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in this issue 11.13in every issue

4 letter from the editor8 local fi nds

cover story14 mama in wonderland Shannon Tassava found adventure and

success while combining writing, coaching and stay-at-home mama duties.

fashion6 cute & cozy The days are getting shorter and there is a chill in the

air. Winter is upon us. Stay warm in style with any of these fabulous

coats.

7 made over Mother and daughter get a special makeover from

Savvy and Spalon Montage. Check out their new look.

nosh10 the art of tea Allison Roorda shows readers how and where to

fi nd the perfect tea.

health18 walk this way Walking is a great way to stay healthy and

connected to community. One Twin Cities club is doing exactly that.

relationships20 ‘guy next door’ Stephanie Kotelnicki shows women how to make

sure the guy you’re dating has actually read your online profi le.

love & life22 fi nd your tribe Check out these Twin Cities writers’ groups to fi nd

support while you hone your craft.

24 write a novel It’s National Novel Writing Month. Will you crank

out a novel this month?

26 blogging Want to know how to create a successful blog? Let

blogging maven Liv Lane show you how.

28 savvy sun signs Teri Parsley Starnes, a professional astrologer living

in Minneapolis, tells readers what to expect from the stars this month.

30 explore your intuition Jodi Livon, author, intuitive reader and

resident psychic at Twin Cities Live, answers reader questions about

intuition.

savvy’s missionSavvy Magazine aims to educate and inspire a community of Twin Cities-area women who share personal stories and real-world information on how to feel, live and look the best they can. Through original reporting, local events and journalistic integrity, Savvy is the source for how to be healthy, happy, fashionable and connected.

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I try not to pick favorites, but I have to say that this edition has a special place in my heart. This is Savvy’s Literary Issue, where our writers explore all

things writing. The more time I spend in this industry, the more I realize how impor-tant it is to have an encouraging, supportive group of people to aid you as you develop your skills. People to give you feedback. People to listen to your questions. People to listen to your struggles. People who deal with the same challenges you deal with.

In celebration of that fact, this month we explore this idea of finding your tribe. Unsie Zuege looks at the various com-munity groups devoted to helping writers connect with each other. Check out her story, and her suggestions for joining local groups, on page 22.

Some people may not feel the need to connect with other writers as much as they need a deadline. Aren’t so many writers that way? I am. I need the pressure of a deadline to motivate me; otherwise I can easily get lost in researching and ruminating but never bringing the work to fruition. Hundreds of thousands of writers in America would likely agree, as Allison Roorda tells us on page 24. Roorda looked into National Novel Writing Month, which challenges writers to crank out a novel in just one month. How’s that for motivating pressure?

For those of you who are self-motivated and have a vision or desire to create a blog, Liv Lane – blogging maven, mama, coach, artist, and inspiring teacher – guides readers to blogging success on page 26. She gives us her best advice, and let me tell you, she is definitely the expert to be doling out these tips. Check her story out, and be sure to let us know if you decide to start a blog (and share your link on our Facebook page).

Speaking of mamas and mavens and writers and coaches, I’d like to introduce you to our cover model and super woman, Shan-non Tassava. She is an author, a wellness coach, a mom, a blogger and an all-around lovely person. Scott Fagerstrom interviewed her about her book, her career track, and how she balances everything. Read her inspiring story on page 14.

Another person whose craft is definitely

worth your attention is Stephanie Kotel-nicki, our relationship columnist. She’s real, she’s hilarious, and each month she shares her life stories and advice for Savvy readers. I encourage you to not only read her column (her latest article is on page 20) but also follow her Facebook page, Stephanie’s Savvy.

Now I pass the mic to you. What do you think of what you read here this month? Do you have any story ideas of amazing women we should write about or topics we should touch on? Let us know what you think by commenting on our articles (at Savvy.mn), chatting at our Facebook page, or dropping me a line at [email protected].

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“Entering motherhood, particularly stay-at-home motherhood, was a little like tumbling down the rabbit hole. Once I was there, things seemed crazy and strange to me.”SHANNON TASSAVA

Mama in WonderlandShannon Tassava found adventure and success while combining writing, coaching and stay-at-home mama duties.


BY SCOTT FAGERSTROM

Fast track or mommy track?It’s the gut-wrenching decision faced

by millions of professional women about to give birth: Will you spend the next several years at home with the kids—possibly risk-ing your career—or head back to work while the children are still in diapers, securing a position on the corporate ladder but forever questioning your priorities?

It’s also a dilemma that explains why so many women are inspired by the story of Northfield’s Shannon Tassava, who stepped away from a promising career as a psycholo-gist to become a full-time parent. In Tassava’s case, the decision turned out to be not only personally fulfilling, but also launched her onto a new, even more successful career track—this time as a prominent author and sought-after life coach specializing in SAHM (Stay-at-Home-Mom) issues.

Tassava, whose daughters Julia and Genevieve are now 9 and 7, respectively, has literally written the book on successfully navigating the mommy track. The Essential Stay-at-Home Mom Manual: How to Have a Wondrous Life Amidst Kids and Chaos, was published at the end of 2011 to rave reviews.

The daughter of a Lutheran pastor and his stay-at-home wife, Tassava has always looked back with fondness at her pre-school days, spent in a loving home environment with her mom and two sisters, and wanted her own children to grow up with the same sort of happy memories.

“I knew I wanted to be home for some time when my first daughter was born,” Tassava, a native of Moorhead, Minn., told Savvy in a recent interview. By the time daughter Genevieve came along in 2006, “there was no way I could keep working.”

But that doesn’t mean the transition was easy. Like generations of women before her, Tassava says, she quickly learned that life as a full-time mom wasn’t going to be made up of the heart-tugging scenes frequently portrayed in diaper commercials and parent-ing magazines.

“The adjustment was far more challeng-ing than I had anticipated,” she says, with a smile bordering on a wince. With a bachelor’s degree in psychology from Macalester Col-lege and a doctorate in the same subject from the University of Chicago, “I thought I knew a lot about staying healthy and taking good care of myself. It was quite a surprise how challenging it was to be healthy and balanced

as an at-home mom.”In the first place, she said, there was

an overwhelming sense of isolation: Her husband, Christopher, was working long hours as a grant writer at Carleton College. In addition, “my family was far away and I didn’t have any mom friends. They didn’t have children yet; they were off getting advanced degrees.”

Tassava also found that she’d never appreciated the built-in time constraints of a professional job: “At work, you finish a project and it’s done.” When there’s always more laundry, more cooking, more cuts and scrapes to bandage, more lessons to plan, “it’s really hard, even with a partner.”

And finally, there was the sense of shame, partly self-imposed (“One thing moms struggle with the most is giving themselves some alone time without feeling guilty about it”) and partly from the scorn generally directed at any mom who dares to publicly express frustration about diapers and drool (check out, for example, the one-star reviews of Tassava’s book on Amazon.com).

“I never for a moment doubted it was what I wanted to do. But even though I loved being home with my baby, that doesn’t mean it wasn’t crazy hard.”

In what little spare time she was able to enjoy, Tassava found solace the same way her mother did three decades earlier: Writing it all down.

“I come by my writing affinity honestly; it must be in the genes,” Tassava laughed. Her mother, Sandy, was fairly well-known among Lutherans during the 1980s for her humorous-yet-moving anecdotes, published in the denomination’s journals, about life as a pastor’s stay-at-home wife.

“She was an English major in college … she’d taught some writing as a young adult,” so it was only natural that after giving birth to three children, she took pen in hand to chronicle the adventures of her offspring. “Lo and behold, all these years later, I sort of stumbled upon doing that as well.”

Tassava had two advantages her mother didn’t. One was the Internet; at the time she started writing, blogging was just taking off, giving young, untested authors the potential to reach a worldwide audience, so long as they didn’t mind working for free. Thus was born Tassava’s “Mama In Wonderland” blog, a title that was both literary and ironic.

“Entering motherhood, particularly stay-at-home motherhood, was a little like

tumbling down the rabbit hole. Once I was there, things seemed crazy and strange to me,” much as they seemed to the title char-acter of Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland.

As for irony, “let me tell you, with a baby in one arm and another yankin’ at your knees,

In her blog and book, Tassava borrows extensively from the latest psychologi-cal research and applies it to the job of parenting. Among her recommenda-tions:

Get Some Rest: Parenting, no less than any other job, requires time off—no matter how guilty that makes a mom feel.

Practice Mindful Parenting: The ancient Buddhist practice of focusing without judgment on the present moment, rather than worrying about the future or regretting the past, is proving to provide all sorts of health benefi ts, psycholo-gists say. Tassava says it applies to parenting as much as it does to any other job.

“It doesn’t come easy to me, (but) I’ve found that when I really try to do it, I get so much more enjoyment out of my day. If I can just immerse myself in the afternoon at the pool with my daugh-ters, and not be thinking in my head what chores are awaiting me at home, I have all that fun of those hours, and of course the chores will still be there.”

Rationality > Panic: Cognitive therapy, as popularized in the book “Feel-ing Good,” holds that many people have the ability “talk themselves out of” anxiety and depression. It may not work for people with actual mood disorders, Tassava points out, but in ordinary circumstances (say, a mom at home with two screaming toddlers), it’s easy to start thinking “I can’t take this!” or “I have to get out of here!” In such cases, she says, it may be helpful to consciously use the rational brain, asking oneself “What’s the most likely scenario here?” and “What will I do in that case?”

Find a Tribe: Echoing Hillary Clinton’s famous “It takes a village” comment, Tassava urges stay-at-home parents to seek out a network of supporters, or as she calls it, a “tribe.” Friends, families, neighbors, former co-workers—anyone who understands that the frustrations that sometimes come with full-time parenting.

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the phone is ringing and the diapers need to be changed, you don’t feel like you’re in Wonderland.”

The other advantage, Tassava realized, was her advanced degree in psychology, and the insights that gave her into the sort of problems so often faced by stay-at-home mothers. In addition to humorous anecdotes, “Mama In Wonderland” gave Tassava a chance to play online counselor, dispensing the wisdom of a clinical psychologist to people going through the same sorts of stress she was experiencing first-hand.

“When I started my blog, I had just spent two years as an at-home mom, and my second was about to be born. I’d had a lot of time to reflect on what was wonderful about it, what was really challenging about it. I knew that if I’d had these reactions to adjusting to this new role, then probably other women did, too.”

She certainly got that right: Among the early fans of Tassava’s blog was Margaret Colangelo, who was also a Northfield stay-at-home mom with girls.

Tassava’s writing “reaffirmed that, yes, it could be horrible” going through long days with toddlers and no other adults, “yet it was exactly the right thing” for her. “The days are long but the years are short. Being with kids is so hard, but the years still fly by and suddenly they’re 12. It’s a paradox.”

Thanks to people like Colangelo, the blog caught fire, and from there, Tass-sava said, the writing opportunities “grew organically,” to other blogging groups (herblog.com), newspapers (the Northfield News), magazines (Motherworlds, Macal-ester Today), websites (Livestrong.com and WorkItMom.com) and anthologies (P.S. What I Didn’t Say: Unsent Letters to Our Female Friends and Torn: True Stories of kids, Career, and the Conflict of Modern Motherhood).

Tassava’s writing is “very honest,” says Rob Hardy, a Carleton College Latin teacher who was a stay-at-home dad in the 1990s, when his two boys were infants. “She’s very up front about what’s going well and what’s not going so well, it’s very realistic,” he says.

Hardy stumbled onto her blog shortly after Tassava began writing, and has been a fan ever since.

“She has two girls; I have two boys,” Hardy said. “The development of blogs has been really useful for people who have kids. It was like someone else living my life, even

though there were different details.”

The book deal, with Seattle’s Booktrope, was “a dream come true for me,” Tassava says with a broad grin. “Since I was a little child, I’d always dreamed of being a published author. It’s one of those things I just assumed could never happen. I still pinch myself sometimes.”

Tassava now faces

another transition—and with it, another opportu-nity to offer a psycholo-gist’s perspective on the issues faced by profes-sionals who’ve chosen to be full-time parents.

“With parenting, there’s always a new phase. Last year was the first time that both my daughters were in all-day school. Boy, was that a change.”

Like others in the same position, Tassava found herself wondering, “Is this when you’re supposed to go back to work? Is it not? What are your choices at this point? Is it OK to be at home full-time if your kids are at school?” On the one hand, there’s the feeling of responsibility to once again bolster the family finances with a second income; on the other, “there are new demands on you: Volunteering at the school, incorporating choir and sports … your social life changes as your children’s social life changes.”

For Tassava, having kids in school means new opportunities to balance family and career.

Much of her time is still spent in tradi-tional family-matriarch roles: “I’m currently focusing on my family. I feel very passion-ately about volunteering in my daughters’ classrooms, and I very much love running my household. It’s important to me, for instance, to cook healthy meals from scratch, and those things take time.”

On the other hand, Tassava has found herself tiptoeing back into the professional world. Her blog and book have made her a recognized expert on healthy lifestyles,

particularly when it comes to empowering stressed-out women. When people seek out her advice as a life coach, she can now occasionally accommodate them.

Life coaching incorporates aspects of psychological counseling, but “it’s not therapy focused on clinical disorders,” she said. “It’s more focused on learning to be healthier in one’s life.

“Any number of things might fall under that umbrella: Time management, self-care, nutrition. It’s just getting more and more popular. People are finding me through word of mouth, or from my book or website.”

And of course, there’s always the pos-sibility of another book.

“I do think there’s an opportunity to write about, and talk about, the transition to being the mom of school-aged kids. In the back of my head, this is all an idea for Book No. 2.”

Scott Fagerstrom is a Twin Cities-based freelance writer. Send feedback to [email protected].

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Walking can be great exercise, and a club in the Twin Cities has found a way to take full advantage of it. The Twin Cities Volkss-port Walking Club is one of the Volkssport clubs across America, organizing seasonal and year-round walking events.

“Volkssporting is a noncompetitive walk,” says Rita Holland, a member of the American Volkssport Association. “It started

in Germany; it’s a sport of the people. They just decided that they needed healthy things. They’re all over Europe now. It came to the U.S. by way of American servicemen.”

Volkssports walking routes are typically 5K to 10K, and they often take place over a scenic or historic area. Anyone can join a volkssport event, but one of the draws is that walks can count towards credit.

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One thing Johnson likes about the Volkssports method of organized walking is that it still leaves the amount of time and effort up to the walkers.

“That’s the nice thing about it, if you decide you’re going to go and something comes up you don’t have to,” he says. “You’re kind of on your own.”

“We have walk boxes at hotels and SuperAmericas,” Holland says. “You can get in and get the directions and do the walk on your own.”

In addition to walking events, Twin Cities Volkssports has events for skis and snowshoes in the winter, as well as some biking routes.

“I would recommend that [newcom-ers] go on a traditional walk so someone can see them through how it works,” Johnson says.

For $5, someone can get a membership in the club, two walk books and coupons for three walks.

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Simple. I had stealthily applied an old job application trick. In the body of my pro-file, I noted: “Please write ‘Guy Next Door’ somewhere in your message so I know you read at least some of this.”

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As time went on the ‘Guy Next Door’ experiment became an incredible filter-ing system. No ‘Guy Next Door,’ no cigar! Especially if the message in my inbox started with, “I read your profile” and then followed with commentary that suggested all my value lies in my physical attributes.

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But something’s holding you back. That annoying voice in your head that whispers, “You? A writer? Ha. Get over yourself.”

You can silence that voice. Replace it with the encouraging voices of fellow writ-ers who, like you, want to write, write better, and have readers hungry for their next blog post, cozy mystery, science fiction adventure or true crime thriller.

Improve your writing skills, storytelling skills, grammar, vocabulary – anything, you name it – by joining a writers group. There are many of them out there. They range from writers just starting out to writers ready to polish manuscripts and find a publisher.

The key is to try out a variety of groups, to find the one or two that suits you best.

One way to take the plunge is to check out the Loft Literary Center in downtown Minneapolis. The Loft is a nationally rec-ognized and highly regarded Twin Cities literary center that offers myriad writing classes, workshops and conferences for writers of all abilities and genres. Instruc-tors include local and nationally published writers representing many genres including, memoir, poetry, young adult, science fiction, romance and more.

If you’re more of a nonfiction writer who wants to write for your club newslet-ter, sharpen your writing skills for your business’s blog, or freelance for magazines, there are plenty of classes in those areas, too.

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Waconia Library Writers Workshop• Meets on the first Saturday of the

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Each site has a link for schedules, loca-tions, and contact person.

Here is a sampling of current Meetup writing groups and their personalities:

Get feedback and improve: Western Suburbs Writers Group helps you learn to be a better writer. Turn in submissions for review by others in the group for praise,

pointers, and positive feedback. No hard-and-fast rules except “Do your best and don’t feel guilty.” The writing group should be enjoyable, the discussion leader points out. It shouldn’t be a chore.

Find Encouragement: Writer Power is an encouraging and growing community of writers and authors. It takes a positive approach to writing and setting goals.

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what to do next• Want to get work published• Want to meet with others in a positive

environment• Want to brainstorm what to write next• Want to meet other writers and authors• Want to meet as writers in a positive,

encouraging environmentWriter Power is a positive group that is

supportive and recognizes that people are each unique with different styles, time tables and talents.

Explore Your Inner Artist: Channel your inner artist with the Artist ’s Way Meetup. This group is passionate about enlivening natural creativity and exploring ideas in Julia Cameron’s book, The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity.

So there you have it – some easy ways to ease into writing, polishing your prose and making some new friends. What are you wait-ing for? Find a group and get busy.

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Sometimes it helps to have a goal to aim for. But what about the goal of writing a novel in a month?

That’s what the participants of National Novel Writing Month commit to each November. National Novel Writing Month, often abbreviated NaNoWriMo, sets the chal-lenge of writing 50,000 words in the 30 days of November. It started in 1999, founded by Chris Baty, and is now run by the Office of Letters and Lights, a non-profit organization based in Oakland, Calif. In 2011, NaNoW-riMo had 256,618 participants across the United States and internationally, with 36,843 of them reaching the 50,000-word goal, which is about the equivalent of a 175-page novel.

Anna Masrud was part of an online group of writers on Facebook in 2009 when she first heard about the month-long challenge. When one of her Facebook friends said she was planning to participate, Masrud’s group ended up all joining the writing challenge together. Masrud won the challenge of 50,000 words that first year and set precedence for herself. “I kind of have this standard now where I don’t want to lose,” she says.

During her first year of participating in the challenge, Masrud also met other people in the area who were also trying to write a novel in a month. National Novel Writing Month offers Write Ins, or scheduled meetings for partici-pants in the same geographical area. Masrud

attended a Write In at TeaSource in Eden Prairie, where she met Reesha Rugroden. Rugroden was one of the participants last year, but it wasn’t her first experience.

“I think I just saw it by following random people on the Internet,” she says. “It looked like an interesting program and I thought I’d give it a try. This was back in 2006. That first year, I wrote a couple thousand words.”

In 2011, five years later, Rugroden wrote 100,000 words in the 30 days of NaNoWriMo.

“Third year, I had a 50,000 word outline and I wrote 100,000 words, and since then I’ve always tried for more than 50,000,” she says.

Masrud says the community of writers is why she has stayed with the challenge four years in a row.

“Honestly, the Write Ins have been the reason I’ve been doing it year after year,” she says. “It was that community that really pulled me in. Everyone was in the same boat as me.”

Participants in National Novel Writing Month sign up on the website, nanowrimo.org, where they can create an account. The website includes a daily goal and a chart for keeping track of the progress made towards the 50,000-word goal. Writers can validate their novel, proving they made the 50,000-word goal, during the last five days by uploading their novel to the website. No prizes are awarded, other than the feeling of accomplishment.

“ I th ink i t s appealing to people because they know they need a kick in the pants,” Rugroden says. “People say some-day I’ll write a novel, but I’ve never had the time. It’s a way to give them-selves permission to just go all out.”

Rugroden has tackled the same novel for the past two years, writing 100,000 words in her fiction in 2011 and then rewriting the draft in 2012.

“My fifth (attempt) is probably the most important one I’ve ever written,” she says. “I’m hoping to have that edited by December and ready to start submitting to editors.”

Masrud says she loves the novel that came out of her first year of NaNoWriMo. After winning the 50,000-word challenge, she kept writing and ended with a 90,000-word fantasy novel.

“That’s probably what I am doing this year’s NaNo is just editing that and trying to get it published,” she says.

The community of writers is important to Masrud, who now works at TeaSource as well as at a publishing house, Spencer Hill Press.

“I wanted to get experience editing and also gain connections and relationships with

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“I’m excited this year,” says Reesha Rugroden. “I’ve formed a writing group in my church, and we’re going to meet at TeaSource Monday night.”

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other people who liked writing,” she says.But writers aren’t the only ones who

can benefit from a crazy goal like National Novel Writing Month. Rugroden says she has some friends who have taken the same basic concept and applied it to a different goal. They take a month when they dedicate all their free time to one goal, even if it seems ridiculous.

“It not only gives people permission, but it’s a great community of writers,” she says. “Also, just the idea of what could happen, what if? A lot of people don’t think they can be writers. But in the back of their minds is the question, ‘What if I tried this?’”

Direct permission, as well as an extra boost of motivation, are what Masrud finds unique about the challenge.

“I honestly think what is for me is that when you’re so busy with things in your life, you keep putting off writing,” she says. “NaNo provides a unique opportunity to write and to meet up with people who write. And then it also gives that deadline and the kick in the pants. You do it anyway because you want to show people that you can. I always seem to write the most during NaNo.”

Allison Roorda writes for Savvy. Send feedback to [email protected].

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nyone can start a blog. But not every-one has what i t takes to make that blog meaningful, r e wa rd ing and sustainable. If you love to tell stories,

give advice or share knowledge, blogging is an awesome outlet for your creativity and wisdom.

But it takes more than compelling writ-ing to keep a blog afloat.

The Internet is littered with millions of abandoned blogs. In most cases, they were started by people who jumped into blogging with stars in their eyes, expecting to gain huge exposure, credibility, fans, revenue or personal fulfillment. In fact, Wordpress – one of the leading platforms for bloggers – reports that it helps launch 100,000 new blogs every day.

When success doesn’t come overnight, most of those new bloggers will grow disil-lusioned – and many will quit cold turkey. Even published authors often falter when it comes to building and maintaining a blog that keeps them and their readers engaged. Why? Because it’s not just about the writing. In the rush to establish their online presence, most people overlook the three things that are most critical to their blogging success.

PURPOSERather than just add random musings

to a blank screen, take some time to think about your reasons for blogging and what kind of content you consistently want to put into the world. What’s the primary focus of your blog? Is it about life as an artist? Muddling through mamahood? The trials and tribulations of working in your industry? The more focused you are on the theme and essence of your blog, the easier it will be to stay engaged and attract a following.

Every month, 70 million Americans read blogs. So there are bound to be plenty of people who’d want to read about life as you know it. Embrace who you are, where you’ve been and what you’ve learned. Consider what makes you and your stories are unique, and then make sure each post reflects that.

PASSIONBloggers who write for others first – writing

what they think people want to hear instead of what comes straight from the heart – typically get bored with the process and frustrated by

readers’ lack of response. With so many blogs to choose from, read-ers have a right to be picky. They gravitate to authentic, compelling content written by people who clearly have a passion for the topic. So choose a theme you’re genu-inely excited about and have been for years. This will help ensure you stay motivated and that your

passion shines through.

PATIENCEBe honest with yourself about why you

want to blog in the first place. If the enjoy-ment of writing about a topic you love isn’t enough to sustain you for a while, you’ll struggle to stay motivated in the long run. Building an audience takes time, persistence and a willingness to consistently engage with your readers and other bloggers.

Once you gather those three essential ingredients and stir in your unique stories and insights, you’ve got the recipe f or a blog with a bright future. Here’s to your success!

Liv Lane calls herself a Human Sparkler, devoted to helping women defi ne and ignite their inner sparks – the traits, talents and passions that light them up from the inside out. She has mentored hundreds of bloggers around the world, and profi les an inspiring local blogger in each edition of Savvy. Find her online at LivLane.com.

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TAURUSAPRIL 20 - MAY 20

LEOJULY 23 - AUGUST 22

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CANCERJUNE 22 - JULY 22

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Your growing edge this month: dealing with uneven power dynamics between people. Not everyone sees things the way you do; isn’t it always a shock when you remember that? You wise up this month, and that is good. You are especially energized to follow through on com-mitments on the 8th. Life gets busy on the 13th and 14th; but that’s OK with you. With your ruling planet in Virgo, it feels good to tidy up the details. Just remember to take it one day at a time. At the Full Moon on the 17th, notice your strength and confidence. Thanksgiving feels bigger than usual with family and feelings taking center stage.

Your growing edge this month: tap-ping into deep resources you didn’t know you had. You’ve been developing a sixth sense about other people. You are being liberated from needing to control how others feel about their lives; however you may be tested by relation-ships in the three days leading up to the Full Moon on the 17th. Notice what works best to create more harmony. Speak your mind on your power days: the 20th and 21st. If you’ve made a new commitment to let others handle their own problems, you might enjoy Thanksgiving more this year. However, don’t forget to show appreciation for your loved ones too.

Your growing edge this month: accept-ing emotional complexity and variability. You are given lots of choices this month and most of them are good, but under-neath all the excitement an undercurrent of self-doubt shows itself. You love being in the creative flow, but what happens when the flow is disrupted? You are learning to stick with your intentions in spite of ups and downs. With Mercury moving retrograde through Scorpio, it is good to be mindful of hidden feelings and fears that arise in communication snafus. Let your soul searching help you set long-range goals on the Full Moon on the 17th. Expect creative insights on the 23rd and 24th.

Your growing edge this month: devel-oping more patience with others. There’s a lot going on for you, and the probability for mistakes and misun-derstandings are high. You have high expectations for achievement now. Your patience is tested. Fortunately, your desire for excellence and your stamina are at a peak too. When Mercury, your ruling planet, turns direct on the 10th, take advantage of more clarity. On the Full Moon on the 17th, you experience a surge of productivity and are immersed in learning new skills. The days leading up to Thanksgiving (the 25th, 26th, and 27th) are excellent times to get organized for the holiday.

Your growing edge this month: finding new sources of strength and inspira-tion. Life is surprising you and you are surprising yourself. Your ruling planet, Venus, is busy creating opportunity for you. What do you really want right now? Take a chance and assert yourself on the 15th through the 17th. The Full Moon on the 17th is in Taurus. You feel powerful and maybe just a little scared of new responsibilities. Take advantage of this energy to create more stability and structure. On Thanksgiving, you are tempted to over indulge. That’s OK; make sure you invest in the pleasures that serve you.

Your growing edge this month: dis-cerning when to speak and when to keep quiet. You like telling others what’s on your mind, but sometimes that can get you into trouble. From the first of the month on, you are in the thick of things. Enjoy the stimulation even as you try to get yourself out of misunderstandings. Things shift for you on the 10th when your ruling planet, Mercury, stations direct. You get to apply the lessons you’ve learned for the previous three weeks. At the Full Moon on the 17th, make a promise to be honest with your-self. That is a powerful commitment. You are feeling expansive and social this Thanksgiving.


PISCESFEBRUARY 19 - MARCH 20

SAGITTARIUSNOVEMBER 22 - DECEMBER 21

LIBRASEPTEMBER 23 - OCTOBER 23

AQUARIUSJANUARY 20 - FEBRUARY 18

CAPRICORNDECEMBER 22 - JANUARY 19

SCORPIOOCTOBER 24 - NOVEMBER 22

Teri Parsley Starnes is a professional astrologer living in Minneapolis. Her monthly horoscope is written exclusively for Savvy readers. Learn more about Starnes’ business, Starsdance Astrology, at starsdanceastrology.com.

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Your growing edge this month: dis-cerning how much to control and how much to trust in the realm of resources. You like the finer things but need to figure out how to sustainably maintain this lifestyle. When Venus, your ruling planet, enters Capricorn on the 5th, get serious about your life goals. Venus spends more time than usual in this sign so you can expect a shift in how people see you professionally. Opportunities are coming if you work for them. You feel a power surge at the Full Moon on the 17th. Claim it. Thanksgiving sparkles with sociability and beauty that continues through the 29th.

Your growing edge this month: enjoy-ing your success. People tend to admire you for your integrity. That quality shines this month. It helps if you realize that not everyone has your surety about the right course of action. As people confront their own fears, you can be a supportive example to them. The 5th, 6th, and 7th are peak days for you to take stock of your blessings. With Venus entering Capricorn for a longer time than usual, you are able to appreciate life more. What will you give back to others in appreciation for your gifts? Consider doing a gratitude practice as Thanksgiving approaches.

Your growing edge this month: learning to appreciate secrets. Not being in the loop can be terribly frustrating to you. With Mercury retrograding through secretive Scorpio, we are all learning that communication runs deeper than we think; so cultivate discernment. The month starts with revolutionary zeal and you are probably at the center of creat-ing change. You are in your element on the 9th and 10th. Communication gets easier. Adjustments need to be made on the 14th, especially in the realm of relationship. At the Full Moon on the 17th, you feel like standing your ground. Thanksgiving is a time to appreciate these relationships as teachers.

Your growing edge this month: keep-ing up with inspiration after inspiration. Your brand of intuition is just what the doctor ordered this month. You don’t mind getting lost, discovering some-thing new, and then finding your way again. This talent of yours will be espe-cially called for on the 10th, 11th, and 12th of the month. You may contradict yourself but notice how the paradox reveals insights to a problem you’ve been facing. At the Full Moon on the 17th, seek to balance compassion with action. Keep open hearted at Thanks-giving, especially toward yourself as you practice forgiveness.

Your growing edge this month: embrac-ing your destiny. The Solar Eclipse on the 3rd in your sign brings a new focus. Very likely, it will have something to do with your life purpose. Even if the task seems impossible, say yes. While Mer-cury moves retrograde through your sign until the 10th, think of communication miscues as messages from your guiding spirit. What is it telling you? Important relationships teach you about balancing your intensity with an appreciation for stability and security at the Full Moon on the 17th. Thanksgiving is a time to come from the heart. A sense of hopefulness can bring healing.

Your growing edge this month: appre-ciating the wisdom of your elders. As a forward thinker, you tend to overlook the help that comes from those who have gone before you. Who are the trailblazers from the past you most admire? You are inspired on the 4th, 5th, and 6th. Since you are on the verge of a new outlook, use this inspiration to move forward. A bothersome self-critical attitude shifts at the Full Moon on the 17th. You realize that creating a little order in the chaos is a good thing. On the 21st, the Sun enters your sign and you jovially look forward to the holiday season.


J odi Livon, author of The Happy Medium, intuitive coach and resi-dent psychic at Twin Cities Live,

says everyone is intuitive.Each month readers ask Livon about

their questions around intuition and all things supernatural. In this month’s edition, readers ask about a young teenager’s intu-ition, health matters and unemployment.

In your book, The Happy Mediumyou discussed how it’s hard for you to be in crowded places like shopping malls because you can’t tune out all the energy from those that have passed on. My 13-year-old daughter has been this way for some time, avoiding malls and crowds, and is overwhelmed by the “chaos” of them but can’t tell me why. Could she be expe-riencing the same type of energies? She is highly aware of her surroundings at all times and seems to be absorbing too much of something? Also, she seems to be highly intuitive about dangerous things. Help!

Growing up can be a noisy experience, especially for highly insightful children. I’m not certain if what your daughter is going through is exactly what I went through, but I do know she is blessed to have a mom who isn’t afraid to ask questions. Encourage her to surround herself in white light and let her know that what she’s experiencing is something many children do. She needs to

feel safe, so let her know that she is. Prior to being around large groups, make certain she has eaten enough and that she loves what she’s wearing. This will help her stay focused and make her less likely to absorb the energy around her.

My mother was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. For the past few months she’s spoken a lot about my dad. He died 10 years ago. She said he visits her and claims they cook together but I know she cannot cook in the nursing home she lives in. Do you think my mom is seeing my dad or has she lost touch?

It sounds like she’s working something out about their relationship. This is a healthy step for her soul, and if she’s com-forted by her experience, it’s even better. Many people in our society view visits from spirits as ‘weird’ or ‘crazy’ but it is truly a natural occurrence and nothing to worry about. In her altered state, she may likely be seeing him. What is most important is that you are as open as you know how, and show her the love you have in your heart for both of your parents.

I’ve been looking for employment and have been out of work for almost a year. I’m a computer support specialist and want to start my own business but need a secure income. I don’t know which direction to

go, work for myself or someone else. Could you help me?

What have you done so far to move in the direction of setting up your own busi-ness? If you have not done much, you’ll probably do better with the structure an existing organization provides. A wonderful way to employ your own gut instincts is to ask yourself how you feel when you think of what it will take to generate clients. Do you feel energized or drained? Move in the direction that energizes you. Measure the facts and use your instincts when making decisions and you significantly increase your chance of success.

Send your questions for Jodi Livon to Savvy Editor in Chief Britt Johnsen and your question may appear in an upcoming edition of the magazine. Livon can’t answer every question but she’s grateful to receive all of them. Johnsen is at [email protected] or (952) 345-6387.

Jodi Livon is an author, resident psychic at Twin Cities Live, and she’s an intuitive coach for the business sector. She also offers readings for individuals. Her website is TheIntuitiveCoach.com.

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