success secrets of the motivational superstars

Steven A. Gedeon, PhD, MBA, [email protected]

Success Secrets of theMotivational Superstars

© Dr. Steven A. Gedeon

Success and Happiness come from Harmony

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VALUES & BELIEFS

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Great Goals

• How much Success?

• How much Happiness?

Average Goals and Effort

will Produce an Average Life


Harmony

• What you Do

• What you Say

• What you Think

• What you Feel

VALUES & BELIEFS

GOALS

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HARMONY


Harmony

• Live “Without Wax” (sina cera > sincere)

• Ensuring Non-Contradictions

• To Thine Own Self be True– Aptitudes – Your Goals Conform to Reality

• Become Great at what you are Good at

– Honesty – Your Words Conform to Reality – Integrity – Your Actions Conform to your Words– Character – Your Actions over Time


Greatness is Being ProactiveHARMONY

Self-EsteemCreative VisualizationTime ManagementResponsibilitySelf-ControlAdaptabilityBenevolence

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SUCCESS SKILLS


Reality

• Productivity– You have to Work to Earn a Living

• Aptitudes– Become Great at what you are Good at

• You Always Get Out what you Put In– You Don’t Get Something for Nothing

• You Can’t Have It All Right Away– You Need to Balance Short and Long Term

Goals – there are Time Constraints

REALITY


Core Beliefs

• Deeply held, typically non-verbal, Core Beliefs have a powerful effect on your self-esteem and behaviors. For example:– “My Life is Important”– “What Other People Think of Me is Very Important”– “I Deserve to be Happy”– “Life is Unfair”– “I’m Stupid, Lazy, Ugly…”– “It’s a Dog-Eat-Dog World”– “Life Sucks and then You Die”

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Values and Beliefs

• What are Your Core Beliefs?– Do You Agree with ALL of Them?– How did they get there?

• Because we Believe them to be True, we will Act as if they are True

• What are Your Primary Values?– Do you Consistently Act in Accordance with

Them?


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Set Goals

• The Cheshire Cat • The Reason so many Fail to Achieve their Goals

is that they Never Set them in the First Place• By Failing to Plan – They Plan to Fail!• The Mind is like the Homing System of a

Torpedo– It will achieve your good or bad expectations– If no target set, it will wander aimlessly and self-

destruct


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Long-Term GoalsYearly GoalsMonthly GoalsWeekly Goals


Set Clear Goals

• SMART Goals:– Specific– Measurable– Action-Oriented– Realistic– Timely

• An Unwritten Goal is Merely a Wish!


Success Skills

1. Reality-Based Self-Esteem2. Creative Visualization3. Time Management4. Responsibility5. Self-Control6. Adaptability7. Benevolence

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1: Reality Based Self-Esteem

• Unconditional Love and Causeless Value vs Rational Basis of Lasting Self-Esteem

Reality-BasedSelf-Esteem

Event Control Productivity

REALITY


Earning Self-Esteem

• You MUST Earn Respect of Others

• You MUST Earn Your Own Respect

REALITY


Your Self-Esteem Must Ultimately Come from Within

• Seeking others’ approval often pressures us into behaving contrary to our deepest values

• When we seek external validation, we lose control over our lives

• Don’t behave according to someone else’s values rather than your own

• Whenever we accept someone else’s prejudice against us, we give them a degree of control over our lives

• You can be happy and successful regardless of other people’s opinions

REALITY


2: Creative Visualization


2: Creative Visualization

• You become what you think, say, and believe about yourself (your self image)

• The Mind’s Guardian (Reticular Activating System)– Your info filter – be careful what you give importance

to

• Most negative values and beliefs are stored, through habitual repetition in our right-brains. You can “re-write” these with Self-Talk

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Creative Visualization

• The Power of Visualization, Affirmations and Self-Talk to “Re-Write Your Beliefs”

• Who you see in your imagination will always rule your world


Self-Talk

• Self-Talk Statements Concerning Each Major Value, Goal or Core Belief– Use Personal Pronouns (“I”, “mine”,”me”)– Present Tense– Short and Concise– Positive Goal Seeking, not Avoiding

Negatives– Non-competitive, don’t Compare to Others– Strive for Improvement, not Perfection

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3: Time Management

• You Cannot Control Everything – Sometimes you Must Adapt, Roll with It

• Think “Event Control”, not “Time Management”

No Control Total ControlSunrise, Death, BossEarthquakes, TidesOther people…

What I Eat, What I WearMy Reaction to Events…

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Taking Control

• There are Events we Can NOT Control, but we Believe we can– We Cannot Control what Other People Do!

• There are Events we CAN Control, but Believe we can’t– Interruptions, Time Robbers, Procrastination…

• Being Busy vs. being Productive

• Being “Efficient” vs. being “Effective”

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The 4 Quadrants of Time Mgt

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Important

NotImportant

Urgent Not Urgent

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Planning Properly

• Find a place that is free of distractions• Review the long-range goals – Put Big Rocks in First!• Make sure the number of tasks and time is achievable• Set specific daily goals for tasks• Prioritize your tasks

– List all your tasks – especially non-urgent ones!– Give a Value to Each Item on the List (A important, B, C trivial)– Give a numerical Value to Prioritize (A2, B3…)

• Character is doing what you say you will do• Character is the ability to carry out a worthy decision

after the emotion of making that decision has passed

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4: Responsibility

• Take ownership of our failures and weakness

• We become what we do• Character cannot be counterfeited or put

on and cast off like a garment• Our rewards depend on the quality and

amount of work we put into it• Delay immediate gratification for long-term

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5: Self Control


The 7 C’s of Self-Control

• We Control the Clock• We Control our Concepts• We Control our Contacts• We Control our Communication• We Control our Commitments• We Control our Causes• We Control our Concerns


6: Adaptability

• These are “The Good Old Days”

• Problems are Normal in any Era

• Successful people develop Mental Toughness, Strength of Character and Adaptability

• Stress is a Normal Part of Life

• Many Types of Stress – It’s how you Take it that Counts


7: Benevolence

• The World is your Oyster (What Pearl can you find today?)

• The Explorer’s Premise– Discover New Goals and

Change Goals

• The Abundance Mentality • Think Win-Win• Be Nice to People!

– Take Time for Empathetic Listening


Greatness is Being ProactiveHARMONY

Self-EsteemCreative VisualizationTime ManagementResponsibilitySelf-ControlAdaptabilityBenevolence

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Personal Greatness

• Greatness is Ultimately about being Proactive– Integrated Values, Beliefs, Goals and Actions

• Balanced Living

• Greatness is a Journey, Not a Destination

• You Always Get Out what You Put In – Sow Seeds of Greatness!

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