the consequence of bad behavior by sheikh maulana abdus sattar (db)

7/31/2019 The Consequence of Bad Behavior by Sheikh Maulana Abdus Sattar (DB)

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Imam and Khateeb, Masjid Bait-us-Salam, Karachi, Pakistan

Translation: http://theheartopener.wordpress.com/


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The Consequence of Bad behavior

Islam is the complete way of life

O honorable brothers and sisters! Allah addresses the people of Islam, Yaaayyuhalladheena aamanudkhulu fissilmi kaaffaah. O you who have believed,

enter into Islam completely. Al Quran: 2:208. When Islam was in its entirety in the

whole of the society, understanding Islam in its perfect sense remained easy. Whena person was called towards Islam, he was given a clear picture like how he should

be as a Muslim and so to understand Islam completely was easy. When Islam getsremoved from the life then it gets difficult to understand it completely and eachwill have his own mental picture of Islam. One will say this is the complete Islamand the other will say this is the complete Islam because there is no complete Islamin the lives of people. When Islam gets into action, it gets easy for a person toexplain Islam. Today one remains content with Islam when he is just a Muslim by

birth. He remains content and satisfied when he doesnt even know the propermeaning of Kalmah. Even though one doesnt have a complete picture of Islam, heis still satisfied just with his Muslim name. How many are content enough whenthere are some Islamic rituals during their birth and death? How many are therewhose names are registered among the Muslims but when it comes to their

practical life, there is open shirk (associating partners with Allah ) but they arecontent that they are Muslims? How many are there whose entire image is non-Islamic but are content to be Muslims in the census? How many are there whose

looks are not like Muslims in any sense but are content that they read Laa ilaahaillallaahu Muhammadur Rasoolullah?

O honorable ones! The picture of Islam becomes prey to many misunderstandingswhen Islam is not seen in the practical life. Some understand that it is enough to


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have the correct aqeedah (belief) and as far as the rest of the things, they think theywill enter Jannah after getting purified in Jahannam. Some progress further andgive importance to both aqeedah and ibaadat (worship) but when it comes to

business dealings, they do not bother about haram or halal income because as far as

them, their mental picture of Islam is all to have the correct aqeedah and ibaadat.This is why a person of this kind feels hesitation when it comes to break his fast

but doesnt have any such feeling of hesitation when he is to get interest money.This is because as far as this poor person is concerned, his understanding of Islamis only to do with aqeedah and ibaadat. When the son of such parents breaks hisfast, they feel very sad about his act expressing shock that what is he doing but ifthe same son establishes a factory with interest money they become very happythat their son has become an industrialist because this is the extent of their

understanding of Islam restricted only to aqeedah and ibaadat. They do not haveany concern with regards to haram or halal and if the market dealings are correct orwrong. That is why if his sehri (pre-dawn meal during fasting) gets delayed, hewill ask if his fasting is valid or not but if he earned money through lies, he wontask if the money is halal or haram for him. If he breaks the fast couple of minutes

before the breaking time, he will ask if his fast is valid or not but if he usurpssomeones money, he wont ask if it is lawful for him to consume that money andif he can take care of his childrens needs with that money. This is again because ofhis limited understanding of Islam which he thinks is only to do with correctaqeedah and ibaadat. He does not realize that his business or office life also comesunder Islam.

The consequence of our limited understanding of Islam

If a person is supposed to do official work for 8 hrs and he spends 2 hrs of hisofficial time for his personal life while he gets salary for the complete 8 hrs, thenthe money he is receiving for the 2 hrs of his personal work is as haram as he

would get money by robbery or theft. But as this person doesnt have any idea thatIslam also lies in office, employment and inside the market, he thinks himself to bevery clever in getting the salary at the end of the month just by signing in theregister book. There is only the sign of his presence in the book but not hisabsence. He is eating haram just like one is earning through robbery or theft but


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why doesnt he realize this? This is because his understanding of Islam is verylimited to Masjid or that Islam is only about the correct aqeedah and that is why hedoes business dealing as he likes and as he desires. Now when a person progresseslittle further, he cares not just about his aqeedah and ibaadat but also has concern

for the halal and haram income but he doesnt know that akhlaaq (etiquettes) andmanners also come under Islam. Then one is being filled with takabbur (pride) andhis life is based on pride. He wants people to praise him all the time. He takes careof aqeedah, he doesnt miss a salah, he shows enough concern when it comes to

business dealings but his manners remain the same as he thinks this is not relatedto Islam in any way. He has hasad (jealousy), miserliness, fire of anger, takabbur, astrong desire for fame and he is a person of show off but he doesnt bother abouthis islaah (reformation) because Islam is very limited in his understanding. He

doesnt even consider this to be a sin when our beloved Prophet said that theone who has an atom of kibr (pride) in his heart will not enter jannah. Whenetiquettes and manners is very part of Islam, he has expelled this from Islam. If onetakes care of even this like he cares about his aqeedah, ibaadat, business dealingsand his etiquettes and manners also become islami, there is a fifth aspect whichseems like everyone has left out, even the most eminent religious personalities.And this is husn-e-muaasharat (good social conduct), our behavior with each otherlike how do I treat others. This is the complete Islam: Yaa ayyuhalladheena

aamanudkhulu fissilmi kaaffaah. O you who have believed, enter into Islamcompletely. (Al Quran: 2:208)

The five aspects that will make our Islam complete

The complete Islam is that you have correct aqeedah, ibaadat, business dealings,etiquettes and manners and husn-e-muaasharat, the way we behave with eachother. The behavior in which there is harassment and torture for others isunIslamic. See causing financial loss to someone is evil but causing pain to

someones heart is more evil. Being bad in business dealing is worst but being badin behavior is worse than this because by wrong business dealings, you causefinancial loss but by bad behavior you cause pain to the heart. Now ones aqeedahis proper, he has ibaadat, there is fikr (concern) for haram and halal, has good


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etiquettes and manners but the behavior is not good because of which the unity,bond and mutual love has come to an end. The bad social conduct is the base forthe hatred. That is why the whole family can be religious performing salah, doinghajj but still their hearts are broken which means the Islam is not complete and the

way they think about Islam to be complete is not right but they remain content.They are doing the work of deen together but there is hatred among them becausethey do not have good social conduct. Their treatment of each other is not good.Oh honorable ones the thing that you removed from Islam is husn-e-muaasharat.Today Muslims do not have concern for good conduct that this is also Islam, theresult of which there is only hatred and hatred everywhere. People are facingdifficulties from others from every single direction. The social life is going on withmuch difficulty today. The family life is getting difficult.

The sifli amal of breaking the hearts

Unfortunately in spite of having strong contact with deen performing salah andoffering hajj and having firm aqeedah, people are still deprived of blessings ofIslam because their social life is unIslamic. This is a sifli amal (sifli amal isnormally referred to the occult influence supposedly sought through evil spirits,one of the worst forms of black magic) of breaking the family with the bad

behavior. The hearts will definitely break because of this sifli amal. People say

someone did sifli amal on them but oh dears this is the sifli amal. When your socialconduct is unIslamic and your behavior is torturous, then definitely there will bethe consequence of breaking the hearts and the unity will break. There wont be

any love. Where the hearts break, Allah closes the door of barakah and wherethe hearts break, the barakah of deeni work gets ended. There remains no barakah

and that is why our beloved Prophet highly instructed about good behavior.

Hazrat Jabir said that once the Prophet saw him eating dates with

someone. The other person was having one date while he was taking two dates

at a time. Seeing this, the Prophet said, No, no, this is not a good behavior.

Until he permits you, do not take two dates when he was taking only one. He


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also instructed not to come to the gathering eating raw onion or garlic so the bad

odor doesnt trouble the people. How much importance the Prophet gave for

the good social conduct! Our beloved Prophet said, If there is some problem

in your body because of which the bad odor might spread then do not come to theMasjid as it might give hardship to others.

Do not trouble others

Take notice of this for this is how he emphasized to save others from

difficulties. Hazrat Umar said that in the beginning it was waajib to do ghuslbefore coming to jumuah salah because people used to toil a lot that resulted in

sweating which might trouble others when they come to the gathering. This actthen became a mustahab (recommended) act and again the reason behind it was tosave oneself from causing difficulty to others. And work hard on this to the extentof a waajib level that you dont cause hardship to others. O honorable ones! Todayas our treatment of each other is unIslamic and our society is not Islamic, in spiteof giving importance to ibaadat and in spite of having a firm aqeedah, we remaindeprived of the blessings of Islam because you trouble others with your behavior

and conduct. Once, our beloved Prophet saw a man walking towards him

striding over peoples shoulders. He asked him to sit where he was and not to

come near him as it would trouble others. Our Prophet asked people to

give space to the one who comes and he instructed the one who is coming tosit where he was so others do not find any difficulty.

The twenty four hours torment

O honorable ones! It is very apparent when a man lives in this world, he has to livewith fellow human beings and he will face the situations all the time where he hasto behave with others. Now analyze your behavior if it is not causing any hardship

to others. Who can be more beloved to the Companions of the Prophet other


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than the Prophet ? The Companions said that there is no one more beloved to

them than the Prophet but he didnt like anyone to stand up for him .

The Companions said in spite of their love for the Prophet they didnt stand ,

up for him because they knew it would cause him inconvenience. There iscourtesy, honor but no difficulty for others and this is deen. O honorable ones!Good behavior and the Islamic society abloom the life. Our way of living should

be in such a way that we do not cause others any difficulty be it inside our houses

or outside or when interacting with friends. Let Allah forgive us for today wedont even consider this defect to be a defect because we didnt understand Islam,our deen and people do not do tawbah (repent) thinking how many peoples heartwould have been broken and how many I would have caused difficulty by my

behavior and my style of act. We do not even repent to Allah . This is a mistakeand we do not even bother about islaah. Today this is the biggest reason behind thedisunity in society and the families that Muslims mutual behavior is not right.There is salah, fasting, Hajj, recitation of Quran, wazaaif but the treatment of each

other is not good. This is a very painful thing. Let Allah forgive us, if ourbehavior is not good within four walls, there is difficulty for twenty four hours and

as far as the affairs outside, we face it only from time to time.

Let Allah forbid there is torment and torture for twenty four hours if ourbehavior is not good within the four walls of our houses. When there is no goodbehavior in houses, one feels pain just by the glimpse of the person. Right byseeing the other person one gets headache and how much life gets torturous!

Allahu Akbar! Let Allah forbid this to happen in houses where we have to liveand at the same time face the pain and this is in spite of having deen. This bad

behavior sometimes comes from the husband towards the wife or from the wifetowards the husband or from the children towards the mother or the father. AllahuAkbar! The life then comes on thorns. I am telling the truth the life comes into the

burning furnace for such a torturous life starts. O honorable ones! The reason


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behind this is we didnt think this to be Islam at all when good conduct is also

Islam and Allah will question us tomorrow.

The status of a Muslims honor

Abdullah bin Masood narrated that once the Prophet was doing tawaf

(circumambulation) of the kaaba and as he was doing tawaf he addressed thekaaba, O Kaaba! Without doubt what a great honor and respect you have in the

sight of Allah but there is a creation whose honor and respect is more than you

in the sight of Allah . Now tell me if someone demolishes the house of Allah

how would my and your emotion be? And now when someone comes to , demolish the kaaba, then how would be the emotion of Muslims? And of coursewe should be emotional and if not for this, then for what would we be emotional?

Listen now the brevity of the Prophets saying is this. Our beloved Prophet

said, O Baitullah! There is one creation of Allah whose honor and respect

is more than you in the sight of Allah and that slave is the Muslim and smitingthe honor of a Muslim is like demolishing the Baitullah. We on the other hand, donot know how many Baitullahs we are demolishing every day. How manyBaitullahs we are demolishing every single day? What a torturous life we areleading and if this calamity is happening within our houses demolishing the

Baitullah, are you expecting barakah there? Will there be Allahs rahmat(mercy)? You are committing such a severe sin within four walls of your housethat you are causing a Muslim pain and you smite his honor which is likedemolishing the Baitullah.

Enter into Islam completely

O honorable ones! We are supposed to enter into the complete fold of Islam whichincludes how we behave with others. All these are misunderstandings that Islam is


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only limited to aqeedah or ibaadat or business dealings or akhlaaq. You haveremoved the whole concept of social conduct from Islam because of which theBaitullah is being demolished and the honor and respect of others are being

smitten. O honorable ones! Let Allah forbid and He forbid it thousandtimes if this happens inside our houses, our life becomes torturous, a life of

torment. That is why our beloved Prophet gave high importance to this, a veryhigh importance to Husn-e-Muaasharat. This was emphasized to such an extent

that when it came to salah and zakaat, Allah commanded as aqeemus salaat waaatuz zakaat,Establish salah and give zakaat, without explaining much details and

methodology but when it came to good social conduct, Allah descended two

whole rukus that when you enter someones house, get their permission first anddo not enter the houses without permission, and when you are invited for a meal,do not spend too much of time to the extent that it imposes difficulty on others.

Allah descended two whole rukus on husn-e-muaasharat for such was itsimperativeness.

The sin related to the creation is very heavy

Hazrat Sufyan At-Tawri (RA) said, Tomorrow if you carry your sins which is

related between you and Allah to the court of Allah even if the sins are , seventy in number, then know that this is really light when compared to one sin

you will take which is related between you and any slave of Allah This is .

because first of all Allah is Al-Ghani Who is independent and unaffected and

the second thing is Allah is the most beneficent, He can forgive not just

seventy sins but seventy hundred sins. This is nothing for Him

but tomorrow

every Muslim will be desperately in need of good deeds and he wont forgiveeasily for everyone would wish his burden of sins gets lightened and as he gets thatopportunity he will not forgive. That is why it is said, if there is something betweena slave and his Creator, he will be forgiven but if your behavior is not good with


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the people then that is a very big sin. So have the concern that our behaviorbecomes Islamic and let Islam become alive in this. O honorable ones! It isbecause the Muslims do not behave well with each other, today there is too muchof flaws.

The excellence of good behavior

Our beloved Prophet has told many fazaail (excellence) of good behavior. He

said that the Jannah is under the feet of the mother so the son behaves well

with the mother. He told the wife that if she keeps up her five salahs and obeysher husband and remain dutiful to him, then the eight gates of Jannah will be

opened for her. Allahu Akbar! He told the husband that if he feeds his wife amorsel of food when he is having his meal, he will get the reward of charity forevery morsel he feeds. The one who brings up his children, he will get as muchreward of charity as much as he spends on them. If the couples see each other with

love and affection, then Allah smiles at them. The Prophet mentioned somany fazaail of good behavior. The one who sees his parents with love, he gets the

reward of hajj and umrah. Someone asked him , Ya Rasoolullah ! What if

one see them again and again? He replied, He will get the reward again andagain. Allah is not deficient of rewards to grant. All this is for a good

behavior. Such was the importance given to the good behavior with ones parents,children, husband and wife. Today we have so much of flaws in this. O honorableones! There is one group whose kalmah, ibaadat or concern for halal or haram is

not good and their matter is with Allah . Difficulty is there where people haveall these things like kalmah, fikr (concern) of ibaadat, haram and halal and fikr of

treading the path of deen but their behavior is unIslamic. If a religious person inspite of having deen has a bad behavior, I am telling the truth the new comer ofdeen seeks refuge from him saying to himself, I thought him to be a Muslim and


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religious. Is this how a religious person will be whose tongue is very sharp likescissors?

Islam spreads through Husn-e-Muaasharat

When the behavior of Muslims gets right, Islam spreads through this. Islamspreads through Husn-e-Muaasharat. In this lies the attraction that Muslims are likethis. But today more one is close to me, more he is abhorrent of me because of myevil behavior. Aforetime more one gets close to a Muslim, more he gets affected.

Hazrat Anas did the servitude of the Prophet for ten whole years. He

said that the Prophet never rebuked him even once and never admonished himlike why he did this. How strange are these people! Whoever gets more close to a

Muslim that much he was affected. Hazrat Zaid was a slave. How many times

he was sold in the slave market before he came to the Prophet ! Hazrat Zaid

was so affected by the conduct of the Prophet that once his father and his

paternal uncle came to the Prophet requesting him to send Zaid with them.

The Prophet readily said, Of course you can take him with you for he is yourson and the nephew but if he doesnt like to go I wont compel him. They agreedand called Zaid who met each other after a long time and they asked him to come

with them. Hazrat Zaid replied that he cannot leave the company of the Prophet

They asked him if he is preferring freedom over slavery for which he . replied, Freedom can be sacrificed for such slavery thousand times. What was

this? This was nothing but the beautiful conduct of our beloved Prophet . One

gets more affected depending on his closeness to him . O honorable ones! An

excellent Muslim is one whose social conduct and behavior is good in addition tothe right aqeedah, ibaadat, dealings and akhlaaq.


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Good behavior begets humility that unites the hearts

Waibaadur rahmaan allatheena yamshoona alal ardhi hawnan waithaa

khaatabahumul jaahiloona qaaloo salaama. And the servants of ((Allah)) Most

Gracious are those who walk on the earth in humility, and when the ignorantaddress them, they say, "Peace!"Al Quran: 25:63. The scholars have written that

the salah, khashiyat (fear of Allah abstention from squandering and many ,( other merits related to the righteous believers was mentioned only next to the good

behavior. We can then think of its importance. This is because when a manbehaves well then Alhamdulillah humility is created in him and this is the base formutual agreement. Haji Imadadullah Makki (RA) says where there is humility andselflessness, there is love and the hearts remain united. He continued where there is

avarice and pride, there the hearts break. Humility is to think low of oneself andselflessness is to advance others over oneself and the hearts unite here. Andwherever there is avarice and pride that only I want to advance, the hearts break.Today the base of our behavior is not humility and selflessness but pride andavarice and that is why it is bad. Only torture and torment is seen in our behaviorfrom every direction as it has pride and avarice behind it. Yes if there is humilityand selflessness, then our behavior will be very pleasing and towards here the

Allahs mercy turns. When the behavior becomes good and the hearts get

united within the four walls of the house then the Allahs mercy startsdescending on that house and the closed doors get opened. If the behavior turns

bad and the hearts get broken then know that this is the sifli amal that will break

the family and the door of Allahs mercy will close. Some people will say thatsomeone did bandish (cabal through evil spirits) on them and the amal of bandish

is the bad behavior which shuts the doors of His mercy, blessings and

provisions.


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The beautiful etiquettes of Islamic life

O honorable ones! It is very essential to examine your lives. There is a book calledAdab e Muasharat (Etiquettes of social life) by Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi (RA).

Everyone should read this book with the intention of educating oneself and shouldbe read to the children so this life, the Islamic environment comes into our housesand our houses become a model of jannah and every one becomes a means of

peace for each other. If there is something in use in a house and others too use that,then the adab e muasharat is to replace the thing in the same place from where you

took so it doesnt cause inconvenience to others. SubhanAllah! Hazrat Jabir

says once he was staying with the Prophet and whenever the Prophet was

about to enter the house, he will greet in a low voice so if the inmates areawake, they would reply to the greeting and if they are asleep, they wont bedisturbed. And now people knock the door in such a way that all those who aresleeping wake up and one comes to the house in the sleeping time and then asks towarm the food or prepare the food. What sort of behavior is this?

The tit for tat attitude is not for a Muslim

O honorable ones! The best Muslim in the house is the one whose behavior is

better than the others. This is also the incorrect behavior that you treat others badbecause they treated you bad. This is nevta (a customary gift which is madecompulsory, like bride family has to give to groom and vice versa), a tradition of

hindus which is not found in Muslims. The teaching of our beloved Prophet isto join the ties with the one who breaks it, to forgive others when they transgressagainst you, to take care of the one even if doesnt take care of you. SubhanAllah!This is the behavior of Muslims. O honorable ones! I am telling you the truth onecan find a haji, a fasting person, a person who does tasbih and wazaaif but onecannot find people of such behavior even through a search. Today we have theattitude of tit for tat; our verbal reply comes as verbal abuse. Once a person cameto Hazrat Nizamuddin (RA) and complained about his brother that he keepsthrowing thorns on his ways and hinders his ways all the time and continued that


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he has decided now that he too will behave with him in the same manner. Hazrat(RA) replied, O my son! If he throws thorns and you too keep throwing thornslike him, then there will be only thorns in this world. Who will then remove thethorns? There should be someone to remove the thorns that you become the one

who overlooks and who does good. A person of good behavior advances far fromthe person who prays nafil salahs for months during nights. Our beloved Prophet

once said that a person will be ahead of a man who fasts every single day andwho prays all through the nights with his good akhlaaq and behavior.

It is the good behavior that makes you religious

O honorable ones! A person becomes religious with good behavior. He is the

religious person. With this, the mans nafs gets injured straightaway. Wont thenafs get injured when the man has to bow down, forgive others and behave wellwhen he is not inclined towards that? The nafs gets injured as it cannot bear iteasily but the reward is also much greater and there is also more favor from Allah

A husband says his wife doesnt behave well with him and the wife says her . husband is not treating her well and sometimes the mother in law says her daughterin law is not behaving well and vice versa. If the mother in law doesnt behave likea mother, let the daughter in law behave like a daughter and if the daughter in law

doesnt behave like a daughter, let the mother in law behave like a mother. Theproblem is we do not consider this to be Islam and this in fact is a difficult thing. O

honorable ones! But one gets more kurb (closeness) of Allah and Allahs mercy turns towards him through this. One gets progressed a lot through this. Solook into your life how your behavior with others is and make sure that you do notimpinge pain and difficulty on others by any sense, be it through words or acts orgestures or by any sort of behavior, rather make sure that one gets comfort from

you and so you adopt the conduct. Let Allah help us all to act on what we hear,write and read. Ameen

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