seven habits of highly effective people[1]

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Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

By: DR. Stephen Covey


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1. To feel an inner relief and comfort in yourself

2. To have a balanced social relations with those around you

3. To have a great achievement


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Personality and character Ethics

20%

80%

Personalit

yCharact

er

What is seen from you

What you really areYour inside


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Personality:Say

DoSkills & techniquesPublic

Lubricate the processOf human interaction

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Personality and character Ethics


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Integrity

FidelityHumilityPatienceJusticeModesty, simplicityCourage, temperance

80%

Character:


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Integrity FidelityHumilityPatienceJusticeModesty, simplicityCourage, temperance

80%

Character:

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Foundational Principles

Developing Habits

"Sow a thought, reap an

action; sow an action,reap a habit; sow a habit,reap a character; sow a

character, reap a destiny,"


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Components to develop a habit


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Character and competency


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P/BC Balance


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Paradigm

It is the lens through which we see the

world

It is our POINT-OF-VIEW (the closer the clearer, the higher the bigger )


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YOU

Paradigm lens

We think we see the world as it isNO

We see the world as we were conditioned to see it

The power of the paradigm


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CHANGE MODEL

SEE

THINKDO

VALUES

PRINCIPLES


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Paradigm Shift

SEE

THINKDO

VALUES

PRINCIPLES


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Dependence

PublicVictory

PrivateVictory

Independence

Interdependence

Be proactive1

Begin with endin mind

2

Put 1st things 1st 3

Think Win/Win4

Seek 1st toUnderstand..

5Synergize

6

SharpenThe saw

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Seven Habits Paradigm


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Maturity Continuum

It is the outline of the(Seven habits of highly effective people)

Dependence

Independence

Interdependence

YOU

I

WE

EMOTIONAL MATURITY IS NOT TIED WITH AGE


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Habit One

Be Proactive


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Habit One: Be Proactive

- We have 3 types of determinism: GeneticGenetic:: What your ancestors did to you. PsychicPsychic:: What your parents did to you. EnvironmentalEnvironmental:: Situations and people around you

Pavlov Theory:


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This isThis is ok ok forfor

AnimalsAnimals

not humans!!!not humans!!!


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Habit One: Be Proactive (Contd.

As a human you always have the freedom to choose.

Morals and behaviors are not inherited.


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Stimulus ResponseFreedom to

choose

Self Awareness

Self Imagination Self ConsciousIndependent Will

Proactive Model

Habit One :

Be Proactive (Contd.)


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Genetic Psychic Environ.

Freedom to choose

Different response

Be a TransitionalFigure

Habit One :



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Habit One :


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All the problems we face can be: Direct Control: yourself

Indirect Control: others No Control: weather- natural catastrophes

Believe this: You always have the 1

st

key for solving the problem

Habit One :



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Reactive people are affected by their socialenvironment, by the "social weather." When people

treat them well, they feel well; when people don't, theybecome defensive or protective. Reactive

people build their emotional lives around the behavior of others, empowering the weaknesses of other

people to control them.


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Conclusions: You are the programmer of your life. Do not live to eat and have pleasure or you do not deserve

to be a human. Work on your Circle of Influence.

Ghandi:They cannot take our self respect unless wegive it to them.

Habit One :



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Reactive Persons

There is nothing I can do

Thats just the way Im

He makes me so mad

They wont allow that

I cant I must If only

Proactive Persons

Lets look at other alternatives

I can choose a differentapproach

I control my own feelings

I will choose an appropriate

response I choose I prefer I will

Habit One :Be Proactive (Contd.)

Listen to your language


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Making and KeepingCommitments

At the very heart of our Circle of Influence is ourability to make and keep commitments and

promises. The commitments we make to ourselves

and to others, and our integrity to thosecommitments, is the essence and clearest

manifestation of our proactivity.

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It is here that we find two ways to put ourselves in control of our lives immediately. We can make

a promise -- and keep it. Or we can set a goal -- and work toachieve it. As we make and keep

commitments, even small commitments, we begin toestablish an inner integrity that gives us the

awareness of self-control and the courage and strength toaccept more of the responsibility for our own

lives. By making and keeping promises to ourselves and

others, little by little, our honor becomesgreater than our moods.

Setting Goals and Achieving them


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Habit Two

Begin with the end inmind

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Habit Two:Begin with the end in mind

Habit One: You are the programmer of your life

Habit Two: Program your life Mental creation precedes physical creation Use self Imagination

What is your end in mind? To decide this you need to know the center of your paradigm


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Begin with The End in MindSet your Vision


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W o r k

M o n e y

S p o u s e F a m i l y

P o s s

e s s i o

n

F r i e n d s

P l e a

s u r e

S e l f What is your CENTER?! What most makesYou happy? What mostIrritates you?

Habit Two :Begin with the end in mind

H bi T :


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PRINCIPLES

Family Money

PossessionPleasure

Friend

Self

Spouse

Work

Principles Centered Paradigm

Habit Two :Begin with the end in mind

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ngs re reateTwice

"Begin with the End in Mind" is based on theprinciple that all things are created twice. There'sa mental or first creation, and a physical or second

creation to all things

What are the stepswe take to build a

house?

Leadership and Management


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Leadership and Management --The Two Creations

Management is a bottom-line focus: How can I bestaccomplish certain things? Leadership deals withthe top line: What are the things I want toaccomplish?

In the words of both Peter Drucker and WarrenBennis, "Management is doing things right;leadership is doing the right things."

Writing and Using a A Personal


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Writing and Using a A PersonalMission Statement

1. Take the time to record theimpressions you had in the funeral

visualization at the beginning of thischapter..

2. Take a few moments and write downyour roles as you now see them. Are yousatisfied with that mirror image of your

life.3. Set up time to completely separate

yourself from daily activities and tobegin work on your personal mission

statement.


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Habit Three: Put first Things First

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Habit Three :Put first Things First

Habit One: You are the programmer

Habit Two: Program your life Use: Self Imagination

Habit Three: Do the program, live the program Use: Independent Will


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Put first things first


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Put first things first

P t fi t thi g fi t


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Put first things firstTime Management

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Conclusions: Live your program but put first things first.

Schedule your properties but do not prioritize yourschedule. Give your sleeping tiger a twist in the tail.

What you are able to do is much more that youactually do.

Habit Three :Put first Things First


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Private Victory

Working on the 80%:character, paradigm

Private victory precedes public victory.

Without private victory

Chronic Pains: frominside

Acute pains: from others

80%

Paradigm Shift

PRINCIPLESCENTEREDPARADIGM


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Emotional Bank Emotional Bank

It is a metaphor that describes the

amount of TRUST that has

been built up in a relationship.


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E ti l B k


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Emotional Bank:Six Main Deposits

Understanding People man/women, children, different centers.

Attending to little things: Little things are the big things

Keeping Commitments

E ti l B k


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Emotional Bank:Six Main Deposits

Clarifying expectations ALLAH, marriage

Showing personal integrity Union of personality and character

Apologizing sincerely when you make a withdrawal This never hurts your dignity.


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Habit Four:Think Win/Win

It is the habit of the 3rd alternative:

It is not my way, it is not your way, it is a better way

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Different interactive paradigms: Win/Win

Lose/Win Psychomosotic

Win/Lose selfish

Win I win, no matter

the other end.

Lose/Lose Devil

Habit Four :Think Win/Win

Habit Four :


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Character : Integrity:

Union between character and personality Maturity :

Courage to express your opinion and respect andappreciate the others

Abundance Mentality: There is always room for everyone Opposite to scarcity mentality: selfishness

Dimensions of the Win/Win Approach


Habit Four :


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C o n s i d e r a t i o n

Courage

Lose/Win

Win/LoseLose/Lose

Win/Win



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Habit Four :


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Conclusions: It is not my way, it is not your way, it is a better

way. Win/Win means courage and consideration Integrity, maturity, abundance mentality There is always room for everyone Be aware of your emotional bank accounts



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Habit Five:Seek first to understand

then to be understood

Habit Five:


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Habit Five:Seek first to understand.

We were taught how to talk, walk, write but to

listen.????

You are 100% responsible for communication with

the others whether you are sending or receiving .

Habit Five:


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Most people either speak or prepare to speak or

listen to judge and criticize.

COLLECTIVE MONOLOGUE

(THE DIALOGUE OF DEATH!!!


Habit Five:


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Listening: 7%: words

38%: vocals 55%: non-verbal

impressions Eye looks (100%

expressing)

7%

38%55%

Habit Five :


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Levels of listening: Ignorive

Pretentive: nodding and humming Selective Attentive: focus on the words Empathic:

Listens to understand Gets what behind the words

Habit Five :Seek first to understand.


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Habit Five: Seek first to understand.

Levels of misunderstanding:

1. Appearance: age, gender, language, clothing

2. Association: work, education, home, club

3. Interests: hobbies, friends

4. Thoughts5. Values and believes: paradigm

Habit Five:


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You can never understand a

person if you listen to himthrough your paradigm. You

have to put yourself in his

shoes.

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Habit Five: .then to be understood

To be understood: Ethos (70%):

From ethics: principles-centered character Pathos (20%):

From passion: express your emotions

Logos (10%): From logic: make sense

Habit Five:


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Conclusions: Empathic listening is the essence of human

communication. If you do your best to understand people, indeed the

will understand you.

Do not jump to conclusions More understanding more trust more influence


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Habit Six:Synergize

Habit Six:


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Habit Six:Synergize

The essence of synergy is to: Value differences Respect others Build on strength Compromise for weakness

Real strength is based on difference not on similarityThis is a natural law


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Habit Six:


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Habit Six:Synergize

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION

COOPERATION

T R

U S T Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Lose)

Respectful (Compromise)

Synergize(Win/Win)

DRIVING VS RESTRAINING


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DRIVING VS RESTRAININGFORCE

Driving Force :- Positive

- Reasonable- Logical- Conscious

Restraining Force :- Negative

- Emotional- Illogical- unconscious


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Habit Seven

Sharpen Your Saw


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Habit seven:


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Habit seven: Sharpen your saw

RENEWALSocial/Emotional Synergy, empathy

Family activities,Social activities

Spiritual Religious activities,

Prayers

Physical Exercise, nutritionStress management

Mental Reading,Planning,

Visualizing

BALANCE Effectiveness

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Habit seven: Sharpen your saw

Learn

Do Commit

Learn

CommitDo LearnCommit

Do

LearnCommitDO

The Upward Spiral

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Finally

The seven habits is all about paradigm shift.The seven habits is all about paradigm shift. This is not easy. You need:This is not easy. You need:

PatiencePatience CourageCourage

WillWill ConsistencyConsistency

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FinallyFinally

This is the way for a proper life, so do not ever This is the way for a proper life, so do not ever give up.give up.

It is really worth some effort and pain.It is really worth some effort and pain.

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Please Answer Please Answer

- What most affected you in this course?- What most affected you in this course?

- What did you most benefit from this course?- What did you most benefit from this course?


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