December 2017

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Seniors who keep busy with family, friends and volunteer work score higher in memory tests, a studysuggests. Findings by The American Journal of Public Health show that strong social interaction throughfriends, family and community groups can enhance our brain health as we age and that social isolationmay be an important risk factor for cognitive decline in seniors.

Researchers at the Harvard School of Public Health used data gathered from the Health and RetirementStudy, a large, nationally representative sample of American adults aged 50 and older. Participants tookmemory tests at two-year intervals during the course of the study. Researchers read a list of 10 commonnouns to participants who were then asked to recall as many words as possible immediately. They did soagain after a five-minute delay. The researchers also measured social integration based on marital status,volunteer activities and contact with parents, children and neighbors.

When the results were analyzed, it showed that participants who were involved in a lot of social activityalso had the slowest rate of memory decline. In fact, study participants who had the highest socialintegration scores showed less than half the rate of memory loss when compared to those who were theleast socially active.

To reap the rewards of good mental health seniors must remain socially engaged and participate inactivities that are meaningful, not only to the individual, but to the group or community as a whole.Involvement in a community or group can garner similar memory benefits as engaging in memorytraining or using memory techniques to enhance learning and memory skills. It is also more meaningfuland has added benefits - contentment, greater self-esteem, optimism and overall greater self-confidence.

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You probably remember your own grandparents telling you stories of their childhood—theirstruggles, triumphs, and what it was like growing up back then. And you loved it all. Well nowit’s your turn. Connect the past to the present by giving your family the greatest gift of all—agenealogy. Your children, grandchildren, and future generations will thank you.

It's common when starting a family tree to feel a bit overwhelmed, wondering where to begin.But, according to Kory Meyerink an accredited genealogist at ProGenealogists, Inc., the firstperson to help you with the research is right in the room: you! “Begin by writing down when andwhere you were born. Then, jot down your parents’ information, including when their siblingswere born,” says Meyerink. This can be done on something called a Family Group Sheet whichoften includes marriage dates and places, and for every deceased family member, dates and placesof death.

A good family history tells a story about an individual or a certain family. Much can be learnedby using diaries, journals, newspaper articles, family documents, letters or scrapbooks that werehanded down over the generations. Learning more about the each familyancestor: their likes, dislikes, interests, skills and achievements isfascinating.

Ultimately, a genealogy project could take anywhere from a week, to puttogether a simple Family Group Sheet, to six months or longer, to build acomplex family tree using online resources like Ancestry.com or 23andme.comwhich uses DNA to discover your family connections. Regardless of a project's scope,the end result will be the same: a better understanding and appreciation of where

you’ve come from, a real-life family story to pass on to your loved ones.

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Highlights12/1 2:00 Community Tree Lighting Ceremony12/2 3:15 Love Through Music Club12/2 6:00 Music Recital12/3 2:30 Holiday Dance Performance12/4 11:30 - 3:30 Jewelry Sale12/6 10:30 Classical Guitar with Chris12/7 5:30 Memory Care Candle Light Diner12/8 2:15 Big Buddies Visit12/3 3:00 Mark Watson Happy Hour12/9 3:00 Clifford's Holiday Music Performance12/10 3:00 Music Brings Joy & Sing-along12/11 3:00 Maddeline Performs12/13 10:00 Bluegrass Band Jam12/13 6:00 Understanding Dementia with Vitas12/14 10:30 Food & Dining Meeting12/14 5:30 - 7:30 Games & Crafts with the National Charity League12/16 1:00 Music Recital12/16 2:00 Mr & Mrs Claus visit12/16 3:00 Ken Sosa Performs12/17 1:30 Ed Davin Performs12/17 3:30 Music Recital & Sing-a-long12/18 10:30 Marry Boutte Performs12/19 5:00 Men & Women's Groups Tropical Holiday Dinner12/20 1:00 Steven Schwartz on Piano12/21 3:15 Karaoke12/22 3:00 Dean Martin Impersonator12/23 3:00 Elma & Friends Christmas Sing-a-long12/30 1:00 - 4:00 Casino Event12/31 6:00 New Years Eve Party with The Zinfandel Stompers

ShoppingAnd

More!

12/1 Outback Steakhouse12/3 Scenic Drive12/4 Shopping: Target12/6 Crèche Exhibit12/8 Spaghetti Factory12/10 Scenic Drive12/11 Shopping: Safeway12/12 Willow Glen Lights Tour12/13 Macy’s12/15 de Young Museum12/18 Shopping: Walgreens & Lucky12/18 Willow Glen Lights Tour12/20 Shopping: T.J. Maxx12/24 Scenic Drive12/26 Willow Glen Lights Tour12/27 Shopping:Target12/31 Scenic Drive

Gift Wrapping, Gingerbread Houses,

& More!December 14th 5:30 - 7:30

The National Charity Leaguewill be here to help!

You must sign up by December 7th

to reserve your gingerbread house.

There will be holiday music andrefreshments, so join inon the Holiday Spirit!

You don’t want to miss outOn all the hard work that hasbeen put into Memory Cares

Quarterly Creations Challenge!

There are limited Unveiling Seats,please sign up by December 16th.

Residents Holiday PartyDecember 22, 2017

3:00 - 4:30

Featuring Live music from aDean Martin Impersonator and Martinis

CasinoEvent!

December 30, 20171:00 - 4:00PM

In the Living RoomChampagne & Hors D'oeuvres!

December 31, 20176:00 - 7:30

In the Living RoomChampagne & live music

From The Zinfandel Stompers!

Sunday, January 1 Thursday, June 1

Monday, May 1 Friday, June 2

Tuesday, May 2 Saturday, July 1

Wednesday, May 3

9:00 Brain Fitness (AR)10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR) 10:45 Lunch at Agave (LOB) 1:30 Bingo (AR) 3:30 Nail Art (AR) 4:15 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Skip-Bo (GR3) 6:30 Evening Movie (LR)

9:00 Morning Walk (LOB) 10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR) 10:45 Wheel of Fortune (LR) 1:30 Derby Days (LR) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 6:00 Warriors Playoffs Party (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

10:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR)10:30 All Denominational Worship

with Patricia (LR)11:00 Banking Hour (LOB)11:30 Donut Social (LR) 1:30 Edye’s Art Class (AR)3:00 Grace & Frankie with Refreshments (AR)

4:00 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:45 Heads Up (AR) 10:45 Bingo (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:00 Flower Arrangements with Joshika (AR) 4:00 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Key:

LR: Living Room AR: Activity RoomLOB: Lobby DR: Dining Room

TV3: TV Room 3rd FloorGR3: Game Room 3rd Floor

9:00 Walk on the Trail (LOB) 10:00 Stretch and Relax with Ellen (AR) 10:30 Ears Direct Hearing Aid Clinic (GR3) 1:30 Bingo (AR) 3:00 Fitness Boot Camp with James (AR) 4:00 Chance’s Drum Circle (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3) 6:30 Mexican Train Dominos (GR3)

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB)10:30 Catholic Mass (AR)11:30 Singing with Fran (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 1:15 Seahawks vs 49er’s Game (LR) 4:00 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR)10:30 Fraud Awareness Presentation (LR)

1:00 Shopping at Walgreens & Lucky (LOB) 1:30 All Denominational Bible Study (TV3) 3:30 Bingo (AR) 4:15 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Ruth Lund

Terry Uyeda

Marie Lazaro

102!

100 and up Club!

Basketball Theme Day

101!

December BirthdayCelebration:

December 28, 20173:00 in the Living Room

Marjorie Higley 12/01John Saunders 12/06Sara Krex 12/10Al DiFrancesco 12/13Doris Darby 12/14Mark Mazzetti 12/16Don Holmes 12/17Dick Morrill 12/19Josephine Lopez 12/23Nina Day 12/26Joyce Krull 12/27Jim Nardi 12/27

Resident Birthdays

JOSHIKA 12/03 MARICELA 12/04

NOEMI 12/08 MARY ANN 12/10 RENEE 12/16 MARIA 12/18 PILAR 12/19 TONYA 12/21 CATALINA 12/21 LAURA 12/23 KHRISTINA 12/25 BERIKTI 12/25 ARACELI 12/27 IRMA 12/30

Sunday, October 1 VITAS PRESENTATION

Monday, October 2 Friday, December 1

Tuesday, October 3 Saturday, December 2

Wednesday, November 1 Sunday, May 31

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB)10:30 Catholic Mass (AR)11:30 Singing with Fran (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:00 Walk on the Trail (AR) 10:00 Blue Grass Jam Band (AR) 10:30 Veteran’s Pictures (Lobby) 1:30 Garden Group Meeting (patio) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Rummikub (TV3) 6:30 Evening Documentary (LR)

9:00 Walk onn the Trail (LOB) 10:30 Hearing Aid Clinic (GR3) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR)

3:15 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3) 6:30 Mexican Train Dominoes (AR)

9:30 Current Events (AR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:15 Love Through Music Club (LR) 6:30 Music Recital (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

10:30 All Denominational Worship (LR) 10:45 Outing: Outback Steakhouse (LOB) 11:00 Banking Hour (LOB) 2:00 - 4:00 Tree Lighting Ceremony With a new band (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:00 Walk on the Trail with Duane (LOB)10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR)

1:00 Shopping at Safeway (LOB) 1:30 All Denominational Bible Study (TV3) 3:30 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Autumn Theme Day

Ida McQuilliams“Understanding Dementia”

December 13, 20176:00 - 7:00

In the Living Room

Doctor ShuttlesTuesdays - Los Gatos Area, O’Connor,Good Samaritan, Santa Clara Kaiser

Thursdays - East San Jose, Santa Teresa Kaiser,San Jose Medical, & Downtown Areas

Latest Apt. Time for Downtown and East Side Areas is 1:30

Church ShuttlesSundays 8:30 - 12:00 to Select Local Churches

You must sign up 48 hours in advance.We also offer limited Valetservices for a small fee!

December 5, 201710:45 - 2:00In the Activities Room

Sunday, December 3 Thursday, December 7

Monday, December 4 Friday, December 8

Tuesday, December 5 Saturday, December 9

Wednesday, December 6 Monday, November 12

9:30 Current Events (AR)10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR)10:30 Classical Guitar with Chris (AR)12:30 Crèche Exhibit (LOB) 1:00 Bridge (GR3) 3:30 Po-ke-no (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3) 6:30 Rummikub (AR)

10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR)10:30 Hearing Aid Clinic (GR3)10:45 - 2:00 Holiday Fund Sale (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:15 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Mexican Train Dominoes (GR3) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Target Shuttles (LOB) 10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR) 10:30 Ceramics (AR) 11:30 - 3:30 Jewelry Show (LOB) 1:15 All Denominational Bible Study (TV3) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 4:30 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:30 Kids come to Carol! (LR) 10:30 All Denominational Worship (LR) 10:45 Outing: Spaghetti Factory (LOB) 11:00 Banking Hour (LOB) 2:15 Big Buddies School Visit (LR) 3:00 Mark Watson & Champagne Cocktails (LR) 4:30 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB)10:30 Catholic Mass (AR)11:30 Singing with Fran (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:30 Donut Social & French Pressed Coffee (LR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:00 Clifford's Holiday Recital (LR) 4:00 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Snowman Theme Day

9:30 Table Talk (AR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 1:15 Helping Hearts Holiday Fund Picture (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:15 Making Snow Globes (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB) 10:30 Catholic Mass (AR) 11:30 Singing with Fran (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 2:30 Holiday Dance Performance (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Hearing Aid Clinic!Now Every First Tuesday!

Ken is a CA Licensed Hearing Aid Specialist,a member of the International Hearing Aid

Society and National BoardCertified in Hearing Instrument Sciences. He has 26 years ofexperience in the practice offitting hearing instruments

and operated a Hearing Office for over 24 years.

Sunday, December 10 Thursday,December 14

Monday, December 11 Friday, December 15

Tuesday, December 12 Saturday, December 16

Wednesday, December 13

10:00 SF de Young Museum (LOB)10:30 All Denominational Worship (LR)11:00 Banking Hour (LOB) 3:00 Chanukah Social (AR) 4:00 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Safeway Shuttles 10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR) 10:30 Ceramics (AR) 1:15 All Denominational Bible Study (TV3) 3:00 Maddeline on Piano (AR) 4:15 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

10:00 Stretch & Relax with Ellen (AR) 10:45 Crafts with Anthem (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 4:00 Drum Circle (LR) 5:30 Willow Glen Night Drive (LOB) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3) 6:30 Mexican Train Dominoes (GR3)

9:45 Vidz with Mander (AR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 1:00 Music Recital (LR) 2:00 Mr. & Mrs. Claus (LR) 3:00 Ken Sosa Performs (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB)10:30 Catholic Mass (AR)11:30 Fran on Piano (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 3:00 Music Brings Joy Program (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:30 Podiatrist Visit (salon)10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR)10:30 Bluegrass Band Jam (LR)12:00 New Residents HH Luncheon (AR) 1:00 Bridge (TV 3) 2:00 Shopping at Macy’s (LOB) 3:00 Biillards & Brews (GR3) 6:00 Understanding Dementia with Vitas (AR) 6:30 Evening Documentary (TV3)

10:00 Brain Games (AR) 10:30 Food & Dining Meeting (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 5:30 - 7:30 National Charity League Event (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Gingerbread Theme Day!

Food & Dining Meeting(All Residents Are Invited)

December 14, 2017In the Living Room!

Happy Chanukah!

Sunday, December 17 Thursday, December 21

Monday, December 18 Friday, December 22

Tuesday, December 19 Saturday, December 23

Wednesday, December 20 Monday, April 25

9:45 Fabulous Fitness (AR)10:30 Bingo (AR)12:00 Popeye's Chicken Luncheon (AR) 1:00 Bridge (TV 3) 1:00 Steven Schwartz (LR) 2:30 Shopping at Tj Maxx (LOB) 4:00 Poker (GR3) 6:30 Rummikub (GR3) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

10:00 Stretch and Relax with Ellen (AR)10:45 Gingerbread House Contest (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 5:00 Tropical Christmas Diner with Timo (LR) 6:30 Mexican Train Dominos (GR3) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Shuttles to Walgreens & Lucky 10:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR) 10:30 Marry Boutte Performs (AR) 10:30 Ceramics (AR) 1:15 All Denominational Bible Study (TV3) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 4:15 Balance Bar (AR) 5:30 Willow Glen Night Drive (LOB) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB)10:30 Catholic Mass (AR)11:30 Fran on Piano (LR)11:15 Sunday Brunch (DR) 1:30 Gingerbread House Touch ups (AR) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:30 Brain Games (AR)10:30 All Denominational Worship (LR)11:00 Banking Hour (LR) 2:00 Fabulous Fitness (AR) 3:00 Dean Martin & Martinis (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB)10:30 Catholic Mass (AR)11:30 Singing with Fran (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 2:30 Garden Group Meeting (AR) 3:30 Crochette & Knitting Group (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:30 Brain Games (AR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:00 Christmas Sing-a-long with Elma & Friends (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Christmas Theme Day

9:00 Current Events (AR) 10:00 Memory Care Unveiling(MC) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:15 Karaoke (LR) 4:15 Balance Bar (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Total Brain Training!Cross-train your brain in six essential

cognitive domains to provide acomprehensive brain training workout.

Talk to the personal expressionsdepartment today!

Sunday, December 24 Thursday, December 28

Monday, December 25 Friday, December 29

Tuesday, December 26 Saturday, December 30

Wednesday, December 27 Sunday, December 31

10:00 Stretch & Relax with Ellen (AR) 10:45 Table Talk & Tea (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:15 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3) 6:30 Mexican Train Dominoes (GR3)

Target Shuttles 9:30 Podiatrist Visit (AR) 10:30 All Residents Meeting (LR) 1:00 Bridge (TV 3) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Skip-Bo (GR3) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3) 6:30 Rummikub (TV3)

10:00 Christmas Morning Social (AR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 2:00 Christmas Karaoke (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:30 Morning Nail Art (AR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 1:00 - 4:00 Casino Event! 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB) 10:30 Catholic Mass (AR) 11:30 Singing with Fran (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 3:00 Baking Holiday Goodies (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:45 Fabulous Fitness (AR)10:30 All Denominational Worship(AR)11:00 Banking Hour (LOB) 1:30 Balance Bar (AR) 3:00 Bingo (AR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

9:30 White Elephant Social (AR) 10:30 Bingo (AR) 2:00 Live 2B Healthy (AR) 3:00 Steve Edwards Performs (LR) 6:30 Evening Movie (TV3)

Winter Theme Day

8:00 Church Shuttles (LOB) 10:30 Catholic Mass (AR) 11:30 Singing with Fran (LR) 1:00 Scenic Drive (LOB) 5:30 New Years Eve Party! 7:30 New Years Eve TV Special (LR)

Merry Christmas!

CRAB FEED!January 25, 2018

4:30 - 6:30In the living Room

Seating is limitedYou must Rsvp by noon on January 18, 2018

Enjoy our Delicious Menu:

Clam chowder & French Bread

Beer, wine & other Refreshments

New Residents &Helping Hearts Luncheon!

December 13, 201712:00 in the Activities Room

Meet other new residents and our resident volunteers

the helping hearts!We will be enjoying

Catered Chinese Food!You must RSVP by December 9th!

Popeye's Luncheon!

December 20, 201712:00 in the

activities room

You must RSVP by December 19th!

It’s Back!!

Please welcomeFrank Mello!

Frank was originally born inTracy California. He was married to his wife for 71 years.They loved to travel all over in their RV. Frank was a farmer and enjoys working in a garden but for most of his career hewas a mechanic for San Jose City. Frank is looking forward tosocializing and has already danced with Patricia at one of ourParties! He also loves classic cars and still owns his 1937 FordCoupe that he call “his 37”. Let’s give Frank a warm welcomeand show him a fun time!

Men's Group & Women's GroupTropical Holiday Dinner!

December 19, 20175:00 in the Living RoomCome get in the theme and enjoydinner and entertainment!Both groups are always open for new members.Please RSVP by December 12, 2017.

Teotihuacan: City of Water, City of Fire will explore how artworks from the ancient cityshape our understanding of Teotihuacan as an urban environment. One of the earliest, largest,

and most important cities in the ancient Americas, Teotihuacan is now a UNESCO WorldHeritage Site and the most visited archaeological site in Mexico. The exhibition, organized in

collaboration with Mexico’s Instituto Nacional de Antropología e Historia (INAH), will feature recent, never-before-seen archaeological discoveries and other major loans

from Mexican and US cultural institutions. Monumental and ritual objects from Teotihuacan’sthree pyramids will be shown alongside mural paintings, ceramics, and stone sculptures

from the city’s apartment compounds. By bringing these pieces together, and encouragingvisitors to understand the context of specific sites within the city, the exhibition will provide

a rare opportunity for Bay Area audiences to experience a significant place in Mexico's culturallandscape—the captivating and mysterious ancient city of Teotihuacan.

The de Young MuseumDecember 15, 2017Bus Leaves at 10:00We will be bringing lunch with us.

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When we traveled to Bend, Oregon, we stopped for breakfast in Williams, Ca. As we were leaving,the local paper, Territorial Dispatch, caught my attention with a column titled ENHANCEDLIVING by author, Debbie Petersen who had recently passed away. If I’d known her, I’m surewe would have had much in common. I want to share some of her important and insightful thoughtswith you mixed in with some of my views.

In December we generally dash about buying gifts for all those we love, however we usually forgetthe one important person we should love the most . I have often written aboutthis subject because of its importance and how it affects every aspect of our lives. I am referringto “forgiveness.” Our own happiness and peace of mind comes from being able to forgivefor things we may or may not have done, and others for the way they have hurt us emotionally orphysically. Forgiveness has no boundaries that contain the kind of hurts we’ve given and orreceived both intentionally and unintentionally. For instance an alcoholic father is too sick to seehow he damages his family, therefore a son or daughter may feel justified in hating that fatherforever, thereby damaging themselves and all those who love them. A vicious circle.

Petersen says, “Picture a triangle and place pride at the top and then selfishness and fear as thebottom points of the triangle. Pride, selfishness and fear are the three things that trip us up.”Most of us think we are beyond those three, but if you’re irritated because someone is taking toolong in line ahead of you, IT IS PRIDE. If someone hurts your feelings, IT IS PRIDE.

As with anything worthwhile, it takes perfect practice to accomplish this. But first we have to beable to recognize and admit that we behave that way. Once we do, it is easier to battle and correct.Of course we may falter, but then we just pick ourselves up and try to do better. We are muchhappier when we succeed. Unhappiness comes from not forgiving. To be unforgiving causes usto be bitter, resentful, (hateful) and unbending. Clearly it is pride that makes us feel justified inholding on to those heavy ugly resentful feelings even though they may have been justified at thetime and made us feel better, in the long run, it ruins our health, and our relationships, for itcannot be hidden.

We are afraid to love for fear of not being able to trust. We areselfish because we want to hold on to the hate/resentment. We are justified we have convincedourselves. And selfish because we are spiteful, denying the person who offended us, the same peaceof mind that we too deserve to have. It is clear that no man is an island. And one person’snegative energy affects the energy of all those who live, work and associate with us.

We wish you a Happy Holidays season filled with self love, forgiveness and the happiness thatcomes from that simple but important act.

Debbie Petersen, author of