’tlingerthereandallowthedeceivertokeepyoulockedinthepast.Godhasprovidedfullredemptionforyou.Theonlywayoutofthepaincausedbysinistoadmitthe
failure.Whenweconfessoursin,wecanreceiveforgivenessandgetourlivesbackinrightorder.God,wholovesHiscreationmorethanwecouldeverunderstand,knewwhatwouldhappenwhentheserpentfinallyfoundachancetotalktoEve.HeknewthatAdamwouldjoinherincommittingsinandthatGod’sperfectdesignfortheirliveswithGodwouldbealteredforever.ButGodhadaplan.
22.Writeout1John1:9.
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Everypersonhasareasofweaknessandwillfailfromtimetotime,allowingthestaticofsintocreepbackin,clutteringtheintentionsofGodforourwell-beingandgrowth.TheansweristolayourweaknessesatthefootofthecrossbeforetheChristwhoboreoursininHisownflesh.
23.AccordingtoIsaiah53:3-5and1Peter2:24,whatdidJesusChristbearsothatwemightbefreedfromourdebtofsin?
SurrenderingyourweaknessesandfrailtiestoGodallowsHimtopourHisgraceintoyou.Weaknessisnotashameoradefect;itisanopportunitytomakeanhonestassessmentofyourselfandtoinviteGodtofillthegapsandstrengthenthebondbetweenyouandyourspouse.
24.Whatdoes2Corinthians12:9sayaboutweakness?
25.Whathasbeenthemostchallengingareaofweaknessinyourmarriage?
26.WhatspecificwayscanyouinviteGod’sgraceintothatareaofweakness?
WateringtheHope
27.HowdidtheFallaffectthemarriagerelationship?
28.Inwhatwayshaveyouseenselfishnesscreepintoyourownmarriagerelationship?
29.Explainwhyyouagreeordisagreewiththefollowingstatement:Ifmarriageisaboutpersonalhappiness,thenitisjustifiabletodivorcewhenyouarenolongerhappy.
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30.Howdoesplacingyourspouse’sdesiresandneedsaboveyourownprovideawayforyoutoexperiencepersonalfulfillment?
HarvestingtheFruitAfterGodcreatedAdamandEve,Hedidn’tleavethemtofendforthemselves.HewalkedwiththemintheGardenofEden,meaningforthisthree-wayrelationshiptobethecouple’ssourceofdailystrengthandguidance.Itislikewiseforus:Goddoesn’tjustjoinustoourspousein
marriageandthenleaveustoworkouttheparticularsonourown.HedesignedamarriagerelationshiptoincludeHimself.EachmarriagepartnerneedstheongoinginfusionofGod’spresencetogrowmoreintimate,notonlywitheachother,butalsowiththeLord.Itwouldbegreatifthestoryhadendedsomethinglikethis:
AdamandEveenjoyedtheirdailyvisitswithGod,growingintheirunderstandingofHiswaysandofnaturethroughthecreationaroundthem,whiledeepeningtheirownloveandunionintheprocess.Unfortunately,thesinofAdamandEvestolethisamazing
gift,anditseffectshavefiltereddowntoeveryhumanlifeandrelationshipsincethen.Becauseoftheirsin,ourthree-wayrelationshipwithGodwasmarredandneededtheredemptionthatcouldonlybefoundthroughthesacrificeofthelamb,ourredeemer,JesusChrist.ThroughJesus’deathforoursinsandHisresurrection,God
providedawayoutofthismessandwecanonceagainwalkwithGodinintimaterelationship—bothasindividualsandasacouple.Chooseatimethisweektoservecommuniontoeachother.
Readthroughthefollowingpassages;thenasyoupartakeofthebreadandthewine(orgrapejuice),rememberthatGodhascommittedHimselftoyouandyourspouse,bothas
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individualsandasacouple—anditisHisdesiretoseeyousucceed.
Matthew26:26-29Mark14:22-24Luke22:19-201Corinthians11:23-25
Aftersharingcommunion,taketurnsprayingforeachotherandpraisingGodforbringingyoutogetherinHisultimatewisdomandplan.
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LEADER’S
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DiscussionGuide
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GeneralGuidelines
1.Ifatallpossible,thegroupshouldbeledbyamarriedcouple.Thisdoesnotmeanthatbothspousesneedtobeleadingthediscussions;perhapsonespouseisbetteratfacilitatingdiscussionswhiletheotherisbetteratrelationshipbuildingororganization—buttheleadercoupleshouldshareresponsibilitieswhereverpossible.
2.Atthefirstmeeting,besuretolaydownthegroundrulesfordiscussions,stressingthatfollowingtheseruleswillhelpeveryonefeelcomfortableduringdiscussiontimes.a.Nooneshouldshareanythingofapersonalorpotentiallyembarrassingnaturewithoutfirstaskinghisorherspouse’spermission.
b.Whateverisdiscussedinthegroupmeetingsistobeheldinstrictestconfidenceamonggroupmembersonly.
c.Alloweveryoneinthegrouptoparticipate.However,asaleader,don’tforceanyonetoansweraquestionifheorsheisreluctant.Besensitivetothedifferentpersonalitiesandcommunicationstylesamongyourgroupmembers.
3.Fellowshiptimeisveryimportantinbuildingsmall-grouprelationships.Providingbeveragesand/orlightrefreshmentseitherbeforeoraftereachsessionwillencourageatimeofinformalfellowship.
4.Mostpeopleliveverybusylives;respectthetimeofyourgroupmembersbybeginningandendingmeetingsontime.
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HowtoUsetheMaterial
1.Eachsessionhasmorethanenoughmaterialtocoverina45-minuteteachingperiod.Youwillprobablynothavetimetodiscusseverysinglequestionineachsession,soprepareforeachmeetingbyselectingquestionsyoufeelaremostimportanttoaddressforyourgroup;discussotherquestionsastimepermits.Besuretosavethelast10minutesofyourmeetingtimeforeachcoupletointeractindividuallyandtopraytogetherbeforeadjourning.OptionalEight-SessionPlan—Youcaneasilydivide
eachsessionintotwopartsifyou’dliketocoverallofthematerialpresentedineachsession.Eachsectionofthesessionhasenoughquestionstodivideinhalf,andtheBiblestudysections(PlantingtheSeed)aredividedintotwoorthreesectionsthatcanbetaughtinseparatesessions.
2.Eachspouseshouldhavehisorherowncopyofthebookinordertopersonallyanswerthequestions.Thegeneralplanofthisstudyisthatthecouplescompletethequestionsathomeduringtheweekandthenbringtheirbookstothemeetingtosharewhattheyhavelearnedduringtheweek.However,therealityofleadingsmallgroupsinthisday
andageisthatsomememberswillfinditdifficulttodothehomework.Ifyoufindthattobethecasewithyourgroup,consideradjustingthelessonsandhavingmemberscompletethestudyduringyourmeetingtimeasyouguidethemthroughthelesson.Ifyouusethismethod,besuretoencouragememberstosharetheirindividualanswerswiththeirspousesduringtheweek(perhapsonadatenight).
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SessionOne GreatExpectations
ANotetoLeaders:ThisBiblestudyseriesisbasedonTheMarriageMasterpiecebyAlJanssen.Wehighlyrecommendthatyoureadtheprologueandchapters1through5inpreparationforleadingthisstudy.
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BeforetheMeeting
1.Gathermaterialsformakingnametags(ifcouplesdonotalreadyknoweachotherand/orifyoudonotalreadyknoweveryone’sname).AlsogatherextrapensorpencilsandBiblestouseasloanersforanyonewhoneedsthem.
2.Provide3x5-inchindexcardsforrecordingprayerrequests.3.Readthroughyourownanswersandmarktheonesthatyouespeciallywanttohavethegroupdiscuss.
4.Prepareslipsofpaperwiththereferencesfortheversesthatyouwillwantsomeonetoreadaloudduringthesessions.(Forexample,PlantingtheSeed’squestion9,youmaywanttohavesomemembersreadtheverseslistedbeforetheysharewhattheversessayabouthope.)Youcanpassouttheseslipsasmembersarrive,butbesensitivetothosewhoareuncomfortablereadingaloudorwhomightnotbefamiliarwiththeBible.
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IceBreakers
1.Ifthisisthefirsttimethiscouplesgrouphasmettogether,haveeveryoneintroducethemselvesandtellalittlebitabouttheamountoftimetheyhavebeenmarried,wheretheyweremarried,etc.
2.Invitecouplestoshareafunnythingthathappenedattheirweddingorahow-we-metstory.
3.Option—Havememberssharetheiranswerstoquestion1inTillingtheGround—abouttheirchildhoodexpectationsofmarriage.
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Discussion
1.TillingtheGround—Beginthediscussionbyinvitingvolunteerstosharetheiranswerstosomeofthequestions.(Questions1,2,5and6areprobablybestforgroupdiscussion.Besensitivetothetime,asyouwillwanttospendmostofyourdiscussiontimeonthenexttwosections:theBiblestudyandapplication.)
2.PlantingtheSeed—LeadthegroupthroughtheBiblestudydiscussion,brieflyreviewingthecommentaryastransitionsbetweenthequestions.Refrainfromreadingthecommentarywordforword,exceptwherenecessaryforclarity.
3.WateringtheHope—ThequestionsinthissectionwillhelpmembersbringtheBiblestudyintotherealityoftheirownexpectationsversusGod’splan.Don’tneglectthispartofthestudy,asitbringthewholelessonintothehereandnow,applyingGod’sWordtoeachmember’sdailylife.
4.HarvestingtheFruit—Thissectionismeanttohelptheindividualcouplesapplythelessontotheirownmarriagesandcanbedealtwithinseveralways.a.Allowthecouplesone-on-onetimeattheendofthemeeting.Thiswouldrequirespaceforthemtobealone,withenoughspacebetweencouplestoallowforquiet,privateconversations.Ifcoupleshavealreadyansweredthequestions
individually,nowwouldbethetimetosharetheiranswers.Giveatimelimit,emphasizingthattheirdiscussionscanbecontinuedathomeiftheyarenotabletoanswerallofthequestionsinthetimeallotted.Ifcoupleshavenotansweredthequestionsbeforethe
meeting,havethemanswerthemtogethernow.Thisworksbestwhenthereisopen-endedtimeforthecouplestostayuntiltheyhavecompletedtheirdiscussionandwill
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requirethattheleadersstayuntilthelastcouplehasfinished.
b.Instructcouplestocompletethissectionathomeduringtheweekafterthemeeting.Thiswillgivethemquietandprivatetimetodealwithanyissuesthatmightcomeupandtospendallthetimeneededtocompletethediscussion.Youwillwanttofollowupatthenextmeetingtoholdcouplesaccountableforcompletingthispartofthelesson.
c.Attimesitmightbeadvantageoustopairupcouplestodiscussthesequestions.Thiswouldhelpinbuildingaccountabilityintothestudy.
5.CloseinPrayer—Animportantpartofanysmall-grouprelationshipisthetimespentinprayerforoneanother.Thismayalsobedoneinanumberofways.a.Havecoupleswriteouttheirspecificprayerrequestsontheindexcards.Theserequestsmaythenbesharedwiththewholegrouportradedwithanothercoupleasprayerpartnersfortheweek.Ifrequestsaresharedwiththewholegroup,prayasagroupbeforeadjourningthemeeting;ifrequestsaretraded,allowtimefortheprayer-partnercouplestopraytogether.
b.Gatherthewholegrouptogetherandleadcouplesinguidedprayer,askingthatGodwillcontinuetoopentheireyestoHisplanfortheirmarriage.
c.Haveindividualcouplespraytogether.
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AftertheMeeting
1.Evaluate—Leadersshouldspendtimeevaluatingthemeeting’seffectiveness.
2.Encourage—Duringtheweek,trytocontacteachcouple(throughphonecalls,notesofencouragementore-mail/instantmessaging)andwelcomethemtothegroup.Makeyourselfavailableforansweringanyquestionsorconcernstheymayhaveandgenerallygettoknowthem.Thiscontactmightbestbedonebythehusband-leadercontactingthemenandthewife-leadercontactingthewomen.
3.Equip—CompletetheBiblestudy,evenifyouhavepreviouslygonethroughthisstudytogether.
4.Pray—Prayerfullyprepareforthenextmeeting,prayingforeachcoupleandforyourownpreparation.
Reminder:Inyourdesiretoservethemembersofyourgroup,don’tneglectyourownmarriage.Spendqualitytimewithyourspouseduringtheweek!
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SessionTwo TheDivineTriangle
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BeforetheMeeting
1.GatherseveralBibles,pensorpencils,andthematerialsneededtomakenametags.
2.Provide3x5-inchindexcardsforrecordingprayerrequests.3.Readthroughyourownanswersandmarktheonesthatyouespeciallywanttohavethegroupdiscuss.
4.Prepareslipsofpaperwiththereferencesfortheversesthatyouwillwantsomeonetoreadaloudduringthesession.(Youcandistributetheseslipsasmembersarrive.)
5.Obtainthreecontrasting-coloredspoolsofsewingthread(e.g.,red,whiteandblue).Cutthethreadsinto18-inchlengths,enoughtomakeasetofsixpieces(twoofeachcolor)foreachcoupleinyourgroup.
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IceBreakers
1.Ascouplesarrive,giveeachapreparedsetofthreadsandinstructthemtoplacethethreadscarefully—sotheydon’ttangle—intheirstudybookorBibleuntilthemeetingbegins.
2.Distributeindexcardsandaskmemberstoatleastwritedowntheirnames,eveniftheydon’thavespecificprayerrequests.Thisway,anothercouplecanprayforthemduringtheupcomingweek.(Afterall,justbecausewedon’thaveaspecificrequestdoesn’tmeanwedon’tneedprayer!)
3.Invitevolunteerstosharehowtheyappliedtotheirmarriagerelationshipwhattheylearnedinlastweek’ssession.Herearesomesuggestedquestionstoask:a.HowdidabetterunderstandingofGod’sexpectationformarriagegiveyouastrongpointofhopeforyourrelationship?
b.HowdidyourmarriagerelationshipreflectsomethingofGod’snatureand/orgiveglorytoHimduringthisweek?
c.Whatisonethingthatyoulearnedinlastweek’smeetingthathelpedyouunderstand(orillustrate)God’splanformarriage?
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Discussion
1.TillingtheGround—Beginthemeetingwithanobjectlessonfollowedbyadiscussion.(Note:Besuretopracticetheobjectlessonbeforethemeeting!)a.Instructeachhusbandtotakethebluethread(orwhatevercoloryouchoose)andhavethewifetrytobreakit—whichwillbeveryeasytodo.Thenhavethewiveseachtakearedandwhitethreadandholdthemtogetherwhilethehusbandstrytobreakthem.Again,thisshouldbefairlyeasytodo(unlessyou’vechosenindustrial-strengththread!)Finally,instructthecouplestotaketheremainingthreethreadsandwitheachspouseholdingoppositeendsofthethreads,twistthem.Whenthethreadshavebeentwistedtogether,askthehusbandstotrytobreakthe“cordofthreestrands.”Itshouldbeimpossible(ornearlyso)todo.
b.BeginthediscussionbyinvitingavolunteertoreadEcclesiastes4:12andthenhavethosewhowishtodososharetheiranswerstoquestions1and2.
2.PlantingtheSeed—Discussquestions3through7.a.“StrengtheningtheStrands”and“GreatMarriagesBeginwithPersonalCommitmentstoJesusChrist”maybeskippedifyouaresureallofthegroupmembershavemadepersonalcommitmentstoChrist;however,don’tassumethisisthecase.Insteadyoucansimplyaskifanyonehasquestionsaboutthissectionandifanydecisionsweremade.Besensitivetothoseinyourgroupthatmayhaverecentlymade,ormightbereadytomake,acommitmenttoJesusChrist.InvitememberstotalktoyouafterwardsiftheyhaverecentlymadeorarenowreadytomakeadecisionforChrist.
b.“GreatMarriagesAreStrengthenedbyConsistentPersonalDevotion”questions13through15canbe
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coveredfairlyquickly.Question16isapersonalquestionthatindividualsneedtoanswerforthemselves.
c.“GreatMarriagesEndureThroughOngoingPersonalSubmission”willmorethanlikelyprovidethemostlivelydiscussionofthissession.Therearealsoseveralpersonal-applicationquestionsinthissection;itmightbebesttoleavethepersonalquestionsforthecoupletodiscussalone.Thosequestionsreflectingonthebiblicalbasisofpersonalsubmissionwillprovideenoughmaterialforgroupdiscussion.
3.WateringtheHope—Forthisdiscussiondividethegroupbygender.Thewiveswilldiscussquestion25,andthehusbandswilldiscussquestion26.a.Afterthegroupshavehadafewminutestodiscusstheirquestion,challengethemenandwomentokeepeachotheraccountabletoshowingsubmission“tooneanotheroutofreverenceforChrist”(Ephesians5:21)andthenhavethetwogroupsprayforoneanother.
b.Encouragethementocalleachotherduringtheweekandaskhowtheyaredoinginshowinglovetotheirwives.Encouragethewomentocalloneanotherandaskhowtheyaredoinginshowingrespectfortheirhusbands.Youcanalsohavememberspairupwithasame-sexaccountabilitypartnerforthecomingweek.
4.HarvestingtheFruit—Havespousespairupandsharetheiranswerstoquestions27through33.Assigntheprojectofwritingtheirmarriagepurposestatementduringtheweekandletthemknowtheywillbeaskedtoreadtheirstatementsatnextweek’smeeting.
5.CloseinPrayer—Havecouplespraytogetherfollowingthedirectionattheendofthesession.Ascouplesleave,havememberseachselectsomeoneelse’sprayerrequestcardsothattheycanprayforthatpersonduringthecomingweek.
Reminder:Beavailableafterthemeetingtotalktoanyonewhomighthavemadearecentdecisionto
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followChrist.
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AftertheMeeting
1.Evaluate.2.Encourageaccountabilitypartnerstocalloneanotherduringtheweektoseehoweachisdoinginhonoringhisorherspouse.
3.Equip.4.Pray.
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SessionThree TheGreatAdventure
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BeforetheMeeting
1.Gatherindexcards,pensorpencils,andBibles,asneeded.2.Provide3x5-inchindexcardsforrecordingprayerrequests.3.Readthroughyourownanswersandmarktheonesthatyouespeciallywanttohavethegroupdiscuss.
4.Prepareslipsofpaperwiththereferencesfortheversesthatyouwillwantsomeonetoreadaloudduringthesession.(Youcandistributetheseslipsasmembersarrive.)IceBreakers
1.Distributeindexcardsasmembersarriveandtellthemtowritetheirfirstnamesontheircardsandalsowritewhattheyaschildrendreamedthattheywouldbewhentheygrewup.Instructeveryonetokeeptheircardstothemselves,notevensharingwhatthey’vewrittenwiththeirspouses.
2.Wheneveryonehashadenoughtimetowritetheirchildhooddream,collectthecardsandmixuptheirorder.Startingwiththetopcard,readthedreamandaskthegrouptoguesstowhomthedreambelongs.
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Discussion
1.TillingtheGround—Beginthemeetingbyaskingcouplestoreadtheirmarriagepurposestatements.a.Askmemberstobrieflysharetheworstorthebestjobtheyhaveeverheld.
b.Invitevolunteerstodescribetheirdreamjob.2.PlantingtheSeed—Discussthequestions.3.WateringtheHope—Haveeachcouplepartnerwithanothertodiscussquestions18through20.Instructcouplestosharethestrengthstheyseeinthepartnercouple’smarriage.
4.HarvestingtheFruit—Havespousessharewitheachothertheiranswerstoquestions23through26.ChallengecouplestobegintodiscovertheworkthatGodhasplannedforthemtodotogether.
5.CloseinPrayer—Haveeachcouplepartnerwithanotheragaintosharewhateachhaswrittenonhisorherprayerrequestcard.Oncethey’veshared,havethempraytogether.
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AftertheMeeting
1.Evaluate.2.Encouragetheprayer-partnercouplestocontactoneanotherduringtheweektoshareanswerstoprayer.
3.Equip.4.Pray.
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SessionFour AWalkintheGarden
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BeforetheMeeting
1.ProvidepensorpencilsandBibles,asneeded.2.Provide3x5-inchindexcardsforrecordingprayerrequests.3.Readthroughyourownanswersandmarktheonesthatyouespeciallywanttohavethegroupdiscuss.
4.Prepareslipsofpaperwiththereferencesfortheversesthatyouwillwantsomeonetoreadaloudduringthesession.(Youcandistributetheseslipsasmembersarrive.)
5.Gatherseveraltravelpostersofdesirablevacationspotsaroundtheworldandattachtheposterstothewallsaroundthemeetingroom.(Ifyouareunabletofindtravelposters,makesignswiththenamesofvacationspotsusingposterboardandfelt-tippens.)
6.Ifyouareprovidingthecommunionelementsfortheoptionalclosingactivity,preparethesebeforehand.
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IceBreakers
1.Invitememberstolookatthepostersscatteredaroundtheroomandselecttheonethatbestdescribestheirfavorite(ordream)vacationspot.Havethemsharetheirreasonforselectingthatspot.
2.Havemembersdescribetheirideaofparadise.
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Discussion
1.TillingtheGround—Discussquestions1,3and4.2.PlantingtheSeed—InstructmemberstoclosetheireyesandimaginewhatitmusthavebeenliketobeintheGardenofEden,atpeaceandatonewithGodandeachother.HavethemcontinuetokeeptheireyesclosedasyoureadGenesis2:4-25aloud.Invitevolunteerstosharewhattheypicturedasyouread.a.HaveavolunteerreadGenesis3:1-24.Discussquestions5through10.
b.Mostofthequestions(13through21)in“WhatHappenstoUs?”areintendedforself-evaluation.Youmaywanttoallowtimeafterthegroupdiscussionformemberstoreflectontheiranswerstothesequestions;otherwisesuggestthattheyprayerfullydosoathomeduringtheweek.ThechartsectioncouldbediscussedasacoupleduringHarvestingtheFruitorathomeduringtheweek.
c.Continuethegroupdiscussionwithquestions22through27.
3.WateringtheHope—Haveeachcouplepartnerwithanothertodiscussthissection’squestions.
4.HarvestingtheFruit—Therearetwopossiblewaystoendthissession.a.Havecouplesdiscusstheiranswerstoquestions13through21,especiallythechartandthequestionsimmediatelyfollowing.Thencloseinprayer.
b.Providetheelementsforindividualcouplestocelebratecommuniontogether.Ifyoudonotprovidecommunionelementsatthistime,urgecouplestocelebratecommunionathomeduringtheweek.
5.CloseinPrayer—Askgroupmemberstostandinacircle,andallowtimeforsentenceprayersofpraiseandworship.Closebysingingaworshipsongtogether.
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AftertheMeeting
1.Evaluate—Sharetheimportanceoffeedback,andaskmemberstotakethetimethisweektowriteareviewofthegroupmeetingsandthentoreturnthemtoyou.
2.Encourage—CalleachcoupleduringthenextweekandinvitethemtojoinyouforthenextstudyintheFocusontheFamilyMarriageSeries.
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Notes
SessionOne[1].JackW.Hayford,ed.,Hayford’sBibleHandbook(Nashville,TN:ThomasNelson,
1995),s.v.“hope.”[2].Ibid.
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