Session 10

Phasing out the incentive chartReduce number of items on chart

Tell kids we’ve seen major improvement

Continue to PRAISE

Responsibility=PrivilegesFreedom=ResponsibilityThe incentive chart teaches

children 4-14 that responsibility=privileges

The incentive chart teaches older children 15+ that freedom=responsibility

Family ContractsIf you, yourself do not agree to

the contract do no enter into it!

Say YES if you CAN say NO if you MUST!

Contracts enhance cooperation and strengthens the relationship

ProcessParent and Child agree to 2 itemsSchedule renegotiation date one

week from implementation dateRenegotiating may be needed in

order to demonstrate respectful behavior

If initial contract is unsuccessful then a contingency contract may be needed

Managing Conflict What creates conflict between

adults?Between children?Between children and adults?

Personal RightConflict is caused when one

person feels that their “personal rights” have been violated

What do you believe are your personal Rights?

DifferencesAggressive BehaviorAssertive BehaviorPassive Behavior

T.R.I.P. Goals Wilmot and Hocker (2007) describe conflict as "an expressed struggle

between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others in achieving their goals" (p. 9). When working to resolve conflict, it is important to remember the TRIP goals of the parties in conflict:

Topic or Content Goals - "What do we want?"Conflict about a topic or content falls into one of two categories: 1) people want different things, or 2) people want the same thing. Topic or content goals are a starting point to understand the other party involved in the conflict.

Relational Goals - "Who are we to each other?"Relational goals are central to conflict resolution and deal with perceptions of how one party should be treated and will treat the other party. Sharing those expectations can help parties in conflict to work out their differences by clarifying expectations and perceptions of the relationship.

Identity or Face-Saving Goals - "Who am I in this interaction?"Identity or Face-Saving goals will become more important as conflict becomes more intense. These goals involve identity protection and presentation of a particular self-image. If a party's identity is questioned or attacked, it will likely lead to defensiveness.

Process Goals - "What communication process will be used?"Process goals determine how a conflict will be resolved. Different communication processes may be better in different situations. Conflict parties should consider the  best method for resolving the particular conflict.

Reference:Wilmot, W. W., & Hocker, J. L. (2007). Interpersonal Conflict. Boston: McGraw-Hill.

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