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WEDDING FOOD

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58 PLAN Beautiful backdrops, getting stepchildren involved with the wedding, donations in lieu of gifts, and grand venues.

66 ANTICIPATE Taking care of your personal dreams before the big day, reducing stress, and pampering parties.

78 CELEBRATE Adding modern touches to the wedding celebration and customized wedding foods.

82 RELAX Try a romantic destination close to home without breaking the bank.

86 LIVE Finding the right gift to celebrate your anniversary.

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72Happily EvEr BlEndEdHow an Indian Boy and an Indiana Girl planned their multicultural wedding. By Christine Kraly

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all the details, special moments and emotions that tell the story of your

wedding day so that you will be able to look back and share those

memories for years to come.” -Stephanie Wallace

[clockwise from top] Wedding of Amanda and nate Susdorf, valparaiso, Ind.; rebecka and

Jeff Shore, Chicago, Ill.; Wedding of Megan Sulok and John Bronsteen in Michigan City, Ind.

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“when the spirit of the day exposes itself to our canvas, its nature is truly poetic. we see every wedding as a chance to create a

masterpiece.”-Johnny Borter and tina Wagner

[clockwise from top] Megan and Justin Farrell, Chicago, Ill.; Anna and Matt Dyson, Grand Beach, Mich.;

Holly and Jack Chamberlin, Three oaks, Mich.

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You have shopped for dresses countless times for countless occasions....but nothing is quite as special as the shopping trip you take to discover your very own bridal gown. not only do you desire the

perfect dress...but the perfect experience. Creating unforgettable shopping

experiences for brides is what family-owned bridal boutique elegance wedding & evening wear is known for. opened in september 2000 by bridal expert Charlott sitarski and located in the heart of Hammond, indiana, elegance wedding & evening wear has long been known as one of the area’s premier bridal shops. Besides offering an unsurpassed variety of bridal designs from brands such as Maggie sottero, Casablanca, Mori lee, and enzoani, the ‘one stop shop’ also carries everything for the bride and her bridal party, including invitations, gifts and tux rentals.

“our goal is for brides to feel pampered the moment they walk through our doors,” explains Charlott. “we pride ourselves in the way we are able to create a real relationship with our brides and their families that continues long after they walk down the aisle. we are here to make sure their search for all of their wedding attire and accessories is a perfect one.”

and on the off chance you are unable to find the perfect bridal gown while you are there, elegance and their skilled staff of seamstresses are there to customize areas of their gown to make the final product the dress of your dreams. in fact, armed with a degree in fashion design, Charlott has been known to make the “impossible... possible” for a countless number of loyal clients. Her vast knowledge of fabrics, beading and any extra costs that might accrue helps to keep the bride fully informed. “i have seen firsthand how Charlott can change necklines and add jackets in a way that no one would know it wasn’t originally that way,” remarks elegance wedding & evening wear consultant kristen sturges. “giving brides those sorts of options is really priceless.”

elegance wedding & evening wear is located at 2820 Highway avenue in Highland, indiana. store hours are Monday, wednesday and Friday from 10am to 5pm, tuesday and thursday from 10am to 8pm and saturday from 10am to 2pm. For an appointment to make your wedding dreams come true, call them at 219. 923.0977.

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Andrew robert Photography“simply documenting a

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in bringing a level of quality to my wedding work. i’m a blue collar artist striving for magazine quality images by

treating each event like a commercial project.”

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[clockwise from top] Krista and Kyle Irwin, valparaiso, Ind.; Brittany and Andrew Kuehnert, Chesterton, Ind.; Michelle

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Y ou know you’ve made a terrific choice for your special event when arriving guests want to linger in the entryway. villa Cesare’s foyer has european elegance that tells your guests that this event is something

to be remembered. in fact, it’s not unusual to find guests sitting in the foyer after dinner, visiting with friends and enjoying the warm and wonderful atmosphere. From the plush, beautifully arranged seating to the italian paintings on the wall, the warmth, luxury and elegance of the newly repainted villa Cesare can be felt throughout the facility.

Planning is everything for your special occasion. well-established in its present location for 21 years, villa Cesare is famous for accommodating your tastes and needs. “villa Cesare knows how important it is to choose just the right menu,” says manager gino Baldin, “so our chef is happy to meet with you and custom-design the menu. we provide quality food, in abundance. and we’re proud of our service—we have a really top-notch waitstaff.”

Menu options include providing individual choices for every guest, and also family-style meals, all prepared with the same expertise. You’ll find traditional home-style dishes, authentic italian fare, and mouth-watering selections like the tender filet mignon and lobster tail. an amazing array of hot and cold hors d’oeuvres guarantees each guest will find a favorite—you may select from 22 choices in all.

truly important occasions belong here—your treasured memories of anniversary parties, graduation parties, bridal showers, weddings—any occasion when you want everything to be just right.

RoMa, Venezia and PaleRMo RooMS“villa Cesare’s larger rooms, the roma and venezia, are newly remodeled,” says Baldin. “they’re just beautiful—bright, spacious, beautifully coordinated.” the roma, venezia, and Palermo rooms will accommodate parties ranging from 200 to 800 guests. the setting of each room is inviting, with many windows featuring nicely appointed window treatments and beautiful lighting—so important for imparting a pleasing atmosphere. with the table presentation of linens, fine stemware and china, all placed to perfection, the combination of lovely

décor and tables creates an ambience your guests will remember long after the event. Plush carpeting adds to the elegance, too, and marble dance floors make dancing irresistible.

the smaller, more intimate room, the Palermo, will accommodate 50 to 110. this beautifully appointed room is perfect for showers, birthdays, anniversaries, funeral luncheons, rehearsal dinners, small weddings, christenings, graduations and family reunions.

villa Cesare offers the extras that make your occasion easier to plan. Your event includes a champagne toast for the main table and two bottles of wine per table during dinner. waitstaff will take care of cutting or wrapping the cake if you wish, and you may add your personal touch with chair covers. and now, the facility is 100 percent smoke-free.

Villa ceSaRe iS WelcoMingthe building is handicapped-accessible, with ramps leading from several areas of handicapped parking. the sizable parking lot is paved and very well lighted, and features islands planted with flowers, bushes and trees. the main entrance is enhanced by a canopy for protection from the weather and is complemented by a lovely fountain imported from italy, as well as stone benches in a garden-like setting. at the south entrance to the parking lot is a large computerized sign announcing your event as your guests arrive!

ouTdooR SPaceSat the back of our building before a huge pond is situated a large, tastefully built, beautiful gazebo for brides who prefer to have the marriage performed in an outdoor natural setting, available at an extra charge. villa Cesare staff have remained open to the

needs of brides in this area by updating the facility to accommodate the requests of local clientele for that memorable day.

cheF and hiS STaFFour chef, Jack lencioni, is capable and eager to create that “special” meal for you, whether it be a breakfast, luncheon, brunch or dinner. special food requests are honored. villa Cesare’s capable staff will do their utmost to guide you through the process of putting together that extraordinary event. they can offer assistance in finding DJs, bakeries, florists, hotel accommodations, and limos as well as other needed services to make that special day a memorable one. For your convenience visa and Mastercard are happily accepted.

“we don’t add on a gratuity—but you know, our clients always leave a nice gratuity, so i guess we’re doing something right,” says Baldin with a big smile.

“another way we know we’re pleasing our guests—making the occasion memorable? Bridal showers will come back for a baby shower,” Baldin says. “that says a lot—it makes us feel so great to know we made their special occasion so wonderful.”

Please do not hesitate to call us at 219.322.3011 or email us at [email protected] in order to fully explore all the options available to you.

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northwest indiana and southwest Michigan offer engaging landscapes

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T hese days, the backdrop of one’s wedding photos can tell your love story like never before.

“I recently shot an engagement session for a couple that isn’t from Indiana, but who met at valparaiso University and wanted to have their portraits shot there,” explains Stephanie Wallace of Stephanie Wallace Photography.

“We used recognizable landmarks from around the city and the university campus in their portraits. These portraits will help them share the story of how and where they met with future generations.”

And for many area couples, the vast and lush landscapes of the northwest Indiana and Southwest Michigan areas also offer an endless array of options. Some Indiana favorites of area photographers include Deep river County Park in Hobart and Centennial Park in Munster.

“These locations offer a wide variety of backgrounds all within a few hundred yards,” explains rick Bella of Bella Photography in valparaiso, Indiana. “This allows us to capture many different scenes by simply walking around the park. not many other places have such beautiful natural resources like lake Michigan and the beachfront that is available to us here in northwest Indiana.”

often, skylines and historic buildings not only offer a unique backdrop for wedding photography, but also a chance for the wedding couple to capture history on canvas. “It is important to highlight city landmarks for the long memory of the images,” Bella says. “Wedding photography will be around for almost longer than any other type of photography and in some cases, city landmarks will offer the memory of the day and highlight the location of the wedding. Who knows, in thirty to fifty years from now, some of those landmarks may even be gone, allowing the wedding photos to archive images for the couple and the couple’s family for generations to come.” —Tricia Despres

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tia torres dreamed of marrying at the Basilica of the Sacred heart. that’s where fiancé Mark Pienkos first asked her out. But on Basilica Monday—the first Monday in March, when the reservation lines opened—scores of blushing brides would call Basilica’s wedding coordinator at the university of notre dame. to book her nuptials, torres would need to rely on a little help from her friends.

“I thought people were exaggerating, but oh no, they weren’t,” torres (now Pienkos) says. “after four hours of calling, my cousin texted, ‘I got it. May 14. 9 am.’ It was crazy, getting up at 5 a.m. for my wedding.”

Beginning on Monday, March 5, Basilica weddings can be booked for 2013 by calling amy huber, the Basilica’s wedding coordinator, at 574.631.4288, from 8 a.m. eSt to 4:30 p.m. eSt.

“Be patient, and keep hitting redial until you get through,” huber says.

Basilica weddings are scheduled on Saturdays at 9 a.m., 11 a.m., 1 p.m. and 3 p.m., plus Fridays at 1 p.m. and 3 p.m. in the summer. June, July and august afternoons are in high demand.

to book their Basilica wedding, notre dame grads tim and erin Ponisciak generated a list of possible dates, and gave it to their friends.

“We probably had fifteen people calling for a Basilica date on our behalf—brothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, parents, bridesmaids,” says tim Ponisciak.

Saturday afternoons in the summer were full by the time erin’s aunt got through, so the couple celebrated their nuptials at 1 p.m. on Friday, June 26, 2009. their wedding cake resembled notre dame’s gold dome.

to marry at the Basilica, either the bride or groom must be Catholic, and be a current student, notre dame alum, or Sacred heart parish member. there is a $750 church fee. the ceremony is capped at 90 minutes, including a full Catholic mass if desired. there are restrictions on flowers. Candles and pew decorations are not permitted. Showering the new Mr. and Mrs. with rice, birdseed or bubbles is not allowed.

Maria Candelaria, a 2005 notre dame graduate, wants to marry at the Basilica because “a lot of my faith formation came from there.” Plus, she says, the South Bend destination appeals to friends who want to see the university and the Basilica’s majestic ceiling murals, stunning stained glass windows and 1876 gold-colored gothic altar.

When Candelaria booked her wedding date, she took a leap of faith. “he hadn’t officially asked me to marry him yet,” she says. three weeks later, the sparkler was on her finger. they’ll make it official on July 14, 2012. —Sarah Louise Klose

Those in the know offer a strategy for notre dame’s basilica Monday

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events for 35 years, has the experience and the dedicated staff to create and enhance your family or bridal celebration, whether it’s on or off the premises. the private dining rooms at glenwood oaks can accommodate any crowd from a festive table for 20 people to a major party with 250 guests. Candles and fresh flowers accent the crisp linens on each table. the table of honor is accented with silver candelabras and silk table skirting. valet parking is available at glenwood oaks and the staff is prepared to recommend services for invitations, special occasion cakes, music and photography when planning your wedding. every detail is important. and the catering menu at glenwood oaks is just as friendly and helpful. Brides and grooms can create their own packages from the menu, which offers multiple options including a wide variety of chicken, ham and beef, but also a range of pasta varieties and ethnic specialties like polish sausage, pepper steak, chicken alfredo, John’s special ribs and smoked and jerked chicken. John is John Jarosky, who works closely with his family and staff to make sure your event is as perfect as it is memorable. “You have my word that you will be treated to the best in professional service and provided the highest quality food found anywhere. very simply...You cannot make a better choice than glenwood oaks.”

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Two years ago, anderson married a man with a 9-year-old son. while it was a first marriage for both, they were sensitive to making sure the wedding was about family and not just the couple. she recommends including kids right from the get-go by trading the names of the bride and the groom for family names on the invitations. and, she says, include them

in any pre-wedding fun as well. “You have a great opportunity to bond with your future stepchildren,” anderson says.

Prior to the wedding, do your best to make peace with the other parents involved in the child’s life. “the best way to honor your children and stepchildren is by treating the other parents with respect. then they can really enjoy the wedding day,” she says. “if the grown-ups can make a step to show the children that this is okay, they have a better chance of accepting it. if you’re mature enough to invite that other parent to the ceremony, i

think that’s fabulous.”as for how to include children on the actual big day, you need

to consider how many children there are, their ages and the type of wedding you’re planning, says Jessica n. Pennington, owner and lead planner of stella event Design in st. Joseph, Michigan.

one easy way to get the bride’s children involved is to have them walk her down the aisle and give her away. or, if you’re having a bridal party, you can have the kids stand in.

For a blended family welcoming many kids from each side, it’s easy to tweak the traditional sand ceremony to include the whole lot, Pennington says. Just give each family member a different color sand (let them pick their own) and have each one take a turn adding theirs to the vase. at the end you’ll have a physical representation of your blended broods to keep and admire.

“i think most of all it is important to find ways to include the children,” Pennington says. “that seems to make a real difference in the tone of the entire day.” —Christy Bonstell

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Incorporating stepchildren into a wedding can take some thought. But, done with care, this day can be fun for them and meaningful for you, says Angie Anderson of Belle Behind the Ball Wedding and Event Planning in Mishawaka.

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For those who may have accumulated enough stuff, a registry can seem like an indulgence. but allie house, owner and coordinator of Weddings now in chicago, says you can visit the i do Foundation online and allow guests to donate to your favorite charity in lieu of a gift.

one couple set up donations directly through the humane Society northwest indiana in gary, where the couple had adopted their puppy. They encouraged their wedding guests to donate to the shelter instead of providing them with gifts.

“how many toasters can you use? but we sure can use supplies here,” says betty clayton, executive director. “you celebrate your wedding and then celebrate the fact that you’re a very generous person. i think that’d be the best feeling in the world.”

if you’re a couple just starting out, then you may not want to give up those gifts. Make a small impact by replacing guest favors with a donation to a cause of your choice. Then leave a letter on each table to make it personal. “i don’t think any guest comes to a wedding for the favors,” house says.

one of the easiest ways to get the best of both worlds is to pick a venue whose proceeds do good. For example, camp blodgett in West olive, Michigan, has a gorgeous facility with a private deck and beach, perfect for that lake Michigan wedding. The money from rentals goes to support the camp’s mission of providing poor, urban youth with a week of camping on the lake. “Without that income we could not offer the programs we do,” says Jim guilfoyle, executive director.

Wedding sites with charitable ties are also beautiful and unique, allowing your personality as a bride to shine a little brighter, says Judy benjamin of Weddings Plus events in St. Joseph, Michigan. She recommends the krasl art center and Sarett nature center.

“The brides see the value in it,” she says. “it’s an interesting place in that you’re giving back.” —Christy Bonstell

in Lieu of GiftsWhat if you could have the wedding of your dreams and make that money do double duty as charity? Well, you can. With a little forethought and creativity you can make the byproduct of your wedding that you, as a couple, make the world better.

blue dReSS baRn3893 territorial rdMillburg, Mich.bluedressbarn.com269.944.1751The Blue Dress Barn offers the tranquility of the countryside with a full-service reception and ceremony venue. The former dairy barn was purchased in 2000 and restored by its artist-designer owners. Located 15 minutes from St. Joseph and the Benton Harbor area, the venue seats 280 guests in a 4,600-square-foot space. Guests can overlook gardens and fields from the second story deck or dance beneath a vast open timber roof.

The Field MuSeuM1400 S Lake Shore drChicago, Ill.fieldmuseum.org312.665.7600Weddings at the Field Museum combine history and beautiful spaces. Guests can explore exhibitions and dine among elephants in the museum’s multiple reception locations. Stanley Field Hall, the premium event site, features two levels of reception and dining space as well as access to “Sue,” the famous T. rex. The architecturally elegant East Atrium Pavilion features a sky-lit atrium. Revenue from all special events is used to continue the work of the Field Museum.

SouTh bend counTRy club25800 Country Club drSouth Bend, Ind.574.282.2527southbendcc.comSouth Bend Country Club offers

elegant wedding backdrops for couples dreaming of a country club wedding. Located on rolling hills and adjacent to a chain of lakes, the venue offers sites inside the clubhouse and on its private golf course. Receptions for up to 200 guests can take place in its dining room, or quaint champagne receptions can be hosted on its patio. Menus can be customized to the bride and groom’s specifications.

MeyeR’S caSTle1370 Joliet Stdyer, Ind.219.865.8452meyerscastle.comThe 10 acres of land that make up Meyer’s Castle include a swan pond, garden with waterfall, terraced archways and trees. Peacocks and emus walk amongst guests in this fairytale setting. Wedding ceremonies can take place on the grounds, and there are two banquet canopies for receptions. All services, ranging from catering to florists to bakery and DJ, are available.

caSa del RoMa and old ToWn banqueT cenTeR712 Calumet aveValparaiso, Ind.219.465.0478casadelroma.comThe atmosphere at Casa del Roma is patterned after an Italian lifestyle, and all food is home-cooked in the tradition of an Italian family. This full-service facility serves up to 700 people in its five banquet rooms. An on-site chapel in the Old Town Banquet Center is available for small wedding ceremonies.

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L arger stores, larger selection and more service make Dunhill Formal wear a part of a wonderful wedding.

“on your wedding day, you want things to go

right,” says John zandstra, the second-generation owner of Dunhill started by his father, John, and cousin, Bill zandstra, in 1963.

“our mantra is ‘saving men from themselves,’” he says. “we want you to look as great as it is in our power to help you.”

that philosophy stems from years of experience knowing that men are not as detail oriented as women, especially when it comes to the wedding day.

Putting that philosophy into practice involves having thousands of items in stock, featuring nine dressing rooms in the stores and paying attention to the smallest detail when it comes to choices, the fit and even how the tux is put back on the hanger, zandstra says.

“we have 10,000 tuxedos, 5,000 pairs of pants, 4,000

shirts,” he says. “if there’s an emergency on any Friday or saturday, we can get the items to the church.”

the nine dressing rooms encourage customers to try everything on prior to the event, whether it’s a wedding or a prom. “we can fix problems then. we want to know about problems immediately,” zandstra says.

that includes shoes that are being rented. with a huge shoe

selection, there’s no reason a pair of shoes should be uncomfortable, he says.

those dressing rooms also don’t have mirrors

in them, for a reason.

“You’re not trying on the outfit for yourself. You’re trying it on for me,” he says. “i tell customers that we have plenty of mirrors in the store. Come out here. that

way i can see if the pants are too long or the shirt sleeves are too short. we can fix that

right then.”the nine dressing

rooms also keep

customers happy during “pick-up days” prior to the big event.

“if you go into a store and there are long lines to get into the dressing rooms, you might just decide never mind and go somewhere else,” he says.

another “rule” is “don’t hang the clothes back up. Just put them on the hook,” zandstra says.

“there are two reasons for that. we can make last checks of everything, and we will hang up the clothes properly,” he says. “we’re saving that guy from himself. if something’s wrinkled, the bride will notice. the guy won’t say, ‘i hung it up wrong.’ He’ll say, ‘the guy in the tux shop gave it to me that way.’ we care because it’s a family store. we now have the third generation working here.”

service is also a natural part of the way Dunhill does business, zandstra says.

“we run our business according to Christian principles. i’m not afraid to say that. we treat people according to the golden rule. Do to the other guy what we want done to us.”

every groom receives a “blaze orange” emergency card when he is measured for his formal wear and instructed to keep it handy.

“it has two rules on it: ‘Don’t tell the bride’ if there’s a problem and two, our phone numbers are on the cards. we’ll take care of the problem,” he says. “and that’s not just for the groom. it’s for every man in the wedding party.”

that attention to detail is exactly the same for high school students renting formal wear for proms.

“we hire high school students as sales people because they’re working with high school kids,” zandstra said. “we treat all our customers with respect.”

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C hoosing the perfect diamond is an individual experience, and albert’s Diamond Jewelers creates the perfect environment for the happy couple.

“the ‘perfect diamond’ is the perfect diamond for you,” says Josh Halpern, graduate gemologist and owner of albert’s Diamond Jewelers.

a man may shop for a diamond engagement ring for his soon-to-be-fiancée or as an anniversary gift for his wife. or the couple may choose to select a diamond together.

what is important is what the guest wants.

“that’s why we have a consultation when we first meet the guest,” Josh says.

the kinds of questions the diamond specialists at albert’s will ask the guest depend on a number of factors, he says.

“nine out of ten times, the man already knows she will say ‘yes,’” Josh says.

“if the man is coming in alone, we will ask about what her likes and preferences are. For example, with the shape of the diamond, does she like round, Princess or cushion cut?”

often the man has a good idea of his loved one’s preferences because “she may have hinted what she’d like, or left magazines or an albert’s flyer for the man to see,” he says. Perhaps they have looked at diamonds already.

By asking specific questions, the expert albert’s staff knows what to show the guest. in addition, the staff can use their expertise to make specific recommendations.

generally, a man wants to buy the best diamond for his fiancée or wife he can afford while a woman often wants the biggest diamond he can afford, Josh says.

the four “Cs” in selecting a diamond are color, clarity, cut and carat.

How well the diamond is cut refers to how the gem maximizes light return. “the better a diamond is cut, the more light is reflected,” he says.

according to Josh, gemologists refer to two qualities of light reflection — dispersion and scintillation from the diamond. Dispersion is light broken up into the spectrum of colors while scintillation is flashes of white light coming from the

diamond. there should be a perfect balance between the two.

Clarity grade indicates the size, type, location and amount of naturally occurring characteristics of the diamond.

“when we talk about ‘color’ we are referring to the lack of color. Most of the diamonds

we offer are colorless or near

colorless,” Josh says.Carat is the weight of the

diamond. one carat is divided into 100 parts called “points.”

“in the last 15 to 20 years, the diamond industry has changed. two- to five-carat diamonds are common today. we specialize in diamonds. we have a selection of diamonds ranging from small to very large diamonds. there are thousands of diamonds to choose from at albert’s,” Josh says. “the guest can decide if he or she wants bigger or better. we truly have something for everyone.” For example, one

spectacular albert’s diamond is 47 carats and is showcased mounted in a fabulous ring setting.

Price, of course, is always important, especially in today’s economy, and albert’s carries diamonds in all different price ranges.

“Because of our longevity in the diamond business and the amount of diamonds we purchase, our diamond buyers have the first choice when diamonds are offered.”

Diamonds are manufactured every five weeks. what Josh buys are “the best. the most beautiful diamonds are here. what is offered on the internet is what expert diamond buyers won’t consider,” he says.

“we are competitively priced and when you buy at a local, family-owned store, the money stays in the local economy. at albert’s you have the best price backed by unbelievable service seven days a week.”

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Charlotte allen of Michigan City plans to wed in september, but has some other plans in the meantime. “Before getting married i wanted to graduate college with my bachelor’s degree in english literature and determine my military career,” she says. “it was important to me, because it was the foundation to my future both as a successful adult and as a partner to my future husband. i will have completed both of my goals before we get married.”

she says her fiancé, Daniel krause, was supportive of her goals and helped at every step. they became engaged in May 2011 and allen continues to work on her degree. their formal engagement party will take place during her commissioning as a 2nd lieutenant in the u.s. army and her college graduation.

“i would advise brides to set themselves up for success in the future both individually and as a partner to their husbands by completing their lifelong goals. after completing your dreams you are motivated and dedicated to starting a dream with your husband. otherwise, you punish people you love with regret for not completing your dreams.”

raquel Perez of Highland also had educational goals she needed to achieve before tying the knot with Juan torres on november 11, 2011.

she wanted to complete her bachelor’s degree in organizational communication with a double minor in hospitality and human resources. she did just that in May 2011 at Purdue university Calumet. “i thought it was something to have for myself before i moved into a fully committed relationship with someone else,” she says.

Her fiancé, Juan torres of Highland, supported her along the way and worked hard so she could focus on school, she says. torres worked full-time and also went to Purdue Calumet full-time while Perez worked part-time and studied full-time.

the groom’s education also provided inspiration for his pre-wedding bucket list. torres, who is working toward a degree in international studies focusing on spanish translation, says his goal was to study abroad. “it’s actually part of my degree in my major, so i wanted to get that out of the way before the wedding,” he says. in June 2010, he studied for a month in spain. “i just felt like it was a way of doing something big for myself.”

torres says grooms should definitely take one last adventure. in his case, he says it strengthened his relationship because he and his fiancée had to learn to deal with a long distance relationship, living in totally different time zones.

their dedication to their goals has paid off. after Perez graduated, she began her first full-time career as special events manager at the south shore Convention and visitors authority.

she says brides and grooms should definitely do something for themselves and focus on goals. “Be situated on your own,” she says,

before taking the next big step. —Jennifer Pallay

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Happy doesn’t always equal stress-free when it comes to events such as weddings.

“It’s a misconception that happy events aren’t stressful,” says Diann Binns, MSW, lCSW. “It surprises people sometimes. Any major change in life, anything involving that much time and effort, is stressful.”

Binns, who is in private practice in valparaiso, says the stress can arise from conflicting wedding concepts and financial issues, as more couples are shouldering the burden of expenses. “Couples may not only deal with different cultures and family traditions, but within the couple, one might want a romantic getaway and the other a big elaborate family event—this creates stress trying to blend those two,” Binns says.

Jamie Monday, MA, lPC, cites expectations as another avenue to stress. She is a clinic therapist at Franciscan Alliance’s Employee Assistance Program. “We don’t always communicate what our expectations are, and make assumptions that others know what we want,” Monday says. “Couples need to sit down together and get on the same page.”

Feuding family members and existing drama can take stress

to an even higher level. Binns says couples need to figure out how best to handle divided families—from holding separate parties to establishing clear boundaries between the fighting members—in order to preserve their special day.

“It has to be a deep discussion that they have when they start talking about getting married: these people don’t get along and how to incorporate that,” Binns says. “They need to protect what the day is supposed to mean: the starting of a life together.”

Couples need to accept that these tensions exist, Monday adds. “Just because this is a special, wonderful day, it’s not going to perform miracles,” Monday says. “Couples need to learn to detach from their families in a healthy way. The goal is a new family unit.”

Binns and Monday both recommend premarital counseling, especially if tensions are rising. “Dealing with the wedding shows you how you are going to be under stress together and how you work with family problems,” Binns says.

Among any chaos, couples need to stay connected and spend time together. “You need some downtime. If the wedding starts to overtake your whole life—that’s not balance,” Monday says. “If you neglect other areas of your life, including the relationship, that is not healthy.” —Lesly Bailey

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“We are in an old house on a country road and the bridal party gets the whole spa entirely to themselves,” ott says.

She sees the customized gatherings as a way for her guests to connect leading up to the wedding. “it’s a really good bonding session,” she says. “Weddings are very stressful. you can take a possible disaster to absolute relaxation. you cannot have drama when you have massages.”

Spa consultant Peaches Mccahill says Spa blu at the blue chip in Michigan city has packages available to help with planning and a private transformation suite. on-site venues, such as the casino and entertainment spots, blend partying and pampering.

“We sit down with the brides because we can customize and offer food-service tailored to what they want,” Mccahill says. “For anyone who wants the traditional bachelorette party, you can come to the spa, get ready and go out to it’s Vegas baby! and you look and feel good. We have many venues to create the total experience.”

While the cinnamon Tree Spa and Salon at 505 Silhavy Road in Valparaiso has a party package, owner nikki Roe says guests can create their own event. She closes the doors for the parties and offers space for guests to bring in their own food and drinks.

“each person within the party can pick what she wants to do. i want to offer them personalized service to give them the experience they are looking for,” Roe says.

zen Wellness owner Jackie Primos can bring the spa directly to guests. She offers customized packages at an outside location as well as on-site parties at the spa located at 425 Joliet Street, Suite 212, in dyer. The staff works with the camron nico Salon to go beyond spa services to include hair and makeup offerings.

Primos says, “Spa parties are a great way to prepare for the big day and treat your bridal party.” —Lesly Bailey

When the wedding bells begin to toll too loudly, a spa event can be the right mix of relaxation, fun and friendship. For a bachelorette party, bridal get-together or on the big day, area spas offer a range of services for a special experience.

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newly engaged and don’t know where to start? we’ve listed some of the area’s best in the categories of apparel, beauty, receptions, photography and more.

highlight, circle and start shopping!

eatcaTeRing...by deSignSouth Bend, Ind. 574.631.7859. food.nd.edu. this custom catering company is the official caterer for notre Dame university weddings. they can cater everything from a formal dinner to midmorning brunch.

ciao bella1514 US 41, Scherervi l le, Ind. 219.322.6800. ciaobellaonline.com. the cuisines of three different regions of italy are featured at Ciao Bella, a ristorante, pizzeria and wine bar. the extensive wine list focuses on european and Californian wines. Delivery and take-out available.

gino’S STeak houSe1259 W Jo l iet St , Dyer, Ind. 219.879.0760. 600 E 81st Ave, Merril lvi l le, Ind. 219.769.4466. ginossteakhouse.com. the chefs at gino’s use only the freshest ingredients in their homestyle cuisine. a premium selection of wine, beer and cocktails is available at the full-service bar, and there is a special children’s menu so the entire family can enjoy the dining experience.

gReaT lakeS caTeRing701 Washington St, Michigan City, Ind. 219.898.1501. greatlakescatering.com. with a combined 75 years of experience, father and son Matt and ed kis are some of the area’s leading caterers. services include catered food and beverages, hall rental assistance, flowers, DJs, bands, tents, tables and more.

pampercenTeR FoR oTolaRyngology9120 Columbia Ave, Ste A, Munster, Ind. 219.836.4820. Dr. Bethany a. Cataldi

specializes in general otolaryngology, nasal/sinus surgery, allergy and facial plastics and cosmetics. Dr. Cataldi offers Botox, otoplasty, liposuction, face-lifts and blepharoplasty through the most advanced, precise and cutting-edge procedures.

partyaValon ManoR3550 E US 30 Hwy, Merrillville, Ind. 219.945.0888; theavalonmanor.com along with exceptional service, the avalon Manor boasts elegant interior décor, exclusive bridal suites and a stunning staircase that leads into a beautiful ballroom.

blue chiP caSino777 Blue Chip Dr, Michigan City, Ind. 219.879.7711; bluechipcasino.com. Blue Chip’s stardust event Center offers 20,000 square feet of space, to accommodate a wedding of any size. For smaller affairs, two additional ballrooms are available. Pre-wedding pampering is offered at spa Blu, and guests can stay at the luxurious high-rise hotel.

The bouleVaRd inn and biSTRo521 Lake Blvd, St. Joseph, Mich. 269.983.6600. theboulevardinn.com. st. Joseph’s famous hotel is available for small, intimate wedding receptions, as well as for bridal showers, rehearsal dinners, and morning-after brunch. the inn can also be a place for guests to stay, no matter where the wedding takes place.

caSa del RoMa712 Calumet Ave, Valparaiso, Ind. 219.465.0478. casadelroma.com. this full-service banquet facility offers a wedding chapel, catering services for up to 700 people, and a quaint italian

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The university of notre Dame offers a beautiful, sophisticated setting perfectly suited to celebrate your wedding at any time of year. our historic campus boasts unique reception spaces,

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ambience. there are five banquet rooms from which to choose, to accommodate any size and style of wedding.

caSTle FaRMS5052 M-66 North, Char levoix, Mich. 231.237.0884. castlefarms.com. this historic venue, known for its unique charm, elegant décor and outstanding customer service, boasts spectacular architecture, stunning outdoor courtyards, lush gardens and more. Couples can choose from six beautiful rooms, all with views of the gardens and courtyards. Capacity: up to 500.

The cenTeR FoR ViSual and PeRFoRMing aRTS1040 Ridge Rd, Munster, Ind. 219.836.1950. cvpa.org. up to 450 guests can share in your joy at the Center for visual and Performing arts, which features a variety of table options, glass and crystal table settings, and elegant extra touches. the center offers visually stunning elements, including crystal chandeliers, floor-to-ceiling windows and an outdoor brick terrace.

FieSTa Palace2005 Broadway, Eas t Ch icago, Ind . 219.743.7333. 6220 Broadway, Merrillville, Ind. 219.887.3377. fiestapalacebanquethall.com. this remodeled banquet hall can serve from 25 to 400 people. there are four catering packages available — including a family style meal — and couples have a choice between american and Mexican cuisine.

glenWood oakS106 N Main St, Glenwood, Ill. 708.758.4400. glenwoodoaks.com. the private dining rooms at glenwood oaks can accommodate 20 to 250 guests. valet parking, complimentary wedding cake and free limousine services are available.

The heRiTage MuSeuM and culTuRal cenTeR601 Main St, St. Joseph, Mich. 269.983.1191. theheritagemcc.org. this historical venue—which features 20-foot ceilings with white pillars, hardwood floors and crystal chandeliers—is ideal for formal weddings. guests can also roam the museum space during cocktail hour.

lubeznik cenTeR FoR The aRTS101 W 2nd St, Michigan City, Ind. 219.874.4900. lubeznikcenter.org. this art center is a sophisticated venue that can transform a wedding into its own work of art. located on Michigan City’s lakefront, the building features impressive architecture both inside and out. with fine art, photography and sculpture as a backdrop, its three galleries, including the library with its lake view, provide a variety of spaces. Capacity of main gallery: 150 banquet, 250 cocktail.

SeRbian Social cenTeR18550 Stony Is land Ave, Lansing, I l l . 708.895.8998. serbiansocialcenter.com. the well-trained servers at the serbian social Center guarantee outstanding service for the bridal party and guests. the ballrooms can comfortably accommodate up to 700 guests underneath the magnificence of the brilliant crystal chandeliers.

Villa ceSaRe900 Eagle Ridge Dr, Scherervil le, Ind. 219.322.3011. villacesare.com. villa Cesare can accommodate both large and small parties with its bright, spacious and beautifully coordinated

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larger rooms—the roman and venezia—and the more intimate Palermo, which seats 50 to 110 guests. Capacity: up to 800.

viewdgS PhoTogRaPhyKouts, Ind. 219.508.8319. this northwest indiana photography company offers 10 years of portrait and wedding experience, specializing in outstanding quality without the outrageous prices.

wearalbeRT’S diaMond JeWeleRS711 Main St, Schererville, Ind. 219.322.2700. albertsjewelers.com. albert’s Diamond Jewelers is a family-owned firm that specializes in loose diamonds, bridal jewelry and bridal gifts. the store features names such as scott kay, Bez ambar and tacori.

bRideS a la Mode1229 E University Dr, Granger, Ind. 574.855.3494. bridesalamode.com. whether searching for a dream wedding gown, bridesmaid or flower girl dress, or formalwear, Brides a la Mode offers a wide selection of styles and price ranges.

dunhill TuxedoSMultiple locations in Northwest Indiana and Southwest Michigan. 800.445.1889. dunhilltuxedos.com. names such as ralph lauren, Claiborne and Perry ellis fill the six different locations of Dunhill tuxedos, with special wedding deals that include free groom tuxedos and invitations.

elegance Wedding and eVening WeaR2820 H ighway Ave , H igh land , Ind . 219.923.0977. elegancewedding.net. with a dedication to its customers and commitment to excellence, elegance wedding & evening wear is a one-stop shop for all bridal needs, including gowns, jewelry and invitations.

engSTRoM JeWeleRS3 Lincolnway, Valparaiso, Ind. 219.464.4040. with locations in valparaiso and laPorte, engstrom Jewelers offers beautiful engagement and wedding rings. the store also offers a wide variety of items to purchase for members of the wedding party.

l.R. Men’S cloThieR & TuxedoS205 Lincolnway, LaPorte, Ind. 219.324.5072. lrclothingco.com. High-quality menswear and tuxedos are the highlight at this shop, which is one of the only men’s clothing shops in downtown laPorte. tuxedos come from brands like ralph lauren, Perry ellis and ecko, while menswear designers include austin reed and tallia.

MaRTin bindeR JeWeleR23 Lincolnway, Valparaiso, Ind. 219.462.5931. martinbinders.com. Martin Binder Jeweler travels the world to bring the best values in diamonds, jewelry and timepieces, with honesty and integrity—since 1940.

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The first thing I mourned was my shoes. I scoured stores and websites, and discovered satin, midnight blue, 4-inch wonders.

My lace dress tickled its little jewels just so. Was I really giving these up? Was the love of my life worth standing through my ceremony, inches

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I learned that when trying to blend and preserve two different cultures, compromise is king. (or, lord—we’ll come back to that.)

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I was raised in an irish-catholic family in northwest indiana. My husband, ram, comes from a texas-based indian family. For our september 2011 wedding, we chose to have a ceremony blending hindu and non-denominational elements. Where to hold the ceremony and just what it would entail weren’t easy decisions.

Wherever we could, we tried to highlight our backgrounds. some choices were easy:

there’d be indian and “American” (as it was referred to) food; indian sweets and shamrock cookies. My bridesmaids wore bangles and i wore earrings by an indian designer. the groomsmen wore ceremonial indian suits and later changed into tuxedos. our rehearsal dinner was the mehndi, a party during which an indian bride is painted with henna designs.

When it came to the ceremony, choices carried more

weight and, thus, greater need for compromise. how would we deal with “god”? could we share a kiss? Wait...no shoes?

We asked my dear family friend to officiate the non-denominational vows. ram and i met with a priest, or swami, from Merrillville’s indian American cultural center to plot the hindu half. he was kind and funny, and helped me understand the meaning behind each step. including those i would have to make barefoot.

Worship in a hindu temple requires removing your shoes. our gazebo serving as a temple, those blue wonders would sit lonely for a while. What i found scarier was repeatedly walking around a small fire, meant to symbolize life. (i bought my gown at an illinois bridal shop that burned to the ground months earlier. Who was being paranoid?)

As we customized our ceremony, we were excited for the bharat, during which a groom typically rides a horse to the bride’s house, followed by his family in a festive, dancing caravan. in our version, ram’s side danced up a hill to the gazebo to greet my family. i loved that our families were joined, even before we were.

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he’s my what?there we stood, under our gold linen-draped gazebo. As we neared the end of the ceremony’s hindu portion, i began basking in the uniqueness of our wedding.

then, our priest handed us a piece of paper that neither of us saw coming. We knew we would be saying traditional vows, but neither of us knew exactly what they would be.

the first line seemed innocuous; something about loving and honoring. then in crept words that make me sweat: “obey,” “serve,” “lord.”

Wait a second . . . was i saying . . . he was my lord?Panic. sure, ram was calling me his “beloved,” but to

be “beloved” is not to be “subservient.” i glanced at our families nearby.

salvation. his aunts and female cousins were quietly laughing. they seemed to be assuring, “We know this is killing you. go ahead, laugh.”

so, i did. it was as if i was let in on a joke everyone else knew: accepting and blending cultures doesn’t have to be so scary, or so serious.

countless other couples had uttered these important words, and they had loved their spouses in the same, equal way as i loved mine. it was about the commitment, not necessarily the word choice.

i slipped back into my heels and stood facing ram.“i do.” smooch.

to have and to holdi’ve thought a lot about those “surprise” vows. there was something perfect about how they reflect on our coupledom. our strength as a pair comes in part from appreciating our differences, understanding them when possible, and finding laughter in all of it.

We took the meanings in both vows seriously, even those that challenged our progressive minds and senses of humor. More than anything, we are proud we celebrated our cultures and introduced our loved ones to new traditions.

At the very least, one everyday task has since changed: i now sign cards from “lord and lady luthra.”

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FAvoRIng sWEEt FAvoRsKatie Kucharski, sales representative for Avalon Manor in Merrillville (avalonmanor.com), has noticed new favorites when it comes to favors. Years ago, personalized

CDs and disposable cameras filled the tables, but now she sees more

sweet treats. “Half of the brides are doing candy tables, so that’s really popular,” she says. Personalized candy bars and favor boxes with candies are also appearing at place

settings.Another thing guests

might go home with: a late-night snack. “We’ve done White

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might choose to serve finger sandwiches. “It’s a little

different. We’ll put the White Castles on the silver platter in novelty boxes. It’s just a cute, fun idea.”

CAkE EFFECtThe traditional tiered wedding cake has been a standard for decades, but in recent years, brides and grooms have dared to do away with this trend.

Kim Eldridge, owner and designer of Kim Eldridge Special Events Inc. in Chesterton (219.926.1332), has been in the wedding business since 1996 and says cupcakes are booming. “I’ve had a lot of events in the past two years where they’ve gone with cupcakes. It’s been really different and cool,” she says. The bite-sized desserts are extravagantly decorated and can also be more economical, usually costing less than a wedding cake, she says. Couples can also have a small single layer cake for cutting, but serve cupcakes to guests.

other new desserts also break the cake tradition. Cheesecakes and sweets tables on exquisite displays have also hit the reception scene. “Even a couple years ago, you had to have the wedding cake, and now it’s a little different,” Eldridge says.

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ADDIng soME sPARklEWalking out of church amid handfuls of rice was a staple for past generations, but today couples have found new ways to start their day as husband and wife.

Eldridge says a new popular option is walking out to guests holding giant sparklers. Even during daylight, the light and movement from the sparklers makes for some beautiful and cool photos, she says.

lovE BEyonD sAtuRDAyWeddings on a day other than a Saturday are not as taboo as in the past, Eldridge says, noting Fridays and Sundays are growing in popularity. “Guests are more accepting of it now,” she says, and brides are definitely saving money, because halls have fewer events on those days and charge less.

ClosE CAPtuREBefore the digital camera age, many weddings featured disposable cameras that allowed guests to capture memories of the day. Today, photo memories are still important but have taken on new form. Photo booths are quickly gaining popularity, says Paul Segal, entertainment coordinator for 219 Productions (219.545.4747). His company added a photo booth option in the fall because of customer demand. “Photo booths allow photos of your guests to be taken when they want and how they want,” he says. “If the guests want a family photo, a funny photo, a couples photo or more, they now have those options.” The photos can then be used for a memory booklet or party favors and are great

keepsakes that last after the special day, he says.

ChAngIng thE RolEsWalking a bride down the aisle isn’t just for dads anymore, Eldridge says. lately, it’s the mom and dad walking beside their daughter on her big day. “Before, everyone had traditional roles, and now brides and grooms are recognizing that moms usually have a big input into the wedding. They’re recognizing that and saying, ‘Hey, mom should walk me down the aisle, too.’ You don’t just have to have those traditional roles.” —Jennifer Pallay

everyone wants to make their wedding truly unique. one way to make your special day memorable is to offer custom foods during your reception or pass them out as favors.

Wedding planner Rachel Ramos, of eVenTS by September’s bride in holland, Michigan, has seen an increase in custom foods and sees it as a great way to mirror your personal style and creativity. “because custom food is one more aspect of a very cohesive event, choosing what you will be serving and how it will be presented will also make other decisions easier,” she says.

custom culinary treats can come in many forms, such as nana’s 1940s recipe passed down through generations, or individual cakes that match your wedding’s theme and colors. The sky’s the limit. here are a couple of examples:

Much like the chocolate truffles we all know and love, a cake truffle consists of fully baked cake rolled into small balls, dipped in chocolate and then decorated. connie Westerhausen of connie’s cake Truffles in Valparaiso, indiana, hand makes these delectable sweets in every flavor, from butterfinger to red velvet and everything in between. Westerhausen suggests offering cake truffles as an alternative to the traditional wedding cake as small cakes to be used as favors.

danielle kirin, of d’s Sweet berries, gives chicagoland brides the opportunity to have desserts created especially for them. “anything custom is always great, because it gives the customer the opportunity to create their own special desserts,” she says. “it makes their day even more special, because the desserts were created just for them. They get to pick the theme, the taste, as well as any designs.”

While her menu offers many delicious options, kirin’s standout wedding treat has to be her undeniably cute bride and groom berries. These adorable strawberries come dressed in tuxedos and gowns made from dark, milk or white chocolate and can be customized in a plethora of colors. also available are custom flavors ranging from boston crème pie to brownie.

as a wedding planner, Rachel Ramos understands couples’ “deepened excitement for personalizing their wedding day.” in addition to choosing colors, flowers and table settings, offering a unique culinary experience is just one more way to assure that your special day will be a meaningful and intimate event that your friends and family will never forget. —Sharon Biggs Waller

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Bed and BreakfastsIf you’re looking to spend your honeymoon in a quaint bed and breakfast rather than a stark, boring hotel room, you’ll find many options. Here are a few:

the inn aT abeRdeen in valparaiso is full of inviting victorian touches in this farmhouse-turned-bed and breakfast that will make your time there a memorable one. innataberdeen.com

Chesterton’s gRay gooSe inn is off the beaten path with lovely pond views in a historic home with suites made just for honeymooners. a spa just around the corner offers relaxing massages for couples. graygooseinn.com

oozing with the charm of a bygone era, the Schenck ManSion in vevay, indiana, is a 35-room bed and breakfast dating back to 1874. some rooms have fireplaces available to cozy up in front of and a long wraparound porch is an inviting spot to enjoy a glass of wine and chat. schenckmansion.com

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To truly get away from the hustle and bustle and enjoy some closeness without distractions, plan to visit northern Indiana’s Amish communities of Shipshewana and nearby nappanee to enjoy the customs of a different time, see a show, enjoy Amish meals and appreciate a simpler way of life.

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Finding the right gift to celebrate the anniversaryIn 1922, Emily Post penned the first list for anniversary gift giving. In 1937, the American national retail Jeweler’s Association modified it and created a modern list, which has since been altered a bit.

recognizing the anniversary of the wedding day is something that varies by couple. Although the traditional and modern lists give some guidelines and suggestions for appropriate gift selections, many couples choose to celebrate in a way that has meaning to them.

Sometimes it is an experience, rather than a gift that is chosen to acknowledge the anniversary. JoAnn Kijewski of lansing married her husband 52 years ago and says they prefer to spend time together with family and have fun rather than purchase items. For several years, an anniversary weekend was spent camping in Michigan.

A repeat honeymoon or bucket list of vacations to check off each year is a great way to celebrate while creating lasting memories.

At the Wayside Chapel in Palos Park, Illinois, a popular anniversary dinner/vow renewal takes place one Sunday evening a month. Many of the couples who attend this group event were married at the chapel, but it is not required. A dinner precedes a vow renewal service in the chapel. The cost is $60 per couple and advance reservations are required by calling laura at 708.361.3650.

Perhaps the first thing to come to mind to celebrate an anniversary is jewelry. At jewelry.com, you’ll find which anniversary metals or stones are recommended for each year (first is gold, second is garnet, third is pearl, etc.).

A bracelet that can have charms added each year or a piece that allows for added stones is a popular choice, according to Mary Colville, chief marketing officer for Albert’s Jewelers. “You can start building a Pandora bracelet and do something personal to that individual and add a bead for Mother’s Day or Christmas,” she says. “It’s the modern charm bracelet.”

She also recommends a diamond eternity band or three-stone ring with stones to represent the past, present and future.

There is also a list of anniversary flowers that coordinate with each year. The list recommends carnations the first year, daisies on the fifth, daffodils on the tenth, and so on. Find a full list at flowershopdeals.com.

If you choose to honor tradition and follow the gift lists, there are ways to personalize items to suit your spouse.

The traditional first-year gift would be paper. It could be something as simple as a classic book or framed copy of your wedding invitation, as heartfelt as a hand-written poem, or as creative as a photo journal of your first year together. Shutterfly.com and Blurb.com offer small purse-sized flip books up to hardcover, professional-grade bound books.

on the modern side, the first-year gift would be clocks. It could range from a wristwatch to a desk, wall or even grandfather clock, and allows the opportunity to engrave a special message to your sweetheart.

Christmas ornaments that reflect each year’s theme are also thoughtful gifts that can be enjoyed for years to come.


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