take this job & love it! presenter, martha n. bryan bryan & bryan associates...
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Whining, Pity Party – Being Grumpy
Unhappy Camper – Communication Issues
Attendance Problems – Late, Leaves Early
Obnoxious Behaviors And Addictive Behaviors
Waiting For Things To Get Better -- Or Others To Get Better
Holding On To Old Ways -- Defending The Status Quo
Doing Only What Is Required
Not Keeping Promises
Tunnel Vision -- Unable To See The Big Picture
Working “For Others” – Working On Other People’s Goals
“Auto Pilot" Existence -- Just Going Through Life
Unlimited Excuses – Always Overworked / Under Stress
No Energy (Listless)
People Who Hate Their Job
“Everything can be taken from a person but one thing; the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
~ Victor Frankel, Auschwitz Prisoner Author Man’s Search for Meaning
“Bad attitudes have become mainstream. Irreverence, criticism, and disrespect are at the forefront of our humor, entertainment, media, political discourse, and everyday conversation.
These personal attacks and ‘character assassinations’ occur so often, they are no longer shocking or noteworthy. We have become desensitized to such attacks. We do not just disagree with someone’s ideas and actions, we attack their intelligence, ethics, and morals.
Managers have moved from guideposts to whipping posts and frequently bear the brunt of employees’ personal feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, outside problems that filter into the workplace, employees’ lack of personal preparation and failure to position themselves for tomorrow’s workplace opportunities as well as stalled careers.” ~ Harry Chambers, Author The Bad Attitude Survival Guide
We have experienced an erosion of respect for people, positions, and institutions.
Employees are holding you accountable for crimes you never committed and problems you do not have the power to fix. It comfortably distances employees from responsibility.
Today’s employees are less fearful of what you might do to them and more resentful of what they perceive you haven’t done for them. We are no longer motivated to avoid loss.
Blaming is a comfortable way to distance themselves for any responsibility, affirms their righteousness, and avoids accountability for unresolved issues.
Bad attitude employees do not differentiate between a four alarm blazing fire and a burned marshmallow.
Antagonism is fashionable. There is always someone or something to be against. There is no middle ground. We tend to think in absolutes.
Every decision they make is wrong.They are always out to get me (us).Everything the boss or company does is wrong.The company will do everything they can to get me.
With the advantage of hindsight, elapsed time and observable results, we have become experts at being post-event critical. After-the-fact geniuses -- used by those who are not secure enough to put themselves on the line and take risk.
Clarity and commitment to mission / goals
A passion for excellence
Lifelong growth / development
Creation / management of change
Ability to learn from mistakes, self-correct / move on
Commitment to mastery of a talent or skill
Strong sense of personal awareness / accountability
(continued)
People Who Love Their Job
Habits of People Who Love Their Job (continued)
Both healthy independence & interdependence
Ability to communicate for understanding
Empowerment of self & others
Ability to take care of themselves
Risk, experimentation & growth
Expectation of positive
Ability to be grateful
Ability to experience life to the fullest degree
Blocks to Loving Your Work
Having no definition of success
Not knowing what you really want
Unclear goals / purpose
Lack of commitment to goals
Lack of self-discipline / putting off
Working first on what is due first
Doing only what is required / getting sidetracked
(Continued)
"There are a thousand excuses for every failure but never a good reason." ~ Mark Twain
Blocks to Loving Your Work (Continued)
Excusitis (real creative with excuses)
Unable to work effectively with others
Negative thinking / problem conscious
Thinking something outside self will bring happiness
Lets mistakes defeat them
Tunnel vision
"Auto pilot" existence – too attached to comfort zone
Listlessness (no energy)
“Your Life Does Not Get Better By Chance, It Gets Better By Change.”
~ Jim Rohn
Am I The Block?
Yes No
_____ _____ Am I refusing to do anything distasteful?_____ _____ Am I hanging around the quicksand crowd?_____ _____ Am I putting off?_____ _____ Am I waiting around for things to get better?_____ _____ Am I whining and complaining?_____ _____ Am I talking too much?_____ _____ Am I making snap or slow decisions?_____ _____ Am I refusing to let others do their job?_____ _____ Am I taking on too much?_____ _____ Am I giving in to mood swings?_____ _____ Am I coping with change?_____ _____ Am I making realistic time estimates?_____ _____ Am I excited about my life?
Are We "Our Own Worst Enemy?"
Why do we get stuck just doing our job?
Why do we sleepwalk through life?
Why do we not pay attention to the "wake - up" calls?
Are we chasing our dreams or just putting in our time?
Are we chasing our dreams or working on other people's goals?
How can we put more joy and excitement into our life?
"People are always blaming their circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want. If they don't find them, they make them." ~ George Bernard Shaw
“Most of us will go to our grave with our music still in our soul.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
What Does Success Mean To You?
• Peace of mind . . . freedom fromfear, guilt, anger
• Good health & high energy level
• Caring relationships
• Commitment to worthy goals & ideas
• Feeling of fulfillment
Success -- The Pieces
Success . . .
Getting to do what you really want to do in
--> love --> work --> personal life
Doing it well.
Being rewarded for it.
Feeling good about yourself . . . in the process of doing it.
Getting Clarity About What Is Important . . . This Will Help
Three Choices
Personal Mission
Retirement Speech
Or
Obituary
Let’s be Honest!
Why do you get up in the morning?
Why do you do the work you do?
Do you work at peak performance levels or do you "just get by”?
If you could have any job in the world, what job would that be?
If you knew you could not fail, what would you do with your life?
In reflecting back on all the jobs you have had throughout your life, which job brought you the most joy and satisfaction?
In reflecting on the job you now have, what part of your job do you especially enjoy?
If you knew you had only one year to live, what would you do differently?
Are you living your life by design or by default?
Finding Your Passion Requires . . . Answering Some Tough Questions
I feel at peace when I am . . .
I feel happy when I am . . .
I feel energized when I am . . .
I feel like a driver when I am . . .
I feel like I am chasing my dream when I am . . .
Time flies when I am . . .
My heart leaps when I am
What Is The Difference?
How Does A Goal Start?
Dream? Wish? Goal?
• Identify the goal.
• List the benefits.
• List the losses.
• List the obstacles to overcome.
• List the people who can help.
• Develop a plan of action.
• Set a date for accomplishment.
Steps To Making Plans
Done Correctly, Your Plan Will Entail . . .
Defining Your Mission,
Clarifying Your Vision Of What You Would Like,
Defining Your Values,
Identifying Your Dreams,
Then . . .
Developing The Goals And Objectives (The Roadmap)
That Will Guide You To Where You Want To Go.
You Don’t . . .
make a cake without a recipe,
take a trip without a map,
You don’t build a house without a blueprint,
And,
You don’t get the most out of your
work
and life without a plan of
action.
Loving Your Work Takes Controlling . . .
Stress?
Stress is . . .
1. Our internal response to the outside world.
2. Our inability to deal openly and honestly with self and others.
3. Stress is the feeling you experience when you perceive a gap between what you want and what you have.
Stress originates . . . not out there,
But . . . Only in our mind.
Our Thinking . . .
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *Makes it so!
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10 10
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Inability
to
Enjoy
Work. . . . . . . .
The Cause
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Balanced
Life
Wheel
Spirit Health
Financial Career
Family Social
Spirit Health
Financial Career
Family Social
Balanced Wheel
Unbalanced Wheel
The Wheel . . . The Walk, Talk & Sound
When it is Balanced When it is Not
Has a purpose-focus
Actions are deliberate
Good communicator / team player
Self -confident / motivated
Risk taker
Has a sense of control
Focuses on their “Circle of Influence”
Majors in Majors
Purpose / goals are unclear
Lack of focus
Poor communicator
Focuses on blaming / fault finding
Negative thinking
Feels victimized by others / system
Feels powerless in controlling events
Majors in Minors
Managing Stress Takes a Life In Balance
What You How You
Value Live
To Enjoy Your Work, It Takes . . . Keep You Cool, Calm and Collected
Have "escape routes.“
Remind yourself of your good qualities.
Keep a victory file and or wall.
Talk to yourself.
Choose your thoughts.
Set realistic goals and expectations.
Take care of number one.
Establish quiet time.
Accept change.
Be careful how you describe events.
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To Enjoy Your Work, It Takes . . . Keep You Cool, Calm and Collected
Focus on areas you can control.
Negotiate and re-engineer pressure situations.
Use your body as a warning system.
Have a support system.
Have a reward system.
Balance your life.
Go with the flow.
Learn to say "no.“
Have a positive mental attitude.
Maintain sensible perspective and a sense of humor.
Warm up to your job or find a new one.
To Keep Cool, Calm, Collected & Productive . . .Stay In That “Circle of Influence.”
Circle of
Circleof
Influence
Concern
Loving Your Work
& Life!
Creating The Job For You
Take 100 % responsibility for you.
Remember . . . the "someday Isle" is now!
Dream big dreams.
Develop a mission / purpose.
Warm up to your job or find a new one.
Become "self-employed.“ Give up the 40 hour week.
Become a learning machine.
Focus on strengths.
(continued)
Creating The Job For You (continued)
Master the art of communication.
Lose yourself to serving others.
Surround yourself with winners.
Visualize accomplishing your goals and plans.
Form partnerships with those who can help you reach your goals.
Use no alibis.
Avoid comfort zone ruts.
(continued)
Creating The Job For You (continued)
Become a risk taker.
Constantly ask yourself, "What am I trying to accomplish?“
Evaluate to find the critical path.
Have a passion for excellence.
Celebrate accomplishments.
Never! Never! Never give up!
“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.”
~ Leo Buscaglia