Seven Habits of Highly

Effective People

Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

1.What is a Habit?2.Seven Habits Paradigm3.The Seven Habits

Knowledge(what to, why to)

HabitsHabitsInternalized principles Internalized principles & patterns of behavior& patterns of behavior

Knowledge(what to, why to)

HabitsHabitsInternalized principles Internalized principles & patterns of behavior& patterns of behavior

Desire(want to)

Knowledge(what to, why to)

Skills(how to)

HabitsHabitsInternalized principles Internalized principles & patterns of behavior& patterns of behavior

Desire(want to)

Knowledge(what to, why to)

Skills(how to)

HabitsHabitsInternalized principles Internalized principles & patterns of behavior& patterns of behavior

Habits

Desire(want to)

Seven Habits

1 Be Proactive2 Begin with the End in Mind3 Put First Things First4. Think Win/Win 5.Seek First to Understand... Then to Be Understood6 Synergize7.Shapen the saw

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SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED

The Seven Habits center on The Seven Habits center on

timeless and universal timeless and universal

principles of personal, principles of personal,

interpersonal, managerial, and interpersonal, managerial, and

organizational effectiveness. organizational effectiveness.

IndependenceIndependence

InterdependencInterdependencee

PUBLICVICTORY

PRIVATEVICTORY

Seek First to Understand

… Then to beUnderstood

Synergize

Be Proactive

Begin with the End in Mind

DependenceDependence

THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM

PHYSICALPHYSICALExercise, Nutrition,Stress Management

MENTALMENTALReading, Visualizing,

Planning, Writing

SOCIAL/EMOTIONALSOCIAL/EMOTIONALService, Empathy,

Synergy, Intrinsic Security

SPIRITUALSPIRITUALValue Clarification

& Commitment, Study& Meditation

FOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWAL

Habit #1Be Proactive

Based on the work of Stephen Covey

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THE UPWARD SPIRALTHE UPWARD SPIRAL

Learn

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CommitDo

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PROACTIVE MODELPROACTIVE MODEL

StimulusStimulus ResponseResponseFreedomFreedom

totoChooseChoose

Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness

ImaginationImagination ConscienceConscience

IndependentWill

IndependentWill

What happens to a bottle of soda when you shake it up?

It EXPLODES!

When you are PROACTIVE, you make a choice about how

you react to the things that happen in your life. You act

like a water bottle. You might get shaken up or mad, but

you stay calm and don’t explode!

What steps could you take to be more PROACTIVE and calm when things aren’t

going well?

HOW PROACTIVE AM I?

. . . the degree to which I take initiative to improve my current circumstances or create new ones.

Proactive vs. Reactive

When you are PROACTIVE, you make good choices about how you respond to something happening. You are always

ready with a calm attitude. You do things to make sure that the right things will

happen. You are prepared for anything that might happen. When things don’t go your way, you aren’t happy, BUT you stay

calm.

When you are REACTIVE, you could explode at any minute. Things happen

and they “catch you off guard”. You aren’t ready for things that might happen. You

deal with things when they happen instead of being prepared.

Where do you fall?

Very

Reactive

Very

Proactive

How could you be more

proactive?

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influence

circle of

concern

Focus on things you can change or influence

Circle of InfluenceThings you

can’t control

Things you can control or change

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CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

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CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

Things you CAN’T

control or change:

•Other people

•The weather

•Things you did wrong in the past

•How other people treat me

•Homework

Circle of InfluenceThings you

CAN control or change:

•Your attitude

•Your mood

•Your reaction to good and bad

things that happen

•How I treat other peopleCan you think of other

examples from your life?

Habit #2Begin with the

End in MindBased on the work Stephen Covey

I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am

an important part of my classroom. I look for ways to

be a good citizen.

What is “the end” for you? What do you hope

to be doing ten years from now? Twenty?

Make a list of things you want to do in your life.

Before you figure out the “end”, you have to take a look at who YOU are!

Draw a picture of something that represents you. It could be an animal, plant, machine, a food, etc. Explain why you

chose what you did.

Mission Statement, Part 1:Write your name in a circle. Out from the circle, write words

that describe you.

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kind

athletic

artistic

reader

Mission Statement, Part 2:Now think about what kind of person you WANT to be.

Make a list.

I want to be a:

1.Hard worker

2.Good student

3.Kind person

4.Talented artist

Mission Statement, Part 3:Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a sentence or paragraph about the person you want to be.

Here are some example:

My mission is to:

•Laugh a lot

•Learn as much I can

•Work hard at home, school and in my sports

•Be kind to others

•Take good care of myself.

•To get better at my art.

How good are you at beginning with the end in

mind?

I always keep

the end in mind.

I only think about today.

Why did you rate yourself

this way?

How does saying “no” sometimes help you with “beginning with the end in mind”? What things do you have to say no to?

Finish these sentences:

~If I my future had no limits, I would choose to be…..

~I want to be a person who…

Habit #3Put First

Things FirstBased on the work of Stephen Covey

I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to

things I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule,

and follow my plan. I am organized.

Going for Your Goals

At Home Goals At School Goals

Set two or three goals for at home and for at

school.

Sometimes not being brave gets in

the way of doing things that are

important to you. Putting first things first might means putting aside your fears to reach your goal. Has fear ever kept you from doing something great or important? Explain.

Big Things and Little Things:Putting first things first means planning your time around the most important, BIG things in your life. Then, you can get to

the little things that take your time.

Big, Important Things That Take Your

Time

Small Things, Less Important Things That Take Your

Time

Organizing Your Days

Write out your regular schedule for a full day, from start to finish.

Is it organized? Do you waste time, or put first things first?

Making it HappenNow choose one goal for home, and one goal for school. Write your goals in a circle. Out from the circle, write things that you can do to

help you achieve those goals.

Memorize my

multiplication facts.

Make flash cards.

Practice in the car on the way to

school.

Play x games on

the computer.

Have somebody quiz me daily.

Where do you fall?

I always put first things first!

I never to set goals

or put first things first.How could you

be better at putting first things first?

Habit #4Think Win-Win

Based on the work of Stephen Covey

Is this picture a good one for Think Win-

Win? Why or why not? If so,

defend your answer. If not, design a better one and explain your thinking.

I want everyone to be a success. I don’t have to put others down to get

what I want. It makes me happy to see other people

happy. I like to do nice things for others. When a

conflict arrives, I help brainstorm a solution.

We all can win!

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Synergistic (Win/Win)Synergistic (Win/Win)

COOPERATIONCOOPERATION

Respectful (Compromise)Respectful (Compromise)

Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win)Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win)

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Think Win-Win Road Blocks •I’ll step on you to get ahead.

•I am a loser. I can’t do anything.

•At least I am better than her/him.

•I’ll let someone else win again.

Have you ever “stepped on”

somebody else to win? Have you pushed

someone aside so you could

get something good? How

does this feel? Think an

example.

Human Doormat:

Do you always let other people win? Do you not raise

your hand to answer a question because you know somebody will answer? Do

you let people jump in front of you? Do you let people treat

you poorly? (If so, you are not practicing Think Win-Win.) Describe a time when you let people “step

on you” to win.

How To Think Win-WinIn order to Think Win-Win, you need to be confident in you. You must not care

what others think of you. You will be happy to see others be successful.

Make a word & picture splash to

show what makes you

unique.

Where do you fall?

Very Good!

I want everyone

to do well.

Very Bad! I don’t like

to see other

people win.How could you

be better at Think Win-Win?

Habit #5Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Based on the work Stephen Covey.

Listening Road Blocks

Spacing Out:Your mind wanders when

others talk.

Pretend Listening:

You don’t really pay attention to the other

person, but you pretend to. You say “yeah,”, “uh-huh,”

and “cool.”

Selective Listening:

You listen only to the parts that interest you.

Selfish Listening:

You always bring the conversation back to you

and your life. You say things like “I had that happen too” and “I know how you feel.”

We all have times when we are poor listeners. Which “Listening Road

Block” do you most often use? Explain why this happens.

Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they are more likely to like you. So, be a good listener, and you’ll

have lots of friends.

I’m All Ears

What are some ways that you can show people that you ARE

listening?

Who is a good listener? Create a list of people that you know that

listen well.

Listen With Your Eyes:

Sometimes you have to listen with your eyes as much as you listen with your ears. People say a

lot with their body language and facial

expressions.

Emotion Charades:Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your eyes”. Choose an

emotion to try to express just with your face and body. You can not use words.

•Angry

•Sad

•Embarrassed

•Tired

•Happy

•Thinking

•Bored

•Impatient

•Scared

•Worried

•Relaxed

•Frustrated

•Surprised

•Stressed

•Confused

•Flattered

•Nervous

•Annoyed

•Interested

Mirror, MirrorTo be a good listener, mirror

back what someone says. Repeat back in your own words what the person is saying. Use statements like “You seem to

be feeling…” and “So what you are saying is…”

Have you ever had a time with your family or friends when you knew that you needed to “zip it” and just listen? Why is it important to do this sometimes? How does this help the person you are listening to?

Are you a good listener?

Very

Good Listene

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Not Such a Great Listener

How could you be a better

listener?

Habit #6Synergize

Based on the work of Stephen Covey.

I value other people’s strengths and learn from them. I get

along well with others, even people who are different from

me. I work well in groups. I seek out other people’s ideas to solve problems. I know that

“two heads are better than one”. I am a better person

when I let other people into my life and work.

They say that, “Two heads are

better than one.” Do you

agree or disagree? Why?

Make a list of times when you have to

work with other people at

home, school, or church, or in

your clubs/ sports.

Everybody is different, or unique. In what ways is this a

good thing? How does this help you when you are working with a group

on a project?

How does everyone being different make things harder?

How can you overcome these

challenges? Would it be easier if everyone had

the same personality, looks,

talents and interests?

Celebrate Differences:Pair up with someone you don’t usually work/play with.

Come up with at least five differences and five things you have in common.

Ways You Are

Alike

Differences:

Student 1

Differences:

Student 2

What does this quote mean? Is it true? Is it a

good thing or a bad thing?

“Everyone is in love with

his own ideas.”

How can having someone disagree with you help

you learn? Explain your thoughts.

Dream TeamYou have been asked to put together a team to create

a new invention. If you could choose anyone in the world, who would be on your team. You must explain

your reason. You may have 5 teammates.

Person Reason

Synergy Action Plan Define the Problem

Make sure you understand the problem or task.

Their Way Try to understand everyone’s ideas. Listen carefully.

My Way Seek to be understood. Share your ideas.

Brainstorm Be creative. Everyone create new ideas.

High Way Find best solution.

Where do you fall?

I work well with

others.

I’d rather work by myself.

How could you be better at working with

others?

Habit #7Sharpen the

SawBased on the work of

Stephen Covey

A man has been working hard to saw

through a tree for over three hours. He still

hasn’t cut through the tree trunk. What

might be wrong with the man’s saw? What

should he do?

I take care of my body by eating right, exercising, and getting

sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and

lots of places.

Body: Exercise, Be Healthy, Sleep,

Relax

Brain: Learn, Read, Write

Soul:Journal, Think, Pray

Heart:Serve, Laugh, Be a Friend

What do you do to take care of your

body? What do you NOT do?

Could you make any improvements?

How you are working to improve your brain? What could you stop

doing? What could you start doing? Can you

think of someone who really works on this area of their life?

Brain FoodWhat are your plans for “feeding” your brain?

Make a list of things you want to learn or things that

you want to do that will teach you.

How you are working to improve your soul?

What things do you do that make you the most happy?

Feeding Your Soul

What feeds your soul? What

inspires you and gives you peace?

What are some songs, books or

movies that make you want to be a better person? Is

there a person that makes YOU want

to be better?

Does the heart matter? Are you serving/helping anyone? What things do you do to make friends and/or to make other people happy? Can you think of someone that really is good at this?

What makes your saw sharp?

What makes your saw dull?

Your Saw is Your Life

How good are you at sharpening the saw?

My saw is very sharp!

My saw is very dull!

What steps could you take to sharpen your

saw?

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HABIT 1HABIT 1

Be Proactive. Proactive people take responsibility for their own lives. They determine the agendas they will follow and choose their response to what happens around them.

Be Reactive. Reactive people don’t take responsibility for their own lives. They feel victimized, a product of circumstances, their past, and other people. They do not see as the creative force of their lives.

Begin with the End in Mind. These people use personal vision, correct principles, and their deep sense of personal meaning to accomplish tasks in a positive and effective way. They live life based on self-chosen values and are guided by their personal mission statement.

Begin with No End in Mind. These people lack personal vision and have not developed a deep sense of personal meaning and purpose. They have not paid the price to develop a mission statement and thus live life based on society’s values instead of self-chosen values.

HABIT 2HABIT 2

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Put First Things First. These people exercise discipline, and they plan and execute according to priorities. They also “walk their talk” and spend significant time in Quadrant II.

Put Second Things First. These people are crisis managers who are unable to stay focused on high-leverage tasks because of their preoccupation with circumstances, their past, or other people. They are caught up in the “thick of thin things” and are driven by the urgent.

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Think Win-Win. These people have an abundance mentality and the spirit of cooperation. They achieve effective communication and high trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, resulting in rewarding relationships and greater power to influence.

Think Win-Lose or Lose-Win.

These people have a scarcity mentality and see life as a zero-sum game. They have ineffective communication skills and low trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, result-ing in a defensive mentality and adversarial feelings.

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Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Through perceptive observation and empathic listening, these non-judgmental people are intent on learning the needs, interests, and concerns of others. They are then able to courageously state their own needs and wants.

Seek First to Be Understood. These people put forth their point of view based solely

on their auto-biography and motives, without attempting to understand others first. They blindly prescribe without first diagnosing the problem.

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Synergize. Effective people know that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. They value and benefit from differences in others, which results in creative cooperation and team-work.

Compromise, Fight, or Flight. Ineffective people believe the whole is less than the sum of the parts. They try to “clone” other people in their own image. Differences in others are looked upon as threats.

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Sharpen the Saw. Effective people are involved in self-renewal and self-improvement in the physical, mental, spiritual, and social-emotional areas, which enhance all areas off their life and nurture the other six habits.

Wear Out the Saw. Ineffective people fall back, lose their interest, and get disordered. They lack a program of self-renewal and self-improvement and eventually lose the cutting edge they once had.

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PARADIGM SHIFTSPARADIGM SHIFTS

A BREAK FROMTRADITIONAL WISDOM

A BREAK FROMTRADITIONAL WISDOM

TOWARD 7 HABITS TOWARD 7 HABITS

Habit 1Habit 1 We are a product of our environment and upbringing.

Habit 2Habit 2 Society is the source of our values.

Habit 3Habit 3 Reactive to the tyranny of the urgent. Acted upon by the environment.

Habit 4Habit 4 Win-lose.One-sided benefit.

Habit 5Habit 5 Fight, flight, or compromise when faced with conflict.

Habit 6Habit 6 Differences are threats. Independence is the highest value. Unity means sameness.

Habit 7Habit 7 Entropy.Burnout on one track - typically work.

We are a product of our choices to our environment and upbringing.

Values are self-chosen and provide foundation for decision making. Values flow out of principles.Actions flow from that which is important.

Win-win.Mutual benefit.

Communication solves problems.

Differences are values and are opportunities for synergy.

Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement.