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Build comfort and trust by Social Mastery (IN10SE)

Have you ever noticed how lovers talk to each other and how theyact around each other?

During college, I was watching a roommate of mine and hisgirlfriend interact one day and this occurred to me. They weresitting there on the couch cuddling, holding each other and talking"baby" talk to each other. He would even call her "baby" and youshould've seen how they acted when they thought no one was looking.

I was actually kind of embarrassed for him. He was this big machoguy and she was normally a strong willed confident woman butaround each other when they thought no one was !aying attention,they both became "baby" like they both regressed.

I'm sure you know eactly what I'm talking about. #ou may have even been there before.

$o what is regression and how does it !lay into $eduction?

%uite sim!ly, regression is a return to a !revious stage of !sychological develo!ment.

$ome !hiloso!hers would say that "love" itself is a regression of sorts, and that the desire for love is actually motivated by a

!arental bond that develo!ed during infancy and childhood. #ou canactually accelerate the seduction !rocess by "regressing" your target by using some of the following techni&ues and conce!ts.

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*omfort and trust are a !rere&uisite to regression. +emember rickson's stages of develo!ment in -sychology ? The first stageduring infancy is Trust vs. /istrust. Trust and comfort are thekeys that lead back to this stage.

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$o why does teasing work so well for regression? 1ell remember whenyou were a kid on the !layground and there was that bratty guy2girlthat 3ust annoyed you at times? Do you remember how you actedtoward that !erson?

1ell as adults, we take this kind of behavior as "Teasing" and if done in a fun way it adds not only $-4+5$ to the relationshi! but*hallenge as well6

4nother thing, we'd all love to feel like teenagers again. It wasthat time when we were out girl chasing or guy chasing and therewas no sense of res!onsibility. Do you remember making out in the

back of an em!ty movie theatre? 7r being at home with your boyfriend2girlfriend and making out on the couch ho!ing that your !arents wouldn't come home and "catch" you?

7f most !eo!le would never admit that it was during this time whenthey were discovering their seuality and when they were having"first e!eriences".

8ow, verbal teasing is one thing but don't forget about "!hysicalteasing"6

8ow use some common sense with this and know your boundaries butthings like sna!!ing a bra stra!, giving her a "ras!berry", or evena "nuggie" can drive someone cra9y6 ven doing things like !ointingto their stomach and saying "1hat's that?" and as they look, youdraw you finger u! so it brushes their nose6

4lthough they may say they hate it, most !eo!le actually love beingteased if it's done !layfully6

:( -lay "Thera!ist"

4lthough this a!!roach can be controversial, it actually can causea regression &uite effectively maybe even dangerously so.-sychoanalysts have called this regression effect "transference"

because as the !erson talks about their childhood and !astmemories, they transfer their !arental father figure "bond" totheir thera!ist.

;reud actually used this method in -sychothera!y and he ended u!with a number of his !atients obsessed and falling in love with him.

$o how would you use this? <et someone to talk about their childhood. Have her describe her first memories with you, what shewas like as a little child, if they had a safe !lace or a favorite

!lace that they would go to !lay.

4lso have them describe their first crush and first kiss. what it



was like and all the details about it.

=( +egression is a result of I8T+4*TI78

;or a woman, a regression can lead to a "father figure" dynamic.

and that's not always a good thing, !articularly if they had atroubled relationshi! with him... on the other hand, as a man youcan !rovide the needs that she may have had as a child but never received.

$ome women want this at an unconscious level actually and you'llrecogni9e these women by the demands that they make on you. Theyare looking for someone to take care of them emotionally,

!hysically, mentally. )ut it can be very draining unless this isthe dynamic that you know as well.

+egressing along with a woman can ha!!en as wellI don't need tosay much about this, although don't be like my college roommate.;or men, kee! some shred of your masculinity intact6

7ne day your woman may wake u! from her "trance" and think "1hat awuss6" )e tender and sweet but always offer a challenge and kee!your masculine energy.

;or women, men are attracted to your feminine energies. 4s a woman,you can be nurturing, caring and sweet and this contrasts wellwith his masculine energies and !rovides the s!ark of attraction.1hen you switch over to more masculine energies, be careful becausetoo much focused directiveness is seen as a masculine trait in our culture and this can either dull the attraction or make a man moresubmissive in order for him to balance the energies of therelationshi!6

/en be men, and women be women6 7ur differences are what make usattractive to each other and what makes s!arks fly between us6

>( /ore on regression

Here are more ways to regress your date

*uddling <ive her a "cute" nickname that she H4T$6 ;eeding someone @your hands to their mouth( Aetting them suck on things @fingers, candy...( -rotective touchB @your arm around them crowd.( -layful s!anking6 @careful with this one6( -layful touchB @light "roughhousing".(

These are 3ust some of the ways to feel like a naughty teenager again and you know that can be fun6 In fact, I talk about this



conce!t and so much more in my book <4/.

If you really want to take your game to the net level, then doyourself a favor and &uit wasting time and emotional energy withfrustrating dating situations and <T <4/6

1ishing you the )$T <ame,

)lake +ichards

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;or one It's only C.>, and you get daily &uotes and thoughtsdelivered to your deskto! every day6 These &uotes are from some of

the most highly skilled -ick E! 4rtists around, as well as from thebook <4/ and it's a great way to reinforce and install these intoyour mindset F+# day6

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