sexual desire checklist
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Sexual Desire Checklist I created this checklist in an attempt to find similar desires with my partner, and realized more people
may need a tool that opens up the mind and allows you to ask questions you may not normally ask. This
checklist is also something you can take on your own to figure out some of the things you might desire
by looking closely at each item and really thinking about how they make you feel.
This checklist will cover everything from your missionary style love making to the intense world of BD !.
"hile I have done my best to cover most everything I can think of, there are always new things coming
up the line in the wonderful world of se#. o if you have a fetish, a kink, or something as simple as a
position or place that I may have missed, please leave a comment so I can update the checklist.
The checklist is going to start at the most basic and move its way to the more intense in a series of
sections. $ou may want to do this with your partner over a few different nights, crossing into the more
difficult questions after you see how you do with the less . . . shall we say . . . taboo questions.
This e#ercise did wonders for me and my partner, but please, if you do this, do it with an open mind%
There is nothing worse than undermining your partner &s fantasies or desires. There is not right or wrong
when it comes to se#. "hile some things may be undesirable to you, to someone else it may be the thing
they love the most about a se#ual encounter. o try to be understanding.
Try not to shout out answers that shoot down the item you&re discussing. If you&re not into 'addles or
(lectricity that is your right, but your partner might find it intriguing. If you shoot something down
quickly, they may not feel comfortable answering the rest of the questions. )lso, remember you may not
agree on everything, which is okay% It doesn&t mean you have to do everything your partner wants you
to* it +ust brings you closer to understanding your partner.
!ost importantly )-( /0, and T)12 to your partner about each Item you feel comfortable talking
about. !y partner and I spent hours and days discussing each thing, and we had a blast, it&s a fun
e#perience, where you are sure to learn something new about your partner and yourself.
3kay let&s get started%
ere is the 2ey for how to label your answers. $ou can ad+ust the key to fit your relationship or use what
I have here, anyway you answer is fine, this is +ust a guide to get you started.
NA No Answer Not applicable due to sex, or ability. You simply do notwant to answer the question. You do not understand theQuestion.
? Curious You may not be sure you will like it or not, have not tried itand are Curious about it. It’s something you would like to
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learn more about.
W Wanted This is something that you want very mu h and may have ahard time without it.
! Love You love doing this.
" En oy You en#oy doing this, or would like to try this.
N Neutral You don’t dislike, or like this, but i$ your %artner likes it,you will do it. &r you may be willing to give it a go.
' !isli"e You dislike doing this, or you don’t think you would likethis, but are willing to do this $or your %artner i$ they!oved or "n#oyed it.
( #ate You hate doing this, or think you would hate it, but arewilling to give it a try, or do it $or your %artner i$ they!oved or "n#oyed it.
) $o%t Limit This may be something you do not see yoursel$ en#oyingnow, or doing now, but you might entertain it in the $uture.
* #ard Limit This is something you will never be able to do, and wouldnot ever see yoursel$ en#oying.
Section one . . . The basics
Sexual Item Have
doneto you
Do to
yourpartner
Stipulations ~ Here you want to
make any comments that you mightwant to bring you later when going over
answers
Intercourse ~ !aginal
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Intercourse ~ "nal
Hand #obs
$ingering ~ !aginal %&ingers no &ist'
$ingering ~ "nal %&ingers no &ist'
(ral ~ )ale
(ral ~ $emale
(ral ~ "nal
Sucking %in stipulations say where'
*icking %in stipulations say where'
*ight +ibbles %in stipulations say where'
,reast play
,ody )assage %with or without oil'
-se o& lubricants
Sensation lubricants %hot cold'
-se o& condoms
-se o& birth control ~ $emale
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ith the lights on
ith the lights o&&
During the day
(nly at night
During menstruation %this should beknown in any relationship'
/#aculation %&emale or male'
Swallowing /#aculations
/#aculation on $ace
/#aculation on body
Section two ~ 0laces$or this section saying what you are willing to do in each o& these places under stipulations is a good idea. Since
this is not something you do to or have done to you there is only one answer column here.
Sexual *ocation Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
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"t home ~ bedroom
"t home ~ kitchen
"t home ~ *iving room
"t home ~ Dining room
"t home ~ 1arage
"t home ~ ,athroom
"t home ~ *aundry room
"t home ~ basement
"t a &riend2s house ~ 0rivate
"t a strangers house ~ 0rivate
In the car ~ parking lot
In the car ~ Driveway
In the car ~ )oving
In the car ~ street or garage
In the car ~ 0arking spot
In the Shower at home
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Shower at a &riend2s3relative
Shower in a hotel
In a hotel
In a bed and break&ast
In a public place %,DS) Clubdungeon bath house etc.'
(utside ~ yard or patio
(utside ~ Camping or woods
(utside ~ 0arking lot street
0ublic transport ~ ,us
0rivate Transport ~ limo
Tailgating ~0rivate
0arties ~ 0rivate
Stadium events ~ stands
0ublic ,athrooms
ork or o&&ice
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Section three ~ ClothingSexual Clothing Have
done
to
you
Do to
your
partner
Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
*ingerie ~ so&t &abrics
,aby dolls ~ so&t &abrics
,ooty shorts and tanks ~ so&t &abric
1owns ~ so&t &abrics
0# pants with or without a tank
,oxers ~ silk #oke cotton
4umpers ~ so&t &abrics
Corsets
,ra and panties sets
*ingerie ~ leather
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,aby dolls ~ leather
,ooty shorts and tanks ~ leather
1owns ~ leather
Chaps ~ leather
*atex ~ *ingerie
*atex ~ ,aby dolls
*atex ~ 4umpers
*atex ~ 1owns
*atex ~ Spanking Skirts
*atex ~ Stockings
*atex ~ bra and 0anties
*atex ~ Costumes
Costumes So&t $abric ~ +urse
~ )aid
~ 1overnment
~ )ilitary
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~ 0rison
~ School girl 3 pro&essor
~ super hero
~ vampire
~ itch
~ movie or book character
~ "nimal
~ ,eer girl
~ bartender3waiter
~ "dult baby
~ &ire &ighter
~ Cop
~ Dirty 0rincess3 &airy tail
~ Cook
~ cowboys
~ Indians
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$ull Hoods
)asks %gas &ace'
High Heels
Thigh high boots
5nee high boots
1arters
Thigh High stockings
$ishnets
,allet heels
0lat&orm Heels
$lat shoes
)ary 4ane2s
Section $our ~ Shower and ,ath time &un.
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Sexual Item Have
done
to you
Do to
your
partner
Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
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Intercourse ~ !aginal
Intercourse ~ "nal
Hand #obs
$ingering ~ !aginal %&ingers no &ist'
$ingering ~ "nal %&ingers no &ist'
(ral ~ )ale
(ral ~ $emale
(ral ~ "nal
Sucking %in stipulations say where'
*icking %in stipulations say where'
*ight +ibbles %in stipulations say where'
,reast play
,ody wash
1enitals wash
"nal wash
$oot scrub
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Hair wash
Shaving ~ *egs
Shaving ~ "rmpit
Shaving ~ 1enitals
Shaving ~ "nal
Shaving ~ chest %men'
Shaving ~ back %men'
ater )assage ~ removable head
During )enstruation %this is a good place to
have sex during this time'
Section $ive ~ Toys6%,asic toys will be discussed here. Toys with a more direct purpose will be discussed with their sub#ect. There are "
*(T o& toys out there so I2m sure I will miss some discuss some you know o& with your partner as well.'
Sexual Toy Havedone
to you
Do toyour
partner
Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
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Dildos ~ 7ealistic
Dildos ~ 1lass
Dildos ~ 0lastic or 4elly
)ale )asturbators %eggs &leshlights'
Dildos ~ !aginal
Dildos ~ (ral
Dildos ~ "nal
"nal 0lugs
"nal ,eads
!ibrators
Strap on vibrators %&or sel& butter&ly'
,ullets
!ibrating 0anties ~ private
,en a ,alls
Double penetration Dildos3!ibs
Double Headed Dildos3vibs
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,reast pumps
!aginal pumps
0enis 0umps
+ipple Clamps
1enital Clamps
!ibrating nipple Clamps
!ibrating genital clamps
Strap on Harness %&or others'
Dolls or penetrable body parts
Cock rings
Ticklers
)echanical tongue
$ucking )achines
Tools with dildo attachments
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Section Six ~ $antasy and 7ole playHere we will talk about some o& the role plays you can have during sex or &antasies you can play out again these
will be basic or more run o& the mill. )ore speci&ic types o& roles plays will be discussed in their sections.
7ole play or &antasy Have
done
to you
Do to
your
partner
Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
+urse30atient
)aid3)aster
Secretary3,oss
Hooker34ohn
Stripper3Client
0aramour3married 0artner
5night3Damsel in distress
*ittle 7ed3,ig ,ad ol&
1ender reversal
Teacher3Student
0hysiologist3mental patient
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"ge 0lay
,abysitter30arent
Insets
0risoner31uard
Cop37obber
"bductor3"bducted
0uppy 0ony 0et
!ampire3)aiden
Super Hero3rescue
$ire &ighter3rescue
Cheerleader34ock
$armers Daughter 3 $arm Hand
7eligious
Interrogation
Debutant or )ermaid30irate
7ich30oor
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Cook 3 0atron
Service man3Housewi&e %can switch'
Salve3)aster %play basic'
Section Seven ~ $etishThis does not include some ,DS) that will be broken down into each section a&ter this. 0lease remember to be
sensitive to your partner when learning about &etishes and try to understand that while you might not en#oy itthey do and that is okay. 0lease remember to always stay sa&e no matter what your &etish.
Sexual fetishism or erotic fetishism is the sexual arousal a person receives &rom a physical ob#ect or &rom a
speci&ic situation.
$etish Have
done
to you
Do to
your
partner
Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
$oot %*icking sucking worship'
$oot %i& not above describe in stipulations'
High heels
!oyeurism
/xhibitionism
)edical
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,ody 0iercing
Tattoos
Shaved or -nshaved
,estiality
,ig and ,eauti&ul
,ody ,uilders %muscle worship'
-rine
0anties
Stockings
Scat
Diapers3 "dult ,aby
Insertions
"mputee $etish
"galmatophilia Statues manne8uinsand immobility
)I*$ %younger men and older women'
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"sphyxiation or Strangulation
Chronophilia %widely di&&ering ages'
!omit
Crush $etish %s8uashing animals &oodor ob#ects'
$ormicophilia %being crawled on bybugs'
$rotteuism %rubbing against non9consenting persons'
1eriatric
/nemas
,reast &eeding
)achines
Dirty Talk
+asophila %noses'
+avel $etish
0ornography
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Sleeping
$ood3!egetables
Section /ight ~ ,ondageBondage means using restraints &or the sexual pleasure It may be used on its own. 0lease keep in mind ,ondage
should only be used with trusting partners that have consented be&ore it begins. ,/ S"$/ have a pair o& /)T
scissors available and some cream &or robe burn to apply a&ter the scene. I& you use cu&&s or other locking bondage
have extra keys and make all the locks have the same keys. +/!/7 leave your partner alone. "lso sa&e words are a
good idea. "void positions that will cause asphyxiation and change them at least every hour to avoid circulation
problems. /at be&ore and keep &ood around i& your partner gets weak easy. Stay S(,/7. ,ondage does not need
to included domination discipline or sadomasochism. :ou can still play around with light bondage i& you are not
interested in the rest. Certain ,ondage items that are high risk will be le&t out i& you are doing them you don2t
need my list.
,ondage Have
done
to you
Do to
your
partner
Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
*ight ,ondage~
~Headboard ,ondage
~+eck Ties
~!elcro Cu&&s
~-nder )attress Straps
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~ Door Cu&&s
7ope ,ondage
,reast ,ondage
)aterials ~
~+ylon
~Hemp
~Silk
~Chains
~Cable ties
~0lastic wrap
~Tape
~Collars
~Spreader ,ars
~Stocks
~Crosses
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~Horses
~*eads
~)anacles
~Harnesses
~Straight 4ackets
~Chairs
~Cages
~Sleep Sacks
,eing tickled while tied
,eing teased while tied
Intercourse while tied
"nal while tied
(ral while tied
1iven an orgasm while tied
4ust tied and undone no sex
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1ags ~ ,all Cleave 7ing ,it
1enital ,ondage
Section +ine ~ D3S ~
Discipline Domination ; Submission Sadomasochismhile we covered ,ondage it can play a big role in D3S. "gain this is something that should be done with a
partner you can trust. :ou are not only testing physical limits here but also mental. " sa&e word is a good idea
incase a mental or physical line is crossed unintentionally. The mind is a &ragile thing and something you agreed to
may not be so good when it2s actually happening. D3S can be something simple like a light spanking or a way o&
li&e. Here we will discuss some things that may happen D-7I+1 a scene that may give you ideas. It Is up to you
what you do with the in&ormation but do it sa&ely please.
Discipline Domination orSubmission.
Havedone
to you
Do toyour
partner
Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might
want to bring you later when going over
answers
Spankings by hand
~ ,ottom
~ ,reast3Chest
~ $eet
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~ ,ack
~ *egs
~ 1enitals
,eatings with ~
~ Crop
~ 0addle
~ Hairbrush
~ $loggers
~ hips
~ Cane
~ ,elt3Straps
,eatings with implements ~
,ottom
~ ,ack
~ $eet
~,reast or chest
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~*egs
~1enitals
Spanking3 ,eating Intensity
~+o marks
~ Slight )arking
~Temporary )arking
~ ,raking skin bruising cuts
~ 0ermanent marking
$ace Slapping
,iting ~
~ hard leaving marks
~ )edium +o marks
~4ust a nibble
,reath control 3 play
Clothes pins ~
~ *ist body parts okay with
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~ or &ull body
Clothing chosen &or
Clothing earned as reward
Clothing lost as punishment
Collars ~ in public3private
Crawling3 5neeling
/nema punishment
$ood chosen &or
$ood earned as reward
$ood taken away as punishment
$ood &rom bowl
$ood &rom hand
$ood &rom body
-sed as &urniture
-sed as latrine
,ladder control
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"uctioned o&&
*ent out to others
Humiliation 0rivate
0ublic Humiliation
!erbal Humiliation
*eash public
*eash 0rivate
0ositive rein&orcement
+egative rein&orcement
(rgasm denial
(rgasm on command
$orced (rgasm %with consent'
*ecturing or lessons
$orced )asturbation %with consent'
+ipple31enital 0lay ~
~ Clamps
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~ eights
Scratching
Ice 0lay
$ire 0lay
Hot ax
Hair pulling
Suction
+eedle play
$isting ~ "nal
$isting ~ !aginal
Dilation ~ vaginal
Dilation ~ "nal
Double penetration
Triple penetration
Threesomes ~ any sex
1roup sex
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0ublic sex
0ublic ,ondage
0ublic discipline
Housework
Cooking
"ctivities chosen &or
Told when to speak
Called by titles only
Dominate
Submissive
/lectricity 0lay
Speculum play
$orced oral %with consent'
ell I hope you en#oyed my checklist and that you and your partner had &un doing it. I hope you learned a lot
did a lot and plan on doing even more6 *eave comments i& you think I need to add or ad#ust the list or i& you #ust
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have something you want to say. I& its rude &eel &ree to keep it to yoursel&. This was all done &or &un and to
educate yoursel& and your partner on what you might like sexually.
Thanks "gain . . . Darling0