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Settling Sibling SquabblesSettling Sibling Squabbles
Dawnita S. NillesDawnita S. NillesNDSU Extension Agent/Family Resource NDSU Extension Agent/Family Resource
CoordinatorCoordinator
NDSU Extension Service and Region IV, CSCCNDSU Extension Service and Region IV, CSCCServing families in the Counties of Grand Forks, Nelson, Serving families in the Counties of Grand Forks, Nelson,
Pembina & WalshPembina & Walsh
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Why do Children Fight?Why do Children Fight?
SpaceSpace PossessionsPossessions AchievementsAchievements Individual IdentitiesIndividual Identities Parental LoveParental Love AttentionAttention
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Settling Sibling SquabblesSettling Sibling Squabbles
Children will learn Children will learn more.more.
If you step in, it If you step in, it usually means usually means blaming someone--blaming someone--most often the older most often the older child.child.
Forces kids to find a Forces kids to find a solution solution themselves.themselves.
Difficult as it may be, it is Difficult as it may be, it is best to intervene as little best to intervene as little as possible. Here’s why:as possible. Here’s why:
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Level I: Normal BickeringLevel I: Normal Bickering
Keep telling yourself the children Keep telling yourself the children are having an important are having an important experience in conflict resolutionexperience in conflict resolution
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Level II: Situation is heating Level II: Situation is heating upup
Acknowledge their angerAcknowledge their anger Reflect each child’s point of viewReflect each child’s point of view Describe the problem with respectDescribe the problem with respect Express confidence in the Express confidence in the
children’s ability to find a mutually children’s ability to find a mutually agreeable solutionagreeable solution
Leave the roomLeave the room
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Level III: Possible dangerLevel III: Possible danger
InquireInquire Let them knowLet them know If the playing is too rough for youIf the playing is too rough for you
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Level IV: Definite DangerLevel IV: Definite Danger
Describe what’s going onDescribe what’s going on Separate the childrenSeparate the children
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Reducing Sibling RivalryReducing Sibling Rivalry
give attention to give attention to each childeach child
set rules or limitsset rules or limits appreciate appreciate
differences and differences and avoid comparisonsavoid comparisons
treat each child treat each child uniquelyuniquely
give children time give children time to play apartto play apart
expect kids to expect kids to share when share when appropriateappropriate
temper the amount temper the amount of parent-initiated of parent-initiated competitioncompetition
be a positive role be a positive role modelmodel
don’t always allow don’t always allow the younger child to the younger child to “win”“win”
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Overall Tips for Dealing With Overall Tips for Dealing With Sibling SquabblesSibling Squabbles
set clearly defined rules for set clearly defined rules for behaviorbehavior
teach children how to settle teach children how to settle disputes without quarrelingdisputes without quarreling
use humoruse humor remember: it’s alright to be angryremember: it’s alright to be angry establish privacy areasestablish privacy areas
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Remember: Fair Does Not Remember: Fair Does Not Mean EqualMean Equal
focus on individual needsfocus on individual needs show children they’re all loved show children they’re all loved
uniquelyuniquely give time in terms of needgive time in terms of need focus on feelingsfocus on feelings