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THE COACHING SHOWTHE COACHING SHOWTHE COACHING SHOWTHE COACHING SHOW

With Christopher McAuliffeWith Christopher McAuliffe

Wed March 21 2012 at 8:30 AM PacificWed, March 21, 2012 at 8:30 AM Pacific

“It is not the responsibility of theIt is not the responsibility of the coach to be the client’s friend. The responsibility of the coach is to get

the client to push past whateverthe client to push past whatever emotional block is stopping the

client from the success they trulyclient from the success they truly desire deep within their heart.”

Steve NakamotoWriter’s Digest Award-Winning Author

MY OWN JOURNEY TO LIFE SUCCESSMY OWN JOURNEY TO LIFE SUCCESS

• Live my life’s purposey p p• Learn my life’s lessons• Challenge my fears• Recognize opportunities even

if they may appear as failure, misfortune disappointment ormisfortune, disappointment, or temporary defeat.

• Always learn, adapt & grow• Seek profound knowledge

TONY ROBBINS LIFE MASTERY TRAINER1988 19951988 – 1995

Notes About CoachingNotes About Coaching

• 5 Areas of Mastery: Physical, Emotional,5 Areas of Mastery: Physical, Emotional, Relationships, Financial, and Time

• Coaching Tip: Get permission first to give it your g p p g yall in the coaching process

• NLP – neurolinguistic programming – get any g p g g g yresult you want by modeling success

• “The quality of your life is the quality of your communication.”

• “The meaning of your communication is the response you get.”

CERTIFIED DALE CARNEGIE INSTRUCTOR1989 19911989-1991


• Coaching is more effective withCoaching is more effective with encouragement and positive reinforcement

• Never criticize complain or condemn• Never criticize, complain, or condemn• Be a good listener – let others talk• Make other people feel important• Speaking Well: (1) Be eager to share, (2) p g ( ) g , ( )

Be excited about your subject, and (3) Speak from personal experience p p p

MY ACTIVE SINGLE DAYSMY ACTIVE SINGLE DAYS

• Over 30 CruisesOver 30 Cruises• Over 25 Club Med

VacationsVacations• Annual Sun Valley

Si l Ski W kSingles Ski Weeks• Southern California

Beach Lifestyle


• Testing ground for influence & persuasionTesting ground for influence & persuasion• Contrast of formal and informal

C t t f l f l ti• Contrast of male vs. female perspectives• The significance of first impressions• The importance of activities & experiences• Be the source for putting people in theirBe the source for putting people in their

desired emotional states – make other people feel good about themselvespeople feel good about themselves.

PROFESSIONAL TOUR DIRECTOR1993 20101993 - 2010

• Speak effectively for 6-8 p yhours a day on a wide variety of topicsB i t t t i• Be an instant expert in a lot of new subjects.

• Build rapport with a wideBuild rapport with a wide variety of people from different ages, cultures, and backgroundsand backgrounds

• Create a fun environment under constant stress


• People don’t want your advice unless theyPeople don t want your advice unless they seek it – don’t coach someone unless they give you the permission to coach themgive you the permission to coach them.

• People notice the side-behavior of the person in charge Always conduct yourselfperson in charge. Always conduct yourself in a good manner. You’re never “off-the-record” or “off duty” in the client’s eyerecord or off-duty in the client s eye.

• The ability of communicate informally is j t i t t f lljust as important as formally.

MY DATING/RELATIONSHIP BOOKS2000 20062000 - 2006


• Teach through an empowering metaphorTeach through an empowering metaphor• Talk about sensitive issues through the

humor in a metaphor or analogyhumor in a metaphor or analogy.• “Angry anglers catch no fish!”• “Fishy men fear the net!”• “Fishy men seek the most attractive bait.”y• Humor disarms a lot of criticism & anger.

2003- iVILLAGE.COM MR. ANSWER MAN RELATIONSHIP EXPERTMAN RELATIONSHIP EXPERT

• Appeared on “TheAppeared on The Other Half” TV Show

• Help 10-20 women a pday understand the men in their love lives

• Rules are a poor substitute for deeper

d diunderstanding.


• A lot of details are important or significant toA lot of details are important or significant to women about romantic love relationships.

• Very few details are important or significant to y p gmen about love relationships.

• There is a lot of anger, blame, and hurt feelings g , , gthat are harbored in women towards men.

• Women undervalue/misjudge the opinions of men regarding the topic of love relationships.

• Most women get their advice from other women.

2008 - TALK LIKE A WINNER2008 TALK LIKE A WINNER


• Most relationship challenges stem from aMost relationship challenges stem from a combination of communication & attitude.

• 7 Key Steps: (1) Mindset (2) Engage (3)• 7 Key Steps: (1) Mindset, (2) Engage, (3) Talk, (4) Listen, (5) Evaluate, (6) Respond, & (7) Finish on a memorable positive note& (7) Finish on a memorable positive note

• Quick Tip #1: Smile as you speak.• Quick Tip #2: Nod while you listen.• Quick Tip #3: Pause before you reply.p y p y

NEW FOR 2012 – WALL STREET CRAPSNEW FOR 2012 WALL STREET CRAPS

• Write about what I loveWrite about what I love to do naturally

• Write about a new metaphor – Crap Game

• Robbins’ Financial Mastery updated, refined & personalized

• The universal themes of opportunity & risk


• If you want to be an expert at anythingIf you want to be an expert at anything, author Robert Allen said, “write a book.”

• Writing a book will automatically force you• Writing a book will automatically force you to refine and organize your thinking around whichever subject you choosearound whichever subject you choose.

• Writing an ebook today and selling it on A BN d iB k tAmazon.com, BN.com, and iBookstore makes the author’s journey cheaper and

i th b feasier than ever before.

“A coach’s responsibility is not ’necessarily to get the client’s

desired result. A coach’s sole des ed esu coac s so eresponsibility is to give their clients the very best work that they can ”the very best work that they can.

Steve NakamotoWriter’s Digest Award-Winning Author

“A successful coach understands theseA successful coach understands these key distinctions: The purpose of a

coach’s products and services is tocoach s products and services is to help people. The purpose of a coach’s

b i i t k Th tbusiness is to make money. That means that the purpose of your

business is not to help people…a common misunderstanding.”g

Steve NakamotoSte e a a otoWriter’s Digest Award-Winning Author

CONCLUSIONCONCLUSIONCONCLUSIONCONCLUSION

Being a successful coach requires a person to command Being a successful coach requires a person to command the respect of clients. This happens naturally when you the respect of clients. This happens naturally when you

i t d fid t b t h t d i i t d fid t b t h t d i are passionate and confident about what you are doing. are passionate and confident about what you are doing. You’ll be conveying an unconscious message that you You’ll be conveying an unconscious message that you

embody the impression of increase embody the impression of increase –– the universal desirethe universal desireembody the impression of increase embody the impression of increase –– the universal desire.the universal desire.

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