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A viral photo showing Muslim men standing in front ofa Catholic church in Egypt, protecting its congregantswhile they attend mass, serves as juxtaposition to recentreports indicating the growing attacks on Christians byMuslims in the North African country.

Viral Photo Shows MuslimsDefending Catholic Church In Egypt

Vice Chairpersonof Minority

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Mrs. Janet D'Souza, newly ap-pointed Vice Chairperson, MinorityCommission, Govt. of Maharashtramet his His Eminence CardinalOswald Gracias, Archbishop OfMumbai recently. and discussedvarious issues the community isfacing in Mumbai and Maharashtra.Mr. Lawrence D'Souza, Vice Presi-dent of Catholic Sabha is also seenin the picture.

The photo, which has been circulated around theinternet, shows over 20 Islamic men, wearing traditionalIslamic dress, holding hands in a line in front of a largeCatholic cathedral. The men are reportedly protecting theCatholic Church from vandalism and attacks while Chris-tian congregants attend mass inside.

The picture has gained a wide amount of mediaattention after it was tweeted by the Rev. James Martin,S.J., a Jesuit priest and the author and editor-at-large ofAmerica, a national Catholic magazine. Martin, who has30,000 followers, tweeted the image, and it was thenretweeted by his followers more than 600 times and madea "favorite" nearly 300 times.

"Hope for return of compassion and dignity," oneTwitter user commented on the photo, while anothercommented "our world needs more of this."

Despite the image, many Twitter users remainedskeptical of the situation in Egypt, arguing that MuslimBrotherhood supporters have been reported to have at-tacked dozens of other churches in recent weeks. "Thepeaceful actions of some do not cancel the violent actionsof others," one user tweeted. Source: Christian Post

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Discontent Brews Among India's LaityNew Delhi: Anger is brewing among the Catholic laity in India, especially thoseof the Latin Rite. The fresh air that Pope Francis has brought to the UniversalChurch has fanned a ferment, born of increasing frustration over laypeople’sperception that bishops, both individually and collectively, have chosen not torespond to their various appeals over the years.

They are now considering a direct appeal to the pope if the CBCI – theCatholic Bishops Conference of India - does not give them a fair hearing.

This appeal was suggested at the annual general meeting of the 93-year-old All India Catholic Union (AICU) which concluded in Kolkata last week, andthe two day session of the Laity Assembly that followed.

It had been intended as an ambitious “Laity Synod” in the national capital.But the AICU was forced to change its name to “Laity Assembly,” in the face ofobjections from bishops who maintained that they alone had the canonical rightto convene synods.

The general consensus at the assembly seemed to point to a continuing,wide communication gap between the people and many of the bishops whogovern the country’s 166 dioceses - 129 of them Latin, 29 Syro-Malabar andeight Syro-Malankara.

There are brilliant examples of great collaboration between the faithful,bishops and clergy. But Catholic Union leaders feel that in many dioceses, evenbasic provisos of the Code of Canon Law have not been observed, on issuesof transparency, governance and the participation of the people.

They are particularly galled by the non-implementation of Canonicalprovisions on diocesan and parish finance committees; provisions which statethat members should include people who have expertise in financial manage-ment. It is widely thought that clergy and hierarchy have been known todiscourage participation by the laity, whom they see as potential troublemakersor a challenge to vested interests.

Except on issues of faith and catechetical literacy, the formation andtraining of lay people is also seen as less than satisfactory. Yet this training isdesperately required in India’s very diverse Church, with communities of tribalsand Dalits and other sharp distinctions based on caste and mother tongue.

The laity also feels aggrieved that the leadership keeps them at armslength in the management of institutions such as schools, colleges and otherstructures of diocesan administration. Lay involvement is much higher in mostother countries.

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“Dad’’ my wife calls in a shrill voiceto draw my attention. I immediatelyrush to find out what wrong I havedone, what I am required to do or whatI have failed to do. She learnt this fromthe children. Now, if I, with all my weak-nesses, am so sensitive to the needs ofmy children how much more so Godwho is all loving. To remove the stressof modern living, we must have Faith &Trust in God. To relieve stress the In-dian technique is to repeat the expres-sion “OM”. The modern world has im-proved on this with the expression“OMG” — Oh, my God!

Do we really need to tell God whatwe need? He knows it & also what hasto be done. We don’t tell the surgeon,who is operating on us, what to do. Wetrust that he knows his job. Hence,when we or others are in trouble, howshould we pray? What should “pray for

me” mean? My realization is that wemust & can only pray for ourselves.What does God want me to do in this

Do we forgive others for the evilthey have done to us or do we seekrevenge, war, conflict? Evil begets evil.Forgiveness “delivers us from evil”.Revenge, jealousy, fear, uncertainty“lead us into temptation”. Love is cre-ative, creating newness, freshness, newlife. When we forgive, when we love wehave hope, we create a new path.

We are all called to do everythingin the name of God — Hallowed beThy Name. We are God Men but with adifference — not bringing followers toourselves, but aiming to bring the King-dom of God on Earth. We are rich notby accumulating wealth but by bring-ing prosperity to all on a sustainablebasis, by empowering every creatureto live their life to the full, by havingrespect for everything in this universe.We see the beauty in all things. We turndisadvantage to advantage, sufferinginto joy.

“Thy Will be Done” God is not adictator whose orders must be followedbecause He says so. He is a lovingfather with a purpose for our long termhappiness in whatever He asks us todo. There is a very strong cause andeffect relationship in this universe. Noth-ing exists on its own. Everything isconnected to everything else. He wantsus to find this out by study, researchand experimentation. Some mysteriesare conveyed to us through revelationsand sacred scriptures. We are asked tolive by the Ten Commandments. Thechoices we make must be KnowledgeBased, knowledge of what He wants. Inthe Information Age we have the powerto research the past and draw sce-narios of the future to understand theworking of Nature & determine what isbest, what is right and what is wrongand WHY.

“Who art in Heaven” God is inheaven but He is also everywhere. Heis on earth & hence, wants earth to belike Heaven. When we say “our Father”we remind ourselves that we are all onefamily. When we do good to others weplease our Father & come closer toHim.

The Our Father —The Prayer For Modern Times

The argument is that in India,the bishops and clergy spend toomuch time in administrative affairs atthe cost of pastoral care to the people.This lack of care is a major reasonwhy Catholics in large numbers areleaving the Church and joining Pen-tecostal groups, a phenomenon thatis also rampant elsewhere such asLatin America.

The formal report of the LaityAssembly is expected to be pub-lished in October or November andthere are clear hints that it will be allbut an indictment of the Church lead-ership.

It remains to be seen if the hier-archy will lend an ear to the call of thepeople, even if the leaders have heardthe pope express similar feelings.

John Dayal is the general secretary ofthe All India Christian Council and amember of the Indian government’sNational Integration Council.

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situation? How can I relieve the pain &suffering of the other person? Startingthe day with prayer & meditation isasking for the light to see what I amexpected to do today, the path that Imust take. This is what is meant by“Give us this day our daily bread.” Thepath that we take may not lead to thesuccess we want but the achievementis in doing at each moment what myconscience tells me to do. Even infailure we are at peace in the knowl-edge that we did the Will of God. Wehave Hope that things will turn out rightin the end because God is all knowing,all wise & almighty.

With this approach we live a fulllife, there is never an idle moment. Welook around, what am I supposed todo? What can I contribute in this situa-tion? How can I relieve the stress & painI see? How can I bring “Heaven onEarth”? The Our Father is a call toAction. Many are living a Hell on Earth.There is turbulence, turmoil at home, atwork, in society. There is uncertainty,fear, jealousy, exploitation. What is Goddoing about it we may ask? God per-mits evil & suffering. As children of Godwe are His heirs, how do we keep Hisspirit alive? How do we build on whatHe has given us? How do we respond?

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State InterventionSought To Get

Kannada BishopsGulbarga: A group of Christians inKarnataka has sought the immediateintervention of state Chief MinisterSiddaramaiah to get Kannadiga bish-ops appointed in the dioceses in theirstate.

Raphael Raj, General Secretary,All Karnataka Catholic ChristiansKannada Association, told reporters inGulbarga on Monday that such inter-vention is need to end the “religiousexploitation” of Kannada Christians.

According to him the exploitationof Kannada Christians had been goingon unabated and efforts to put an endto it had failed. ??Time was ripe forpolitical intervention to end the exploi-tation. Raj said that barring theChikmagalur diocese, all the 13 otherdioceses had non-Kannada bishops.

He alleged that these bishopswere acting against the interests ofKannada Christians. All the three dio-ceses of the Church of South India(CSI) were headed by non-Kannadabishops.

Raj urged the chief minister towrite a letter to Pope Francis and theModerator of the CSI, Chennai, urgingthem to appoint only Kannada Chris-tians as bishops of dioceses inKarnataka.

He said that the indefinite dharnaopposing the appointment of a Tamilbishop to the Karnataka Central Prov-ince by the CSI had been going on forthe past two months.

Complaining that Kannada Chris-tians have been left in the lurch as theydon’t have even reasonable politicalrepresentation, Raj wanted the govern-ment to nominate a member of theKannada Christians to the LegislativeAssembly and Council.

He said although the previous BJPgovernment had earmarked Rs 50 crorefor the development of Christians in2012, only Rs 33 crore had been spentand the rest Rs 17 crore lapsed.

For the current year, the alloca-tion has been increased to 100 crore.

Malaysia: A Catholic weekly newspa-per in Malaysia this week lost its latestlegal battle over the right to use theword 'Allah' for God in its local lan-guage edition.

in a case that has sparked nation-wide debate over which religion hasexclusive rights to the word Allah, athree-member panel of the Court ofAppeal ruled unanimously that thegovernment’s efforts to ban the use ofthe word in Christian publications willcontinue. The next hearing is sched-uled for September 10.

The case dates back to a disputeover the re-registration of the Herald’spublishing license, following criticismfrom the Home Ministry over politicalarticles that appeared in its pages.

In 2009, the local language edi-tion receeived an injunction to ceasepublication. The Herald and the arch-diocese of Kuala Lumpur successfullysued for the right to continue, but thegovernment then lodged an appealagainst the ruling, which stated thatMuslims did not have exclusive owner-ship of the word Allah.

The court ruling spurred acts ofvandalism against Christian churchesand death threats against the presidingjudge in the case, Lau Been Lan.

Also in 2009, the governmentseized shipments of local languageChristian Bibles that contained the wordAllah.

An agreement signed in 2011 byPrime Minister Najib Abdul Razak en-abled the impounded Bibles to be re-leased. But prosecutors argue that the

agreement has no bearing on theHerald’s case because it does not spe-cifically grant rights to the use of theword Allah.

In the lead-up to national elec-tions earlier this year, the issue be-came a referendum on religious iden-tity in the country, with Muslims seeingthe issue as an attack on Islam andChristians casting the dispute in termsof religious freedom.

In a rare statement to the media,the Archdiocese of Kuala Lumpur ad-dressed the war of words that has sur-rounded the Herald’s court case.

“The Catholic Church is gravelyconcerned by the recent statementsmade by individuals and organizationswith regard to the use of the word‘Allah’, a matter which is pending at theCourt of Appeal,” said Fr Jestus Pereira,chancellor of the archdiocese in thestatement.

“Many of these statements arestoking racial sentiments and creatingreligious tension in our country.”

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United States: It is a common notionthat the number of priests has plum-meted in this country [USA]. Manyspeak of the halcyon days when therewere four and five priests per parish,and the seminaries were packed. Andwhile some of these memories are ac-curate, they are drawn from a time inthis country that was very brief.

The fact is, the number of priestsper parish spiked sharply after 1950and has now leveled back to the levelsof 1950 and before.

Note the graph from the Centerfor Research in the Apostolate (CARA).It depicts the number of priests perparish. In 1950 there was an average ofone priest per parish. Last year therewas an average of one priest per par-ish. Welcome to 1950.

Mark Gray, writing at the CARAblog says:

The Priest Shortage:Perhaps Not As New As We Thought

There was about one active dioc-esan priest per parish then as there isnow. The late 1950s into the 1970srepresent an exceptional period inAmerican history when there were sig-nificantly more active diocesan priestsavailable than there were parishes. Ageand mortality has and continues todiminish the size of the diocesan clergypopulation. Although ordinations haveremained stable for decades, these arenot sufficient to make up for the num-ber of priests lost each year to retire-ment or death.

Frankly, even in the glory days,America did not produce the numberof priests we need to fill our needs.Back in the 1950s through the 1970s atremendous number of FBI (foreignborn Irish) priests were enlisted to meetAmerican needs. My own diocese hada large number of them brought in,beginning in the 1950s.

Many ethnic groups in the UrbanNorth also brought large numbers ofpriests to serve them from overseas.Today there are many dioceses thatrely on Nigeria and other boomingCatholic countries to supply extrapriests.

It is true, most American semi-naries were bursting at the seams es-pecially after World War II. But thatboom would seem to be as short as itwas impressive.

Source: Archdiocese of Washington

In recognition of his contribution toliterature, through his numerous books,Fr George Kaitholil, a member of theSociety of St Paul and author of nearly80 books and hundreds of articles onvarious topics, has been chosen toreceive the Honorary Doctorate of Let-ters from the International BiographicalCentre of Cambridge, England.

Born in South India, Fr Georgedid his secular and priestly studies inIndia, Italy and Germany. He has beenthe General Editor of St Paul Publica-tions and Better Yourself Books for twoterms, in addition to being the Editor ofthe popular youth magazine, The Teen-ager, for a short while. He is speciallyknown for his Target Series, consistingof 12 very popular titles. Available ineight languages, Dr. Kaitholil’s bookshave sold more than two and a halfmillion copies in different countries ofthe world. Many of books have alsogone into several editions.

Informing Dr George of his beingchosen to receive the Doctorate, theDirector General of IBC writes, “ I amdelighted to inform you that you havebeen chosen to receive — entirely onmerit – the Honorary Doctorate ofLetters from the International Biographi-cal Centre of Cambridge, England. Onlya select few have been honoured withthis prestigious Doctorate and it clearlyreflects the recognition of your lifetimeachievements.”

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Maschio, SDB

Monday 9 September 2013 marksthe 17th Death Anniversary of FatherAurelius Maschio of Matunga.

Father Maschio was evidently avery holy priest and in the tradition ofthe Salesians of Don Bosco, a strikingexample of unfailing devotion to OurLady, the Help of Christians. As FatherJoseph Casti's book on him indicates,much of what he did or achieved inBombay and elsewhere in India heunreservedly owes to her. Rich andincomparable are his achievements,revealing how marvellously God workswith those who trust Him completely.

Incidentally, whatever FatherMaschio did has benefited not justCatholics but society as a whole, his all-encompassing humaneness and hishumanitarian works recognizing nodiscrimination in terms of caste, class,colour, creed, nationality and what-ever.

The Shrine of Mary Help of Chris-tians is one of the most fascinatingchurches built in India of the 20th cen-tury. Built entirely with Malad stone andlined with Italian marble, it did not fail todelight even a pope! On entering it,Paul VI reportedly exclaimed: "It's likeentering one of the Italian Basilicas!"The stained glass and the mosaic fres-coes are rare treat to the eye of bothCatholics and non-believers alike.

Maschio had an aura of holinessthat was edifying, a very saintlydemeanour, the memory of whichmakes one wonder as to why he is noton the way to being included in the listof the Beati. If I'm not mistaken, its theordinary of the diocese where an indi-vidual has had his saintly being thatwould normally be in a position to setthe ball rolling by opening the cause asit were. If so, could Archbishop's House,Bombay, in collaboration with theSalesian Provincialate, jointly look intothe prospects of having this worthy sonof Don Bosco, an ardent client of Maryand an indefatigable promoter of devo-

tion to her as the HELP OF CHRIS-TIANS being raised to the honours ofthe Altar, please? There would be manywho would be willing to come forwardto testify to his holiness for he hadadmirers not merely in the Catholiccommunity but also among peoplecutting across all strata of society.

—Ladislaus Louis D'Souza,Malad West, Mumbai

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PlansOnce again, the issue of the highly

ambitious development of the Manori-Gorai-Uttan belt to promote tourismhas come into the limelight, with theMaharashtra Government approvingthe proposal (The Times of Indiadt.22.8.2013) and preparing to issuethe special notification.

Local organizations have rightlyopposed the move – they have voicedtheir concern. Needless to say, thismove of the government is bound todestroy this beautiful area. Earlierattempts of the government havefailed and it is hoped once again,that good counsel will prevail andthe ‘destructive plans’ of the govern-ment are consigned to the waste-bins.

On the other hand, it would makebetter sense for the government to de-

velop the urban city of Mumbai whereinfrastructure has collapsed under theweight of corruption, bribery, greed,etc – not a single road in this city is freeof pot-holes (these are really craters),which have now started claiming thelives of motorists. The governmentwould do well to direct their energiesand public money towards cleaningup the system and make this city ofMumbai into a ‘habitable’ city. By theway, whatever happened to thosehighly ambitious, grandiose plans toturn Mumbai into Shanghai, Manhat-tan whatever ? What more can wesay, except that, as it is often re-torted, ‘let them make Mumbai in toMUMBAI First !’

—Melville X. D’Souza

OrganDonation

This is with reference to the article‘ Why we need to oppose organ dona-tion’ by Dr. Leo Rebello (Secular Citi-zen, Aug.12). In the first place, Dr LeoRebello needs no introduction as ahighly reputed and respected doctor ofMumbai. However, it is shocking thatas a Christian, he still holds on to thesuperstitious belief of ‘karma’ and itstransmission to the recipient, after or-gan donation by the donor. It is also far-fetched to compare organ donation tothe loading of someone else’s SIM/Memory card into one’s mobile. Todonate one’s organs to save another’slife is the greatest form of charity. It isunfortunate that Dr Rebello’s views onorgan donation conflict with the inter-national movement on organ donationand transplant, and the recent ‘Organdonation day’ observed in the country,when thousands pledged to donatetheir organs after death to save pre-cious life and those suffering from in-curable diseases.

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This article is occasioned by arather innocuous request frommy brother-in-law, Louis, in Aus-

tralia. He wanted somebody to throwlight on the Gospel reading of Sundaythe 18th August. The “offending text” isfrom Luke’s Gospel, Chapter 12, verses49-53. This text may sound downrightoffensive to family people;, where Jesussays that he has come to set fathersagainst sons, mothers-in-law againstdaughters-in-law (Saas Bahu) etc.Priests and religious who have studiedSacred Scripture would understand thetext, but not the laity. Hence this at-tempt at shedding some light.

For those not familiar with SacredScripture I would first make two points.One is the old adage that “A text with-out a context is a pretext”. Shorn ofjargon, it means that we need to see thecontext in which a statement is made.The second point is to see the overallthrust, and not an isolated statement.This is sometimes referred to as theSacred Thread running through theentire Bible, binding it into one. Keep-ing these two points inmind, the text in questionis not really as offensiveas it prima facie appearsto be.

Why would the“Prince of Peace” (Is 9:6)talk of casting fire and say-ing that he has come notto bring peace, but divi-sion, even in households?Having already been bap-tized by John, what need was there totalk of another baptism? What was theconstraint that Jesus was strugglingwith? This Gospel passage is so chal-lenging that it does indeed merit ourreflection. But space constraints hererestrict me to addressing the “offen-sive” point of division only.

We need to also remember thatthere is no such thing as “gospel truth”;as the Gospels were systematicallycodified by St Jerome, only in the 3rd

Century. It was from here that the Catho-

lic Church adoptedwhat is today called“canonical texts”,those that it acceptsas being of divine ori-gin. There is another“word” of caution.The Bible is often re-ferred to as the “Wordof God”. I would put itslightly differently, asbeing the “Voice ofGod in the words ofmen”. This indicatesa fusion of divine in-spiration and humanperception. It now be-comes so mucheasier to understandthe message thatJesus seeks to con-vey.

This brings me to the title of thisarticle - Pole Position. What does itmean? Those who are familiar withmotor sports will know that it refers tothe driver/ rider who clocked the fastest

timing in the qualifyinground, and therefore getsthe lead position (advan-tage) on the starting grid.My choice of word is “pole”.We normally refer to theNorth Pole and South Pole.They are at the extremeends of the earth, givingrise to the term “poles apart”or the word “polarization”.This is exactly what hap-

pens when an electric current is passedthrough positive and negative poles(anode and cathode) through an elec-trolyte solution. This effects a chemicalchange and anodisation, or a depositon one pole. This is how electro-platingis done. The relevant point for us is theprocess of electrolysis and the result-ant polarization.

Human society is like a passiveelectrolyte. Jesus and his words arelike the electric current. Once impactedby this current, society (human

behaviour) cannot remain the same.Jesus’ words have an electrifying/ mag-netic/ polarizing effect. It is in this con-text that we need to understand thestatement that he has not come tobring peace, but division. Passive soci-ety is activated, which results in a polar-ization of views (acceptance or rejec-tion). Polarization can be put to gooduse, as in electro-plating; or result indivisiveness a la Modi, in electoral poli-tics.

Hence, had Jesus been walkingaround in today’s post-scientific world,he may have used a more scientific/current idiom like “My words will resultin a form of social polarization, whichthough not intended, cannot also beavoided”.

Another factor is the evolution ofJesus himself, in his own self-under-standing; from the discovery of who his“Father” was when his parents thoughtthat he was lost in the Temple (cf Lk2:49-50), to his confirmation of sonshipat his baptism (cf Lk 3:22) and hismessianic mission at the Transfigura-tion (cf Lk 9:35). As a human beingJesus was well versed with the Jewishscriptures, what we now call the Old

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Testament. Since his target audiencewas Jews, he copiously quoted fromthese texts. Even his dying exclama-tion “Eli, Eli, lama sabachtani” was adirect quote from Psalm 22:1. So too,when he talked of division, he mayhave been quoting the Prophet Micah“For son insults father, daughter rebelsagainst mother, daughter-in-law againstmother-in-law; a persons enemiescome from within the household itself”(Mic 7:6).

Mother Mary may also have toldher son what the Prophet Simeon hadsaid when he was being presented inthe Temple on the 40th day of his birth.“Look he is destined for the fall and forthe rise of many in Israel, destined to bea sign that is opposed, and a sword willpierce your soul too, so that the secretthoughts of many may be laid bare” (Lk2:34-35). Earlier translations used thephrase “sign of contradiction”. I preferto use the term “contra-indication”.

An encounter with Jesus is likeemerging from a dark tunnel into thelight which “lays bare” hitherto unseenaspects of one’s life. It elicits a re-sponse. As Newton’s Third Law ofMotion states, “To every action there isan equal and opposite reaction”. Arevolutionary accepts the message,while a reactionary rejects it. This inci-siveness or divisiveness is further en-dorsed by these words, “The word ofGod is something active: it cuts more

incisively than any two edged sword: itcan seek out the place where soul isdivided from spirit, or joints from mar-row; it can pass judgment on secretemotions and thoughts. No createdthing is hidden from him; everything isuncovered and stretched fully open …“ (Heb 4:12-13). So we do see thatSacred Thread running through Sa-cred Scripture. The “offending text”can now be seen in its proper perspec-tive.

Jesus himself first experienceddivisiveness, and forewarns his dis-ciples. At the beginning of his ministry,when he stood up in the synagogue ofhis hometown Nazareth, to proclaimthe fulfillment of the scriptures, he ex-perienced his first reaction and angryrejection. “Everyone in the synagoguewas enraged. They sprang to their feetand hustled him out of town; and theytook him up to the brow of the hill theirtown was built on, intending to throwhim off the cliff …” (Lk 4:28-30). That iswhy Jesus says, “You will be betrayedeven by parents and brother, relationsand friends; and some of you will beput to death. You will be hated univer-sally on account of my name” (Lk 21:16-18). He goes on to say “If the worldhates you, you must realize that it hatedme before it hated you” (Jn 15:18).

Jesus prioritizes relationshipswhen he says “No one who prefersfather or mother to me is worthy of me.No one who prefers son or daughter tome is worthy of me” (Mat 10:37). Thiswas said when Jesus was commis-sioning his first set of disciples; muchlike a General addressing his cadets ata passing out parade, where they areexhorted to believe “Country first, fam-ily later”. Even in the case of his mother,he declined to give importance to thephysical relationship of the womb thatbore him or the breasts that suckledhim. He raised it to a different level bysaying that even more blessed is theone who hears the word of God andabides by it (cf Lk 11:28 & 8:20-21).

The more we reflect on Jesus’ lifeand mission, the more do we under-stand his words. They may sound stri-dent or impractical when seen in isola-tion, or out of context. But the completepicture, joined by the Sacred Thread,makes for what we now call Sacred

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Scripture. I had earlier referred to Jesus’evolving self-understanding of his mis-sion. I am inclined to believe that hewas more strident at the beginning ofhis ministry, but became more circum-spect and equanimous towards theend. That is why in his final discourse tohis disciples he prays to the father,“May they all be one, just as, Father,you are in me and I am in you, so thatthey also may be in us …” (Jn 17:21).His bequeathal to them is “Peace Ibequeath to you, my own peace I giveto you. A peace which the world cannotgive, this is my gift to you” (Jn 14:27).

Division is incidental to Jesus’mission, but peace is central to it, be-ginning from the nativity proclamationitself - “Glory to God in the highestheaven, and on earth peace for thosehe favours” (Lk 2:14). At the beginningof his ministry Jesus had said “Do notsuppose that I have come to bringpeace to the earth: it is not peace I havecome to bring, but a sword” (Mat 10:34).This statement continues in the samemanner as the “offending text” in Luke.However, the day before his deathMathew quotes Jesus saying to Peter,“Put your sword back, for all who drawthe sword, will die by the sword” (Mat26:52), a sentiment echoed in the lastbook of the Bible (cf Rev 13:10).

So all you people of goodwill, turnon the switch, and allow the current ofGod’s word to pass through your life.You will be transformed. You will be atPole Position, and be able to say whatSt Paul said at the fag end of his life, “Ihave run the race to the finish, I havekept the faith” (2Tim 4:7).

(All scripture quotations are from TheNew Jerusalem Bible)

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be content and gain enough self-awareness that you can be an hon-est and open individual to whom-ever you may encounter. Work onovercoming your weaknesses thatso when the right person comesalong, you don't bring too muchpersonal baggage to the relation-ship. Being confident and knowingwhat your principles and values arewill not only attract a partner, butalso help you determine your com-patibility with another person.

2. Determine what you are looking forin a partner. Knowing what you needwill prevent you from becoming in-volved in a relationship with a per-son who ultimately does not shareyour goals.

3. Ask questions when beginning acourtship. Decide what you want toknow about a potential partner; eth-ics, interests, spiritual outlook andeven diet may all be important toyour long-term compatibility. If youwant children, find out whether apotential partner wants to be a par-ent as well.

4. Avoid becoming intimately involvedwith a potential partner until you getto know the person. Relationshipscan be clouded by physical inti-macy too soon in the courtship.Experiencing an intense sexual at-traction to a person can be enchant-ing, but it does not necessarily meanthat the person is a good long-term

partner. Though sexual attractionand compatibility are key to a goodlong-term relationship, waiting al-lows you to gain a better under-standing of whether you are com-patible.

5. Be honest about who you are. Dur-

greatly diminished.

6. Examine how you act around apotential partner. If you find your-self being fake or laughing at ajoke you don't think is funny, youmight be starting off on the wrong

Qualities to Look Out forin a Life Partner

You are ready to settle down.You have completed yourstudies, secured a job or es-

tablished in a career and matureenough to take the leap. Note thatmarrying the right person is a deci-sion that will determine the degreeof your happiness or misery in life.Choose wisely!

Pray for divine guidance and leading.

Get to know the person verywell. Don’t begin to think of gettingmarried if you have only known eachother for a couple of months becauseif you start living together you maydiscover surprises that may poseproblems to the young marriage.

A lady that is desperate tele-phoning, coming to your house oroffice is not the right person. The rightperson would not woo or pursue aman no matter how much she or oth-ers admire him. The man should do

this.Chemistry and attraction ig-

nite the fire but good character sus-tains it. The man must be a person ofcharacter who possesses the virtuesof humility, self-respect, kindness, po-liteness and courtesy. He pays atten-tion to cleanliness. He is responsibleand believes in doing the right thingalways.

Miss Right is not talkative orcomplaining but meek, calm, decent,modest, pleasant, polite, kind, neatand respectful. She possesses thespirit of submission, self-respect andis well-behaved. She has the ability tocook and contribute to the finances orhas potentials.

You must genuinely love eachother this should not be based onmoney or looks even though the manmust have vision,means of livelihoodor potentials

ing courtship, it may betempting to appease theother person by manipu-lating the truth about yourpast or present situationin order to impress her.However, this not onlyleads to personal guilt,but also poses a strongrisk of problems downthe road. When the otherperson inevitably learnsthe truth, trust and un-derstanding can be

Choosing a life partneris a very important decision. Spending the

rest of your life with anotherperson can be a joyous andfulfilling experience, but youmust pick someone with whomyou are compatible. Here are afew tips on making a goodchoice.

1. Figure out who you are. Seek to

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When questions are askedabout how people choosetheir life partners, it be-

comes quite obvious that most peopleof today’s modern don’t really knowwhat they need. We most of the timeconfuse ourselves with need and want.It is therefore not surprising to findmore divorce cases rising far abovemarriage cases. Want, as in relation-ship is more or less looking at thephysical; wanting an attractive manor woman, someone who has moneyto run the house and the family, some-one who can actually support you infuture, can really give you good sexand the likes. In today’s issue, we willdive into all these factors to seewhether it is necessary to choose alife partner based on some them.

Choosing a life partner based onphysical attractiveness is not badbut, before that , it must be taken intoconsideration that beauty, as it is, is anatural wealth for a short period oftime. Humans change with respect totime. If the person does not age, thereare other factors that can really takethe attractiveness of the without usnot able to do anything about it. Weare just life flowers, wild and all rosy inthe morning but gloomy and weak bynight fall. Have you asked yourselfwhether you will be able to live withthe person should all the attractive-ness fade away? Another grave mis-take we make when choosing a part-ner is when the choice is made look-ing at the financial success of theperson. Money is good, no two waysabout that but never has it been heardthat money buy happiness or lovewhich happens to be key factors thatkeeps marriages going. Falling forsomeone based on the financial gainsof the person can cause more prob-lems for you than you even expect.Another factor that influences bad part-nership decision is sex. Most ladiesespecially, when in their youth, desiremen who can actually make them feel

good in bed.But we must not forget that it is a

lifetime decision and a long term ex-ecution of plan not a short term one.The problem is that sometimes weforget that it is a long term decision weare taking and thus choosing a partnerfor that journey should go far beyondthe physicalities. Imagine eating oneparticular food for a month, two orthree. Would you ever have an appe-tite for that particular food in the nextmonth to come? Definitely no! It issame with sex. Having sex with oneparticular person for a long period oftime can be boring sometimes thusnot good factor to consider whenchoosing a partner. Most peoplechoose to accept anyone as a lifepartner because of the fact that theyare probably ageing. This is most com-mon among women.

Most women believe that oncethey get to their late twenties and stillman less, must accept anyone with-out consideration if not, much aboutthe composition of the man they aregoing to tie the knot with which some-times ends up in disaster. One otherfactor that is associated with the wrongchoice of partners and again com-monly found among women is chil-dren. I say this is commonly foundamong women because it is often easyfor a man who has children to marryagain as compared to women. Re-search has also proved that. This some-times leaves women in a position wherethey accept men who just come theirway. Pity, they say is the sweetestform of love. Actually, I don’t see anysense in that. How can you make achoice of a wife or husband based onthat? It is too cheap. If you going outwith someone and think the persondoesn’t march the kind of husband orwife you intend marrying, why don’tyou just forget about the person andignore the fact that the person willprobably change one day. In fact it isthe worst mistake and harm you canever do to yourself.

What Keeps ARelationship Strong :

1. Trust2. Communication3. Intimacy4. A Sense Of Humor5. Sharing Tasks6. Some getaway time without

business or children7. Daily exchanges (meal,

shared activity, hug, call,touch, notes, etc.)

8. Sharing common goals andinterests

9. Giving each other space togrow without feeling insecure

10. Giving each other a sense ofbelonging and assurances ofcommitment

If these qualities are missing, therelationship will erode as resent-ment withdrawal, abuse, neglect,and dishonesty; and pain will re-place.

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He must show total commitmentnot sex. If he pressures you he is not theright man for you. Love and sex are notthe same thing. Bond first emotionally,intellectually and spiritually.

The right person is not in therelationship to escape from personalproblems or pressure from her family.

You should rather get busy, improveyourself and remain positive. Use thisperiod to work on yourself to be a betterperson.

The lady possesses the ability togo into marriage with positive mindsetabout her in-laws. She is ready to takethem as her family.

There must be trust in the rela-tionship. You must both be trustworthyand faithful. The person should not bespying on you, monitor your phonecalls or computer usage.

He or she should not limit theamount of time you spend with othersyou care about. He/she does not try toisolate you from your family and friends.Does not try to control your life butwants to share your life.

She should intend to add on hiscuisine, language and way of dressingin marriage. The man should be willingto respect, accept and imbibe her cul-ture and traditions. The person mustrespect and maintain a cordial relation-ship with every member of his or herfamily.

In cases of initial resistance, theperson is willing to show respect, love,humility and pray rather than fight orconfrontational. A mother is more par-ticular about the type of person her sonis getting involved with. Her desire isfor a lady with good manners, a daugh-ter.

In summary, being with the right

foot. If you are relaxed in theperson's presence, you might beon the right track.

7. Spend time with a potential part-ner. To know if a relationship willwork, it is essential to spend longperiods of time in the otherperson's company, under a vari-ety of circumstances. Bring theperson to your social engage-ments, and introduce him to yourfriends and family. If he gets alongwell with your friends and family,you might be on the right track.

8. Let go of expectations. Duringcourtship and when maintaininga relationship, don't expect theother person to be who they arenot. Avoid constructing an illu-sion around a person, attributingto her qualities that she lacks.Don't expect a partner to changewho she is to appease you. Bemindful of enjoying her for whoshe is.

9. Make sacrifices to build your part-nership. Nothing is perfect, andthere are times when you mayhave to sublimate your own needsfor the sake of the relationship. Apartnership is a selfless endeavorthat requires continuous effort togrow.

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Qualities to Look Out for in a Life Partner person should give you happiness, youfeel calm, peaceful, relaxed and free tofully express and be yourself. The per-son shows you affection, respects youand you enjoy spending time together.Conversation with this person is inter-esting not boring. This person is kind,caring and considerate. You are emo-tionally safe with the person.

However, take the person to yourparents. Listen to their strong reasons.What is the opinion of your pastor,marriage counselor in church, familyand friends of this person? Family andfriends have a more objective opinionand will see things you may overlookdon’t ignore them or delude yourself.Don’t manage a relationship!

If free of destructive behaviors hedoes not drink, prudent in spending,does not use drugs or other illegalsubstances, faithful, not cruel or dis-honest but you have doubts or havingcold feet getting married without hav-ing any rational reasons don’t get mar-ried to him.

If you have found the person, con-gratulations! Commit your wedding dayinto His able Hands as you attend pre-marital counselling. As you plan foryour wedding remember, wedding isfor one day, marriage is for a lifetime!Pray towards your future together. Prayto build a true Christian home viewwhere Christ is the Foundation and theHead. Where everybody is happy, ahome where there is love and a familyaltar.

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The framework of Faith revolvesaround a positive attitude and anequally significant Christian cha-

risma in spiritual and secular life. Toevangelize the Word of God throughFaith is a vocation for those who knowit as a gift, serve God, do service to theprimary theology of belief.

“Let us draw near witha true heart in full assuranceof faith.”(Heb.10:22). In thesame letter to the HebrewsSt. Paul wrote with firm con-viction : “ We are not of thosewho shrink back and aredestroyed, but of those whohave faith and keep theirsoul.”(Heb.10:39). There aretwo chief parts in the theology of Faith: to know holy scriptures as a Divinework inspired by the Spirit of God, andsecondly , to observe how religiousbelief effects human warmth in itssurvival through Faith.

The over all understanding of thistheology is based on Biblical exposi-

tion, truths and ancient scholarship. Inour times, in “the light of Catholic think-ing”, the Faith is centered on Easter asthe bright sun of the liturgical cycle.The format of a Christian life today isbased, as always, in Faith and be-comes the springboard for practicalevangelical study.

We firmly believe thatChristianity is Trinitarian,comprehensive and em-braces the truth. Jesus said: “In my Father’s house aremany rooms, if it were notso, would I have told youthat I go to prepare a placefor you ?”(John 14:2). Tothe Apostle Thomas, Jesus

said, “ I am the way, and the truth, andthe life…”(John 14:6). The theology ofFaith is forged by those words of theLord. Christ’s redemptive gifts are theessentials we rely upon to spread theWord and feed the Faith for His glory.“And when he saw their Faith he said.

Man, your sins are forgiven you.” (Luke5:20).

Let us now try to comprehend theanalogy of Faith. In the Catechism ofthe Catholic Church we are told to beattentive to the analogy of Faith. “ Byanalogy of Faith we mean the coher-ence of the truths of the faith amongthemselves and within the whole planof Revelation.” (CCC 114:3).

The study of God and religiousbelief (theology) imbeds many truthson eternal life, answers to evil, God’sgrace, source of moral life, source ofprayer, theological virtue, and the cer-tainty of Faith.

We are told of how Abraham ful-filled the meaning of Faith in St. Paul’sletter to the Hebrews 11:1. “ Faith is theassurance of things hoped for, the con-viction of things not seen. “ Abrahamtrusted God. Abraham became the“father of all who believe”. Faith is ofinterior assistance. “ Believing is an actof the intellect assenting to the divinetruth by command of the will moved byGod through grace.” CCC.1749:155.

The groundwork of Christian the-ology of Faith will remain the same forall time .

Analogy Of Faith For All Time

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And Mary said ‘Yes’- and that ishow Jesus came to be borninto this world. When the

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somebody’s name, spew venom onothers. We can sow seeds of dis-cord in society, why even in the fam-ily, ensuring that the family mem-bers fight with each other and ulti-mately split. Oh what joy it givessuch people. We need to ask our-selves, is it befitting of us to become‘followers of Mary ? What is this, ifnot ‘Hypocrisy at it’s Best !

Mother Mary’s birthday is roundthe corner. Are we ready for the cel-ebration ? Rather, are we worthy ofcelebrating Mother Mary’s birthday ?Isn’t it like any other birthday in thefamily ? Don’t we make preparationsfor a birthday in the family ? So then,what about preparation for MotherMary’s birthday ? Are we prepared –no, no, no, not the Birthday Cake or theBirthday candle, or the snacks or thedrinks, or maybe booking a hall, cater-ers, etc. No, that’s not it. But of course,we have the novenas in preparation forMother Mary’s birthday. So is thatenough ? We need to be preparedfrom the inside.

Little do we realize that Marydoes not approve of our show ofdevotion. Of what use is that devo-tion of ours if it does not lead us intodoing good to others ? – it’s only asham. Needless to say, it’s time westop this sort of behavior and be-come ‘True’ followers of Mary. Trulythen, can we be worthy of celebrat-ing the Birthday of Mary.

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full gusto – complete devotion toMary ! What would one expect butthat a little of what Mary did in herlifetime, would rub off on us; if onlywe were to follow Mary, this worldwould be better place to live in. Butalas, there is ‘many a slip betweenthe cup and the lip. ‘

So, what is the fallout of all thesedevotions to Mary ? Are we any thebetter for it ? Do we show our devotionto Mary only for our own selfish inter-ests ? To show the world how well weknow our prayers and sing hymns toMary, full throated. Take part in theRosaries in our sectors during themonths of May & October. Then whatnext ? After singing hymns like, “Letus Mingle Together”, not even lookat the person whom we despise.Maybe, we go around slandering

We have several churches dedi-cated to Mary and very rightly givenher titles like, Mary Help of Chris-tians, Mother of Perpetual Succour,Mother of Perpetual Help, etc., etc.Mary as we know was a simple peasantwoman, who brought up Jesus in aworthy manner. We are all aware of herconcern for others – like the time whenshe hurried to her cousin Elizabeth onknowing that she had in old age con-ceived a child. And on the other occa-sion at the marriage feast at Cana whenthe hosts had run out of wine, it was herintervention that saved the day. Know-ing fully well that Mary can also help usif we were to call on her, we go to thevarious shrines dedicated to Mary.There are several Marian devotionsand we seem to know all the Novenaprayers by heart, we know the sev-eral prayers to Mary, we know all thehymns in honour of Mary, all theMysteries of the Rosary; we recitethe prayers and sing unto Mary, with

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Born to an Albanian couple,On 27 August 1910 in Yugoslavia,She was Christened Agnes,She was not even a decade old,When she lost her father,At 18 she joined the Loreto Abbey in Ireland,And took the name 'Teresa'.

On 10 September 1946,While traveling to Darjeeling,After a long illness,She received the call,To be God's love in action,To the poorest of the poor,The sick and dying,Hungry, naked and homeless.

After obtaining permission,She set out with her coarse blue-bordered sari,Crucifix pinned on shoulder,Bible in hand,And less than Rupees Five in pocket,Serving Jesus in right earnest,In the poorest of the poor,She was so filled with zeal,As she lovingly cleansed maggot infested wounds,And she was so divinely possessed,As she always sought to do,Something beautiful for God.

She established the ‘Missionaries of Charity',‘Nirmal Hriday' for dying destitutes,‘Shishu Bhavan' for uncared for children,And 'Shanti Nagar' for lepers,She also founded the 'Missionary Brothers of Charity',And a contemplative Order for Nuns.

She was bestowed with innumerable awards,In recognition of her work,The most notable being the Nobe Peace Prize (1979),And the Bharat Ratna (1980),This universal celebrity,Felt equally comfortable,When walking with pope, politician or pauper.

Consequent to her death on 5 september 1997,The State Funeral accorded to her,On 13 September 1997,Made evident to the world,The esteem in which she was held,both nationally and internationally,In the vast gathering of mourners,Was the Vatican Secretary of State,Heads of State and Governement or the envoys,In mourning or salutation,The Gun Carriage used for the funerals,Of Gandhiji and Nehruji,Was brought to Calcutta,For the purpose - a rare gesture.

Mother Teresa leaves behind her message to us,That at the moment of death,We will not be judged,By the number of our good deeds done,Or by the diplomas received,But rather,According to the lovePut into our work.

‘Saint of the Gutters’Religious Founder 1910-1997

BlessedTeresaofKolkatta

— Ella Almeida

Coconut Chutneymade with red chilies.

Recipe type: AppetiserCuisine: South IndianServes: 2-3

Ingredientschutney ingredients:½ cup grated coconut

fresh or frozen¼ cup roasted chana dal1 or 2 dry red chilis1 tsp chopped ginger2-3 garlic cloves1 tsp tamarindsalt as requiredwater for grinding

Tempering ingredients:1 tbsp oil1 tsp mustard1 tsp cumina pinch of asafoetida1 sprig curry leaves

InstructionsGrind all the ingredients listed for

the chutney above with somewater.

Take the chutney in a bowl.Heat oil in a small pan.Add the mustard seeds first and let

them pop.Now add cumin and fry them.Add the asafoetida and curry leaves.Fry for some seconds and add to the

chutneyMix well and serve the coconut chut-

ney with idli, dosa, uttapam ormedu vada.

Coconut Chutney(red chili)

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Hyderabad: The Andhra PradeshFederation of Churches (APFC)has opposed the stategovernment’s move to constitutea group of ministers to enact leg-islation on Church properties andeducational institutes.

In a letter to Chief MinisterKiran Kumar Reddy on Aug 24, itasked the government to give dueweight to the views of the APFCheaded by archbishops and bish-ops as it legitimately representsthe churches and Christian Community of the state.

Individual Christians, even if they happen to be MLAsor holding any other high position, cannot claim to repre-sent the Christian community, it said.

Admitting there are some cases of illegal disposaland occupation of Church properties, the churches feelthat the government must take effective measures torestore them back to the churches, the letter said.

With regard to the irregular sales of the Churchproperties noticed in some places by some individualchurch members, the bishops and heads of churches feelthat the existing courts could be approached by the

aggrieved members of thechurches for redressal.But, in the pretext of these iso-lated irregularities committed bya few individuals, it is not justifiedon the part of the government togeneralize and impose on theentire group of churches a publiclaw bringing them all under asingle body.This drastic measure will lead tocurtailing the freedom of thechurches and lead to the nega-

tion of their fundamental rights to own and manage theirprivate properties, the letter said.

The bishops/heads of the churches oppose impos-ing on them something that they never asked for, ratherresisted vehemently when such attempts were made in thepast by some state governments.

APFC is a state level apex body and an umbrellaorganization of the mainline churches of various Christiandenominations represented by the bishops or heads ofchurches in Andhra Pradesh.

Source: press release

Bishops' Body Opposes Law On Church Properties

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