Lesson Title: Conflict called Dneirf

Lesson Title: Conflict called DneirfApproximate Number of Periods: 1, 30-45 minute period

Grades: 1-4

Print Materials Needed: Book: Dneirf by Mike Resh

Resources: Printable Worksheets from www.mikeresh.com

-------- Compare & Contrast, Parent Letter Home, and Bookmarks

KUD’sKnow Understand Do

Key Vocabulary

DneirfFriendKindnessCaringConflictResolutionSolvingEscalatesEscalator

Students will understand what conflict is and how it forms.

Students will learn how conflict can get worse or escalate.

Students will brainstorm behaviors that can be used to prevent and/or solve conflicts in social situations.

Differences between a Dneirf, Friend, and Bully.

PA Social Studies: 5.2.6.B.Explain how citizens resolve conflicts in society and government.

PA Language Arts: 1.1.8.B.Use context clues, knowledge of root words as well as a glossary/thesaurus to decode and understand specialized vocabulary in the content areas during reading.

PS:A1.5. Identify and express feelings.

PS:A1.6 Distinguish between appropriate and inappropriate behaviors.

PS:A2.1 Recognize that everyone has rights and responsibilities.

PS:A2.2 Respect alternative points of view

PS.A2.6 Use effective communication skills

PS:A2.8 Learn how to make and keep friends

PS:B1.1 Use a decision-making and problem-solving model.

PS:B1.3 Identify alternative solutions to problems.

PS:B1.6 Know how to apply conflict resolution skills.

Assessment Areas

Assessments/Performance TasksClassroom discussionStudent ResponsesTeacher ObservationVocabulary being used by students

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Stage 3: Learning Activities

1. Pre-test: Write the words Friend and Bully on the board or display. Ask students to talk in small groups about what each of these words means and the differences between them. Now write the word Dneirf and ask the class to try to come up with a definition for this word.

2. Explain: Today we will learn not only about the differences between a friend, bully, and a new word, “Dneirf” but we will also learn about one other word: “Conflict.”

3. Write the word Conflict on the board.

4. Ask the students: Does anyone know what this word is or means?

Explain: It is a disagreement and problem between two or more people. A conflict sometimes leads them to a fight or argument. Even in best of friendships, Conflicts still happen and are a normal and natural part of everyone’s life.

5. Brainstorming: On board around the word Conflict, have students share with you types of conflict and write them down. (Pushing, hitting, shouting, not sharing, calling names). (Group words together by type as seen below)

Physical Verbal Social -hitting -Shouting -Exclusion -pushing CONFLICT -Rumors -Not Sharing -fighting 6. Question: Is conflict good or bad? (Neither. Conflicts just happen. They are part of life.) What could be good or bad? (The choices we make and how we handle it.)

7. Discuss: The Conflict Escalator Draw a picture of what looks like stairs on the board (see below)

Ask: What is this picture of? (Kids will say stairs but then follow by saying that these stairs move up

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and down). (This is an Escalator).

When conflict gets worse we say it __________. (Escalates) When conflict gets better we say it __________. (De-escalates)

Explain: Conflict is like a snowball. It starts out small but if the problem doesn’t stop or a solution is formed, it keeps rolling and rolling, getting bigger and bigger or escalating. (Show this by drawing a small circle on the bottom step and then a bigger circle moving up to the top.

-A lot of the time we don’t know we are riding the conflict escalator until it is too late or the problem escalates. It is important to recognize that you are in a conflict with someone as the first step.

Role Play: Pick a student in the classroom to have a “conflict with.” You can pick any problem or use the example of accidently bumping into them. Use the conflict escalator to discuss how you are on the first step. It can be stopped here by saying “I am sorry for bumping into you, it was an accident.” Or it can “escalate” when one person yells at the other. Keeping adding pieces such as yelling louder, name calling, pushing (showing moving up the escalator via drawing.) Explain that once you get to far up, you have the risk of falling off the escalator (meaning someone gets hurts or in serious trouble).

Teach: It is important to recognize you are in a conflict by saying: “How did we get on the conflict escalator?” or “I think we are on the conflict escalator, how are we going to get off?”

8. Explain: You will now get to hear a story about conflict

9. Read: Dneirf by Mike Resh

Discuss: Otto struggles with having positive interactions with his friends at school…

What conflict did Otto have? What made the conflict worse? When was he on an escalator? How did he turn himself around? How did he use the 5 friendship functions?

10. Role Play: Pick two students to come up front and pretend to have conflict with a football (similar to Otto’s conflict in the book). Have them show the class how they could have solve the problem.

11. Show and Discuss the Conflict Resolution Chart (see below).

ABCD Conflict Solving Model

A: Ask, “What’s the problem? (How did we get on the Conflict Escalator?)B: Brainstorm some solutions (How are we going to get off the Escalator?) Possible Solutions: -Talk it out: -Listen to each other

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-Share -Take Turns -Compromise (both give a little)

-Make a positive offering (one person gives a little gift or something to show they wants to solve conflict)

-Say I’m sorry -Get Help

C: Choose the best one (Thumbs Up, Thumbs Up) Explain: Explain Win-Win Solution or Thumbs Up Thumbs Down

Both people put thumps up or down to vote on the solution (Need both up to solve)

D: Do it!

12. Wrap-up: Goal of conflict resolution is not to eliminate conflict but learn from it and use it to power change. Without conflict, there is no growth or progress in our lives.

13. Compare & Contrast Worksheet: Have students complete this worksheet and discuss the differences between a dneirf and bully. Highlighting on the fact that bullies intend to do mean things over a long period of time whereas dneirfs are those friends that just sometimes act in mean ways due to having something going on in their life.

13. Post-test: Write the words Friend, Bully, and Dneirf on the board or display. Ask students to explain the differences between these three words. Ask the students to explain what a conflict is and how they can solve it.

14. Parent Letter Home and Bookmarks: Pass out to each student to take home.

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Solving Conflicts

A: Ask “What’s the problem? How did we get on the Conflict Escalator?

B: Brainstorm some solutions. How are we going to get off the Escalator?

C: Choose the best one. Thumbs Up, Thumbs Up

D: Do it!

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