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The Art & Science of Doing Epic Sh*t in 2016Psychologist’s Guide.
Patrycja Sławuta, MA Psych PhD(C)@Patrycja_NYC
In partnership with WeWork Portland: January 20, 2016
Framework:
Human Mind = natural resourceHumans = living code
Confidence, courage, creativity = skill
Meta Question for 2016
Who programs You?
How do you program yourself for 2016?
MindHacking
= SelfHacking
Same of Computer Hacking
MindHacking overviewThe ways we get programmed:
Head - cognition
Heart - emotion
Body - behavior
Others - our social self
Hacking Head• Your thoughts become your beliefs• Your beliefs become your words• Your words become your actions• Your actions become your habits• Your habits become your values• Your value become your destiny
• Mahatma Ghandi
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On average 70,000 thoughts/dayMany SAME (up to 90%)150,000 we hear NO
WHY?
Brain = velcro for - teflon for +
Hacking Head
Meaning-making machineCreates stories and narrativeNot always truthful and useful
Hack #1You don’t have to believe your thoughts
Hack #2Treat thoughts as objects
+Speak back in growth mindset
Human Brain
Heart - Emotions
At some point: EQ > IQ
All emotions serve a purpose and…move. Let them
Name it to tame it
The trauma of everyday life: the art of Self Compassion
BODY
• Gigantic communication antenna
• Most communication - nonverbal
• Two crucial dimensions: Power / Warmth
• Confidence lives in the body 10
Confidence= Calm + grounded presence
Voice: calm & slow
Pay attention to:
*Pitch
*Speak up
Practice:
*Slowing down
*Power poses 11
Hello Human
Human = social animal (Aronson)
Brain = wired to connect (Lieberman)
Body = wired to connect (Levine)
Fundamental human need
TO BE: • Seen
• Accepted/Belong
• Felt
• Heard
Community
• Psychological buffer• Support system
• Vulnerability
• Exercise: • End the small talk ARTICLE
• 36 questions developed by psychologists to make you fall in LOVE with anybody
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